Washington DC April 2010
Theodora West
  • 38 years old
  • Date of birth: Nov 10, 1975
  • Date of passing: Feb 10, 2014
"A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words"

Note: A celebration of her life will be held Saturday, March 15. We will gather at John’s home at 11am, a potluck to follow. 1965 Paralta Ave, Seaside. (crossstreet Military)

A year of a crazy battle against the beast of cancer, our cherished wife, best friend, daughter and sister, Thea gently slipped away early this morning. A strong woman, she touched our lives with never-ending kindness and support.

This memorial website was created in memory of Thea for you to share your thoughts and memories with her family and eachother. Let's celebrate her beauty and special place she has in our hearts. That's what Thea wants. 

Thea's spirit was always so bright around her animals. In honor of her memory, she'd like any tributes to be made in her name to the SPCA of Santa Cruz or Monterey County. 


The song is Chris Isaak - one of her favorite musicians. It's easy to mute by going to the top of the page and pressing the sound button. 

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by PJ?Don Gill on 25th February 2017

"Thea,is in the heaven's quietly looking after all she loved, !Missed by all !!"

This tribute was added by Amy Ockert on 21st June 2014

"I miss you."

This tribute was added by Jennifer Balesteri on 20th March 2014

"My name is Jennifer Balesteri, I only knew Thea briefly, as her phlebotomist...she was such a trooper...I saved my tiny needles for her, because she was special!!  An absolute delight to have walk in to the office.  She helped ME with questions about cancer treatment, b/c my father was fighting alongside Thea...my Dad passed 2/12, and Rima told me about Thea today...I broke down and cried along with Rima...Thea touched my life in a short amount of time, so my prayers and wishes are for her husband, family and friends...she was a beautiful woman, and I'm so sorry for our loss❤️"

This tribute was added by PJ?Don Gill on 9th March 2014


This tribute was added by Scott Gill on 20th February 2014

"Thea has touched so many lives and I am so grateful to know her. I have always been intrigued on how Thea walked so gently on this planet...appreciating nature, special friendships, her animals and her tender love she shares with my brother. Johnny is a better man because of Thea and we look forward to seeing her again! In the meantime...who could ask for a better angel to look over all of us who miss her dearly?"

This tribute was added by Sakura Terui on 16th February 2014

"I am stunned to hear about her life as a mother, wife, friend and daughter cut so short. My condolences to everyone who knew and loved her..... love and light through these hard times."

This tribute was added by Jana Weston on 13th February 2014

"I have known Thea since she was a little girl.  I am a good friend of her Mother, Rima.  Thea was one of the most enchanting, exotic little creatures I had ever seen.  Very smart for her age with a happy and mischievous sense of humor.  Rima is a mother to three very special, beautiful and sensitive children.  I did not get to know Thea as she grew into an adult, but she had a bright light around her always.  I am greatly saddened by her passing and so very very sorry for her family."

This tribute was added by Chris Robertson on 13th February 2014

"Loving and remembering Thea is easy...
her beautiful, deep eyes, her easy friendship and her ability to connect.

Our paths crossed through work over the last three years and our connection deepened with life's shared challenges.  
In the short amount of time we had she enriched my life with laughter, tears, shared fears and her genuine spirit.  I've been blessed by her presence and she will always be in my heart.  
She felt loved to her last moment and John you made that so.
She is on Angel's Wings, full of love.  I miss her.
ILY Thea!"

This tribute was added by Jen Little on 11th February 2014

"So very sad to learn of Thea's passing. To her many friends and loved ones, please accept my deepest sympathy for this tremendous loss from my heart to yours..."

This tribute was added by Amy Ockert on 11th February 2014

"I don't have the right words yet"

This tribute was added by jim ockert on 11th February 2014

"the relationship between john and thea was  .very special..these last few days john reminded me what it is to be a really good man, father and husband.................jim"

This tribute was added by Michael Gray on 10th February 2014

"I feel lucky to have known her even if for such a short time. She was a bright light with a wonderful sense of humor and a great personality. Thea will be greatly missed! Thank you for making all of us laugh. John, I am so sorry for your loss. My love to all that knew her.
Michael Gray"

This tribute was added by jim ockert on 10th February 2014

"Well,I feel,lucky to have known.  Forever Thea ...this time is not easy .but..I fell privileged to be here now..thank you Johnny ,Amy, and Connie..for,all that you did ..it a inspiration to our love for her... Love. ...jim"

This tribute was added by Scott Rifenbark on 10th February 2014

"I also met Thea through Amy, who is my niece.  I traveled with Nancy my wife a few times to Carmel to help Jim and Connie with the charity event they used to host.  That is where I met Thea.  I remember her as a very nice, positive, energetic person.  I know she will be missed and it will take time for the hurt for those remaining to not sting so bad."

This tribute was added by Audrey Naef on 10th February 2014

"My thoughts  go to Carmel  often as I think of Thea's  Family and Friends--how her life touched all of us  in a special way and how much she'll be missed.  My  love and Sympathy to all."

This tribute was added by Vanessa Nudd on 10th February 2014

"Thea was a best friend to my friend Amy since they were in the 8th grade.  The few times I had the pleasure of hanging out with her, I could tell she was a genuine friend.  I remember her helping Amy move from her Mountain View house and she never sat down to rest, she never complained, she just worked and worked until it was done.  We also watched fireworks together on the roof of her and John's house, which was a 4th of July I'll never forget.  She was strong and gentle at the same time, with a sweet, caring heart.  She will be missed but always remembered by all who were lucky to have known her."

This tribute was added by shelly buller on 10th February 2014

"Thea, you were always a bright light whenever you I was in your presence. I am so glad I got to know you through Amy. You will be missed but we know you aren't far from us."

This tribute was added by Nancy Rifenbark on 10th February 2014

"I met Thea through my niece Amy.  Every infrequent time I met up with Thea...I always went away thinking what a beautiful, gracious person.  I know she was very special to Amy and my sister, Connie and will be missed greatly."

This tribute was added by Connie Ockert on 10th February 2014

"Thea was like a daughter to me.  A special friend who grew up with my daughter, Amy.  She was always there for me and never hesitated to help. Four years ago, I called on her to help with a store function and she never left until 3 years later when diagnosed.  Her smile, her caring and her love will never be forgotten.  We will miss you so much, it breaks our hearts.  To John, who has been so wonderful, you will always be family."

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