- 20 years old
- Date of birth: Feb 21, 1986
- Date of passing: Apr 17, 2006
|Your memory is our keepsake with which we'll never part. God has you in his keeping - we have you in our heart.|
This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Richard Schabel, 20, born on February 21, 1986 and passed away on April 17, 2006. We will remember him forever. I will share some stories from happier times as well as my thoughts after his death and impact statements to the court under the His Life tab.
Please sign in by creating your own password, or through Facebook and light a candle, leave a note, poem or even list a favorite song of comfort. Thanks for visiting.
We lost our youngest son due to the irresponsible behavior of an underaged drunk driver. This website was created with the hope that if someone sees this, they will think twice before drinking and driving, or driving in any irresponsible manner. This was no accident, as the driver of the vehicle that crossed the center line traveling nearly 100 mph, had been drinking since the morning hours. This was a crime and the offender is serving time. Richard had just left work and was going to visit a friend. It was a sunny spring day at about 4:30 pm, on a Monday. He had injuries from head to toe, but lived one week, before being declared brain dead.
WARNING: You may see some graphic pics from the crash scene of the vehicles involved on this memorial page.
"I am so sorry Cindy. I knew nothing about this until just seeing your post on facebook. I am praying for you and your family and all of your son's friends."
"I don't remember if I yet failed to make an entry on your birthday since I started this site. Your birthday was 3 days ago now. It was a hard day, of coarse. I worked all day and had other commitments after. You are and always will be on my mind. I miss you so, so much. Your niece and nephew are getting so grown up. Rylie is amazing as always and Jaxon is developing amazing skills everyday!! You would love them, I know it! Jaxon actually has some of your characteristics.
We have this punishment of missing you everyday of our lives and the one who killed you was paroled and will be released soon. She can go on with her life. I pray she doesn't drop back into her old lifestyle and hurt other innocent people. This isn't a surprise really. She served 10 of her 10-15 year sentence.
This year your dad bought some mint chocolate chip ice cream in your honor and we did have some on your birthday. We know you liked that ice cream.
Love you forever, Mom"
"This is the 11th Christmas without you. It's still not easy. We miss you everyday. Life goes on and we have happy moments but the heartache of losing you will always be there. I'm blessed to have the memories but even those fade as years go by. I wish we had the technology when you were small like we do now. Maybe I'd have more recorded. Love you forever and always"
"We said goodbye to you forever on our 28th wedding anniversary. Today is our 38th wedding anniversary. I can't believe it's been 10 years. So many things have changed, and some have not. I still drive the same vehicle and I remember when you would ride with me you'd put the passenger seat back with a mean lean. The next day when Vicki and I would go to lunch she would comment that she knew you rode with me recently. Just a memory that I thought of while writing this.
We all miss and love you today and everyday."
"I could've posted this before but it could really be posted everyday.
A Day, A Week, A Lifetime
When I wake up in the morning
I ask myself
How will I get through this day
As I dress and prepare to start my day
How will I go on
As the day slowly slips away
I remember how you made me laugh
And I smile
At the end of the day
As I prepare to close my eyes
I know in my HEART
I couldn't have gotten through the day
"Today you would've turned 30 years old. Hard to believe you've been gone almost 10 years. You're always on our mind and in our hearts. Love you forever. Mom."
"Merry Christmas in Heaven son. We still miss you everyday and that's not going to change. Times have changed and I wish you were here to enjoy your niece and nephew as they grow up. We will be visiting them a little later. Rylie is as cute and amazing as ever. Jaxon is at a fun age and learning all the time. He reminds me a bit of you is some ways. There's no snow this Christmas and makes it feel even less like Christmas. Love you forever! ~Mom"
"He will always be your baby boy. Now he is in God's hands!"
"Cindy, my lifelong friend, a friend so long I can't remember a time NOT knowing you, my friend who has endured so much pain with the loss of Richard. Cindy, your GRACE and FAITH never ceases to amaze me. Today, on the 9th Anniversary of Richard's passing, I hope you know you are loved. Your lives changed forever that sad day. I am grateful for our friendship and blessed beyond belief to call you my friend. I love you."
"Another year has come and gone marking the anniversary of your death. Nine years hasn't made it better because you are missed so very much. The years have made it "different" since you're not here. We learn to live with that and be thankful for the blessings in our lives. Speaking of blessings...Your niece, Rylie, and nephew, Jaxon, just celebrated their birthdays at the end of March. Rylie turned 5 already and Jax is 1 now. They are amazing! I often wonder if you would've had kids and what you'd be doing at 29 years old. Love you forever and always!! ~Mom"
"February 21st, 2015.. this would've been your 29th birthday. I am always missing you, but your birthday is very hard to not be able to share with you. Love you Forever!! Mom"
"Thinking of you this Valentines weekend. Love you forever....Mom"
"Lighting this candle just because I miss you! I want to hear you laugh and me laugh at your quick wit. I want a hug... so very bad! Getting ready for Christmas this year has been very hard.. looking at your ornaments, more difficult than usual. It doesn't get easier not seeing you. Love you Forever!"
"You have a sweet lil nephew now, who is nearly 6 months old already. His name is Jaxon and we call him Jax. You would love your niece and nephew, they are amazing."
"I still miss you
As the days and years pass
I still miss you
As the pain of grief softens
I still miss you
As new memories are made
I still miss you
As I smile and laugh
I still miss you
Today and Everyday
I still miss you.
reposted from www.facebook.com/greiftoolbox"
""The Broken Chain"
We little knew that day,
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death, we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you.
You did not go alone.
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.
You left us beautiful memories,
Your love is still our guide.
And although we cannot see you,
You are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken,
And nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
Psalm 30: 11-12
"Wow, it doesn't seem like 8 years. You're an uncle again. Hope the kingdom of heaven is wonderful like the bible says. When my time has come, I hope I have a place in God house so I can see you again. Have an awesome time:)"
"After 8 years, you are still very much in my daily thoughts. I miss & love you forever and always. Remembering you on your "angelversary" can be bittersweet as we also celebrate our wedding anniversary! We do so with thanksgiving that we had you in our lives for 20 years."
"March 10th, 2014 was a very sad day because our dog (Richard's dog) could not use his back legs and we had to have him put down. This was Richards little dog he "rescued" 11 years ago. A pet who we have loved for over 11 years. It was bitter sweet to have to say good bye. Miss you sweet friend… Richard, you now have your dog back."
"Today you would’ve been 28 years old. You are missed everyday, but this has been a hard year for me. I am not sure why…. I suppose it’s just because life is slowing down so much and not having you in it anymore is just hard. More time to think, I guess. I will make a cake today and remember you with love… Mom"
When my youngest son, Richard, was born we were so happy to have a little brother for our other son, Matt, who was 4 years old. We took pictures of Matt holding his baby brother in the hospital. We continued taking pictures of Richard to capture some of his childhood, so he could one day look back at these and remember all the simple things in life that became his childhood. I wrote milestones down in his baby book, so that one day when he had his own baby, he could reflect on what I wrote and maybe see similarities or answers to questions you’re sure to have with a first baby.
Richard will not see these pictures, ever again, to reflect back on his life because his life was cut short at only 20 years of age. One sunny spring afternoon, after finishing his shift at work, he was heading over to a friends house and never made it. He was struck head on by an under aged drunk driver that crossed over the center line traveling nearly 100 mph. I was still at work and so was his dad. My son Matt had attended a friend’s funeral that day. After we got home from work and had dinner, my husband went up to the store to get a pop. He was gone for some time. Later, I found out he had got a call from the friends that Richard never arrived to visit, because they thought it was his car they had seen. My husband went to the scene to see if it was Richard. They had already taken him to the hospital. This was the beginning of our nightmare.
I think of my son everyday. He is the first thing on my mind in the morning and the last person I think about before going to sleep. I remember the good times we shared, like all the Christmas mornings and birthdays. He liked yellow birthday cake with no frosting. I always put frosting on it and he'd complain. The last cake I made for him, I left the frosting off. I remember his smile...it was contagious. He liked animals and after our dogs were gone, we didn't want anymore for a while. Well, Richard "rescued" a little black lab mix puppy and brought him home. I told him not to when I talked to him on the phone, but he said he had to try to find a home for him, because he was afraid they'd take him to the dog pound. I watched this puppy follow Rick around and he was so cute. I fell in love with the puppy and Richard named him Knight. For along time after Richard passed Knight would sit by the steps and wait for Richard to come upstairs. Ricks room was in the basement and Knight was afraid to go down stairs. Rick had to carry him to get him downstairs. That wasn't so easy as Knight grew.
I think of my son when I'm driving home from work. In fact, that was one of the hardest times for me. I thought about how that was all Richard was doing; leaving work for the day, that time of day when you want to kick back and relax until you do it again tomorrow. For Richard, he wouldn't have a tomorrow, in the way we all take for granted.
As time goes on, after reading and adding to this blog, I can say I still feel much the same. Some areas are a little easier, such as my drive home from work. We are blessed with a wonderful son and daughter-in-law that have blessed us with a beautiful granddaughter and soon a new grandson."
"Another year has come and gone without you in it. Saying goodbye to 2013.. the 8th NYE without you and it's still very hard. I count my blessings but am so sad you can't be here to meet your niece and for the arrival of your nephew in March of next year. Life is just so different these days, but I'm trying."
"I lit a candle for you tonight during the World Candle Lighting event promoted by Compassionate Friends. Although it doesn't take these kinds of events to bring you to mind, it does allow me to "do something" for you."
"From the Compassionate Friends Facebook page ~
Hours turn into days,
Days turn into years,
The memory of your precious child
"You will be with him again."
"A reminder to cherish every moment and take nothing for granted. Rest in peace and may your family continue to find comfort knowing you're in a happier place and at peace."
"Although I didn't know Richard personally, I know the kind of guy he was through his mothers memories. I know he had two good parents and a brother that loved him very much, and I know he is in Gods loving care."
"I remember the last time I saw Rick. He delivered a pizza to our house. I didn't recognize him till he said something. We stood there laughing. Rich gave him a very nice tip. I like the fact that our last encounter was a happy one. Rest with Jesus."
"I miss you everyday.. I really miss your quick wit and how you could make me laugh with your "one liner" come backs. I miss your beautiful smile; something you didn't do enough of.
I think you would love your little 3 yr old niece, Rylie. She has a bit of the stubbornness that you had. Maybe one day, she'll get to know you a little thru this site, and our memories."
"There are times our hearts can't bear,
That you're not here in our lives to share.
With our memories we hold tight,
Just to make it through the night.
Faith helps us along the way,
By knowing we'll be reunited one day."
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