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April 17, 2022
You'd think twins would do everything together.
Same T shirts, interests, career paths....
Not so.
John took Latin in school, I took technical drawing/engineering
John went straight into medical school, I got lost for a while
John ended up in the USA, never an ambition of mine
John needed reading glasses from an early age, mine came later.

I guess we were non-identical.   But we both shared this birthday.
And I am proud to have had him as a brother and friend.
If you are measured by your achievements, he's a tough act to follow... 

Extended family

October 29, 2021
In the old days, and extended family meant the kids left home, a lived on the other side of town.  They visited on weekends and helped out when someone was sick.  I remember taking laundry home on weekends. 
But the Baillie kids got the travel bug early, maybe because dad took us on European holidays.  So John left University, and ended up in London, and North Carolina.   I did the same, emigrating to Canada in 82.  Tom's training took him to the USA.  So Mum, a widow in her 60's, had an extended family far, far away, and spent the last decades of her life alone.
This is becoming the new reality.
Most of my patients now have family far away, and worse still, they are challenged when it comes to personal visits, thanks to COVID restrictions.   The family unit is fragmented.   My own kids think nothing of travelling and living thousands of miles away. 

I think of the time when John and Alison came to visit us, on Vancouver Island.   He had a conference to present at, in Vancouver, and a float plane trip got him here.   He was bigger than I remembered, with a large beard.   He told stories and was witty like always.   He was interested in our life-journey.   Then too soon he left.   And our visits were too short and to infrequent, in retrospect.    Then he left us 3 years ago, and maybe our next reunion will be round the corner.   Memories might fade, but John's life was what he made of it - pretty special - and that means he helped a lot of people make the best of theirs.  Maybe that's a great legacy - helping others make the best of their life, through the giving of health, the sharing of  happiness and example.   He's still part of my extended family........    Cheers, John.
June 4, 2019

I first met John and his son Chris when I ferried them between the Pittsburgh airport and the Nemacolin Resort for the PancreasFest pancreatology conference back in 2002. Even though I am an administrator at the Univ of Pittsburgh and could not share John’s medical interests, he still became a friend. His openness, kindness, and inclusion of everyone with a joke or smile included me.  Everyone was drawn to his brougue and his infectious laughter.  He made medical referrals for myfriends & family over the years, and I always enjoyed saying hello to him at the national GI meetings. As his lovely obituary recommends, I join you all to celebrate his life. Yet, the loss of John is one that I feel deeply. We are blessed to have known and learned from him. 

January 11, 2019

I first met John in October 1970 as we queued to matriculate for first year Medicine in the University of Glasgow. I liked him immediately and I can still picture the bright, enthusiastic and idealistic teenager who was always surprised later that I knew his Matriculation Number was 700385! Our paths crossed in Medical School many times thereafter and we shared a tenement flat for the year we both undertook an intercalated science degree in Pathology with the identical special interest in liver pathology. Along with a third flat-mate, Allan, that flat turned into a competitive intellectual hot-house! John’s commitment to knowledge constantly raised the bar and I am certain that my degree grade would have suffered without our stimulating, sometimes challenging, but always illuminating debates and discussions. Sadly, after graduation from Medical School our career paths, and probably focus, meant that we lost touch though I remember our paths crossed again all too briefly in London in 1988, when John joined the Middlesex Hospital already planning his return to the USA and I was about to leave UCH. I barely knew Alison and never met Katie or Chris but I do know their lives will have been enriched by John's talents and enthusiasm. 

I will always recall John’s generosity, intelligence, drive and superb sense of humour. It is no surprise to learn that John became a respected clinician, successful academic, warmly remembered teacher and much-loved husband and father. A good man, taken too early.

November 14, 2018

I worked for and with John in the early 1990s as a resident and fellow at Duke. He was a great teacher, mentor and friend. I was always amazed at his brilliance and wide range of skills and knowledge not just in medicine but life in general. While he certainly helped develop me as a physician I will particularly remember how much he improved my ability as a writer during the time I worked with him. It was clear to me that John always took his job as a  professor seriously and was committed to the institution and developing those around him to their full potential. And boy, what a way with jokes and stories.  He could really make you laugh! I know I and many others will miss him but have many fond memories.

November 12, 2018

I recently found and reread two letters John wrote for me 7 and 9 years ago.  These were in support of my applications for a committee assignment and for Fellowship in the American Society for Gastrointestinal Endoscopy.  He was a vivid writer and a strong sponsor and mentor.  He was also a dear friend.  He was proud of my accomplishments and encouraging during rough times.  One of my favorite memories is that he titled the document file for one of the letters "YouGoGirl".

November 10, 2018

Some 3 years ago, I reconnected with John, a fellow Scot, in the endoscopy suite at VCU Medical Center. We instantly bonded, sharing stories, experiences and enjoyed working together. John’s knowledge, technical skill and incisive wit, were formidable. After work we enjoyed an occasional game of golf.

Since his surgery, Linda and I have observed Alison’s constant care, supported by family, and John’s determination in fighting for recovery, before terminally, succumbing to failing health. 

Although untimely taken, good memories remain. The words of the Scottish poet Robert Burns, are apposite –

            An honest man here lies at rest, 

            As e’er God with His image blest: 

            The friend of man, the friend of truth;

            The friend of age, and guide of youth:

            Few hearts like his, with virtue warm’d,

            Few heads with knowledge so inform’d:

            If there’s another world, he lives in bliss;

            If there is none, he made the best of this.

Alex & Linda Colquhoun

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