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Mary Otolorin Lijadu, or Grandma O, as she was affectionately known, lived a beautiful life. She was born in Kano, on September 30th 1931. She was a teacher, a lover of literature, history and her secondary school Holy Child in Lagos where she was a part of the first set of girls in 1945.  She loved Holy Child College and developed a deep and lifelong kinship with the nuns who taught her while she was there such as Mother Fidelis and Sister Helena Brennan. While at Holy Child she was a member of the Holy Child choir which won many competitions at events such as the annual Festival of Music.  

After winning a scholarship and completing her degree at Portsmouth Teacher Training College in Portsmouth, England, she later obtained her academic Diploma in Education at London University and subsequently won a Commonwealth Scholarship to pursue her Post- Graduate Diploma at Reading University. She then returned home and taught at Maryland Teacher Training College.  She later joined the Federal Ministry of Education.  One of her duties was to inspect schools to ensure quality and standards were maintained. She had a formidable reputation for being thorough and uncompromising yet kind and encouraging.  

She married Mr. Yemi Lijadu in1956. In the early 60’s, they left Nigeria for the France upon his joining UNESCO  (United Nations Educational Scientific & Cultural Organisation) at the organization’s Headquarters in Paris. She learned French and taught at Marymount International College in Paris.

Upon returning to a Nigeria in the mid-70’s she was appointed as the first Nigerian Education Officer at the British Council office in Western House. She was also President of the Nigerian Chapter of OMEP (The World Organization for Pre-school  Education) for many years. She was a truly devout Catholic and she served as Coordinator of Catholic Women’s International Association (Nigeria) for several years. Her Catholic faith was deep and unshakeable.  

She loved literature and published two books of her own: “Children’s Prayers” and “My Childhood Journeys” which is an autobiographical account of the amazing adventures she had. as a child, traveling across Nigeria by rail. 

She is adored by her sons and daughters in law Femi and Aima, Bunmi and Dapo, Tayo and Wole (who passed away in 2019). She was an exceptionally wise and loving, playful and kind grandma to her grandchildren Kemi, Yemi, Tomi, Koye, Funmi and Olufemi. Grandma O knew the value of storytelling as a way of conveying values and understanding who you are and where you came from.

Grandma O was a renaissance woman with a true passion for education. One of her favourites plays was Julius Caesar, at 88 she could still recite Antony's speech "Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears," from memory. She loved music and was a trustee of Musical Society of Nigeria from its inception until she stepped down last year. 

She lived life gracefully and she had a beautiful spirit. 

Mary Otolorin passed away at 88 years old, on May 28, 2020  in Lagos Nigeria.

Granma O The twinkle of your smiling eyes is unforgettable... 

We will remember you forever.

June 10, 2020
June 10, 2020
Grandma O was a truly amazing woman. She truly was everyone’s grandma and someone we all respected and valued.

There are so many stories I could tell because I’ve known the Lijadu’s and Grandma O my whole life. I’ll just pick a few memories.

On countless occasions, I was always pleasantly surprised that when Grandma O came to the house with Sugar cane and drinks, she always made sure I had my own bottle and pack of snacks. And that’s a testament to how she made everyone feel equally loved. Whenever any of her grandchildren’s friends were around, we were not her grandchildren’s friends, we were her grandchildren.

I remember when Grandma O started her storytelling classes and we’d all go to listen to the Yoruba folktales told in a way that was so captivating and could only be told by such an amazing storyteller. These classes and her lessons are the reason I have such a great interest in the Yoruba culture. I will always take pride in my culture because of her.

Rest in God’s perfect peace Grandma O. You were a pleasure to have known and someone we are all better off for knowing.
June 10, 2020
June 10, 2020
Condolence Message on the passing away of Mrs Oto Lijadu

Femi,

I was really very sad to receive the news that your mum had passed away. I remember her as a very friendly person, always welcoming. Every time I met her she always greeted me with a warm, affectionate smile. She was easy to talk to.

Please take heart. I know how difficult it is to come to terms with the fact that your mum is no more. But be consoled by the fact that she lived a long life. May the good Lord comfort all of you in the family.

I pray for the soul of Mama to continue to rest in perfect peace.

Udoma Udo Udoma
June 10, 2020
June 10, 2020
Tributes to a remarkable person.
Aunty Oto was the the go-to person when you wanted to do anything about education.
A thorough bred educationist who was very passionate about anything to do with education.

Got to really know Auntie Oto better because of her frequent visits to my late grand parents Mr and Mrs Soji Lijadu whom she loved dearly. She fondly called my grandmother 'mama Bose' and I remember thinking, such a lovely lady who loved and cared for people. I also remember she had a driver who was with her forever, called Toyin. Uncle Toyin and his family were live-in and he must have been working with auntie Oto for decades.

The second reason for being closer to Auntie Oto was that in my form 3 and 4, I joined her private tutoring classes at her residence. Not only did the classes impacted me positively but the opportunity to learn from her day to day was an experience I still value till today. She was soft spoken yet firm and on point. Occasionally she would offer life experiences and sometimes encouraged good behaviour by chatting with you. Did I mention that I had a free license to the fruits in the refrigerator and my tutorial classes were completely free. She didn't accept payments.

Auntie Oto, we love you dearly and will miss very much. Your memory will remain in our hearts forever because you touched our lives with your beauty. May your soul rest in perfect peace and may the Lord whom MRS MARY OTOPORIN LIJADU served grant her family and friends the fortitude to bear the great loss.
June 10, 2020
June 10, 2020
TRIBUTE TO GRANMA O.
Receiving the news of the passing on of Granma O., Mrs Mary Otolorin Lijadu, was made more unpleasant particularly with regards to the challenged times we are now living in. However we give God the glory for the life and times of Granma O, that was full of sweet stories.
I cannot forget how Granma O calls me Esther Omo Oga.
I cannot forget her asking after the welfare of my family members one after another.
I cannot forget the bond of love that she shows when I see her hold and play with her grandchildren. I could feel it and it was something that I learnt and now do with my grandchildren. Her ever happy and lively mood that was so infectious, is something that I cannot forget. All these inner beauty were bottled up in a smart looking frame which was to the admiration of all that came in contact with her. She was ever accommodating.
Adieu Granma O. We love you but God the Father loves you more. Rest in the bosom of the Lord.
Your ESTHER OMO OGA
June 10, 2020
June 10, 2020
Aunty Oto was one of the sweetest and kindest of people; most affectionate, humorous and full of life. She also happened to be my Godmother and I was born on her birthday.
When I was young and I heard the name "Otitus" (my Dad's term of endearment for her), I would rush out to meet her. She just had a way of making me feel special and I never lost that, even in adulthood.
Apart from her love, her faith was evident. Deeply personal, but still evident.
Sometimes, it's when you lose someone that you wish you had said to them all the things that are in your heart. Still, I would like to say:
Thank you Aunty, for who you were and the influence you had on me and other people you knew or met.
Thank you for being instrumental to some of my educational choices.
Thank you for the delight you were to be with and your laughter and grace.
Above all, I thank God for your life; for keeping you through trials while enabling you to keep your dignity, joy and your faith.
Adieu Aunty Oto.
June 10, 2020
June 10, 2020
Dear Mr Olufemi Lijadu and the entire Lijadu family,
My prayers are with you Sir and your family on the loss of your mother.

May God grant you the fortitude to bear the loss.

Mama is in a better place
June 10, 2020
June 10, 2020
Shared by Edna Soyannwo on June 7, 2020

A Tribute to Mrs. Otolorin LIJADU.
1931-2020
Èwùràdé Nyàmé-ye
(The Almighty GOD IS Good)
For the past three decades and more, that was how Oto and I greeted each other, on the phone or whenever we met at gatherings.
She learnt this greeting in Twi, (pronounced chewy) one of the main Ghanaian Languages, from Ghanaian friends she shared a flat with in London.
We became friends at Muson when she and Mrs. Beryl Ediale brought their Lijadu Ediale Grand children for piano lessons.
When I took on full time post retirement employment with the Muson School of Music, she was a member of the Board of Trustees. She showed keen interest in the MTNF/MUSON Diploma programme then under the directorship of Mrs. Marion Akpata.
She frequently attended our Monday afternoon Recitals which she agreed were of international standard, she had lived in France, the home of Western Art and Classical Music, and felt very much at home with the many musical activities of the Basic and Diploma Schools.
In the last couple of years of her life, Mrs. Lijadu, Dr. Ade Odiakosa and I, got together a few times in her beautiful flowery home, in Surulere, over lunch to reminisce humorous experiences of life in post World War 2 Colonial Britain. She was full of bubbling youthful laughter, she was always in high spirits, sadly interrupted by the loss of her first son. She did not at any time lose her winsome charm, genuine composure, and full dependence and trust in the LORD, that all is well.
For the short thirty odd years that I had known her, our mutual friend Dr. Ade Odiakosa and I have experienced another facet of friendship, caring, keeping-connected, joyfulness, not happiness, there is so little in the present world situation which could generate happiness; our experiences included her empathy and real love.
I have lost a fine genuine friend, but by GOD'S grace it's only for a while.
My sincere condolences to her children, Mrs. B. Ediale and their Grand children.
Adieu Oto! Èwùràdé Nyàmé-ye
Truly Our God is good. Indeed
Mrs. Edna Soyannwo.
June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
I am highly honored to write a few words about our dear Aunty Oto.
She was a warm, bubbly, cheerful and fun loving lady who was full of life and one of my mum’s best friends from Holy Child College.
She was indeed a part of our family from days before my siblings and I were born and remained a close part of our family till her departure.
She was Aunty Oto to me and to her I was S.H.O her abbreviation of my name Sobo (pronounced Shobo). I guess this was because her late brother’s name was also Sobo and Yorubas do not out of respect call, that is pronounce a younger one’s name if an older family member bears the same name.
She will be sorely missed by my mum and my siblings.
Femi, Aima, Bunmi, Tayo and their spouses have lost a wonderful, very caring and affectionate mother, but they must be rest assured, that she is resting in the bosom of The Lord.
May the Almighty God grant them the strength and fortitude to bear the loss. Amen.
June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
Grandma O. fondly called you by your grandchildren. You were such a wonderful grand aunt and god mother. I remember when I needed a tutor in primary school you were there all through. Thank you for the roles you played in my life as God mother and teacher.

We will really miss you grandma O. We love you but God loves you best.

May her gentle continue to rest in the blossom of our God Amen.

Sun re mama rere.

OreOluwa.
June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
“Count your Blessings, name them one by one……” My Darling Godmother, Aunty Oto Lijadu, a Blessing from God.

My Darling Godmother, Aunty Oto Lijadu, and I had a beautiful Godmother and Goddaughter relationship that truly embodied the purpose of the Roman Catholic Church, of establishing a spiritual relationship between the Godparents and the child. This is well captured by Encyclopaedia Britannica, which in highlighting the role of Godparents as spiritual guides, states that, “Even when the parents provide their child with a religious upbringing, a Godparent serves to encourage the child’s spiritual growth over time and stands as an example of another adult with maturity in the faith”.

My Caring and ever Giving Godmother. Visiting my Godmother was always an absolute delight …...I feel so privileged to have learnt from Aunty’s childlike Faith, absolute Love of God and lots of words of wisdom. With my Godmother there was always a lot of laughter; Aunty had so many stories ….and when the story commenced with Aunty’s distinct chuckle, I knew the story was going to be one of those that Mothers ‘whisper’ to Daughters. I never left Aunty’s house without something that she had kept for me, several gifts that I will always treasure: copies of prayers from the many prints she had all over her bedroom, books and fabrics she would buy and ‘keep for her daughter’, she gave me my very first Holy Child College Old Girls Association Ankara …….and, of course, the ‘edible take homes’ were a constant. I am so glad that I went to visit My Darling Godmother just before the lockdown, and, that we spoke often, right up till the last few days.

My Loving Godmother embraced me into her family such that I naturally formed a sisterly bond with her children. I want to thank Aunty’s Sons, their Wives and Children for taking excellent care of their Mother and Grandmother, here in Nigeria and in the Summer months in the U.K., ensuring she enjoyed every bit of her life, with beautiful holidays and exciting and memorable trips to different parts of the world.

My Sweet Godmother, Aunty Oto Lijadu, I will forever give Thanks to God for Blessing me with a most precious and spectacular and loving Godmother. Thank you for loving me like you did. Rest in Perfect Peace in your Heavenly Home.

We love you and will greatly miss you.
Funke Iroegbunam
June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
Aunty Oto, as you were fondly called, you were so sweet and cool.
Sweet memories fill my heart anytime I remember your advice to me in 1975, when I sat for the WASC examination. You really impacted positively in my educational career, proof of a seasoned Educationist that you were.
Your benevolent smile lifted my heart anytime you were near me.
You were a role model and you have left footprints in the sands of time.
In the70's I looked forward to moments when Mami would send me to you in Yaba, because I was sure that I would not go back home empty handed. I still remember the times that you visited me in Magodo with Aunty Yetunde and the good times I spent with you in Surulere when I visited, even after the death of my mum. No doubt, you have left indelible marks in my heart that nothing can ever erase.
You were a gem and will remain to be cherished.
Eternal rest grant on to Aunty Oto, oh Lord and let your perpetual light shine upon her. May her gentle soul rest in peace .
June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
On behalf of my mum (Yinka Cardoso) and my siblings, I would like to express our deepest and sincere condolences to the Lijadu family on the loss.

May the Lord grant you strength in this difficult time and may mama's soul rest in peace.

Love always,

Sammy
June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
Dear Mr & Mrs Lijadu,

I am so sorry to hear of the passing of an icon and  matriarch. I met Grand Ma O a few times at one of our many Alpha Events. I pray God's blessings and comfort over the entire family at this time. May Grand MA O's Soul Rest in Perect Peace.

June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
I want to thank God for Aunty Oto’s life.
Aunty Oto, you were always a joy and a delight to be with. You were always welcoming in your voice and your smile. I remember either visiting you or calling you, especially on our birthdays (we shared the same) and no matter what was going on in life, the visit with you was always refreshing. I would leave your presence uplifted, happy and encouraged. You were truly a happy place for me as I am sure you were for many others. Thank you so much.
Now the Lord has lifted you up and your joy and laughter, merrymaking and dancing shall be eternal. May your soul rest in perfect piece in the presence of your Saviour.
Even now my memory of you is your smiling face. I’ll miss you.
Femi and Aima May the Lord console you and children.
June 9, 2020
June 9, 2020
My wonderful dear Aunty Oto was, and always will be, so many things to me. She was my first teacher. I remember nap time in her nursery school. I remember feeling extra special because she was not only my teacher, she was also my aunty, which meant after school I could go into the main house and have something to eat. I remember love and warmth and joy and comfort.

As she grew older and as I too grew older, aunty Oto became someone I could go to to learn about the older traditions, old songs and old stories that I could have to tell my own kids.

I have never known a person who so embodied goodness, who was so able to teach you a lesson, to order your right from wrong with only kind words to hand.

Someone once told me that when our guardians pass, they become stars in the sky watching over us. I don't know the cosmological fact of this but I do know that since aunty passed I have gone up to the roof of our house almost every night and seen a star shinning down so much brighter than all the others, and I know for sure it can only be her.

Forever in my heart.
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
My sweet, petite, always smiling Aunty with her impeccable dentition. Such a beautiful smile.

I really cannot remember when exactly I met Aunty but I feel as if I have known her all my life. Warm embrace and kisses on both cheeks were our standard greetings. She was an exemplary ‘Old Girl ‘ of the best Girls School of our time, Holy Child College, Lagos. Present at every school meeting and function with her cronies, regaling us with stories of the past! Singing and dancing!!! She was a tiny bundle of dynamite. Small and powerful and strong!

Ohh! Aunty you tried but you were tired of fighting. So you just allowed God to take you. What can we say but Thankyou Jesus. You kept the School motto up until death. ACTIONS NOT WORDS!!! GODs Actions AND NOT Our Words!!! Rest In Peace my sweet Aunty Oto.

Adebimpe Adebajo née Akinsete HCC 1977
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
Dear Aima and Femi,
Your mother was such a friendly, warm and gracious lady. It was always such a pleasure to chat with her at family functions. I did not know her for many years, myself being a relatively new entrant into the family group.
Still I shall miss her presence and company.
I pray God comforts you at this time and may His Grace remain with you and yours always
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
Tribute to Mrs. Mary Oto LIJADU
Holy Child College Old Girls Association will miss you sorely!

Mrs. Mary Oto Lijadu was very popular with the Holy Child College alumnae and the age differential was definitely not a factor; especially when you consider that (with the exception of a few Old Girls), she was much older than most of us, being one of the cohort of the pioneer Students of our great alma mater.

She was popularly known as Aunty Oto or Sisi Oto. Aunty Oto was a Foundation Student of the then newly established Holy Child College, Obalende. This was in 1945. After finishing secondary school in 1950, she remained in the School as a Teacher. Thus, giving back to her alma mater.

Her commitment to Holy Child came to the fore again in her keen participation in the Old Girls Association activities. She devoted her time and energy to encouraging the involvement of other alumnae in the Associations activities. Sisi Oto was very passionate about Holy Child and hardly ever missed Meetings. She was also very diligent in paying her annual and Membership dues.

Aunty Oto’s voice was always heard as she never shied away from contributing to the discussions at hand. She loved to dance and it was always a delight to see her on the dance floor at our January - New Year Party events. She danced (a lot!), thus demonstrating her lifelong love of Music. She was very jovial, cracked jokes and took an interest in interacting with Old Girls – young and old.

We are very blessed to have had her with us, and we were all looking forward to celebrating the School’s 75th Anniversary with her Set. Alas, COVID-19 happened and now Sisi Oto is gone!

May her gentle soul rest in peace. AMEN

Titilayo AKISANYA
HCCOGA President

June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
From: Soji Akinkugbe

Dear Aima and Femi ,

Sorry to hear the news on Aunty Otoo passing .
This is further manifestation of changing of guards
She will be missed for her youthfulness and gentleness being one of those Aunts that one never thought would part with us .

Adieu
Aunty Otoo we will all miss you dearly .
No more stories of your trips to the length and breath of terra firma .
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
It really is hard to write this. Sisi Oto, as I had called her my entire life, was a truly lovely person with a gentle soul and a spirit of determination. In latter years, for about 15 years now, she was a loving link to my late mom of whom she would share a story or titbit every time I saw her. My late mom, like sisi Oto, (and a late aunt I never met) had been at Holy Child (and she has saved my mom from the ire of the nuns, many times, we were told). Though mom was her junior in school, that was no barrier to a sisterhood that was nurtured until my mom passed in 2005. If there was someone my mom would (and did) take counsel from, it was sisi Oto. For those who knew my mom, that was a huge sign of respect. Too many lovely memories of visits to Surulere with mom, an almost weekly ritual then. She was adored by mom and as we became adults we firmly planted ourselves in the line of her affection. When I started to attend old girls meetings, it was always a delight to see her and I always looked forward to our brief chats. Now that she is no more, there is a void but I take counsel in the fact that she is at the Father’s feet and will fellowship with my mom. Rest In Peace sis Oto and may light perpetual shine on you.

Years later, I found myself working with Femi - whom I had heard a lot of but never met - and the sense of affinity was almost immediate.

I pray the Lord brings succour to my dearest egbon (Femi), Bunmi and Tayo




June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
Dear Femi and Aima,

Funke and I extend our heartfelt condolences to you and your entire family on Mama’s passing. We pray that you find solace in knowing that her life was a blessing to so many.

May God strengthen and encourage you and may Mama’s soul rest in perfect and everlasting peace. Amen.

Segun and Funke Adeniji
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
Death is an end which must come when it will.A beautiful heart is gone. I have visited this site many times but couldnt gather my thoughts together in the midst of confusion going on in my mind and head. Aunty, I visited you last in February and promised to come back to spend longer hours with you but alas CONVID 19 put a stop to my plans. From the onset when I met you at late Monsignor Pedro Martins house years back you were warm, loving, kind and always looking forward to seeing again. You were a great teacher and mentor to me and many others who came across you. I so much admire your close relationship with your twin sister and friend --Aima's mum.
There is time and season for all things ordained by God. Hence when God looked around His garden and found an empty space which needed to be filled with the best. He looked down to the earth , saw your tired face, put His arms around you (the best ) and lifted you to rest to enjoy His beautiful garden. He love you and took you away from us. We will miss you a lot. Aunty O rest in peace.
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
Two days before I received the sad news of Aunty’s sudden passing, I was looking for a document when I came across a book titled, “A Childhood Journey” by Mary Oto Lijadu. I flipped through the book and kept it aside, making a mental note to read it again soon. Two days later, I got the news….Oh no! I was dumbstruck. My mind immediately went to the book given to me, signed with her ‘compliments’ on 31/10/2011. Why had I found it at that time?

When I think about Grandma, I remember her beautiful, broad smile that lit up her face. Her smile was warm and accommodating and made anyone who came in contact with her, at ease. She would put her arm around my waist, smile at me and ask me how I was doing, how my brother and sisters were, how my mum, when she was alive, was faring. She was thoughtful and kind, visiting my mum, unannounced, just to banter and keep her company! What a lovely soul Grandma O was….? I remember she once told me that the most important thing in life is to be good and kind to people and God would be happy with us. She certainly walked her talk. God bless her.

I often wonder whether it is the spirit of the people concerned that send us messages that something monumental is about to happen to them… Ah! We take so much for granted…… she will be sorely missed by all.

May her sweet and gentle soul find eternal rest in the Bosom of Our Lord.
With love and many fond memories,

Toyin Caxton-Maritns
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
From: Mrs. Angela Omolara Branco

TRIBUTE TO MY SCHOOL MOTHER, MRS. MARY OTOLORIN LIJADU


Mary and I met on Monday 9th April 1945 when we started as the founding set of Holy Child College, Obalende, Lagos. The school started with only one class of 30 girls. Every student chose a school mother and I chose Mary. From that day, I called her "My Moth" (short for mother) and she called me "My Daught" (for daughter). I cannot say why I chose her as my school mother, perhaps because she was robust with beautiful big eyes.

She was very active in school activities e.g. drama, games and singing (with her beautiful alto voice). This she retained even in her old age. Mary enjoyed dancing and loved flowers, which she would speak to. As an old girl of Holy Child College, she participated fully in the activities of the Old Girl's Association, both in Nigeria and in the United Kingdom.

Mary had a good heart. She was humble, simple and not worldly. Above all, she was a true daughter of God and the Blessed Virgin Mary. She once told me that she was told by God to have prayer meetings with me in my home and when I asked how she knew it was me, she said God called my name. We met with a priest about it and he approved it. After a brief break and by the grace of God, we continued to meet for Mass once a week in the chapel in my home after which we would settle to little bites and something to chat about.

Mary and I were on the phone with each other at least once a week. When I called her on the 27th of May 2020, it was her carer who answered the phone and said "My Moth" wasn't feeling too well and was resting. It was my intention to call the following day but didn't get the chance to do so before I received the shocking and paralyzing news of her passing.

Oto as she was fondly called by many, was very much loved by all. "My Moth" seemed to have prepared herself to meet our Father, from the things she said in the days and weeks before her passing.

"My Moth", I love you but the Father loves you more and wants you to be with Him now. I will always remember and cherish sweet memories of you. I am sure our Mother, Blessed Virgin Mary whom you loved, has led you to the bosom of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Adieu "My Moth"! We shall meet again at Jesus' feet.

Your sorrowing "daught"
Angela Omolara Branco
June 8, 2020
June 8, 2020
Referred to her as mama. Still in disbelief. We still spoke a couple of times late May when she had some issues with her satellite system and was lockdown in the UK. Mama was a joy to be around, very caring and hospitable. She will surely be missed.
May her gentle soul find rest in the Lord's bosom, Amen.
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
The first time I met Aunty Oto was over 30 years ago in the home of late Chief Bolaji Oni. He was shocked that I did not know her because she knew my parents.
My visit on her 60th birthday was brief because my friend who invited me, Frances Kuboye had left before I got there.
Whenever I met her, she always had a smile for everyone.
She always spoke in a gentle manner.
And of course, she loved Adire! That created a great bond! She always told me that she loved Adire alaaro because her mother made them in her younger days.
Good night Aunty Oto.
Missing you already.
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
Dear ODL my EX Boss turned friend/big Bro, Please accept my condolences on the passing of your beloved Mum. Never met her but your lovely stories about her makes me feel I did. Be consoled that she had a fulfilled life and raised you - a warm, kind, compassionate and supportive man.

Our prayers(my family & I) are with you and yours. May the Lord grant you the fortitude to bear this irreparable loss which is heaven's gain.

It is well with your entire family in Jesus name.
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
Grandma O,

I truly enjoyed meeting you during my family's trip to Nigeria this past Christmas. Your warmth and passion filled our conversations and I'm sure it filled all of the communities that you have influenced. You had a soul of gold and may God's comfort be felt now more than ever to the family. Rest In Peace.
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
My dear Aunty Oto,
I spoke to you a couple of times and promised to stop by but l never did, l am so pained...
God in HIS infinite Mercies knows best.
You will be solely missed Aunty Oto, thanks for all the stories, the memories, most especially the words of wisdom..
May God grant you eternal rest as light perpetual continues to shine upon your gentle and beautiful soul.
Rest in Perfect Peace Aunty Oto!!
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
Grandma O was special. I started to see her not just as Bunmi’s mum, but truly as mine in 2008 when Bunmi, Dapo and the boys moved to live in Puerto Rico. I loved her as my own and she did the same. She adopted me as her daughter and Shola and Seun as her grandchildren. I felt personally responsible for her as soon as she arrived in Manchester every summer. Summer officially started only when Grandma O arrived with burudi, slippers and adire shirts!!! Similarly her birthday on 30 September signified the end of summer for me.

I will always treasure the memories of our long telephone conversations and visits. Your stories, your advice, your prayers ... taught me so much about life, culture, motherhood, career, faith and so much more.
You’ve left behind a legacy of fun, adventure, integrity and an unshakeable Christian faith. I will miss you. Sun re O, Mummy and rest peacefully in the bosom of our Lord. Amen
Thank you Bunmi, Dapo, Yemi and Koye for sharing Grandma O with us x
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
The Smith/Lijadu Family sends our condolences on the passing  on to Glory of our Beloved One In A Million Wife And Aunty, Mrs. Otolorin Lijadu.May Her Caring Soul Find Solace In The Bosom Of The Almighty.Sisi Oto Adieu! Adieu! Adieu! From Mrs.Bisi Akintola.
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
Please accept our deepest condolences for your loss. Our prayers are with you all.
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
GrandMa O will be greatly missed. I remembered my last call with her during the lockdown just to check-up on her, the first thing she said was "Peter I want to thank you for something". She is always showing appreciation for any small gesture, no gesture is too small to her.
Thank you GrandMa for our wedding gift despite your absence, you still had us in mind.
We love you and will greatly miss your kind Words and Advice to us.
Rest in perfect peace GrandMa O.
With Love always - Peter and Lucy Ojemen
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
Oh my God what a news. Grandma has gone to be with the Lord. Grandma I saw you off last on departure when you travelled on vacation to the UK sometime last year. And I also received you on arrival. I never knew I will not see you again. The pain of physical separation runs deep, yet it will heal because we know that Grandma has gone to that better place. But we will wear the scar as a daily reminder that a life of love is possible. I thank God for the Legacy Grandma impacted and left for her children which myself and my family are beneficiaries today. Grandma sleep well. Rest in perfect peace IJMN. Amen.
  To the LIJADUS, Please accept my heart felt sympathy for this painful loss. The Almighty God will surely comfort you at this time. My sincere condolences to the entire LIJADU family. May Grandma soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.
   From CHRISTIAN ADIBELI & FAMILY
June 7, 2020
June 7, 2020
A Beautiful Soul Has Gone To Rest

Auntie Oto, gentle , soft- spoken, hospitable and kind.
As I wrote my tribute and thought about you, it struck me that till this day,
I have not come across anyone with the name ‘Otolorin’, or anyone with
a distinctive voice like yours or anyone who made or can make those small cube- like
dried pieces of meat that you entertained us with, along with gurudi and chinchin, during our childhood days. You were unique.
Auntie, you will be sorely missed.
I love you but God loves you more.

My beautiful Auntie Oto, sleep on beautiful soul, sleep on and take your rest.

Sola Odusanya
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
From Funke Aboyade

The first time I heard about and of Mrs. Oto Lijadu I already loved her without meeting her. Her son, Femi and I were colleagues at Fani-Kayode and Sowemimo in Lagos. His mum was our principal, Chief Sobo Sowemimo's younger sister. I loved her full name, Otolorin. And I loved the way Femi rolled it out when he referred to her, which was often enough.
His mum, you see, was no shrinking violet. I eventually got to meet her and snatch glimpses of her if she stopped by at the law firm. A feisty woman, her small stature belied her disciplined toughness - a handy attribute with four sons, not to mention her brother, Uncle Sobo...
I rather admired this woman with the loveliest, melodious name who lived life on her own terms. I would listen in awe as Femi, a good storyteller if ever there was one, regaled us with anecdotes about his dear mum.
Condolences, Femi and the entire Lijadu family, on the loss of your incredible mother. May the angels of the Lord welcome her to paradise.
And may her dear soul rest in peace.
Funke Aboyade
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
Dear Aunty Oto

Sundays was almost a sure banker to see you and we would always greet ourselves warmly, ooh that smile of yours never dimmed.

Dear Aunty I shall miss you as you rest forever in the bosom of our Lord.
Goodbye
Funmi Shobo
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
From Mrs Theresa Shobo.
Oto
May your beautiful soul Rest In Peace.
We spoke and laughed on the phone just about a week or thereabouts ago not knowing that it would be our last conversation with each other.
Rest In Peace dear friend.
Much love
Theresa
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
Mama rest in peace. Your life was well lived and evidence of that was how you brought up your family, one of them that i know very well as a senior colleague in UBA Lagos, Mr Olufemi Lijadu. He is one of the best human beings i have come across in my life. He is very polite, kind, full of empathy and fairness. As a teacher and especially of literature i can easily identify with Mama though i never met her. I read and taught literature at University. One of the things Literature does to the mind of an individual is to produce and create empathy and a spirit of knowledge sharing. You would come across personality traits of different characters in fiction. That way you learnt so much about the deepness and complexity of life, about both malevolence and benevolence. Fiction is not life but it draws a good deal of its material from life, hence the occasional similarities between the two. From what i read Mama had that quality of knowing and teaching what she knew. Regularly guiding and directing those she met in her life to the right path. Thus a life lived fully should be celebrated not mourned.
Mr Lijadu one day in the 90's travelled abroad and bought me a book on the Caribbean artist Derek Walcott. I still value the book and read it again and again because i teach and supervise dissertations on Caribbean Literature at University once in a while. Now i understand his passion for the literary enterprise. Now i fully understand why he purchased for me a book on Walcott instead of one by Stigliz or Fukuyama.     I pray that Mama will rest in peace and the children and grandchildren that she left behind will continue to prosper
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
I’m lost for words. What can I say. You were love personified. I will miss our never ending conversations about the state of our world & the need to remember the values that truly matter. Our agreement on the fact that the road to perfection is a life long struggle. Ojo Iku l’ojo isinmi, you have fought the good fight & deserve your rest in bliss.
Christmas will never be the same again without you. ☹️
No more Frejon for me at Easter ☹️
Your infectious laughter & warm embrace exuded from your tiny frame like rays of sunshine & bolts of joy. 
Your staunch support & loyalty through times of personal travails will surely be rewarded.
Your display of courage, fortitude, forgiving spirit, stoic but cheerful acceptance in the face of your own vicissitudes was an example I hope to continue to emulate.
Aunty Ot, as I fondly called you, Adieu.
You’re a class act leaving an indelible mark in every sphere of human endeavour you touched. I will miss you but I’m consoled by the fact that you’re finally at peace.
Sun re O.
Your “Iya Oko”, as you fondly called me,
Yemisi Ransome-Kuti
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
Although you're gone, we not alone,
And never shall we be,
For the precious memories of the bond you shared
Will never depart from us.

Your love surpassed the ups and downs
And helped us along the way,
And that same love will give us strength
To manage this loss each day.

On our minds and in our hearts,
Mama, you shall forever be,
For just as much as we are a part of you,
You are a part of us!

Source: poem/although-you-re-gone © Shannon Walker
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
I was very happy to have met Grandma O. I enjoyed the time we spent together. May her soul rest in peace.

- Grandma Levis (Jamaica)
June 6, 2020
June 6, 2020
Grandma O,

It was an absolute pleasure meeting you during my family's trip to Nigeria for Christmas 2019. Your soul was radiant and you always filled the room with love, acceptance, and joy. You will be missed dearly. May God surround your loved ones with comfort and peace.
June 5, 2020
June 5, 2020
Do accept our deepest sympathy on behalf of Bro Agba’s family over the homegoing of our dear Auntie Mrs Mary Otolorin Lijadu. May her soul Rest In Peace...Amen
Ariyo K Shodeke
Foluke Adewale
Babajide Shodeke
Ademola Daniel
Adeyinka Adetunji Lewis-
June 5, 2020
June 5, 2020
I will always remember your beautiful smile Grandma O' as you were fondly called by your grandchildren . You displayed the role of true motherhood in the way I saw you at the functions of your children.
You were always on time for events, very easy going, sweet but firm personality.
Your faith in God was exceptional. I remember always telling you whenever I saw you at our alpha programmes that I'm encouraged by your love for God. 
You lived a wonderful life and had a fantastic relationship with your children and daughters in law. May God grant you eternal glory till we meet to part no more amen.
Rest in peace dear grandma O'
June 5, 2020
June 5, 2020
Aunty Oto was a quintessential lovely lady, (and I mean "lady" in all its ramifications) genteel, polished and always so elegant, soft spoken (in all the times I met her, never heard a raised voice). Indeed, she was and is truly blessed with a loving family.


She has gone to a better place, a place of rest in the presence of the Most High. To the family left behind, cherish her memory, for that would give the warm blanket of comfort in times when you need to feel her most.

Lord, send the Comforter, the Holy Spirit to dwell in our midst, Amen.
June 5, 2020
June 5, 2020
Oh wow! What a vibrant, dynamic and effervescent lady she was. Although our Jamaican family had the privilege of just meeting her during our short visit to Lagos in Dec 2019, we just adored her spirit and warmth...she reminded me a Jamaican saying, ' she likkle but she tallawah' (meaning, she's small in stature , but strong willed and fearless).
Rest in the arms of your saviour Grandma 'O'....until.
June 5, 2020
Dear Sisi Oto.
Words elude me for the past few days after learning of your passing. I still haven't found the right words yet I feel I must put in an early thought at this point. 
Sisi Oto, you were and still are an enigmatic character on the educational field of action recognized both at home and abroad. I still recall how Head Mistresses and Head Masters of privately owned and public primary schools shook in their shoes at the thought of OTO LIJADU's scheduled inspection visits as an Education officer back in the days. I recall also your visits with Cousin Yemi to my parents house with your two little boys Wole and Femi whom we looked forward to seeing. You spent long hours at my parents' and its impossible to forget your sweet but tiny laughters in between discussions.
Then your young family left for Europe for some years. I did too for the United States for my studies. I returned and found that you had also returned. You remained close to my parents and the fondness my siblings and I had for you was rekindled.  We ended up as almost neighbours when my then young moved into Eric Moore Towers and you lived on Bode Thomas street. The ties grew closer when your OTOLORIN's PLAY GROUP took off. First my daughter, Foluke was one of your early pupils and oftentimes you kept her with you after school hours at home should we for any reason run late in picking her up while other parents were obliged to pick up their wards at closing time. This privilege you extended to us out of the goodness of your heart. This you also extended to our 2nd daughter Remi who also attended OTOLORIN's PLAYGROUP. In addition to the excellent baby class education our daughters enjoyed, you also became the authority our daughter Foluke always threatened to report us to should we scold her for any reason....she always retorted with *I'll tell Aunty Oto for you*. That's the extent of the protective influence you had on the children under your care. They all loved and respected you Sisi Oto. Your baby girls are now married with their own Children and you remain fondly Aunty Oto.

Now as much as was possible, my husband and I always made time to touch base with you whenever we came to Lagos. The last of such visits were in August and November 2019 respectively. In addition, you always keep in touch on phone and I have also cultivated the habit of calling you too. I thank God that we saw you and spent quality time with you chatting about everything. Now, coming to Lagos will become incomplete with your departure. 

From the heart SISI OTO, you are already sorely missed. You are unforgettable as you have touched many lives in your gentle and loving way. The music piece chosen for this website is thetefore very apt
 Very befitting.  And for evermore that's how unforgettable you'll remain.......

Adios Sisi Oto. Sleep well in the bosom of the Lord. Never fail to look down compassionately on the children and grandchildren you left behind. The good Lord remains tjeir strength and shall see us all through this great loss.

Tilewa(Tokunbo) Lijadu-Oyemade
for Bayo, Foluke, Remi Oyemade and all others in the Oyemade family.

June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Dear Aunty Ots!!!

Beautiful of face, beautiful of heart, beautiful of spirit and generous of self!
I know your gentle soul is in heaven with your beloved Mother Mary and your brother Jesus both of whom you loved so much.
I am happy that your beloved Wole now has company and you will both be rejoicing up there. That gives me comfort! You deserve your rest! Continue to rest in the bosom of the Lord!
Love you from here to eternity! Sun re o!

Funke Agbor
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Aunty Oto,
I remember she fondly, she was always so warm and welcoming. I remember visiting her home on numerous occasions to see my friend Tayo, and she was always really nice. GrandmaO & GrandmaB two peas in a pie, they sure made the perfect pair.
One thing I will always remember the most is the love Grandma O had for the Lord.. She loved the Lord..
Rest now till we meet again. Aunty Oto, we miss and love you always
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Remembering Dearest Auntie Oto, today her birthday......
Forever resting in God's perfect peace

July 29, 2023
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A RARE GEM IS GONE

Just seeing this! Losing a rare gem like Mama Mary Otolorin Lijadu is quite a sad development. This will definitely linger for a long while.

The last time I saw Mama was 2010 when she presented an autographed copy of her autobiographical account, 'A Childhood Journey' to me. Earlier before the publication of the book, she had contacted me to enlist my editorial intervention, which I offered with unrestrained enthusiasm. I was particularly bowled over with her consuming passion, at her age as of then, to document her thrilling thoughts.

Unfortunately, I lost her mobile contacts. Worse still, I couldn't figure out her Surulere-Lagos residential address again, as I visited her only once. What a great grandma! Every second with her was clearly an educative moment. She was an embodiment of knowledge. It was painful for me to have lost touch with her.

Just last week, I stumbled on her book in my shelf, and I decided to surf the net to know if there could be means of reaching out to her since there's no mobile contact of hers on the book. I was shocked to see her memorial page. Nigeria and Africa have lost a great and illustrious daughter.

I commiserate with the family: Papa Yemi Lijadu and the glorious children and grandchildren of Mama Lijadu. May God rest her beautiful soul and take good care of her surviving family members in Jesus name .

Kunle Balogun,
General Editor,
The Craft Writers Consult,
Ibadan, Nigeria.
Her Life

Mrs. Mary Otolorin Lijadu

May 31, 2020
Mrs Mary Otolorin Lijadu, nee Martins, was born in Kano on 30th September 1931. She attended the only Catholic primary school in Kano at the time. She spoke Hausa Fluently and lived in an environment where “Christians and Muslims lived peacefully among themselves”. In her words: ”we played together and ate together.” After her parents left Kano in the early 1940’s she continued her education at St. Mary’s Primary School, Broad Street, Lagos for a year and a half. News then came that a new secondary school for girls was to be established in Lagos and in 1945, she sat the entrance examination and was admitted as a Foundation student to Form I of the new Holy Child College in Obalende, Lagos. 
In Holy Child College the nuns who taught this first set of girls were exceptionally committed and great teachers. She fondly remembered nuns such as Reverend Mother Fidelis, Reverend Mother Mary Marcella. The Principal was the formidable Rev. Mother Mary Magdalene, according to Mary, the girls would tremble and shake whenever she approached. All the nuns were impressive characters but amongst them Reverend Mother Fidelis stood out as a multi- talented and intellectually curious teacher who went out of her way to develop the student’s talents, interests and love of life. Mrs. Oto Lijadu thus had her talents nurtured and nourished at Holy Child. She developed a love of music and literature. She learned how to sing and act and played the role of Portia in Shakespeare’s “Merchant of Venice”. At the age of 88 she could still quote Anthony’s famous speech from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar, “friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears,” she would begin.

At Holy Child her favourite subjects were History, Literature and Geography. Upon finishing her secondary education she stayed on as a teacher in Holy Child. This was in 1961. That is why to this day, many old girls still call her “Miss Mary”. She toyed, for a while, with the idea of becoming a nun so she visited some centres for novitiates (that is to say centres for training girls to become nuns), but this was not to be. After some years teaching in Holy Child, the nuns sent some names forward for consideration for a scholarship award to attend teacher-
training Colleges in England. Mrs. Lijadu won a scholarship and thus went to Portsmouth Teacher Training College in South Sea, Portsmouth, England. After two years training which she passed with Credit, she was awarded a Certificate in Education from Southampton University. She later obtained her academic Diploma in Education at London University. The raging controversy in education at the time was about comprehensive schools as the future of public education in Britain. Her thesis touched on some aspects of this burning issue of the time! 
Subsequently she won a Commonwealth Scholarship to pursue her Post- Graduate Diploma in Educational Administration and Organisation from Reading University. On that course, she was the only African and the only woman among 17 men! She received a commendation for her work. 
She returned home, to Lagos, Nigeria married Mr. Yemi Lijadu and started family life. She also began teaching at Maryland Teacher Training College. Her family grew and she had four sons of whom she is immensely proud and who apart from being devoted sons are also her very best friends, Wole, Femi, Bunmi and Tayo. For some years she lived and worked in Paris, France where her husband worked for UNESCO. 
A few of her notable positions included Education Officer, Federal Ministry of Education, First Nigerian Education Officer, British Council, Lagos, and Coordinator Catholic Women’s International Organisation (Nigeria). She was a trustee of MUSON from inception and was largely responsible for setting up the first MUSON schools music competition and, of course, President, Holy Child College, Old Girls Association for many years. 
Yet, arguably her favourite position was that of grandmother, She called her grandchildren her “guardian angels”. She has been known to declare that “children are grand but grandchildren are grander!” 
She has written numerous articles on education and about nurturing young talent and has published two books: “Children’s Prayers” and “My Childhood Journeys” which describes her fascinating journeys by rail as a child across Nigeria. She had a deep appreciation for reading, writing poetry, drinking tea, travelling around the world and telling stories to little children. On her time at Holy Child she said “I am so grateful to Holy Child for the wonderful and nurturing environment it provided for us all to develop into accomplished and enlightened young women, useful to society and upholding the best of values: “My education in Holy Child made me realise who I am and helped me to fulfil my God-given potential.
Mary Otolorin Lijadu passed away at 88 years old in Lagos, Nigeria. She will be in our hearts forever. 
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My first memory of Auntie Oto was when she came to Tremadoc, our home in London, as she and the family were en route to Paris. Tayo was a babe in arms and Bunmi a toddler.
Wole and Femi stayed with us for short school holidays and on their way to and from Paris during the longer holidays. Auntie would visit  and like so many have said, was always armed with snacks - Nigerian snacks 

Auntie Oto was key to my life in Lagos. She accompanied Mummy to see Kehinde and me off at the airport that day in August 1975 as we left the UK. Auntie Oto , Bunmi and Tayo flew out that evening. Our flight was delayed overnight and there was no one at the airport to pick us up. I went to the Nigeria Airways office because I knew my sister worked for Nigeria Airways at the time. I had a letter with Uncle Yinka’s address on it and the man at Nigeria Airways organised a taxi to take us to Victoria Island. Coming from England I had no idea how potentially dangerous this was.
Auntie Oto had arrived in Lagos early that morning and arrived with her car just as we were about to get in the taxi. She took us to Uncle Sobo’s house in Yaba first, then her driver took us to Uncle Yinka’s office. We were safe and as we settled in Nigeria it was always comforting to know that Auntie Oto, Bunmi and Tayo weren’t far away, especially when I missed my life in London and my parents.

 There is no way I can write this without acknowledging how instrumental  Auntie Oto  was in my Lagos education. I was to live in Ibadan with Auntie Joke and her family then one day  was brought back to Lagos. Why? Because Auntie had arranged entrance tests for Our Lady of Apostles and Holy Child. I got into both, and Auntie helped me to choose which one I would go to. I chose Holy Child because of the uniform, (particularly the cap).
My time at HC was one of my best life experiences and shaped the woman I have become. They say it takes a village to raise a child and Auntie Oto was a key part of my village. For that I owe her great thanks. 
Abientot, dear gentle Auntie. Rest in perfect peace. Much love Taiwo Dayo-Payne

Letter of Condolence from MUSON (Musical Society of Nigeria)

June 7, 2020
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