Mary Pamela Olesen
  • 62 years old
  • Date of birth: Feb 2, 1955
  • Date of passing: Sep 13, 2017
Let the memory of our beloved Pam be with us forever

Mary Pamela Olesen, lovingly known to her friends and family as Pam, was born Wednesday, February 2, 1955, and departed us on Wednesday, September 13, 2017.

She was the wife of Steven Olesen for 48 years of adventure and challenge. Together they built a family and parented four children (by blood): Steven Olesen, Jason Olesen, Bryan Olesen, and Kimberley Poole. A few of the children’s close friends would come to spend periods of time in the Olesen home and be considered a part of the family as well. All four children married making Pam mother of eight, and eventually grandmother to eight: Darien Contu, Alexander Olesen, Bryan Olesen, Julien Olesen, Alyssa Poole, Harrison Olesen, Christopher Poole, and Kayleigh Poole. She was a rock that created a foundational family environment full of good food, unconditional love, thoughtful care, and crazy fun.  

The family has asked that, in lieu of flowers, any remembrance be made by donation to the Susan G. Komen Foundation of Central and South Jersey at  If you elect to send a tribute card, please send to Steven Olesen, 410 Coolidge Avenue, Bayville, New Jersey 08721.  Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and prayers.

Please feel welcome to leave a note, tell a story, or share a picture on this site.  While you are here, please read Pam's granddaughter Darien's beautiful testament to her grandmother in the "Stories" section of this site.

We all love her so very much, she will truly be forever missed.
Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 10th January 2018

"Hi momma...  just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you.  i miss you so much!  I always have so much to tell you...  Happy New Year!     I miss your voice"

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 25th December 2017

"Merry Christmas, momma!   I love you and I miss you so very much!  My whole life has been filled with memories of you being the first person to wish me a Merry Christmas...Until today.  I'm not upset....I just miss you so much!  The boys had a nice time with their cousins, aunts, uncles and grandpa.  It's so hard you know...  I like to talk about you as if you're with us.  I guess it's because you never really left...we just see you in a different way.   Dad is doing an amazing job with keeping tradition.  He misses you so much.  I wish you  were here.    

love always,

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 23rd November 2017

"Happy Thanksgiving,  momma!   I love you with all my heart!"

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 15th November 2017

"Hey momma,

I miss you!  Just keeping you up on what been going on...  Halloween was fun, as usual; the boys had a great time dressing up as their favorite cartoon characters, Rick and Morty.  I was doing so good not eating ALL of their candy...until yesterday!! sugar crash at 930pm!  LOL   There will always be memories of dressing up, where you were KEY in making it the best day!  Julien is back into sports and his soccer team won the championship...I wish you could have seen how happy he was; and been sop proud like me!  Harry is STILL writing his Christmas list...cuz Kimmie has taken charge of all the kids' lists.  I'm always happy to talk to dad everyday; just checking in and making sure he's alright...we ALL are!  I'm afraid for the holidays and completely losing it, cuz you're not there...I'll miss your company, your love and ALL the delicious food you tirelessly prepare for us!  I miss you so much and think about you every day!  I am doing fine...leaning on Jenny a lot.  She really DOES carry out what you would expect from her; you would be proud.  Anyway...I wanted just fill you in,  I'll check in from time to time.,  I love you"

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 28th October 2017

"Hey momma!   I'm in Nashville for the weekend with Jenny.   Just had the most delicious grilled Mac n cheese sandwich I've ever tasted!!   Thinking about you always... especially since the Patsy Cline museum is in town; I'm sure you'd love it!   These southern folks tho....  Anyway, just wanted to share.   I love you every day!"

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 14th October 2017

"Hey momma...  just thinking of you.  Big Bill came thru and brought back so many memories of Jackson. Making stained glass in the kitchen....I was so lucky to have learned from you.  I often tell storied about the HUGE cucumbers we grew in the garden.  I miss you so much...I want to talk to you so bad!      In my heart...I talk to you every day!"

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 27th September 2017

"Hey momma... Just thinking of you.  We all had Chinese tonight and it was so nice to be with Daddy.  We love you and miss you so much...I need to talk to you.  I miss your voice...  I'm so sad."

This tribute was added by Gina Olesen on 22nd September 2017

"You will be in our hearts forever! We will take care of each other and rejoice in the memories we have of you! Rest In Peace Mom!"

This tribute was added by Walt Pendleton on 20th September 2017

"Words cannot express just how much Pam and the entire Olesen Family mean to me. The Olesen Family and my family were like one family! As neighbors in the duplex in Belmar, we shared so many good times. Cookouts on the front porch, Thanksgiving dinners, weddings, birthdays and yes, even Kimmie singing Kumbaya on the front porch! When I think of Pam, a smile immediately comes to my face! I will always treasure the many memories that our families shared! Pam, may you always Rest In Paradise!"

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 20th September 2017

"Hey momma..  I went to the dentist today!  You would have been proud of me!   LOL   To think of all the Dr visits you took me to...  I think of Dr MIckowski visits every time I hear the Go Go's on the radio.  I miss you so mcuh and just can't believe that you're gone.   I love you so much!"

This tribute was added by Kerri Lavin on 19th September 2017

"May you all find peace and hold her un your hearts. Xoxo"

This tribute was added by Aggy Moyer on 19th September 2017

"Pam was my cousin. Her mother Sandra was my fathers big sister. I was born in 1971 so I think Pam was 16 when I was born.  It took me 43 years to meet many of my cousins Pam included. Unfortunately We met at my Aunt Sandra's funeral. I lost my father at the age of 14. My parents were divorced and my mother didn't keep touch.  So Aunt  Sandra was very special to me. I searched for her and found her. In my 20s. There was/is something very special about both Pam and Sonya who particularly reminded me of there mom and all of family that even at this time of emense  grief I felt. That is love. All of the family was so welcoming and warm. I can not even begin to imagine the void that you must all be feeling. Pam instilled so much love into all of you that will always live on through you. I pray for all of you during this time. So sorry for your loss."

This tribute was added by Ashleec Capone on 19th September 2017

"I love all of you and this beautiful woman is living in each and every one of you every minute of every day. She will be terribly missed but she lived an amazing and truly fulfilling life and will continue to live through each one of you. ❤️"

This tribute was added by Tiffany deSousa on 19th September 2017

"My flower of choice for you is a Sunflower because it is unique amongst all the other flowers.  It must ensure harsh winds and rain that threaten to snap the stalk or lift the roots.  To survive against such harsh elements, a Sunflower, face always toward the sun, must be strong and resilient.  It's Golden blossom fills those around it with joy.  It has seeds that fall producing more Sunflowers.  These seeds from it's core also feed animals and people.  They give of themselves to anyone in need of what they offer: joy at their beauty, awe at their strength, amazement at their survival and fruits of their labor.   They bring smiles and comfort to onlookers.  Sunflowers stand out compared to other flowers, with their intense meaning and symbolism.  As do you.  Rest in Peace"

This tribute was added by Jason Olesen on 19th September 2017

"Thinking about you..."

This tribute was added by Elizabeth Schwartz on 18th September 2017

"To my Kim and her family. There are no words to ease the loss of a mom. And your mom was one special lady, I only knew her a short time, she was kind and real, and loved  all of you more than life itself.  All of you show all the qualities that were admired in your mother. Your strength your closeness, your laughter and your courage. I hope you can take comfort in that knowledge  and that she will always be remembered when anyone looks at any of your family. The loss is great  and no one will ever make sense of it.  . She will Always be with all of you in your hearts through your  memories and pictures. May she rest piece and guide each and every one of you.
Love you"

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This memorial is administered by:

Darien Olesen
Jason Olesen
Jennivere Kenlon
Kimberley Poole
Susan Olesen
Gina Olesen


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