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This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved, Sarah Tedford.

Born: March, 2, 1966,  Lowell, MA

Passed away: January, 27 2021, Seattle, WA




January 27, 2023
January 27, 2023
I am remembering Sarah.

She passed away two years ago today.

I think of Sarah often. I see her picture just about every day.  There is a nice digital picture frame in the living room loaded with many pictures. Some show Sarah smiling with family and friends. Some were taken during our adventures and travels. Many pictures show her hiking in a National Park or otherwise in nature. At 10:00 PM each night the frame turns off automatically and I say goodnight to Sarah at the end of the day.

When I am feeling anxious or stressed I try to channel Sarah's calm energy and equanimity.

I am remembering Sarah today.
September 2, 2021
September 2, 2021
In coming to see a new post here, it hit me that my new kitten was born 6 months ago today - on your birthday, in the year you transitioned. That will be sweet that you share a birthday...happy half birthday wherever you are traveling today, Sarah. I think of you often ✨✨
September 1, 2021
September 1, 2021
Sarah,
I can't believe it's over 7 months since you've been gone.
I still have the bamboo plant planter that you gave me and am reminded often by the touches you left in my home from your 8 month stay.

I remember calling you floating head because when you first came to my door your face was the only one showing through the highly placed windows on my door. You laughed. And we constantly gave each other friendly nicknames during your stay.
The first thing you did coming into my/our home was to give your famous Sarah hugs and you would do this so often throughout your stay.
I found you to be a source of comfort not just through your hugs, but also through your calm listening spirit.

Whenever we would watch movies with the rest of our roommate "The Fam", you would so many times come up with insights that were so unique. Watching Star Trek Discovery, the whole group would guess as to what might happen next and you would be so on point.
You also were just so calmly insightful about life in general. I love the calm you gave us all. And I feel your calm as I write in this moment.

I will always miss you and I hope to write more as there are not enough words to describe the joy, love and comfort you bring to all that you touch in this world.
I miss you Sarah and I know you will want me (and all or us) to live our best lives.

I will always seek you as a source of calm in my life.
Loving you always,
Anthony
March 25, 2021
March 25, 2021
Don’t Fade Away

She was my little cousin;
the one I sat on the bed with
under the kitty cat clock
waiting for nine to chime
so we could sneak a slide
down the banister
and then run giggling
into the sun-filled living room
to watch Saturday morning cartoons.

I didn’t know it then;
how much she would travel;
to all of those faraway places
we’d always imagined
crosslegged under the Willow tree.
When she sold her house and left,
some of our family members
were convinced she
was not living in reality.

All the time, though,
I never said a thing;
because the truth was
I ached to wear her shoes.
Her infectious smile stole many hearts;
everywhere she made “forever” friends.
Her photos of Vietnam and the Taj Mahal;
made me long for that life
I’d always wanted to live.

When it came;
the news of her accident;
I’d had no idea she was in Nashville.
It had been several years
since our paths had crossed;
but the news of her accident,
hit with a familiar dread.
“Cancer,” they told us,
“The same kind as your father.”

My mind spinning endlessly;
I stared for hours
at the blue laptop screen
lost and unable to write.
My heart feeling guilty
for those years, we never tried.
We’d always had
more in common than not;
just different ways of living it.

The morning she slipped away,
I woke to a blood orange sky;
the feeling of urgency
hammering my head voraciously.
“I have no regrets,” she whispered,
in my dream; “Do it now, explore!”
and suddenly, I was Karen Blixen
watching a herd of elephants
somewhere out of Africa.

(wrote this for you cousin....hope you like it....)
March 17, 2021
March 17, 2021
Sarah was so gentle, caring and welcoming. She showed her kindness in the big and little ways; I remember her helping me with something and feeling very cared for by all the ways she was thoughtful. I'm so grateful to have met her.
February 22, 2021
February 22, 2021
Sarah, every time I've thought of you in these recent weeks, your gentle and generous presence wash over me... feeling you as the ever-present love balm (and love muffin) that you were. And are.

Thank you. Bless you. Always and in all ways.
February 21, 2021
February 21, 2021
I first met Sarah back in 1998. My mother & sister had a Friday night dinner club where friends would met for supper and enjoy each others company. When Sara walked into a room it was like the whole room light up with such a beautiful smile and soft spoken voice. Sarah was a free spirit loving places and people who she came into contact with. Sarah you touched so many peoples lives leaving them with wonderful memories and so much Love for you. I know you will be waiting with a huge smile and hug when we meet again. Your going to be one of God's very special angels. Love you always my dear friend.
February 15, 2021
February 15, 2021
Sarah, you are gone too soon. You have been a blessing in my life. I want to recognize here, Sarah, as the most non-judgmental person I have ever known. I remember that while she lived with Tracy Chapman in the crafts house, she did not get on well with her because Tracy rejected Sarah's roommate, the only conservative person in that house-- Sarah accepted all. I remember how she always sat and listened, taking things in, no matter who or where. She didn't judge, she just experienced and appreciated. She was eternally curious and exploring, both people and places, and she could appreciate and enjoy them all. The world needs more Sarahs. I trust a piece of her is left in each of us that she touched and we can make this world a better, more tolerant place. Besitos y abrazos
February 14, 2021
February 14, 2021
Sarah being gone hit me like a boulder. We were close cousins as little girls. I remember so many visits spent giggling in her bedroom under her kitty cat clock.  We grew apart over the years but we loved so many of the same things - travel, animals, music, holistic health.  My Dad died of the same awful cancer not even two years ago; I know he was there to greet her....love and hugs little couz....the world is a crueler place without you.
February 13, 2021
February 13, 2021
My daughter, Corey and I met Sarah when she and Martin came to Mesa to dog/housesit for us a few years ago. We liked both of them right away and our little chihuahua fell in love with them immediately. Although time and distance didn’t offer us the opportunity to know Sarah as we might have liked, she struck me as a woman I would love to know and call a friend. Her manner was so gentle and genuine that I sensed she would be a wonderful confidante and dear friend. We are both saddened to hear of her passing, but grateful that she kept us in her list. Even though we who are still here on the earth will miss her, Heaven will receive her with open arms.
February 11, 2021
February 11, 2021
Sarah and I first met and became friends in Madrid, Spain during my Junior Year Abroad, well over 30 years ago. We called each other "guapa," which literally means "pretty," but in the context that we used, it was akin to saying "girlfriend." Whenever we greeted one another, it was, "Hola, Guapa!" which continued for over three decades.

I have so many wonderful memories of Sarah, but putting them all here would probably overload the site! Suffice to say, she was a very dear friend, and experiencing this loss is heartbreaking.

The world was a brighter place while she was in it and is now worse off since she's gone. I feel so fortunate to have known her and to have been her friend, and will miss her greatly. Adios, Guapa.
February 11, 2021
February 11, 2021
I am still grappling with the shock. I did not know Sarah well although I played volleyball with her every Tuesday for several years. We were exact opposites: I would be running around yelling enthusiastically, while Sarah would always remain calm and self-assured. And in that quiet calm manner she blocked her opponents and systematically slammed her powerful spike. When we played together and either one of us had a good play I could turn to Sarah, who, in her steady and collected manner, would give me a smile with a twinkle in her eye that encapsulated all my eagerness and our satisfaction. I will miss that smile.
February 11, 2021
February 11, 2021
The World lost an Angel...... Sarah in motion:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owCYOnmrtFY
I just read in my email that Sarah Tee (Tedford) was involved in a car crash and guess left this World of complications thereafter. At that point I stopped reading. (It was a latent medical condition actually).

I have (and most of my friends) not had to deal with too many unexpected deaths but now to deal with one where you intimately knew the person as a friend and housemate.... it's a whole different thing. She's a beautiful Soul and the World has truly lost out on this one. Live video shortly in her Honor.
February 10, 2021
February 10, 2021
Dear dear Sarah! Just now learned that you are gone. Too fast. Too soon. I was blessed to know you. <3
February 10, 2021
February 10, 2021
Sarah was a warm and bright addition when she joined with Martin and our neice Janice at holiday dinners that Dee and I enjoyed at Ron and Roberta's, Janice's parents, house. Those kind of memories stay and I am glad that that is one way she lives on with us. Her adventuress travels with Janice and Martin, and the photos and stories they shared, were such interesting indirect experiences through which we got to know a little more of her as well as the world. We want those closest to Sarah to know that the hurt that arises out of the hole in their hearts because of their love for her raises a sad sympathy in us and others that is an extension of their love for Sarah, making it greater than they might know.
February 10, 2021
February 10, 2021
I was lucky enough to cross paths with Sarah in 2013 on my first Adventure Bus tour. Even though it was a short moment in time, it was very evident that Sarah was such a beautiful and gentle soul. I can only imagine how much she is missed by those close to her. 
February 8, 2021
February 8, 2021
Sweet Sarah, Thank you for your love and friendship. Always in our hearts Zach and Dorothea
February 7, 2021
February 7, 2021
Beautiful Sarah, I was so blessed to have connected with you in both our homes. Your gentleness touched me deeply as you held and nurtured me. And I got to experience some humor with you when my bathroom flooded. Only good times and memories with you. Love you...
February 5, 2021
February 5, 2021
A great loss. Her caring nature and love of dance and music are what come to mind when I think of Sarah. Her memory will endure in the hearts of her friends and family.
February 5, 2021
February 5, 2021
Sarah was such a love and a warm, compassionate friend. I really enjoyed seeing her blossom over the many years that I have known her. Not only was she the best hugger ever, but she was fearlessly adventurous with her love of travel. She was also full of insight about herself and other people too. I think she genuinely loved people and was curious about them, and also about herself. Sarah, I miss you so much already! 
February 5, 2021
February 5, 2021
Today I took a walk in the desert of Sabino Canyon, as I walked I took time to reflect about Sarah and how she loved taking walks in nature. We had planned to share a month of walks and fun in Tucson and the surrounding area. I was excited to have her show me some of her favorite places and to get to know each other even better. Sadly, we won't be able to share this journey together in human form but I feel her kind gentle spirit with me in this most sacred place she loved. Today's walk is for you Sarah. I feel what you loved about this place and I am glad to have walked where you may have walked and to see, feel and experience the beauty all around me Until we meet again, much love to you and your beautiful ways, Sweet Sarah
February 3, 2021
February 3, 2021
Sarah knew how to live large and to the fullest extent possible. "Fear" wasn't a word that was in her vocabulary. "Explorer" could have been her middle name. Sarah was always there with a shoulder to cry on, quiet wisdom, or a ready smile. I miss her terribly.
February 2, 2021
February 2, 2021
Sharing a name connected us immediately. But just as swiftly, that connection deepened into a bond that has not broken. We shared intimate conversation, our mutual vulnerability, our hopes and healing. I celebrated as she followed her calling and blossomed into the woman we knew- the saint of hugging. 
But she was more than that. She traveled frequently, yet she was firmly rooted in earth, in truth, in love. Her branches spread to the sky welcoming the sun and truth and love. She uplifted, enlightened, and I feel so privileged to have basked in her glow. She made it seem effortless. She listened. She loved. When we embraced, her heart melted into mine and filled it with connection, with something greater than us, a deep peace and comfort. 
I feel as if her spirit is flying free, unhindered, spreading her love to all who need it. She has inspired me in ways too many to list. It will be a joyous reunion when we cross and see her again. Beloved, Beautiful Sarah.
February 2, 2021
February 2, 2021
Sarah how you could light up a room with your smile. You had such a gentle loving way about you. I loved your courage and adventurous spirit, the Lilly pad life and your family of choice. I’m so grateful for the conversations and hugs from you.
February 2, 2021
February 2, 2021
Wow we must really need an extraordinary unconditional dose of LOVE on the other side....there isn't any other reason I can think that someone as dear and beautiful as Sarah would transition so soon (and so quickly.)  Sarah's hugs were transformative.....she transmitted Divine Love so palpably....like none other I've ever met (including the Hugging Saint!) Sarah was the true Hugging Saint and I will miss her. May her memory be a blessing always.

My heart is with all of us who loved Sarah and who are grieving our loss. <3
February 2, 2021
February 2, 2021
I'm not surprised that my memories of Sarah mirror those in the comments written by others here. It was easy to feel the warmth, kindness, and generosity of spirit that she exuded. She was a rare soul and her loss is a truly heavy one. Though I didn't know her for long, I'll miss her.
February 1, 2021
February 1, 2021
I don't have any visual pictures of Sarah.. I just have the pictures Sarah has in my heart and soul.. The sweet cuddly times we connected and shared each others love and heart.. There were not enough of them and each one was so special to me.... so sad and so Honored to have shared some life with her... The world has lost a Sweet Heart indeed!
February 1, 2021
February 1, 2021
OMG this is terrible. I just found out. Sarah was one of my first HAI buddies and I have such fond memories of her. Coming to my home and and both her and Martin coming in my room early to hug and cuddle with me while I was waking up. Love you Sarah❤️
February 1, 2021
February 1, 2021
I am so missing Sarah already as I just heard of her passing. Sarah came into my life unexpectedly when I was first diagnosed with leukemia over Christmas, 2019 and had no one to care for me during the holiday. Sarah stepped in with her gentle spirit and loving hugs. She enabled me to relax into my self and begin my journey toward wellness. Meeting Sarah felt as if we had been friends forever - and that is how I am feeling her presence now. Until we meet in spirit form again dear Sarah...
February 1, 2021
February 1, 2021
Tall beautiful Sarah. My heart is broken. You were always so gentle and kind. I will miss you. I love you now and forever. Love Gile
February 1, 2021
February 1, 2021
Another deep heart friend transitioned. A loss of a real friend. Of a deep hugger where she would bend her knees and meet me with a full- on - long embrace, until one released (often, quite a long time). An intuitive and curious soul to try new things and explore new adventures. A lover of nature, finding home in the nuances of both jungle, forest, and desert. A nurturer of animals, humans, and homes, as if they were her own. An explorer of healing wisdom and her own gifts. A traveler of herself - and this world - in each moment.

My friend Sarah journeyed onward this week. I’m deeply sad - and I’m grateful for knowing her - for all her presence and love - her hugs and cuddles - her listening and care. Having met in community in Massachusetts, growing together, and seeing each other physically where our paths crossed. She spent a few months here in Costa Rica last year - and I’d anticipated her return. Grateful for the times, conversations, love, depth and solidity of connection we carried in our hearts.

Sarah’s hug was an imprint - a one of a kind “Sarah-hug” - of which I am already craving and missing. Journey well, Sarah. Thank you for your love and time while on this earth ✨✨

Love to Martin, Janice, her family of origin and all of those in her chosen family, as I.

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February 1, 2021
February 1, 2021
Sarah, thank you for your ever-present loving kindness.
January 31, 2021
January 31, 2021
Sarah, your sweet soul will surely be missed. I’m grateful to have known you. To share love, laughter and always wonderful conversations. Blessings on your journey.

Love, Gaia
January 31, 2021
January 31, 2021
Loved Sarah, I got to work with her for the last 10 year and 3 year before that as a student. No one was nicer, calmer or more caring and loving than Sarah. I loved that her healing modality was hugging, such a beautiful soul, she will be missed deeply by me and my team. 
January 31, 2021
January 31, 2021
Sarah came into my life in 2005 and was always an amazing friend. She was such a free spirit, amazing person, the greatest hugger, and wonderful friend. The news was hard to take in but I know you are hugging all of us from spirit. Until we meet again dear friend
January 31, 2021
January 31, 2021
Oh, Sarah, what a loss! It was a privilege to know your deep, gentle spirit. I imagine you now free to love without the constraints of human form. I’ve been touched by your friendship. Blessings and love.
January 31, 2021
January 31, 2021
A wonderful smile, a playful spirit, a loving presence, and ... welcoming tall hugs (we were about the same height)! I will miss her.

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January 27, 2023
January 27, 2023
I am remembering Sarah.

She passed away two years ago today.

I think of Sarah often. I see her picture just about every day.  There is a nice digital picture frame in the living room loaded with many pictures. Some show Sarah smiling with family and friends. Some were taken during our adventures and travels. Many pictures show her hiking in a National Park or otherwise in nature. At 10:00 PM each night the frame turns off automatically and I say goodnight to Sarah at the end of the day.

When I am feeling anxious or stressed I try to channel Sarah's calm energy and equanimity.

I am remembering Sarah today.
September 2, 2021
September 2, 2021
In coming to see a new post here, it hit me that my new kitten was born 6 months ago today - on your birthday, in the year you transitioned. That will be sweet that you share a birthday...happy half birthday wherever you are traveling today, Sarah. I think of you often ✨✨
September 1, 2021
September 1, 2021
Sarah,
I can't believe it's over 7 months since you've been gone.
I still have the bamboo plant planter that you gave me and am reminded often by the touches you left in my home from your 8 month stay.

I remember calling you floating head because when you first came to my door your face was the only one showing through the highly placed windows on my door. You laughed. And we constantly gave each other friendly nicknames during your stay.
The first thing you did coming into my/our home was to give your famous Sarah hugs and you would do this so often throughout your stay.
I found you to be a source of comfort not just through your hugs, but also through your calm listening spirit.

Whenever we would watch movies with the rest of our roommate "The Fam", you would so many times come up with insights that were so unique. Watching Star Trek Discovery, the whole group would guess as to what might happen next and you would be so on point.
You also were just so calmly insightful about life in general. I love the calm you gave us all. And I feel your calm as I write in this moment.

I will always miss you and I hope to write more as there are not enough words to describe the joy, love and comfort you bring to all that you touch in this world.
I miss you Sarah and I know you will want me (and all or us) to live our best lives.

I will always seek you as a source of calm in my life.
Loving you always,
Anthony
Her Life
January 31, 2021
A gentle invitation.

Tell me about Sarah.

Please go to the STORIES tab and...

If you are willing, you are invited to share something about your personal connection with Sarah.  Specific anecdotes and personal experiences that you had with Sarah are welcome.

It's not necessary that what you write is poetic, complete, comprehensive or perfect.  Feel free to write whatever is present for you today.  In the coming days, weeks and months feel free to write additional thoughts as often as you wish.


Sharing our sad news

February 3, 2021
January 31, 2021
Dear friends,

It is with great heartache that we share with you news of the sudden and unexpected passing of our beloved Sarah Tedford.

The original plan for 2021 was for some of our pandemic pod to spend a month in Tucson, AZ, enjoying together the warm weather and the desert landscapes. Four of us were driving down from Seattle, and Sarah was making her way west from Massachusetts. Then on Jan 12, things took a wrong turn.

While driving through Nashville, TN, Sarah was in a car accident. Her injuries from the crash itself were relatively minor, but a CAT scan revealed a large mass in her brain. The accident appears to have been caused by Sarah having a seizure due to the tumor. The car was totaled, but thankfully, no other cars or people were involved in the accident.Upon receiving the news, Martin and Sarah’s mother, Pat, flew to Nashville to be with Sarah.

Over the next few days, it was determined that the mass was a glioblastoma multiforme (GBM stage 4), an extremely aggressive form of brain cancer.Due to the size of tumor and because it crossed into both hemispheres, the tumor team did not recommend surgery.They believed the best option forward was a combination of radiation and chemotherapy.

After doing some research and with much help from friends who have experience with cancer, we decided for Sarah to receive treatment at the University of Washington Medical Center (UWMC) - Alvord Brain Tumor Center in Seattle, WA.

Sarah was discharged from the Nashville hospital on Fri, Jan 22. She and Martin spent the next two days in a nearby hotel, where Martin cared for her and helped her sort through the five duffle bags of belongings that were retrieved from Sarah's car. During those days, Sarah’s condition deteriorated, but we remained hopeful.

Martin and Sarah flew to Seattle on Sunday evening in preparation for a Monday morning intake appointment at UWMC. Sarah’s condition continued to worsen, and she was brought to the ER about 4 am on Monday, Jan 25. She became unconscious, and based on a new MRI, the team at UWMC determined that there were no longer any viable treatment options.Martin sat with her peacefully, creating sacred space, and matching her breath.Janice flew out Tuesday morning, and was grateful to spend some time with Sarah, hold her hand, and tell her how much she is loved.

Sarah passed away peacefully just after midnight on Wednesday Jan 27.

We’ve created the following online memorial as a way for all of us who knew Sarah to share remembrances and photos.

Please visit https://www.forevermissed.com/sarah-ellen-tedford and contribute stories and pictures.

Sarah has chosen to be cremated, and we will scatter her ashes in a place that was meaningful to her.We will share information about a future “Celebration of Life” as it becomes available.

With love,
Martin and Janice


Recent stories
July 29, 2023
Hi Sarah,
Simple memories.  And they come often as you lived with me for 8 months with 2 of your best friends/family.  So simple, I embarrassed, but every time I clean the stove I think of you as you were helping in the kitchen and you were surprised I vacuumed the stove by taking the grill off.  And you said in your normal positive way, "Wow, what a great way of doing that.  You were always so encouraging in even the simplest things.
When I wash my dishes at the window, I still have the red Buddha planter that held the bamboo plant you gave me as a going away present.  The bamboo plant is now gone, but Martin was kind enough to return the mask I gave you which spells Be Kind in sign language with multi-racial hands.  So appropriate as you are one of the kindest people I know.
You will always be with me.
Love,
Anthony
April 8, 2023
Recordando a Sarah.
  Te estuve buscando y no te encontraba, y ahora que te encuentro ya no estás aquí, soy Tomàs, aquel estudiante de la UAM en Madrid España, compañero de Gustavo y de Luis allá por 1986, quizás tus compañeros recuerden aquel sitio de encuentro de estudiantes americanos y españoles en la calle Recoletos ; que jóvenes éramos, decías de ti que eras una Americana Grande y Fea, perdona que te corrija, eras de enorme Corazón y muy Bella.

Lamento no poder volverte a ver en esta Tierra. Pero seguro que habrá más oportunidades.
Por cierto, yo fui el culpable de que fumases Ducados.
Un beso a mi Bella Americana .

Tomas Nuen


Remembering Spain

February 15, 2021
         I'll share a little bit about our time in Spain.  Sarah and I were both students at Tufts, but we never knew each other while we were both students there-- at least not on the Sommerville campus.  We met in Spain.  I knew I needed to get to know Sarah, because she was spending her last semester senior year in Madrid, returning after having spent her whole junior year in Madrid, and I was a homesick girl trying to figure out why I was doing this.  I figured she must know something.  
         She was the Sarah you all know: calm, curious, watching, smiling.  Maybe more besitos then than hugs.  She loved to travel, but she hated to travel in plan-turistico.  She sought to be part of the place, take it in.  She is an explorer and she finds things and takes them in and enjoys.  (My description seeps past our time in Spain, but that is where I first discovered this about her.)  When I went to look back, I found I actually have only a handful of photos of her in Spain.  Then I realized that this shouldn't surprise me; she was not there as a tourist.  She was there to enjoy people and explore the place.  (But I will share a few photos.)
       Important things she taught me about Spain:  alcachofas, tortillas, chocolate con churros, and those ice filled fruits.  She also drank cidra regularly, though I preferred beer.  And she smoked Ducados, because that was the Spanish thing to do.  She taught me how to find shoes that fit, in that tiny-footed country of beautiful leather.  And we'd go out dancing after midnight until the sun was rising.  
     Sarah decided I was okay after I dumped a pitcher of water over a friend Gustavo's head in the university cafeteria.  A photo many of you may have seen is of me, Alysia, and Sarah, and maybe Alysia's tia Puri, in Benedorm, a beach town on the Mediterranean Sea.  Sarah, myself, Gustavo, and Luis shared a place there for the weekend.  Those two spoiled boys could be a pain, so we wandered off to meet up with Alysia and explore.  She also showed appreciation for the meal I prepared (eggs florentine), despite critiques from the guys, and made me laugh at their silliness.  And she had great fun by playing dumb about the function of the bidet.  Maybe Luis still thinks its just for feet washing (and we were the Americans!).  
     Te quiero mucho, guapa!

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