April 19, 2021
April 19, 2021
I knew Nancy, like many did, as Tutu. She was a special person in my life. She was always incredibly kind to me. She had a soothing word and sage advice whenever needed. Conversations with her were lively and informative when I was 5 and when I was 35.
Tutu had a rare intellect that was improbably matched with one of gentlest souls I ever encountered. I never entered or exited without a hug. She was a constant presence over time in my life. No matter how or what I was doing I always felt comforted and seen.
My grandmother Eleanor called her Nancy and that is how I learned Tutu is an honorific and not her proper name. She was a companion to my grandmother in a way I don’t think she had ever had. She was a support and confidant to a woman transplanted from her Florida home to Benicia. She made my grandmother feel welcome and alive. I always felt grateful to her for giving my grandmother something she sorely needed and had rarely experienced.
As I grew taller I went from hugging her thighs to bending down to feel her tiny arms attempting to wrap around my frame. She never batted an eye to my terrible language, she always had an air that she had seen and done it all and still saw me as the young boy she had known long ago.
I know she was a lot to a lot of people, but I feel her loss deeply. When all my grandparents had passed she assured me I still had one left. I am forever grateful.
Tutu had a rare intellect that was improbably matched with one of gentlest souls I ever encountered. I never entered or exited without a hug. She was a constant presence over time in my life. No matter how or what I was doing I always felt comforted and seen.
My grandmother Eleanor called her Nancy and that is how I learned Tutu is an honorific and not her proper name. She was a companion to my grandmother in a way I don’t think she had ever had. She was a support and confidant to a woman transplanted from her Florida home to Benicia. She made my grandmother feel welcome and alive. I always felt grateful to her for giving my grandmother something she sorely needed and had rarely experienced.
As I grew taller I went from hugging her thighs to bending down to feel her tiny arms attempting to wrap around my frame. She never batted an eye to my terrible language, she always had an air that she had seen and done it all and still saw me as the young boy she had known long ago.
I know she was a lot to a lot of people, but I feel her loss deeply. When all my grandparents had passed she assured me I still had one left. I am forever grateful.