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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Pat Shanks, 66, born on April 19, 1946 and passed away on June 2, 2012. We will remember her forever.

A public Memorial Life Celebration will be held at the Lion's Shelter at Lake Arrowhead in Luray, Virginia on July 1, 2012 from 2p-4pm.  All friends, family and community are welcome to attend to celebrate her generous spirit, love of nature and pride in family and community. 

Private family service to be held at 10am on Sunday, July 1st.

June 6, 2012
June 6, 2012
I would just like to say that I have loved Pat every since I was a little girl. She was a great woman and was so giving. She helped my mom and my family in so many ways and I will never forget the kind of friend she was to my mom. To her family if you need anything I am here for you.
June 6, 2012
June 6, 2012
Sending lots of love and celebrating her life and honoring her words of wisdom about kindness, hard work and loving family and friends.
June 6, 2012
June 6, 2012
We became family and friends via the marriage of our daughter, Sarah, and Geoff about a year ago. Pat was poised, charming, and one of the most giving of humans. It was fun, but humbling, to be around her. Her departure from this world leaves a big hole for many of us. Let us fill the hole with great memories and honor her through following the great life-lessons she taught.
June 5, 2012
June 5, 2012
In memory of our mother, whose loss we cannot even comprehend at this time, we dedicate this webpage to the celebration of a lifetime of sage wisdom, quiet perseverence, passionate advocacy and unconditional love. It is truly amazing how many lives you have touched and how many spirits you have nurtured - you have taught us to "Be kind, Work hard, and Love well."
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June 2, 2023
June 2, 2023
After 20 years the hurt is gone, only good memories remain. You would be proud of your children. Jennie is like you (that’s good) and like me (maybe not so good, but she’s fiercely protective of those without a voice, the marginalized, ignored, discriminated against). Geoff has remarried a beautiful woman from Uganda where they reside; they will be here on Monday. Cindy has moved into a delightful Matheny group home and she is happier than we have seen her since you left us. Jenn and I visited her last week. Sarah and Matt also have new group homes and they are content and well cared for. Jenn does the heavy lifting now and wrestles with the bureaucracy and the professional coordination (which is more challenging than the bureaucracy). Mike is still in Staunton. You are missed every day, especially by your grandchildren and the great-grandchildren you’ve not met. We will all see you in the bye-and-bye.
April 20, 2020
April 20, 2020
Life has a funny way of flying by - it been 8 years since we last celebrated birthdays. Spring is here and everywhere I look, I see the colors that delighted you - those pinks and greens that hurt your eyes they’re so vibrant. I dreamt of you the other night - I had run out of straight pins while sewing face masks (which I am doing even in my sleep now) and was ransacking drawers throughout your house. You calmly told me to stop and slow down - and just reuse the ones I already had - because that was how you rolled. Practical, easy going, situation under control always. We need a lot more of that right now! I miss you. Happy birthday.
Recent stories

They call her Grannie Tough

June 30, 2012

During the summer of 2009, Jack spent the summer as a solo grandchild at Camp Grannie while Emma travelled cross country with her dad.  Their days were spent doing fantastically fun things like hiking, biking, zoo trips, feeding the ducks and doing crafts.  On afternoon, after returning to Big Meadows for a well deserved treat after a big hike that included spottings of both deer and a bear, Jack proclaimed he had never met a Grannie as Tough as his - and the new nickname "Grannie Tough" was born.  Since that time, both Emma and Jack, as well as several of their friends have returned to Camp Grannie during the summer to experience the thrills (sometimes unintentional) of fun in the great outdoors.  Popular with the young, the old and everyone in between, Jordan Berger (Camp Grannie, 2011) declared "Grannie Tough got game!"  High praise from teenagers no doubt!

If it's Monday....it must be Storybook Trail

June 11, 2012

Every Monday, Mom and Sarah have a date.  If it's a beautiful day, warm or cool, it involves a walk on either Storybook Trail or the Greenway in Luray.  As added incentive, some ice cream at Flotzi's or McDonalds round things out nicely.  Sometimes in the summer the kids would join this weekly outing.  Sometimes in the Fall, Katy would as well.  Keeping up with the nonstop chatter, Mom will push and Sarah will narrate and at the end is always the reward of a beautiful vista, overlooking Page County in all its scenic glory.

Camp Grannie

June 11, 2012

After my children were born, I made a firm vow that my kids would "know" their grandparents - not just for vacations or holidays but lazy days, boring days, sunny days and rainy days. At first it was difficult, living in Los Angeles, making the trek to Luray meant making it worthwhile so we'd come for a month in the summer.  After moving to Virginia in 2002, we lived with mom for a year while I house hunted and started my nursing career.  The kids had round the clock Grannie time. And when we moved to McGaheysville, the kids still got to see her pretty regularly.  Camp Grannie started when their summer playground groups went on holiday or ended (not sure why it always ended 3 weeks before school started but it did).  Working with no frills, low budget and focused on good old fashioned outdoor activities and crafts, Camp Grannie was a huge success.  In fact, Emma and Jack had friends who would beg to join them!  I think it is extraordinary that they got the opportunity to make so many lasting memories over the past decade with mom in a way that I never really had with my own grandparents.  For them, forever, she will be "Grannie Tough".

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