REMINISCENCES
Although you had prepared my mind for the possibility of your demise, when the news came
moments after you breathed your last, it was, nonetheless, a rude shock to me. In November 2020 you had, in one of our almost daily conversations, expressed strong doubts that you would ‘make it’ and proceeded to issue a directive that whenever “it” happened “Seun, you MUST take charge. That is my wish and you must please do me that favour”. You mentioned the names of three persons that were very dear to you whom you said you had told to call me in the eventuality of your passing and to also collaborate with and make sure I took charge as you had wished. Naturally I dismissed that unsettling wish and changed the subject of that unwholesome and sad conversation.
My hopes that you would overcome were rekindled on Tuesday, December 8, 2020 when you confided in me during a visit that you were fervently praying for year 2020 to come to an end because you were sure that if only you could make it into 2021 you would have overcome and shall survive your ailment. Thus, when the New Year rolled in on January 1st 2021 I called to rejoice with you and bolster your confidence that God had answered your prayers and that the worst was over. Alas, I was wrong !!!
Adun - as I fondly addressed Princess Adunola Onafowokan - and I first met in 1977 when elders of the Onafowokan family arranged for their children to know one another and forge friendships that will further strengthen unity in the larger Onafowokan family. And after that first meeting - an initiative that eventually led to the founding of the Onafowokan Descendants Union - both of us became very close and almost inseparable. You were charming, strong – willed, caring, contented, full of compassion and simple in your own way.
Although Adun was 13 months older than I, she practically took me as a senior, rather than the junior brother that I was. I was her confidant and favorite cousin. There was practically nothing under the sun that Adun could not share with me and I was her sounding board whenever she wanted to take crucial decisions. So, it was no surprise that she asked that I “take charge” if she passed away.
I feel saddened that in spite of the resolute courage with which she confronted her medical challenge and her enduring optimism that “it shall all end in praises to the Lord” my beloved Adun eventually lost the battle. She was a testament to strong will, uncommon determination and resounding strength in the face of a grueling health challenge. I take consolation in the knowledge that Adun got the very best of medical attention and emotional support all through the period of her ailment. She never lacked the financial resources to settle her medical bills and she received unwavering emotional succour from those she held dear to her heart. In fact, but for the medical advice that she should not be flown abroad because the whole world was, and still is, in the grip of the COVID-19 pandemic, which has continued to overwhelm healthcare and emergency services even in countries with the most advanced medical facilities, Adun would most surely have received added care overseas. Such was the degree of care and concern from her family, friends and associates.
As it is written in the scriptures, for everything we must give thanks to God. I thank God that Adun’s wish to be laid to rest in a cemetery where in the not – too – distant future Tayo and his children could be encouraged to visit and lay flowers on her grave would be achieved. Indeed, the trying period brought to fore the man and loving son in Tayo. Not only did he rise to the occasion of nursing his ailing mother so admirably, he played invaluable and significant roles in ensuring that she got a befitting burial. Adun, after your sad exit and even in his pain and anguish as he mourned your passage, Tayo rose to the challenge and has done you proud indeed. So too have been your friends, particularly your ‘older sisters’ who, even before your passing, literally performed wonders making sure you got the best medical attention and emotional succour. They also collaborated willingly with like minds to make sure you went home in a blaze of glory. You will also never regret being an Onafowokan for the family, including its Patriach, Prince Adedapo Onafowokan, were fully there for you to make this day glorious. Same with the Ajibolas.
Adun, your ‘darling cousin’, as you fondly called me, bids you goodnight. It is an understatement to say I shall miss you. I will remember all those things we discussed, even on your sick bed, and strive to do as you had wished.
Goodbye my beloved cousin and sister of a different mother.
Seun Sonoiki (Cousin)