Mummy...Prof!
I have deliberately stayed away from this platform until now because I just could not bring myself to accept the fact that you are gone but as the days went by and the funeral ceremonies get nearer, I am forced to face this rude reality, for the very first time. As I envisaged, my fears came to pass. As I opened unto this page and I saw the different pictures testifying to the truth that once you were here, and as I listened to the music, "Prayer", play so softly, the tears rolled. Hot, steaming tears flowed freely down my cheeks, and continue to flow, even as I write.
No doubt your passage has hit different people in different ways but somehow, I feel a deep pain that many may probably wonder at. After all, you were 83, defying death at an earlier age and attaining to your 80s as you prophesied, once upon a time on your sick bed!
Ours was a relationship that went beyond auntie and niece. We were friends. We laughed, we joked, we argued, we worked and we danced! How much of those memories I would be able to keep, I don't know. Besides your 'boyfriend' as I referred to your nephew, Bro. Akin, you were the only person who woke me up at 5 a.m. and when I did not pick at the first ring, you greeted me with the words, "Sumbo, O si nsun ni?" We shared so much in common and perhaps that is why I understood you, possibly, above all. You were carefree. You were calm. You were witty. You were intelligent. When you argued your case, no one knew your navigation until you arrived at your destination! Life was interesting with you around. Your presence evoked an excitement in me, anytime I saw you. It was always a time of sweet camaraderie, and laughter, and the expression of a good kindred spirit.
Suddenly, all of that is gone?
I saw you pass away in my dream a week before you did, and I wept sore that I did not get a last opportunity to see you. Events of your passage would eventually happen exactly as I saw it - to the letter. The day before you left, I was coming in from Abeokuta and as I reached the turn-in to your house, I lamented that I could have dropped by, but the road had been blocked and I couldn't spare the extra time it would take to go further to turn and to go even further to turn again when I would leave. How I wish I had shunned that inconvenience, for then I would have had a last look at your face and kept a fresh memory of you for a long time. I made plans with Wumi who had just come in from Canada to see you with the children on Christmas eve. Alas, you had a different plan. Like I couldn't spare the time to turn in to you the day before, you could not wait till the day after to see us. You left the night before. I grieve, I mourn. Yes, even at 83, you were my 'young' mum.
I celebrate your life and times. I celebrate your doggedness and push. I celebrate your achievements and legacies but above all, I celebrate YOU!
It will never be the same. There is a void that cries out to be filled every time I see reminders of you. I am so very proud to have been part of your life and your blood.
As I joked with Sis. Funke, you and I were more related. We are both nee Aloba. As single ladies, we bore that family root name with pride but they were not so privileged! You and I referred to them as diluted juice! Finally, a smile plays across my lips - bitter-sweet memories of a woman who came, who saw, who conquered. I sign out with this song, as it attempts to define all I have left of you.
"Memories are all I have to cling to (cling to)
And heartaches are the friends I'm talking to (talking to)
When I'm not thinking of just how much I loved you
Well I'm thinking about the things we used to do."
Adieu my darling aunt and mum. Oh Lord, I miss you so dearly!