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Please leave a tribute or memory or share what you may have already written to be read to Rich while he was in Hospice. So many beautiful and funny memories were shared with the family and it would be great if you would re-share them here. 

Here is the Obit that was published in the SB Independent

RICHARD EARL COOK   July 4, 1962 - June 29, 2020

Before Rich passed away, his friends and family were asked to write a story or memory to be read to him while he was in Hospice Care. Some of this content is drawn from those amazing letters. 

Rich had a special talent for making others laugh but he also had a deep, emotional and tender side that he expressed in good deeds. He was an amazing friend, always there when someone needed a hand. He helped with home and business remodels for many, was there for the births of children, helped people move...sometimes multiple times, held important celebrations for others in his home, and made people part of his family. Most remember his quick wit, generous heart and goofy nature. Rich could make you laugh no matter what was going on or where you were.... especially if you were in a place where you shouldn't have been laughing. He gave funny nicknames to many of his friends and family, many of which are still used today. His family members and friends have a million stories of his pranks, costumes, and mischief, but also of his loving and sensitive heart. 

This particular quote from a friend sums him up perfectly..."My friend Rich Cook is a legend to me. During our days of growing up in Hope Ranch, Rich was a freight train of good-natured energy, barreling through the neighborhood in his red & white VW van - always with a smile on his face and mischief on his mind." Others recall Rich's need to "never be passed" in that underpowered van, driving on the beach at night in areas where cars weren't allowed and crazy surf trips to Mexico. Rich was famous for his firework shows... fascinated with them from childhood since his birthday was the 4th of July. He squeezed more life into his 58 years than most could fit into a much longer lifetime. 

Rich was an awesome son, brother, friend, uncle, brother-in-law, step-father and god-father. The last year of Rich's life was lived in Hewitt, Texas with his new wife, Petro. He was so happy to be starting a new life in a new place with a new love and new friends plus a couple longtime friends. It's tragic that it was so short-lived, but we're grateful  he had that time, and so grateful to Petro for being an amazing partner and caregiver for Rich as he struggled with his health issues this past year. 

Rich is survived by his wife, Petro, his parents, Ron and Sherry Cook, his sister, Angela Cook, his nephew Ryan Cook, his nieces Arianna Cook and Ashley Betry, his prior wife Jennifer Grgich, a large extended family and more friends than we can count. We know that he was enthusiastically greeted by his brothers, Ronnie and Don Cook on the other side. That gives us some comfort, as well as knowing that he is at peace now. He left this life knowing that he was loved and will never be forgotten. For information about a future memorial, please email angela.cook.arts@gmail.com

Additional information
Some of you may not know that over the last decade Rich had become a self-taught artist. Out of the blue, he just started painting one day. He bought some canvasses and began by doing mixed media works with materials found in his garage. Eventually he bought art paints, but no matter what materials he used, his work was amazing and he was very prolific. 

Rich remarried on October 13, 2019 to Petronella Steyn in their new home of Hewitt, Texas. The created a company called ZachCo, a combination of her middle and his last name, and had big plans to develop property that they had purchased in Texas. It's heartbreaking that he will not see those plans through, howerver, Petro will continue to live on that property and hold onto those dreams.
June 30, 2021
June 30, 2021
It has taken me a whole year to leave this tribute... I was not ready to let him go...

Some of you know our story, working together on many projects and becoming close friends over time. He was always there when I needed him, greeting the dogs at the door in the morning with much enthusiasm for the day ahead, bringing us doughnut holes on Wednesdays and having coffee at the kitchen island. (I only found out much later that he did not really drink coffee!) I remember from those early days how he was always planning something – a trip, a party, a kind act to support somebody in his life. Always full of energy, caring for others and making the most of any opportunity that life presented him with.

And after life brought us together, I got to experience his love, caring, and sense of adventure. He truly brightened every day of our short time together – from making me coffee in the morning, hiding my clothes while I was in the shower, picking flowers for me in the back forty, taking me on surprise dinner dates, and everything in between. He made even the smallest things complete. He was my best friend and we could sit and talk for hours about any topic under the sun. And we laughed a lot! 

Rich has had his challenges in life, some of which affected his health and personal relationships. But he was driven by his love for life and the people that came across his path. I feel privileged and am very thankful to have shared a tiny sliver of Rich’s life. I miss him every day, wishing we had more time together, but I know that he is at peace and I will carry our love and memories in my heart forever.

I love you sweetheart!
August 31, 2020
August 31, 2020
I have known Rich around 55 years. My first introduction was when his family moved in next door when Rich was just a punk kid. He, Ronnie, Angie and Don Don were standing between our homes in Palos Verdes throwing rocks at our house. I was thinking "you've got to be kidding me!" as they ran away. This phase didn't last and our families soon had an open door policy. Richard and I did so many things together I don't know where to start... a partial list is countless surf sessions, multiple trips to Mexico, truck races at the Coliseum, 4th of July birthday parties and BBQs, adventures in the red/white VW van (ie. fire extinguishers used to hose down partiers in Isla Vista during fiesta time), sleep overs and fun times at "Hotel Hope Ranch", kayaking in Alemeda Bay, Rich living on our couch for months right after I got married, Rich's first bachelor party and wedding, Ronnie's wedding, Don Don's wedding, Angie's wedding, taco Tuesday's at Red Onion, construction at Doll and Pop's, Rich naming our first cat "Psycho Kitty or P.K.", lots of fireworks and bombs and lots of parties, horse shoes and fun, laying laminate floors at my mother-in-law's home, and countless phone calls with laughs and tears. With myself and many others, Rich was like the "brother from another mother"... such a good friend. I truly miss him... but not as much as his family and Petro do... I grieve for you and with you!  Much love, Karl R. Bingemann
August 11, 2020
August 11, 2020
Rich was my best friend, husband and my soul mate during our time together. I fell in love with him because he made me laugh, had a deep, emotional and tender side and had a definite spirit for adventure. Angela, I am forever grateful for Rich bringing me in to be part of your family; besides my own, since Rich and I parted, your family's deep connection and love has remained in my heart and will be there forever! Sending healing prayers and love to you, your Mom and Dad, Petro and the rest of the Cook family. May Rich Rest in Peace
August 9, 2020
August 9, 2020
Being Rich's sister has been an interesting ride. We had great fun and we also had great challenges. The memories of Rich I will carry with me are those which are positive, fun and full of adventure. Rich was a daredevil, a thrill seeker, and had a high tolerance for stress in his earlier years. I learned from him to take great risks in order to have great adventures. We hiked, biked, motorcycled, road tripped, explored, partied and got into our fair share of trouble. In our 40's and beyond, I was less adventurous and more risk-averse, but Rich still managed to get me out for some really fun and somewhat risky activities.

One of my favorite memories is of a hike we took in Rattlesnake Canyon in Santa Barbara. It was a really hot day so we jumped in the creek. Rich turned away from me for a minute, and when he turned back, he opened his mouth and a frog jumped out! It made me scream and then laugh! That's what most of my life was like with him. There were constant surprises, mostly good and funny.

One of the best years of my life was the year Rich lived with me in Chico while he got sober and I got ready to open a retail business. We worked hard together to rehab a storefront in downtown that would become my place of business. The only things I contracted out were refinishing the hardwood floors and having signage painted. Rich and I did everything else ourselves. It was a great learning experience for me and I will always deeply appreciate him for all of the hours he poured into my venture. That year was healing for both of us as individuals and for our sibling relationship.

Since Rich has been gone, I've found myself on several occasions reaching for the phone to ask him a construction or equipment question. Not having my advisor as I landscape my front and back yards by myself has been a challenge and is when I find myself missing him most. He was always there to support and encourage me with home or business projects. I miss that very much.

I'm grateful that Rich is no longer suffering, but I miss him terribly. I miss his prankster nature, his smile and laugh, and his care as my oldest brother. I think of him many times each day and choose to remember him with love and fondness. I take comfort in believing that he is reunited in the great beyond with my two other brothers and that they're getting into all kinds of good trouble.

Love you, brother. Rest in Peace.

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June 30, 2021
June 30, 2021
It has taken me a whole year to leave this tribute... I was not ready to let him go...

Some of you know our story, working together on many projects and becoming close friends over time. He was always there when I needed him, greeting the dogs at the door in the morning with much enthusiasm for the day ahead, bringing us doughnut holes on Wednesdays and having coffee at the kitchen island. (I only found out much later that he did not really drink coffee!) I remember from those early days how he was always planning something – a trip, a party, a kind act to support somebody in his life. Always full of energy, caring for others and making the most of any opportunity that life presented him with.

And after life brought us together, I got to experience his love, caring, and sense of adventure. He truly brightened every day of our short time together – from making me coffee in the morning, hiding my clothes while I was in the shower, picking flowers for me in the back forty, taking me on surprise dinner dates, and everything in between. He made even the smallest things complete. He was my best friend and we could sit and talk for hours about any topic under the sun. And we laughed a lot! 

Rich has had his challenges in life, some of which affected his health and personal relationships. But he was driven by his love for life and the people that came across his path. I feel privileged and am very thankful to have shared a tiny sliver of Rich’s life. I miss him every day, wishing we had more time together, but I know that he is at peace and I will carry our love and memories in my heart forever.

I love you sweetheart!
August 31, 2020
August 31, 2020
I have known Rich around 55 years. My first introduction was when his family moved in next door when Rich was just a punk kid. He, Ronnie, Angie and Don Don were standing between our homes in Palos Verdes throwing rocks at our house. I was thinking "you've got to be kidding me!" as they ran away. This phase didn't last and our families soon had an open door policy. Richard and I did so many things together I don't know where to start... a partial list is countless surf sessions, multiple trips to Mexico, truck races at the Coliseum, 4th of July birthday parties and BBQs, adventures in the red/white VW van (ie. fire extinguishers used to hose down partiers in Isla Vista during fiesta time), sleep overs and fun times at "Hotel Hope Ranch", kayaking in Alemeda Bay, Rich living on our couch for months right after I got married, Rich's first bachelor party and wedding, Ronnie's wedding, Don Don's wedding, Angie's wedding, taco Tuesday's at Red Onion, construction at Doll and Pop's, Rich naming our first cat "Psycho Kitty or P.K.", lots of fireworks and bombs and lots of parties, horse shoes and fun, laying laminate floors at my mother-in-law's home, and countless phone calls with laughs and tears. With myself and many others, Rich was like the "brother from another mother"... such a good friend. I truly miss him... but not as much as his family and Petro do... I grieve for you and with you!  Much love, Karl R. Bingemann
August 11, 2020
August 11, 2020
Rich was my best friend, husband and my soul mate during our time together. I fell in love with him because he made me laugh, had a deep, emotional and tender side and had a definite spirit for adventure. Angela, I am forever grateful for Rich bringing me in to be part of your family; besides my own, since Rich and I parted, your family's deep connection and love has remained in my heart and will be there forever! Sending healing prayers and love to you, your Mom and Dad, Petro and the rest of the Cook family. May Rich Rest in Peace
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