Oh my God, We are so overwhelmingly sorry for your loss!
This is a letter I wrote to Ryan upon his 8th grade graduation. I think it provides a window into the way that those of us who were fortunate enough to know him at St. Joseph appreciated his wonderful spirit and beautiful personality.
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May 28, 2010
Dear Ryan,
Congratulations! You did it! You are graduating from 8th grade and you have accomplished wonderful things. You had an amazing year. I remember the fall, when you courageously defended the St. Joes goals, through wind, sleet hail and rain, like Superman! You carried that burden alone and no one could have done a better job. We were all in awe of your bravery and your perseverance. I asked Mr. Fisher to tell me how he would describe you and he said, “Courageous, Truly Courageous.” This trait is something that the world needs. I can’t wait to see how God uses this gift that he has given to you. I remember the end of the soccer season, when you made the slide show for the soccer party and how you included everyone. Just like your dad, you celebrated and included everyone. And I could tell that you had worked on it for hours. This is what impressed me the most. You have a really good and kind heart. This is also something that the world needs. The way you are with others brings them peace. What an important contribution you make to the quality of everyone’s life. I remember the winter, when I was looking over the Prep acceptance list and saw your name, and how excited I felt that you might be here. Not because Prep is great, but because you are such a gift, for any school to have. You are exactly the type of person with whom I would want my son to journey through high school. I remember waiting to find out if you would come and how excited my family felt when you wore your T-shirt to our house! I remember talking to your father, and how he knew that you belonged at a challenging school because you are so bright and so strong. Your parents have so much pride in you, and so much faith. You deserve that, you have earned it. Finally, looking back, I remember that you have always provided such a confident peacefulness presence. Your smile and the light in your eyes make everyone feel secure. This, in fact, is your greatest gift, from my perspective. This is the gift that undoubtedly has carried your family and your friends though many trials. I am sure that your family was grateful for this gift as they struggled with your brother’s illness at Christmastime. This peacefulness in you, this still water, deep and strong presence will serve you well through life. And it will serve those who travel with you, as it serves them now.
The next four years will be full of amazing things. You will experience all kinds of new joys, and freedoms, and you will grow intellectually, physically, emotionally and spiritually. As I told Cole, some of this enrichment will come from things that cause you a degree of pain. I wish I could say there is a way to avoid a scar from high school, but there is not. The fire, however, will only make the gold that is your heart become brighter, as it provides challenges that enable you to find more strength in God, your family, yourself and your gifts. You will not face the difficult times alone. You have an amazing family and friends who really care about you. We will all be here for you. I will be here in the President’s office, if you forget your lunch money, or need anything. Our house will be your house whenever you want it, and Cole will be your loyal friend in this journey.
Have a wonderful summer. You deserve it
Sincerely,
Sheree Fisher