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Dr. Michael D. Cole, 71, of Harrington Park, passed away on Wednesday, August 9, 2017 in Lyon, France. Beloved husband of Marion (nee Ihnat). Loving father of Michael R. Cole and wife Karin of Verona and John B. Cole of London and Harrington Park. Adored grandfather of twins, James and Sydney. Dearest brother of Jane and brother-in-law of Nancy Ihnat.

Michael was a US Army veteran of Vietnam. After leaving the Army, he became one of the youngest general managers at Con Edison. He went to become a senior executive at Citibank, Cahners, and Columbia University Teacher College Innovation.  In 2004, at almost 60 years old, he decided to reinvent himself completed his doctoral degree at Pace University and became a business school professor at New Jersey City University. His life is full of colors, adventures, challenges, and triumphs. 

Recently in Summer of 2015, he fought hard and won for the rights of the disabled New Jerseyans for the right to stay in their current care facilities, culminating in meeting Governor Chris Christie.  He cared deeply about this issue, and to continue his legacy, please consider making a contribution at Riverbrook (https://riverbrook.org/).

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Visitation: Friday, August 25, 2017 at 2-4 & 7-9 PM at Pizzi Funeral Home, 120 Paris Ave., Northvale, NJ (201-767-3050). www.pizzifuneralhome.com

Funeral Service: Saturday, August 26, 2017 at 10 AM at Our Lady of the Sacred Heart RC Church, Tappan, NY

Interment: Saturday, August 26, 2017, following the service at George Washington Memorial Park, 234 Paramus Rd, Paramus, NJ (201) 652-4300

July 19, 2023
July 19, 2023
Its really hard to believe 6 years have passed. I miss and always will remember our special friendship from third grade till your passing.
Rest in well deserved peace.
July 19, 2021
July 19, 2021
Happy birthday my dear friend. Rest in peace after your full and accomplished life.
August 9, 2020
August 9, 2020
Three years have passed and must say I think of you often and the wonderful memories and experiences we shared since childhood.
Your keen insights on life and ironic humor are sorely missed . Rest in peace dear friend.
August 9, 2020
August 9, 2020
Three years, Mike, since you left us behind. Still, your memory remains indelibly etched in our minds and hearts. Rest In Peace.....until we meet again. Friends in life, friends forever.
July 19, 2020
July 19, 2020
Happy birthday in heaven! I still think about you as so much things happening that I would love to get your advice and hear your thoughts. Our country is falling apart in many ways. Looking down, it's possible that you may not even recognize much of the world. Given the "pandemic (and Zoom) hell" that we are living in right now, it's quite safe to say that you are in a better place. Have a drink and give us a smile of encouragement once in a while. I need that nudge now more than ever before.
August 9, 2019
August 9, 2019
Two years passed and the world is even more upside down than when you left. Rest in peace. You lived a truly full life and touched so many with your wisdom and humor.
August 9, 2019
August 9, 2019
Cole Dr Cole ...

Missing you and your input on so many things. Your wisdom and voice of reason showed us the best path many times ... I guess we have to figure some things out on our own now ...

As you look down on the program we're trying to pull together, any sign from Heaven you'd be willing to send would be greatly appreciated

JL
August 9, 2019
August 9, 2019
Can it really be two years? It seems like yesterday that we were having breakfast at the Westwood Diner and you were imparting sound advice. Gone but not forgotten.
July 20, 2019
July 20, 2019
Happy birthday to my dear lifelong friend. We miss you and will always remember you.
Rest in peace.
July 19, 2019
July 19, 2019
Another year has gone by, and nothing really seemed to change. The world still turns, but appears to be more chaotic than before. I can only imagine what you would say about the current state of our country, higher education, the rapid pace of technology... Miss you my friend, and happy birthday!
July 19, 2019
July 19, 2019
Cole Dr. Cole ...
Miss you ... you'd likely be pleased to know that we are starting to put together a Doctorate in the School of Business. Of course the upshot of it all is that we would not be in a position to be able to do this without all you did to bring us to where we are. Our success will be a tribute to your guidance ... our endurance to your fraternity ...
JL
July 19, 2019
July 19, 2019
Happy Birthday, my friend. While you are gone from us on earth, you are not forgotten. All of your Bergen Catholic classmates miss and remember you today. We wish you were here to celebrate our collective 73rd birthdays. May you continue to Rest In Peace and look down upon us with your customary good will and sound advice.
Joe Branciforte, BC ‘64
March 6, 2019
March 6, 2019
Dr. Cole was my professor for an E-Commerce course at the New Jersey City University. He was a very dedicated teacher, and a sincere person. I think a lot about our one-on-one after class discussions, and how he always guided me like a father.
I then worked with him for several years as an IT professional at NJCU. From a staff's perspective, I always found him to be an appreciative person, and a very professional teacher. He still showed me the same kindness, and also encouraged me to not stop my academic progress.
He was a great loss to the NJCU community, and will always be remembered by his students, friends, and coworkers as a selfless human being.
October 26, 2018
October 26, 2018
"Cole ... Dr ... Cole" it's been a while and I still think of you frequently. I bring you up in my classes, and miss that we never got that last visit to the diner in Nyack. I miss our ability to spar a bit, and your prevailing wisdom that always came through to show so many of us the way. Prayers brother ...Phu Bai seems like an eternity ago ...
JL
August 12, 2018
August 12, 2018
Mike, I still think of you all the time. I visited you last week, and your place looks nicely maintained. I was going to leave an interesting book there, but then I read a sign warning that I could not leave anything other than a flower boutique. Oh well, I figured that you must be too busy to read anyway. You were always so busy... Rest in peace in that better place.
August 9, 2018
August 9, 2018
Fond rememberances of Mike on this one-year anniversary of his entry into heaven. Missing his friendship and gentle wisdom while praying for the family and friends that he left behind. We will arrange another “Class Reunion” when we join him in his eternal reward. Rest in piece, Mike.
Joe Branciforte and the Bergen Catholic Class of 1964.
July 19, 2018
July 19, 2018
Missing my good friend and remembering him and our long friendship on his birthday.
May he rest in peace.
November 20, 2017
November 20, 2017
This is a very late post but I was searching for his address to mail condolences. Unfortunately, NJCU did not provide us with a forwarding address. Dr. Cole was a wonderful man, a superior teacher, and dear a mentor to me. I am forever grateful for his kindness. He saw potential in me when I didn't see it in myself. He will forever be remembered as one of my favorite professors and one of the finest men I have ever met. God bless, Dr. Cole. Rest in peace.
August 26, 2017
August 26, 2017
Mike was one of the first students I connected with while enrolled at the PACE Doctoral Program. Just a few short weeks into the program, I felt like I was in over my head, and didn't belong. Mike shared my frustrations with the program, and we soon learned that just about everybody other student was feeling the same way. Mike always provided a comforting voice, gentle reassurance, and support and guidance to anyone that needed it. He gladly took on the leadership role of making sure our cohort got together regularly for our annual lunches at the Beekman restaurant near Pace. The news of his passing was shocking, and terribly sad. Although Mike and I didn't get together often, I considered him a friend, and someone I could count on for heartfelt, sensible counsel. He will be missed.
August 25, 2017
August 25, 2017
As others have said, Mike was a true gentleman, authentic, caring, full of curiosity and with a sense of humor that made him even more likeable. I always looked forward to seeing him and finding out what adventures he had to share. He was wonderful in the sense that he was always full of wonder. He had so much to give, and I'm glad to be one of those who received his gifts, with immense gratitude. Boy, will he be missed...
August 25, 2017
August 25, 2017
Although I haven't seen Mike since 1964, I remember him as being one of the most decent guys I've known. I'm proud to have had him as my friend. I'm glad to see that he went on to have such a successful life, both personally and professionally.
August 24, 2017
August 24, 2017
As several individuals have already mentioned, Mike was a real gentleman. He had a wealth of business and life experiences that he was always willing to share with others. Mike was a natural educator on a lifetime journey of learning. Our Pace DPS cohort was better due to his involvement. I am happy for the good times we shared and will remember him always.
August 24, 2017
August 24, 2017
My friendship with Mike goes back over 50 years to the first week of class at St. Peter's College in 1964. Even then I remember him as a young man with a big heart, an expansive and curious mind and a serious handshake.
Mike was a big man in the best and most liberal sense of the word. He was a strong man but never a "tough guy". He was confident and self assured but never arrogant. He was proud but without conceit and he was smart and well informed without being condescending. He was also damn funny--sometimes outrageously so and could make both his Marion and my Marion laugh at will.
Mike had that rare quality we find in a few special people--to be able to make those he touched feel better, stronger, more confident. He could make you feel affirmed with a sincere expression of interest, a wry smile, an unexpected act of kindness or an arm around your shoulder.
As strong men do, Mike counted his blessings and accepted his trials. He had immense love and devotion to his family - the foundation and ultimate expression of the good life he lived. As for trials--they were to be challenged, overcome, moved past--keep on driving.
I readily acknowledge that I loved the man and I will miss him terribly--but I'll try to be, like Mike, a counter of blessings and be forever grateful to have had this extraordinary man as a friend.

Sail on Mike--see you on the other side
August 24, 2017
August 24, 2017
Gone to soon Mike...what are we ever going to do without you? I'm so sad. Sad for Marty, he's lost his best friend. Sad for all the plans we tried to make that we will never get to do. A trip to Ireland is first and foremost on my mind as we struggle with your loss. You, Marty, Marion and I certainly would have left our footprints all over the Emerald Isle. The good, the bad, but never the ugly, it would have been a wonderful trip. All of our times together were great. Lot's of laughter always. I'll miss that most. Laughing with you and Marion.

Mike, May the road rise up to meet you
     May the wind be always at your back
     May soft rains fall upon your face and
     Until we meet again, May God hold you
     In the palm of his hands.
August 24, 2017
August 24, 2017
Mike was a good friend in high school and when we reconnected as BC alums. He was kind, sharing of his insights and above all a good friend. He will be always remembered.
August 23, 2017
August 23, 2017
I am saddened to learn of Mike's sudden passing. Mike and I first became friends at Bergen Catholic High School in 1960. Over the years, we maintained a long-distance friendship, as we worked on our BC reunions together. More recently, Mike gave me good counsel as I approached and planned for my retirement. He was a wonderful and perceptive listener and always offered me sage advice in addition to friendship, concern, and caring. May the entire Cole family be somewhat comforted in knowing that Mike is at peace. And, may the family some day in the future come to a place of peace, too, as they are comforted by their many, many friends. Rest in eternal peace, Mike. Thanks for being an example of a life well-lived.
August 22, 2017
August 22, 2017
Mike left us much too early. He was the embodiment of what I consider the highest human goal possible: he was a good man. He never sought revenge or acted out of hate. He gave everything he had to helping people and just causes succeed. And he never whined or complained--although he often had reason to. I will always remember his unfailing energy and dedication to people who needed his help. He is a model of leadership. I often think of him and what he would do. What more can another person bring to your life? He made a big difference.
August 22, 2017
August 22, 2017
Mike was the most caring, kind and wonderful person. He always took the time to ask how things were going, always offering support, encouragement and inspiration. He always worked so hard, and had a great attitude no matter what. I will miss his beautiful soul.
August 22, 2017
August 22, 2017
Mike was the one true business mentor I had over my career. I had the pleasure of working for Mike twice - both at Dun and Bradstreet and Cahners. Mike had an incredible marketing mind and was always breaking new product barriers. One of my favorite memories was spending time with him in Evian France in which we tackled the game of La Boule! I will miss him greatly miss him.
August 22, 2017
August 22, 2017
One is very lucky to have a handful of true friends in life, and Michael was one of those for me. We attended the same grammar school, the same high school, the same college, and experienced the ups and downs of all those bitter-sweet young-adult development years together. We both served as officers in the military. We both had the good fortune to marry loving and patient partners who were also incredibly dedicated mothers. Not surprisingly, our children grew up to have those strong values we inherited and believed in strongly.
We both worked in corporate America and through the many years since we always stayed close, getting together as often as our schedules permitted. Often just the two of us just got together to share a meal and discuss how to best approach those common issues we all had: relationships, career and work/life balancing, and, of course, parenting
If I were asked to share what I felt were his his best qualities, first among many would definitely be his integrity, followed by dedication to family and his strong determination and grit to see the projects he was passionate about through to the end. He spoke to me often of his teaching experiences, and it seemed nothing gave him more satisfaction than to help unsure students to develop confidence in their abilities and to guide them in finding the best path to their career goals. Dr. Michael often told me that he considered that part of the work experience to be the most satisfying for him..
Let's also never forget his incredible sense humor, which always seemed to pierce through even the darkest of situations to make you smile.
I will miss him dearly and remember him always.
May he rest in peace.
August 22, 2017
August 22, 2017
There is a saying that some people come into your life for only a season and some people come into your life for a reason. With Mike, I’m fortunate enough to say it was the latter. Our paths first crossed at Pace University where we were both part of an amazing cohort of friends. Mike was a true mentor and was instrumental in getting me through my dissertation as well as giving me my first break teaching at NJCU. Above all, Mike was a role model, he was a true renaissance man and a great example of a life well-lived. He had a very successful career and then chose to give back by helping students navigate courses and career paths during his second act. He was the mayor of our Pace cohort, always rallying the group and coordinating reunion lunches. He loved jazz, travel and great food and above all his wife, sons and grandchildren. I will miss his laugh and he will be always be remembered in our hearts.
August 21, 2017
August 21, 2017
Mike was a true gentleman who will be missed. I am proud to be part of the same doctoral cohort as Mike. He was a leader among us and a man of character.
August 21, 2017
August 21, 2017
Mike and I were the 'senior' members of the Pace Doctoral program, both of us a little crazier than the rest for attempting the program. He was the scout master of the group and provided the leadership in our 'reunions'. I have known a lot of people, and Mike was at the top of the list for his humanity and character that was evident to everyone. We had numerous conversations about the challenges of finishing our doctorates, our adult children (of whom he was immensely proud), and just trying to balance it all. He and I shared an enthusiasm for the challenge, and fun, of it all. I miss my friend.
August 21, 2017
August 21, 2017
My deepest condolences.....As one of my doctoral cohorts Mike was always so incredibly optimistic about our work, academic rigor and life in general. Always an inspiration to me. He will certainly be missed!
August 21, 2017
August 21, 2017
My condolences to Mike's family and friends. We were very lucky to have him as part of our cohort at Pace U. He always provided great perspective to consider and was willing to listen and engage everyone. That kindness that he showed us was something very important to so many us making our way through the Pace doctoral journey. It was an honor.
August 21, 2017
August 21, 2017
I had the distinct pleasure of working with and getting to know Professor Cole over the past year. As a new staff member, he made me feel welcomed and empowered to be a part of something truly special. Full of life and new ideas, Professor Cole was dedicated to improving the lives of our students. He is one of the most sincere and caring individuals that I have encountered. Professor Cole's commitment to the students and School of Business was exceptional and his lessons will live with me and all whom he touched for generations to come!

In addition to his devotion to the students, Professor Cole was always so proud to talk about those he loved most; his wife, children, and grandchildren. My prayers and warm thoughts go out to you at this difficult time.
August 19, 2017
August 19, 2017
Mike is the bedrock of our doctoral cohort, the chief organizer of our yearly get together at the Beekmans, and the "wise man" our group. He's always listening, always helpful, always ready with his advice, and most importantly always there. It has been an honor being Mike's friend and I will always remember him.
August 19, 2017
August 19, 2017
"Mike was a mentor, a colleague and a very special friend. We worked together at RH Donnelley, Cahners Publishing (Reed Business Information), and at New Jersey City University. He was a highly decorated officer in Vietnam; a very successful business executive; and an inspirational professor. He was an innovator that always tried to make things better for his co-workers and for his students. He was a dedicated husband, father and grandfather. I am proud to have known Mike and to call him my friend. He will be missed."

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July 19, 2023
July 19, 2023
Its really hard to believe 6 years have passed. I miss and always will remember our special friendship from third grade till your passing.
Rest in well deserved peace.
July 19, 2021
July 19, 2021
Happy birthday my dear friend. Rest in peace after your full and accomplished life.
August 9, 2020
August 9, 2020
Three years have passed and must say I think of you often and the wonderful memories and experiences we shared since childhood.
Your keen insights on life and ironic humor are sorely missed . Rest in peace dear friend.
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A good man

August 22, 2017
by Te Wu

Mike came from the "School of Hard Knocks." While he did not discuss his previous experience much, you can tell from his stories. For most other people, these challenging experiences transform them to be harder and edgier.  In Mike's case, he became more determined but also gentler and wiser. He became a force for the better: improving business operations, driving innovation, or his final work on making the higher education more accountable to the students, not some system.

I have the honor of knowing Mike in the final 15 years of his life, and during this period, I witness the transformation of Mike from a hard-nosed business executive to a talented teacher and academic.  In some ways, I took the same journey, lagging behind him by a few years.  And in my journal, Mike was my best mentor and a dear friend.

When we first met back in 2002, he just entered the education industry wanting to improve higher education. He worked tirelessly to transform the curriculum, the teaching delivery platform, and how teachers interaction with students. He spent endless hours visiting some of the most depressed neighborhoods around New York to learn what works and what did not.  When he decided to pursue his doctoral at Pace in around 2004, he threw himself in it completely. As Noel mentioned, he became the "mayor" of our cohort and drove our group together. Shortly after he finished, he started his 4th? or 5th? career as a professor at NJCU where he became the Marketing Chairperson. In his new role as a professor, he worked with companies in the NYC area and introduced his students to them - often pushing the NJCU students to find jobs and achieve higher goals. He became the champion of all those who needed his help. Like the story in Vietnam that Dan mentioned, which was so much like Mike, no one asked. He just performed.

I miss him so much: miss our regular gathering at the Park Ridge Diner; miss his emails of encouragement pushing me to finish my doctoral; miss his smile always so full of life and knowing; miss the sound of his voice telling me the latest inequities in life or sharing his latest ideas; miss his stories - how he loves his family, how his son John won another swim competition, how he was so proud of his son Mike and the two wonderful grand kids...  The world just lost a really good man, but his goodness will be remembered by those he touched. He will be missed by many.

How He Won The Bronze Star In Viet Nam

August 22, 2017

Many people are surprised to learn Mike was awarded the Bronze Star for bravery in action in Viet Nam. He never talked about it much. It was so typical of Mike's devotion to good and right causes, of which there were many people did not know about. I learned about this story in a casual conversation. Being a second lieutenant in the U.S. Army is a lot responsibility without much glory. I know from my own two years in the U.S. Army. Mike tells this story as though it were a casual decision to run a necessary shopping errant. He learned that a group were isolated in battle area about to be overrun by the Viet Cong but all communications were down. Mike said, somebody had to go out there and get those guys out of there. No one ordered him to do it. He just did it. He came close to not returning with those men out of harm's way--but he managed it. That was Mike. Something that was right had to be done--so he just did it. There are many other stories that parallel this kind of bravery and selfless action. This is who Mike was. A big guy with a big heart--and a very big brain. I so miss him.
Dan Spink 

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