'Adenike mi o, e ni ko ko ko, e ni ko ko ko o, e ni ko ko ko'
I can still hear Mama's voice so clearly as we'd sing and clap to the rhyme she coined for me so long ago. I remember so vividly how her whole face would light up, as did mine. It was no surprise to me when I was finally let in on how the rhyme originated.
As the story goes, as a baby I had an extremely bad period of colics where my 'cries' were inconsolable to say the least. Nothing just seemed to work! Mama, however seemed to have the secret antidote. After hours and hours of crying without end, Mama would cradle me in her arms, rocking me to and fro as she sang the rhyme over and over again, almost instantly I would quiet down, I was told that it was nothing short of a miracle. In fact, it was coined 'Mama's Miracle effect'. Even during times when Mama wasn't around, they would try to recreate the effect, cradling me the exact same way, singing that exact same rhyme, in the exact same way , even to the extent of singing it in the exact same pitch, but it just would not work. It wasn't long before they realised how futile it was, because they now knew it wasn't about the cradle, the song or even the pitch, it was just the Mama effect. One would think that with time and as I grew older, I'd grow out of it, it rather is the contrary, I've grown into it. That little rhyme has become a special song between Mama and I, so much so that I can recall humming it as I walked into several exam rooms while in university. The same calming effect it had back then, is still very evident today. Till the very end Mama never forgot the song and I'll never forget the joy and peace I'd feel each time we'd sing it.
That who Mama was and is to me, an endless embodiment of Love & Joy.
One of my fondest memories of Mama, has to be the gifts she ALWAYS had specially packaged under the Christmas tree for each and every grandchild. I always looked forward to my special package full of apples, biscuits and sweets. I'm in awe of how caring and thoughtful she always was. At family gatherings, while others were busy enjoying the food or vibrant conversations, I remember Grandma's attention always being fixated on us grand-kids, it wouldn't be long before she asked if 'we were okay?', 'did we want more food, more drinks?', 'were we comfortable?', 'were we entertained?'. Her caring and nurturing nature is truly unparalleled.
Mama, thank-you for all the years of unconditional love you showed us all.
Your acts of love and kindness will never be forgotten.
I love you.
--- 'Denike