Through the course of our lives I know I people saw us at our best and worst.  But even at our worst we knew we were meant for each other. I knew there was no one who could bring out the best and the worst in me and still have the capacity to love me unconditionally. Strangly our arguments were never over hard items that destroy other couples. All of them consisted of who was right and who was wrong.  I have to confess I was wrong most of the time.  She had an insight that was better then most people. She knew me better than I knew myself at times.  My only saddness is that she left too early.  She was the glue in our lives that tied our old world mexican culture with new world philosophy.  She never dreamed small, always big. She loved her friends and could pick up immedieatly no matter how long she had not seen them.  She was allways the better part of me, reminding me how good people could be and how much you can give of your time, talent, and treasure.  

Her greatest treasure was our son Moses. She made mountains move for him if he needed it.  She loved him more than anything in the world. My son will allways cherish the memories of her, especially all the time they spent toghether in his early years.  


I can say that I was really nobody untill she loved me. We miss you always!!!    

I first met Lilia during a difficult time in her life.  It was in the early 90's at the University of Houston in the Mexican American Studies program. My first impression of her was of a very assertive and confident person who was very outgoing.  Sadly our meeting was short since her father was passing away from cancer at the time.  I remember that she was looking for someone to give her a ride with her stuff to meet her brother to go home for the funeral. I told her I would help her out.  It was a bright and sunny day in Houston when I met her brother for the first time and his friends. I helped her with her bags and stuff and wished her good luck.  it would not be for a year later that I would run into her again.  I filled out a form on campus looking for a tutoring job with Upward Bound. I came to the interview got the job and found out she was my boss.  Over the course of the year we became friends. I originally wanted to go out with her friend but it seemed that we just kept ending up together talking and laughing all the time.  She became such a close freind that I didn't ask her out, she asked me out.  She mentioned that we would meet others from our circle of freinds at a movie "The Last Boyscout" of all things. I showed up and there was no other friends.  I got the hint.  It was a great night, after the movie we walked and talked in the cool night air.  I remember I sang a song, sadly i don't remember what it was, at a bar to her.  It would be the first of many times I would sing to her and for her over the years.  Later that night we took a photo at one of the old time 3 picture booths.  Over twenty three years later I still carry that first photo of us in my wallet.  It may be a bit faded but it still reminds me of that perfect night that I met my soulmate and partner in crime. Strange how memories can be both hard and beautiful at the same time.