This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Ted Sumner, 92, born on February 25, 1924 and passed away on January 15, 2017.
“The beautiful kicks out of life I’ve gotten. I realize how lucky I’ve been. It’s almost as though somebody up there likes me, and Sarah!”
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Memorial gifts may be directed to the Otsego Land Trust.
http://otsegolandtrust.org/get-involved/donate
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Tributes
Leave a tribute"We have one in the oven," Dan said to Ted a few days before his death. That turned out to be Sam. Now there's another grandchild of Ted in the family- Macey. So much has happened since 2017.
Today I communed with trees as I do every MLK Day since then. This year it was firs and a redwood and several deciduous street trees in Ukiah, CA. The deciduous tree branches clacked together like clapping. On the redwood everything was still and firm and soft but the bark had a hollow sound. The fir tree was so springy it kept shaking long after I wiggled a branch, the whole crown dancing in the moon sky.
"...more than cool reason ever comprehends.
The lunatic, the lover, and the poet
Are of imagination all compact."
Your love story so long together- Shakespeare said it best:
... But all the story of the night told over,
And all their minds transfigured so together,
More witnesseth than fancy’s images
And grows to something of great constancy,
But, howsoever, strange and admirable."
In another pic he's licking a pine tree. His love of trees went farther than most. I hug a tree when I miss him and it makes me feel better. XONicole
-Sarah Holcombe
Love Sasha
You are always with me.
Love Ian
It's been one year since he sailed away, and the trees are still dancing.
For anyone reading this, S.I.M. meant Swing In Motion. I always thought of it as a directive- "swing" being a verb and "motion" meaning all the things he'd taught us about timing so you could twist your swing around the other person's swing. Now I realize he probably just meant there's a swing in motion here- don't jump on yours yet! There are so many things I learned from playing on the 90 foot swings in the woods, it would take up a chapter in a book. To name a few: the geometry of swing arc, intersection with the perpendicular swing, weight effect on "getting the burst" when you twist, how to leap onto a swing, switch swings with another in mid-air...
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Between Luck and Grace
The Cunningham ancestors were challenging enough but the Chinese patriarchs were downright unnerving.
The elegant patriarchs looked down on us with steely cold dignity from their stations up on the walls in the dining room. There were four full-length portraits in traditional robes. They all gazed, with splendid aloofness, over the heads of whoever entered the room.
My husband, Bill, and I were at the home of his uncle and aunt, Ted and Sarah Sumner. They lived in a small community scattered along the end of a long lake in central New York State. I’d been hearing about Sarah's unique family home for years, filled with antiques, musical instruments, and formal Cunningham family portraits. I had been eager to see it.
But in reality, while traveling across the country to see Ted and Sarah had the outer aspects of a family visit, it was really something closer to a pilgrimage. They were now the family elders, in their mid-eighties. Ted was the last of four siblings, a group that had included my husband’s mother. It was very possible that this would be the last time we would see them.
On a morning near the end of our visit, we were sitting in the kitchen, a large and welcoming old-fashioned room. Windows on the south looked out through trees to the lake. Located in the very center of the room, the kitchen table looked like a lively, colorful tropical island -- a miniature fruit-filled Barbados which had made its way into an otherwise vintage home.
I looked at Sarah with affection. Even though she was having some memory lapses, there was an essential quality alive in her, a willingness to engage directly and honestly, that I loved. “Yes, you married Ted, colorful character, antics and all. And here we are, all these years later.”
Ted beamed at his wife. “Yes, we’re the lucky ones.” We all smiled, looking around at each other. I had noticed how gentle and kind Ted was with Sarah. Under his joking and entertaining personality, he was revealing a layer of genuine caring and affection. It was very appealing.
“Why do you think some couples stay together?” Sarah asked. “I think it’s just luck. Don’t you?”
Instead of answering, I asked, “Doesn’t Tara live near here too?”
“Daughter Nicole lives in San Francisco. Sasha lives in New York, and, yes, Tara lives here. Back up the road. Near the dairy. It’s a good two-story house, not as old as this, and much easier to heat in the winter.”
Sarah faced us with her honest and direct gaze. “You know,” she continued, “Ted and I live right above here -- in what used to be the cook’s rooms. The heat from the kitchen goes right up to those rooms. We stay in the warm rooms, you see, here in the kitchen and right above. It’s the only way we can stay warm in the winter . . . now that we live here year round. We close the rest of the house and just live up there. We’ll stay here as long as we can. We get Meals on Wheels, you see. Five days a week."
There was a pause. Then Sarah suddenly asked, “How long have you two been married?”
“Thirty-eight years,” Bill answered. “We got married in 1972.”
“Why do you think some couples stay together? I think it’s just luck. We’re the lucky ones.”
“I think it’s more than that,” I responded. “It really helps to be good friends, to appreciate and support each other. And -- I have to say it -- I believe in grace.”
Sarah looked doubtful, as if she might challenge me, but her face cleared and she said, “Friendship. Yes, friendship is a form of grace.” Our mutual feelings of goodwill and affection prevailed.
Ted got up from the table, walked over to his wife, and kissed her on the cheek. He turned to us with a radiant smile. “Yes, we’re the lucky ones.”
Perhaps the Chinese patriarchs in the next room bowed, ever so slightly, giving us their silent and solemn acknowledgement.
Sher Phillips Gamard
This is an excerpt of a longer story which is an account of a visit we made to Mouses Hall in May 2010. My husband is Ted’s nephew, William Sumner Gamard. We live in Sebastopol, a charming small town in Sonoma County, California.
My Earliest Memory of Ted
About 1953, when I was about six years old, Ted came to visit his sister Deedie (my mother) in East Providence, R.I. He arrived on a motorcycle, he had a moustache, and he brought a banjo. I clearly remember that he strummed and sang the song, "Bye Bye Blues" ("Don't cry, don't sigh, bye bye blues"). --Ted's nephew, Bill Sumner Gamard