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Mary Otolorin Lijadu, or Grandma O, as she was affectionately known, lived a beautiful life. She was born in Kano, on September 30th 1931. She was a teacher, a lover of literature, history and her secondary school Holy Child in Lagos where she was a part of the first set of girls in 1945.  She loved Holy Child College and developed a deep and lifelong kinship with the nuns who taught her while she was there such as Mother Fidelis and Sister Helena Brennan. While at Holy Child she was a member of the Holy Child choir which won many competitions at events such as the annual Festival of Music.  

After winning a scholarship and completing her degree at Portsmouth Teacher Training College in Portsmouth, England, she later obtained her academic Diploma in Education at London University and subsequently won a Commonwealth Scholarship to pursue her Post- Graduate Diploma at Reading University. She then returned home and taught at Maryland Teacher Training College.  She later joined the Federal Ministry of Education.  One of her duties was to inspect schools to ensure quality and standards were maintained. She had a formidable reputation for being thorough and uncompromising yet kind and encouraging.  

She married Mr. Yemi Lijadu in1956. In the early 60’s, they left Nigeria for the France upon his joining UNESCO  (United Nations Educational Scientific & Cultural Organisation) at the organization’s Headquarters in Paris. She learned French and taught at Marymount International College in Paris.

Upon returning to a Nigeria in the mid-70’s she was appointed as the first Nigerian Education Officer at the British Council office in Western House. She was also President of the Nigerian Chapter of OMEP (The World Organization for Pre-school  Education) for many years. She was a truly devout Catholic and she served as Coordinator of Catholic Women’s International Association (Nigeria) for several years. Her Catholic faith was deep and unshakeable.  

She loved literature and published two books of her own: “Children’s Prayers” and “My Childhood Journeys” which is an autobiographical account of the amazing adventures she had. as a child, traveling across Nigeria by rail. 

She is adored by her sons and daughters in law Femi and Aima, Bunmi and Dapo, Tayo and Wole (who passed away in 2019). She was an exceptionally wise and loving, playful and kind grandma to her grandchildren Kemi, Yemi, Tomi, Koye, Funmi and Olufemi. Grandma O knew the value of storytelling as a way of conveying values and understanding who you are and where you came from.

Grandma O was a renaissance woman with a true passion for education. One of her favourites plays was Julius Caesar, at 88 she could still recite Antony's speech "Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears," from memory. She loved music and was a trustee of Musical Society of Nigeria from its inception until she stepped down last year. 

She lived life gracefully and she had a beautiful spirit. 

Mary Otolorin passed away at 88 years old, on May 28, 2020  in Lagos Nigeria.

Granma O The twinkle of your smiling eyes is unforgettable... 

We will remember you forever.

June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
My darling Aunty Oto: Black & beautiful, petite, yet full of life. Aunty always had such an air of youthfulness about her. She loved children and especially loved being around them. So much so that after retiring from a career in education, she started a crèche for young children, which she ran for several years.

I always thought of her as our exotic aunty who was always fun to be around. When we were children, she constantly spoilt my siblings, cousins, and me, with nice treats such as, gurudi, chin chin, & other traditional Lagos Island delicacies. 

During my last visit with her, she gave me some “Akara” to take home to my kids. They were really tasty as is evidenced by the fact that they got devoured as soon as I got home!

Aunty, I am so happy I was able to have a chat with you in the last few weeks. I will miss your jokes, your unique voice, your laughter.

You were a devout Catholic and had great love for Mary, the mother of Our Lord Jesus Christ. I know you are in heaven with your beloved son, our dear cousin, Wole; Mary the mother of God; our Lord Jesus; and the angels.

We promise to keep an eye on our much-loved cousins: Femi, Bunmi, Tayo, and also on the grandchildren.

Sleep on, dearest Aunty, beloved daughter of God.

Much Love

Sade Onyia
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Forever with the Lord and in our hearts.
We will miss you Otto, rest in perfect peace.
My sincere condolences to all members of the Lijadu family. May God give you all the strength to bear this terrible loss.
Love Always,
Aunty Gloria Akosa
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Uncle Femi,

Lovely chatting with you the other evening (Singapore time).

Deepest condolences on your loss! May mama’s soul find rest In God’s warm embrace!

Love always,

Demola & Cheryl Obafemi Olopade
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Dear Mum,
You were a mother who took the place of all others but whose place no one can take.

You lived well making God your pillar in life, a role model of a beautiful life worthy of emulation.You touched the lives of anyone who came across your way positively.Your priceless legacies will forever remain with us and you will always be in our hearts with loving memories.

The angels are waiting to receive you in heave.
Sun re o mummy!
From: Mrs Iyabo Ogundana
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
The news of the passing of a beloved person is always very sad. It is so difficult to accept that we will never hug each other again. We will not laugh, cry, talk together again. Femi and Aima, please accept my sincere condolences.

"Non omnis moriar" the latin poet once said. The Grandmother O could repeat after him: ": I will not die completely". It is because so wonderful her life was. So many good things had happened! Femi, you told me once about her: she was the eager and dedicated teacher. I've always dreamed of meeting her. I thought that one day we will sit down, drink tea and talk about the ideal education. I know how extensive the loss of such a loved and great person is. She left a lot of good. Above all, she has left to us the splendid and wise people like you and Aima. She left the smart grandchildren. And certainly, she has left many good and judicious people who were once her students. I embrace you warmly from a distance.
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Grandma O was very special to me. The last time I saw her was in March before the lockdown. I visited her with Femi at home at Bode Thomas. That last visit is now a cherished memory. She was in good spirits and was happy to see us. She told us stories of her youth and Holy Child and of being part of a singing trio that aspired to go to America to become actors. This ambition was flatly discouraged. We were uplifted by the visit knowing that she was pleased to see us. Her powers of recollection were amazing. When we were leaving, she insisted on giving us little packs of Chin-Chin and Gurudi. When she sensed some hesitation, she said we could give them to our children.

What an elegant, kind and thoughtful lady she was. She called me regularly to ask about everyone in my family, including siblings and when my mother was alive and in her 90’s, she visited her regularly without any indication to me that she would stop by and this was when moving around was clearly becoming more difficult for her.

Grandma O’s specialty was education. On some of her impromptu visits she brought educational and Christian books for the children, different stages to match their ages and she would call to ask if they were reading them.

One of Grandma’s strengths was her positive outlook on life. When Wole (her first son) passed away last summer, I was very concerned about how losing him might affect her health. It was tough for her (she happened to be in Manchester on holiday) but she mostly talked about how kind and sensitive the policeman who came to break the news to her were and how happy Wole was in Ireland and how fond of him his neighbors and friends were. Always focusing on the positive and quick to thank God in all circumstances. She got comfort and was happy when hearing good news of the progress of others and was especially animated when talking about children, especially her grandchildren.

I have so many wonderful memories of grandma O and she is smiling in every one of them. I got a glimpse of what she was like as a young lady when her classmates would gather at Bode Thomas to sing and reminisce. “Summer-Time” by Ella Fitzgerald was a favorite, with the late Mrs. Francesca Emmanuel singing lead. When together, the elegant Holy Child ladies had pure and unadulterated fun. Their joy was infectious, and we admired them.

When Femi called with the news that Grandma had passed on I was speechless. It was the last thing I expected to hear. There was no warning. But we must all be consoled by Grandma’s deep faith in God. She was devout in her worship and was well prepared to meet her maker. I am absolutely convinced that she is at peace and resting in the bosom of our Lord.

To my dear brothers Femi, Bunmi and Tayo and their dear wives and children, no one can ever replace Grandma O. We can only be thankful for the opportunity to have known her and to have been enriched by her teachings and the legacy of the exemplary life that she lived.

Grandma O, you will be sadly missed but will never be forgotten. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Dear Femi

Kindly accept my deepest sympathy and condolence on the sudden death of your beloved mother and a woman of finest refinement.
As a human, we shared on sadness for demise and also took solace that she came, ordained, lived fulfilled life and now at peace with God, praying for our blessings and salvation.
We thank God for her life and pray that her gentle soul ever rest in the bosom of the Lord. 
My heart and prayers are with the family. Extend my condolence and greetings to your wife and other family members.
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Dear Uncle Femi,

Losing a great woman like your mother is one of the deepest sorrows anyone can know but we are consoled by her good legacies.

May the soul of Mama Rest In Peace and pray to God to grant you and your entire family the fortitude to bear this great loss.

Adieu Mama.
June 4, 2020
June 4, 2020
Aunty Oto Lijadu was one of the remaining Matriarchs of the Sowemimo family. She was a devoted Catholic who loved to entertain and enjoyed the company of family and friends. She enjoyed telling us about her youth,siblings and experiences. She was multilingual. We will miss the annual Frejon at Easter. Also took delight in getting in touch with her siblings children and never tired of the many attempts. Delighted in telling jokes about her siblings especially her dear Uncle Popo aka Popson. May her soul continue to rest in peace Amen.K Kunle Bajomo
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
Dear Femi and Aima, we send our condolences to you and the family. A mother is always missed .May God Almighty console you. May her soul Rest in Peace.
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
Mrs Lijadu was such a warm , affectionate, cultured Lady, which attributes endeared her to many of the younger generation. She was trendy & stylish Lady & among the set of Ladies who passed through Holy Child College, Ikoyi, imbibed with the education, confidence & exposure which prepared them with the necessary tools to face the new epoch as equal partners with the men of that generation. Late Mrs Francesca Emanuel & Mrs Onasanya to name a few, were from that Holy Child College pool.  They were all confident career Women, who were pioneer Trail Blazers, setting the pace for succeeding younger generation of career Women.
Femi & the rest of the family are fortunate to have had the good fortune of having the company of such a genial, loving, cultured & caring soul as the Matriarch of the family, for a considerable period of time. She probably wouldn’t even have wanted a noisy jamboree for her encore. May her soul RIP.

Supo Shonibare.
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
Our dear Femi & Aima,

It was only Saturday or Sunday that I bumped into you on Awolowo Road with Mom in the back seat, I believe. It is hard to see that this is the outcome of that encounter. 

I am so sorry to learn of Mom’s passing. May her lovely soul rest in peace. 

God heal the wound of her passing and bless the Lijadu family.

Remi & Onome Okunlola

June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
I spoke with Aunty O, early this month just to check on her. We were on the phone for over half an hour because Aunty always had some new knowledge to share. Aunty Oto was very special to me and I am so grateful for every time spent with her. She was an excelletn teacher who had also returned to Holy Child College to teach my own mother.Although Aunty is no longer physically with us, she is with us in spirit. She will be sorely missed and her grand legacy remains intact. May Aunty O's gentle , kind and compassionate soul rest on in perfect peace. Amen.
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
My dear Auntie Oto, you were indeed very special to your family. I proudly introduced you as my father's baby sister. Your brothers and sister doted on you. You had formidable brothers The Sowemimo men and Chief Mrs Aduke Bajomo your sister. On May 18th, you had planned to gather your family to remember our grandmother, fondly called Mama Oto, who died 66years ago. Due to the circumstances we decided to have it sometime later. You had actually planned to do so many things, however God loves you and has called you home.
As children, Seye and I lived with you and Uncle Yemi and the boys. You and my late mother were so fond of yourselves, and she would say Sisi Oto is your mother. You loved your nieces and nephews so much and you were so close to all of us. If you had not heard from any of us, you would send messages.
I will miss our long phone calls and visits. This year, you celebrated my 60th birthday with me. I also celebrated Mothering Sunday with you, these memories will be forever special to me.
I miss you so much my darling Auntie Oto, the baby sister of the Formidable Sowemimo brothers and sister
Efunsola Ilegbodu née Sowemimo
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
As the weather in the U.K. got bright, warm and sunny (Oto did not like the cold weather) I wondered how Oto would come to Manchester for her annual summer visit with Tayo and his family with covid-19 and the isolation travellers restrictions. Oto enjoyed her summers in Manchester and she often told me about a health food restaurant she went to and the creative art she was doing.
Oto was one of the first Nigerian ladies I met when I arrived in Lagos. I remember standing in front of the Ikoyi Hotel when Oto looking at my little son Toks who resembles my late husband George and Oto saying ‘you must be George’s wife’s’. Soon after we went to a lively party in their Glover Road flat. Our travels over the years meant our friendship which spanned many years had gaps when I didn’t see Oto. I always will remember how Oto loved to dance and it was a joy seeing her bending low and weaving to high life music in typical Yoruba style!
I often listened to her talk about Holy Child and her students and the joy and happiness she got from her grandchildren. Then there was the help and support she got from her sons and daughter in laws in her ageing years which enriched her life immensely. Oto was very charming and with a lovely smile and I will miss chatting with her here in the U.K. and Lagos! Rest in peace Oto,
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
Grandma, I am glad I got to meet and know you. I thank God for your strong faith, your charming laughter and your kindness. May God grant you eternal rest with Him in His kingdom.
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
Mama Maria, what a shock I got when I read in the Mothers Prayer Group that you had gone to be with the Lord. I came to the house to give you my brother-in-law's tribute book in December 2019 but your carer said you were asleep. I gave her the booklet and traveled soon after, in fact I am still stuck here in UK due to the current global pandemic. I am glad that I had the chance to sit and chat with you when I last saw you in November.
I know you are in heaven with the angels, may your beautiful soul rest in peace, Amen

Mrs R. Titi Johnson
June 3, 2020
June 3, 2020
Grandma O, our great beauty Au revoir. I can not begin to imagine the loss your departure has on those left behind, but I can imagine how the angels would have heralded you with songs of victory as you made your way home to our Lord. Your footprint for advancing the Kingdom of God on earth can not be forgotten, for me especially. Your impact promoting education and girl life in Nigeria and across the world is visible - you lived as a witness. I remember the tales you told me of your days in Holy Child as we made our way to church in High Street Kensington...you were so regal, the cab driver who picked us up treated you like a queen...your grace and beauty made me proud to be nubian and secretly I hoped to carry myself with such grace too as I age. I miss you...My sincere condolences to your family and all who loved you dearly. Rest in Peace Grandma O
André sends his deepest sympathy
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
Grandma O! A cherished Sister, a doting Mother and Grandma and a loving Aunt and Mother also to many, many of us. We grew up knowing Aunty Oto as a second Mother. I can proudly boast that I was our Aunt's favourite as a Child; her maternal love and protection was replete with motherly kindness and being spoiled rotten by her. In order to dispel nightime worries about ghouls and monsters, Aunty Oto would pacify and delight me of tales of fairies coming out and dancing around flowering plants at night. Although I looked for the fairies and didn't always find them, those cherished stories assured me of a good night's rest. My Siblings and I, Brother Whole, Cousin Femi, Bunmi and Tayo were and are bound by the ties forged during our childhood years forged by our loving and now we see, formidable co-parents. Rest peacefully in the bosom of your Lord and Saviour whom you accepted. You are missed and remembered with great love Aunty, Mummy Oto. Go well. Your Loving Niece, Jaiyeola Sowemimo.
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
OMG!!! Were my first words when I heard Aunty Oto died on Thursday as I had just had a brief telephone conversation with her on the Tuesday sadly the network was bad. I was really shocked! How can this be? Alas God knows best.

Aunty Oto was a great supporter of HCCOGA UK Alumnae. She attended every picnic we had whenever she was in town and never failed to bring a prize for our raffle draw. She was always dressed in the Holy Child Ankara. She lived for Holy Child College. She also had on two occasions attended our Gala night and was always the main attraction with Mrs Phillips. They were the pioneer set ladies and singing our school song was always important to them at any of our events. She had such a bubbly character especially when telling those wonderful stories of her various exploits in school. She was very dedicated to the alumnae and her alma mater. A real product of charisma, heart and spirit inspired by our founder, Cornelia.

Aunty, you will be sorely missed Rest in Perfect Peace Amen.

Vicky Olu-Osifeso
President
On behalf of
HCCOGA UK Alumnae
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
From Mrs. Doris Fafunwa

Dear Femi and family, Oto Lijadu was a gift to the world. She was a friend to all and perhaps it is only now that we fully realize and appreciate her radical nature - radical in the in the sense of its simplicity and gentleness. Surely we are all blessed to have known her. With our prayers and blessings, Doris Fafunwa and family.
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
From Dr. Mrs Ade Odiakosa:

“She was a compassionate person who took part in looking after people in need such as çhallenged children neighbors and the less privileged May she continue to Rest In Peace.”
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
Grandma O, as we fondly called her, was a nurturer and encourager.
Her mellow and cultured voice was never far away.
She always took the pains to reach out to calm and soothe troubled nerves. In her educated and analytical approach to life , she always made light of the most seemingly difficult circumstances. Grandma O was gracious and cheerful. She was a carer, mother and mentor.
She ensured the nourishment of the minds and characters of all her children and grandchildren, biological or otherwise and always exuded love. She was a great lady and a discerning woman. A 30 minute conversation with her always left one refreshed and re-energised. She was full of grace and ageless in her zest for life and for the living.
She will be sorely missed by all of us.
Rest in perfect peace Grandma O!
Bayo and Amina OYagbola
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
My wonderful Auntie. As my Mother's Sister , I remember how you used to visit her on Sundays in Surulere. With a smile on your face all the time. You really played the role of a Sister when she passed on in2000. Your request to me was " Tola Shyllon visit me ". At your 80th birthday , looking so radiant as usual you repeated the same statement.  But it is too late to visit you now. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. You will be greatly missed.
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
Dear Grandma O...

I thank God for the gift of life spent in love , Joy peace and happiness he endowed you with while you were on earth with us the Alpha Family...
I join my voice with the heavenly host of the Archangels to pray that through the merit of the holy Mass celebrated throughout the whole world today and through the continuous intercession of our blessed Mother may God grant you eternal rest in his bosom till will all meet again...

Good night Grandma...

God be with you till we meet again...

Adieu Mama...

MIGHTY MICHAEL 
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
Dear Grandma O,
It is an honour to have known you. Thank you for adopting us as your grandchildren and for being such a loving and caring Grandma to us. You set a great example to all in your pursuit of God, always looking to deepen your knowledge and love of God till the end. Although you will be sorely missed, you have left us with an assignment, which is to persevere in living life to the full, in dedication to others and in faithfulness to God, just as you did. We wish you a peaceful rest Grandma O, until we meet again.
All our love
Chris and Temi Adeyemi
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
Dear Auntie Oto. Although we’ve known each other throughout my life, our families (Soluade - Martins) being very close, you and I were just beginning a closer friendship when it was time for you to go. I mourn what we could have had, but what I saw in you was a loving, giving, friendly, respectful, humble, adventurous, forgiving soul; and a social activist. May love and light be with you in your journey through eternity. Missing you already. Remi Coker Wilkinson
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
I have know Sisi Oto all my life. Her aunt, Mrs Yvonne Mensah(Sisi Ivy) was one of my mom’s best friends. We were always at the Martins family functions or visiting, though I just got to know her better in the last 10 years. She was a wonderful, smart, accomplished lady who lived life to the fullest.
A true mother, she loved and supported her family. She is often seen at many Alpha events with Aima. That was actually the last time I saw her- at the Alpha Christmas party.
Your dance steps will be missed at HCCOGA but we shall all take solace in the fact that God that you served faithfully does love you best and has taken you into his bosom.
My condolences to Femi, Aima, Brother Paddy, Kwesi, Kojo and the Lijadu and Martins families.
June 2, 2020
June 2, 2020
A Lovely and Heartfelt Tribute by Holy Child College Old Girls Association

“We announce with very heavy hearts the passing of a very dear old girl, Mrs. Mary Otolorin Lijadu (nee Martins). Aunty Oto/Sisi Oto passed on May 28, 2020 and was aged 88 years old.

Aunty Oto was a former President of the Holy Child College Old Girls Association, a position she held for a number of years. She was born on September 30, 1931 in Kano and lived there with her parents until the early 1940s, when they returned to Lagos. In 1945, having sat and passed the entrance exam, she was admitted as one of the Foundation students (Form I) of the then new Holy Child College in Obalende, Lagos.

In Holy Child College, she was taught by Rev. Mother Fidelis and Rev. Mother Mary Marcella. The Principal was the formidable Rev. Mother Mary Magdalene. She developed a love of music and literature in school and learned how to sing and act and played the role of Portia in Shakespeare’s “Merchant of Venice”. At the age of 88 she could still quote Anthony’s famous speech from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar, “Friends, Romans, Countrymen, lend me your ears,” she would begin.

In 1961, having finished her secondary school education, she stayed on as a Teacher in Holy Child. That is why to this day, many old girls still call her “Miss Mary”. For a while, she toyed with the idea of becoming a Nun! After teaching in Holy Child College for some years, Aunty Oto won a scholarship to Portsmouth Teacher Training College in South Sea, Portsmouth, England. She later obtained her academic Diploma in Education at London University. Subsequently she won a Commonwealth Scholarship to pursue her Post- Graduate Diploma in Educational Administration and Organisation from Reading University, where she was the only African and the only woman among 17 men!

On her return to Nigeria, she began teaching at Maryland Teacher Training College. She was also Education Officer at the Federal Ministry of Education; First Nigerian Education Officer at the British Council, Lagos. She was a devout catholic and served as Coordinator Catholic Women’s International Organisation (Nigeria). She was also a Trustee of MUSON from inception and was largely responsible for setting up the first MUSON School of Music competition.

Aunty Oto wrote numerous articles on education and nurturing young talent and had published two books: “Children’s Prayers” and “My Childhood Journeys”, describing her fascinating journeys by rail as a child across Nigeria. She had a deep appreciation for reading, writing poetry, drinking tea, travelling around the world and telling stories to little children

Once, reminiscing on her time in school, she said “I am so grateful to Holy Child College for the wonderful and nurturing environment it provided for us all to develop into accomplished and enlightened young women, useful to society and upholding the best of values: “My education in Holy Child made me realize who I am and helped me to fulfill my God-given potential.”

She was immensely proud of her devoted sons: Wole (deceased), Femi, Bunmi and Tayo.

May her soul rest in peace! May light perpetual shine on her. Please remember the family in your prayers”

‘Kemi Awodein
General Secretary
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
The last of the gentle Titan goes Home.
Aunty Oto was the quenticential calmer of her generation in the Martins Family. The gentle songstress whose soothing words would put a smile on frail temper. She was the real prayer warrior. She loved God, she loved her family, she loved the church and she lived well.
I have no doubt the Angels came to take her soul before our Risen Lord. We will miss her, but she will remain in our hearts, our Aunty Oto who have exchanged mortality for Immortality, in deference, of course, to Heaven's unquestionable and inevitable Mandate ... enjoy eternal Repose in Christ's Bosom. Requiescant in Pace per Christum Dominum nostrum. *AMEN* . 
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
May your gentle soul rest in perpetual rest of Christ Jesus. May God grant you safe passage to heavens and grant your family left behind the fortitude and grace to bear your loss, Amen .
E sun re O !!!!!!!!!!
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Dear Aunty,
May your kind, sweet and jovial soul rest in peace. I thought about you some days ago, wondering how you were and saying to myself that I really must find time to visit.
You were always so kind and warm to me to the point of being playful. I think looking on the bright side of life no matter what was probably what you liked to live by. You stamped this with your lovely smile any time I saw you.
Aunty may you find a much deserved rest and peace in the bosom of your Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.
Femi, Bunmi and Tayo, may God comfort you and give you the grace to bear your mum's passing unto glory.
May the wonderful memories of Aunty remain in your heart and soul till you see her again in eternity.

God bless,
Deola Asabia.
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Auntie Oto, don't actually know how discribe you, you are such a soft hearted mummy, soft in speech and loved bringing people together, we will miss so much. Esun re o mama. La famille de LIJADU, s'il vous plait acceptéz mes condélleances , on vous manguez mama beaucoup, mama dormez bien avec Dieu. Mama, au revoir.
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
She lived a long and joyful life. Rest in perfect peace, Aunty Oto. May perpetual light shine upon you. Amen.

Femi, Bunmi and Tayo, may God give you all the fortitude to bear your loss. Amen.
June 1, 2020
My darling Aunty Oto,
 You were my first teacher, one of my first go-to aunties when someone did me wrong. My famous line was "I will tell my Aunty Oto.... " :). You made such a positive impact on my life and early childhood, I smile Everytime I think of you. I thoroughly enjoyed attending Otolorin Playgroup. It was and still is a blessing in my life. I miss you so much but I take heart in knowing you lived a truly awesome life and you loved God. Rest in peace my darling Aunty, I will keep telling you my stories in my prayers because I am sure you got your Angel wings. I love you always. ❤️❤️

Foluke Arogundade (nee Oyemade)
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
1 Thessalonians 4:13-14
Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him.

Dear Femi,
I was shocked by the news of the passing to glory of your dearly beloved mother.

I am thankful to God for the legacy of love, kindness and strong character which mama left behind.

I know you will miss your dear mum.

Please take consolation in the fact that Mama lived a good life and you took good care of her while she was alive.

Also be rest assured that Mama is resting in the bosom of our dear savior.

-Folashade and Deji Alli
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Grandma O was a person we hold close in our hearts. She loved her grandchildren with abundance and loved our children Wangui and Nathan like her own. What a wonderful lady and an example to us all.
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
My loving aunty, we will miss your warmth, grace and encouragement. You were always available to counsel and encourage me and my siblings. Rest on in the bossom of the Lord...
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Dear mama,
May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace and may almighty God comfort we the family you left behind.
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
We give thanks to the Lord Almighty for the life you lived, the lives you touched and the valuable legacy you left behind. You will be sorely missed but we are consoled that you're resting by the bosom of the Lord. Rest in peace.
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Dear Femi,
I am so sad to hear of your mother's death.

She was such a lovely person - a truly beautiful soul - and so kind. I shall miss our regular phone chats and the occasional visit which I regret were too infrequent on my part.

I pray that her soul rests in peace, and that you and your family find some consolation in knowing how much she was loved by all.
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Aunty Oto so sad you left us so soon but God loesy you more and you will forever reamin in my heart love you Soo much
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Auntie. Auntie. Auntie. What a beautiful soul you were. Your life spoke volumes of the simplicity of humanity and how the love of God helped to build good relationships with friends and family. You were an epitome of goodness and your kindness and transparency was infectious sharing peace and love in your intentions. I will miss our conversations about life and
How we shared fellowship in prayer each time you were in England.
Auntie, you were truly loved of God and I know that he has graciously and lovingly welcomed you home. Words cannot describe the pain of not hearing your voice again but I know you are singing Hallelujah with other saints to God. May your beautiful, loving and caring soul forever rest in eternity with God.
To live in the hearts of those you love is not to die.......
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Aunty Oto/GrandmaO in later years was an amazing lady who loved the Lord , and this gives me great peace.. In all honesty, she was always smiling, and gave great hugs!
Aunty Oto, You were loved, and will be missed God be with you till we meet again
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
Aunty Oto was an amazing woman. She taught me French at my secondary school in Lagos Nigeria.
Aunty encouraged my family to send me to boarding school in the UK. I sat the exam at the British Council; where she worked. I was so grateful for the opportunity to attend a great British boarding school.
Aunty Oto treated me like a daughter. I accompanied her to many places, such as; the Art centres, music concerts and so on.
She remained a great friend and a big sister to my mother Mrs Marian Bahsali.
Aunty will be greatly missed!
May you rest in perfect peace Aunty Oto!. Repose en Paix.
Adieu!

(Muna, Dennis, Obi, Chuka and Emeka)
June 1, 2020
June 1, 2020
My dearest auntie Oto, you slipped away quietly and with no fuss as is your way! I was supposed to come and visit with you to spend some time together as I had promised when we spoke only a couple of weeks ago. The lockdown and everything going on had prevented me from coming. You would always say “no Kemi I understand. I just wanted to say hello and hear your voice.” Oh how I wish I had seen you one last time! You have gone to be with the Lord now, I am sure, escorted by the Holy Angels and led by Our blessed mother who you loved so much. I can go on and on. We shared lots of talks on the church and the way things were going and you gave me many insightful things to deliberate upon. A devoted Catholic, a loving mother and friend to all ages across the board. You were well-prepared to meet with your maker. Sleep well aunty. I will miss you. We love you! ❤️❤️❤️ Kemi Odunjo-Bero
May 31, 2020
May 31, 2020
Aunty Oto/Grandma O, you were larger than life; wonderful, caring and with that lovely twinkle that came into your eyes when you laughed - you knew an interesting story would follow, an anecdote with a life lesson. Kayode and I were treated like one of your own; Morayo was very much your “granddaughter” - right from her birth you have been there. I didn’t think this day would come so soon but sadly it has. I will remember your story telling, your love for the church and the things of God; your genuine and affectionate love of people and your patriotic love for Nigeria. Rest In Peace, beloved Grandma O. I am sure heaven is rejoicing to have one of its very rare gems back. We will miss you tremendously.
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Aunty Oto,
I remember she fondly, she was always so warm and welcoming. I remember visiting her home on numerous occasions to see my friend Tayo, and she was always really nice. GrandmaO & GrandmaB two peas in a pie, they sure made the perfect pair.
One thing I will always remember the most is the love Grandma O had for the Lord.. She loved the Lord..
Rest now till we meet again. Aunty Oto, we miss and love you always
Ada
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Remembering Dearest Auntie Oto, today her birthday......
Forever resting in God's perfect peace

July 29, 2023
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A RARE GEM IS GONE

Just seeing this! Losing a rare gem like Mama Mary Otolorin Lijadu is quite a sad development. This will definitely linger for a long while.

The last time I saw Mama was 2010 when she presented an autographed copy of her autobiographical account, 'A Childhood Journey' to me. Earlier before the publication of the book, she had contacted me to enlist my editorial intervention, which I offered with unrestrained enthusiasm. I was particularly bowled over with her consuming passion, at her age as of then, to document her thrilling thoughts.

Unfortunately, I lost her mobile contacts. Worse still, I couldn't figure out her Surulere-Lagos residential address again, as I visited her only once. What a great grandma! Every second with her was clearly an educative moment. She was an embodiment of knowledge. It was painful for me to have lost touch with her.

Just last week, I stumbled on her book in my shelf, and I decided to surf the net to know if there could be means of reaching out to her since there's no mobile contact of hers on the book. I was shocked to see her memorial page. Nigeria and Africa have lost a great and illustrious daughter.

I commiserate with the family: Papa Yemi Lijadu and the glorious children and grandchildren of Mama Lijadu. May God rest her beautiful soul and take good care of her surviving family members in Jesus name .

Kunle Balogun,
General Editor,
The Craft Writers Consult,
Ibadan, Nigeria.
Her Life

Mrs. Mary Otolorin Lijadu

May 31, 2020
Mrs Mary Otolorin Lijadu, nee Martins, was born in Kano on 30th September 1931. She attended the only Catholic primary school in Kano at the time. She spoke Hausa Fluently and lived in an environment where “Christians and Muslims lived peacefully among themselves”. In her words: ”we played together and ate together.” After her parents left Kano in the early 1940’s she continued her education at St. Mary’s Primary School, Broad Street, Lagos for a year and a half. News then came that a new secondary school for girls was to be established in Lagos and in 1945, she sat the entrance examination and was admitted as a Foundation student to Form I of the new Holy Child College in Obalende, Lagos. 
In Holy Child College the nuns who taught this first set of girls were exceptionally committed and great teachers. She fondly remembered nuns such as Reverend Mother Fidelis, Reverend Mother Mary Marcella. The Principal was the formidable Rev. Mother Mary Magdalene, according to Mary, the girls would tremble and shake whenever she approached. All the nuns were impressive characters but amongst them Reverend Mother Fidelis stood out as a multi- talented and intellectually curious teacher who went out of her way to develop the student’s talents, interests and love of life. Mrs. Oto Lijadu thus had her talents nurtured and nourished at Holy Child. She developed a love of music and literature. She learned how to sing and act and played the role of Portia in Shakespeare’s “Merchant of Venice”. At the age of 88 she could still quote Anthony’s famous speech from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar, “friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears,” she would begin.

At Holy Child her favourite subjects were History, Literature and Geography. Upon finishing her secondary education she stayed on as a teacher in Holy Child. This was in 1961. That is why to this day, many old girls still call her “Miss Mary”. She toyed, for a while, with the idea of becoming a nun so she visited some centres for novitiates (that is to say centres for training girls to become nuns), but this was not to be. After some years teaching in Holy Child, the nuns sent some names forward for consideration for a scholarship award to attend teacher-
training Colleges in England. Mrs. Lijadu won a scholarship and thus went to Portsmouth Teacher Training College in South Sea, Portsmouth, England. After two years training which she passed with Credit, she was awarded a Certificate in Education from Southampton University. She later obtained her academic Diploma in Education at London University. The raging controversy in education at the time was about comprehensive schools as the future of public education in Britain. Her thesis touched on some aspects of this burning issue of the time! 
Subsequently she won a Commonwealth Scholarship to pursue her Post- Graduate Diploma in Educational Administration and Organisation from Reading University. On that course, she was the only African and the only woman among 17 men! She received a commendation for her work. 
She returned home, to Lagos, Nigeria married Mr. Yemi Lijadu and started family life. She also began teaching at Maryland Teacher Training College. Her family grew and she had four sons of whom she is immensely proud and who apart from being devoted sons are also her very best friends, Wole, Femi, Bunmi and Tayo. For some years she lived and worked in Paris, France where her husband worked for UNESCO. 
A few of her notable positions included Education Officer, Federal Ministry of Education, First Nigerian Education Officer, British Council, Lagos, and Coordinator Catholic Women’s International Organisation (Nigeria). She was a trustee of MUSON from inception and was largely responsible for setting up the first MUSON schools music competition and, of course, President, Holy Child College, Old Girls Association for many years. 
Yet, arguably her favourite position was that of grandmother, She called her grandchildren her “guardian angels”. She has been known to declare that “children are grand but grandchildren are grander!” 
She has written numerous articles on education and about nurturing young talent and has published two books: “Children’s Prayers” and “My Childhood Journeys” which describes her fascinating journeys by rail as a child across Nigeria. She had a deep appreciation for reading, writing poetry, drinking tea, travelling around the world and telling stories to little children. On her time at Holy Child she said “I am so grateful to Holy Child for the wonderful and nurturing environment it provided for us all to develop into accomplished and enlightened young women, useful to society and upholding the best of values: “My education in Holy Child made me realise who I am and helped me to fulfil my God-given potential.
Mary Otolorin Lijadu passed away at 88 years old in Lagos, Nigeria. She will be in our hearts forever. 
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My first memory of Auntie Oto was when she came to Tremadoc, our home in London, as she and the family were en route to Paris. Tayo was a babe in arms and Bunmi a toddler.
Wole and Femi stayed with us for short school holidays and on their way to and from Paris during the longer holidays. Auntie would visit  and like so many have said, was always armed with snacks - Nigerian snacks 

Auntie Oto was key to my life in Lagos. She accompanied Mummy to see Kehinde and me off at the airport that day in August 1975 as we left the UK. Auntie Oto , Bunmi and Tayo flew out that evening. Our flight was delayed overnight and there was no one at the airport to pick us up. I went to the Nigeria Airways office because I knew my sister worked for Nigeria Airways at the time. I had a letter with Uncle Yinka’s address on it and the man at Nigeria Airways organised a taxi to take us to Victoria Island. Coming from England I had no idea how potentially dangerous this was.
Auntie Oto had arrived in Lagos early that morning and arrived with her car just as we were about to get in the taxi. She took us to Uncle Sobo’s house in Yaba first, then her driver took us to Uncle Yinka’s office. We were safe and as we settled in Nigeria it was always comforting to know that Auntie Oto, Bunmi and Tayo weren’t far away, especially when I missed my life in London and my parents.

 There is no way I can write this without acknowledging how instrumental  Auntie Oto  was in my Lagos education. I was to live in Ibadan with Auntie Joke and her family then one day  was brought back to Lagos. Why? Because Auntie had arranged entrance tests for Our Lady of Apostles and Holy Child. I got into both, and Auntie helped me to choose which one I would go to. I chose Holy Child because of the uniform, (particularly the cap).
My time at HC was one of my best life experiences and shaped the woman I have become. They say it takes a village to raise a child and Auntie Oto was a key part of my village. For that I owe her great thanks. 
Abientot, dear gentle Auntie. Rest in perfect peace. Much love Taiwo Dayo-Payne

Letter of Condolence from MUSON (Musical Society of Nigeria)

June 7, 2020
From l MUSON (Musical Society of Nigeria)

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