- 67 years old
- Date of birth: Dec 31, 1946
- Place of birth:
Astoria, New York, United States
- Date of passing: Mar 18, 2014
- Place of passing:
Lake Worth, Florida, United States
|Joanne was that special person who enters our lives and never leaves us ....... even after she's gone.|
This memorial website was created in memory of an angel, Joanne Tessar, 67, born on December 31, 1946 and passed away on March 18, 2014. We will remember her compassion, kindness, and never ending love forever.
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tell a little story of your own about Joanne on the story page: Joanne’s Stories
Next week, on Thursday, May 19th, I am having surgery on my neck. Just like you had when you were with us. Discs will be removed, bone put in its place, and then a metal piece with screws will keep it all together. Joanne, I remember your surgery for the exact thing. I wish you were at my bedside holding my hand and telling me everything will be okay. I know it will turn out fine and that it is in the Heavenly Father's hands, and that is where it belongs. I will think of you and secretly hold your hand like we did so many times hiding behind the curtain when we were so little. I know you will be there in spirit and that in some way I will feel your presence. I offer my pain, discomfort, and fears for you that you are happily living in Our Father's mansion and that your adjoining room waits for my presence. I miss you so much that it hurts badly and the fear of living without you comes to me daily. But, with you and the Heavenly Father looking over me, I can only rejoice in that glory. Don't forget, next Thursday! Be there or be square! I love you dearly. Judy"
"HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MOM!
Today was a great family day. We tried to bring Shelby breakfast in bed the way I always did for you and it worked out about the same as it always has. Haily carried the tray with fruit, toast with peanut butter, flowers, and a glass of water while Sidney carried TWO bouquets of flowers. I played some touching Mother's day music on my phone while we entered the room so gracefully.
Unfortunately, just steps from the bed, Haily spazzed out and the tray went flying! Peanut butter toast stuck to the brand new carpet while blueberries & raspberries sprang loose and rolled wildly. Water and flowers spilled through the air as Haily fell to the floor trying to stop the catastrophe but flailing arms and high pitch screens don't often prevent disaster.
We all laughed so hard that tiers ran down our cheeks. I can just hear you laughing as I tell you of our mishaps Mom. I love that laugh. I even stopped at Dunkin Donuts for a coffee and thought of you the whole time. I felt you with me today and that made it so very special.
I hope today was special for you watching all the family love and joy you helped to create.
I love you Mom... Thiiiiiiis much.
"My dear, sweet Joanne,
Two years ago, my heart was broken so badly that I did not want to go on, I just wanted to be with you. That has not changed. What has changed is my heart is being mended by and through Jesus and I am learning how to put my faith and trust in Him. I had a special Mass said for you today and I was happy to offer myself and my love for your happiness. I know you are with our Heavenly Father and His love is all around you. I will know that love when I join you, in the Father's time and not mine. My Angel Girl got so sick and had to be put down in January. It was so painful. Last week my Spirit Boy could not go on suffering from bladder cancer, so he was put down on Monday. Then, most shockingly, Sheba got severe diabetes and had to be put down on Wednesday, two days later. I just picked up their ashes last night. I really had such a painful time accepting those loses. But, again, I am accepting God's will for me and trying to make the best of my sadness. Lots have happened over the past two years and I will tell you all about when I join you. I've been in touch with your boys and your husband and they are doing okay as well. Of course, they miss you greatly. But, your little Nemo is now back in your arms and I am happy for him and for you. Pray for me my sweetheart, you know how difficult life can be. I am doing my part as God would want me. I am not nearly perfect, but I try hard. I love you Joanne and every single day and every single night, I look for you in the heavens. Sometimes, I think I see signs of you there and my heart is filled with joy. If you can, like you promised, please show yourself in the farthest star so that I know it is you looking over me. A kiss for now and a goodbye for a short time. God will take me home soon, I pray, and I will see you again. I will see Diana, whom my heart breaks for, and Mary Ellen who owes me a Dunkin Donut visit. Tell them and yourself, I love all of you. Hugs, Kisses, and lots of love my sister. My heart is with you."
"Today... It's been 2 years that you've been watching over me from Heaven Mom. I hope you are proud of what I have done. I continue to live my life based on your lessons of love.
Giving up your identity to become "Mom" was your amazing sacrifice to Jeff and me. The way I carry myself as a man, raise 5 loving kids, treat other people, and show respect is my enduring tribute to you.
It's been 2 years since I've seen you with my eyes or touched you with my hands but I feel you in my heart every day. THANKS MOM.... I hope I make you proud, I love you. ~Jackey"
"Hey Baby, Bootsy, I left you a long message on this site's FB page, because when I wrote it, this site was 'down'. I wrote it on our birthday, New Year's Eve. Just want you to know that despite the deepest pain I have ever known after you were gone, I did do better this year than last. I lit a candle for you and put a lit sister angle next to your picture. I cried like a baby, Joey, but my pain is ok because I sacrifice it for you, that you are safely in the arms of our Heavenly Father and no one will ever hurt you again and you will never be in pain again. I live now for Joanna and Jeanna. Yet, I patiently wait for God to call me so that we are together again. The pain of your loss is more horrific than the worst pain I have ever experienced. I know that no one could possibly understand that pain, but you understand. I still see you every morning and throughout the day, I still hear you speak, and I still feel your breath upon my face. I still sit with your ashes in my hand and pray that it won't be too long before we are one again. As you did on earth, pray also for me in Heaven. Ask Jesus for adjoining rooms and wait at the gate when God comes for me. Kiss Diana and Mary Ellen and tell them I constantly feel their absence. Go to the Rainbow Bridge and let Zeus, Zoe, Boo-Boo, and Angel Girl know that I miss them in all the places where they used to play and jump and sleep. My heart is filled with grief, yet I go on as if I am happy, still serving my Heavenly Father with the deeds I do on His behalf. I am spreading the word, Joanne, mostly through my actions...Jesus said, "Don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing." So, I tell no one except you that I serve my God in most all that I do. I hope the both of you are proud of me! Merry Christmas, Happy Birthday, and Happy New Year. My heart and my love always my sweet. Bonesy (Judy)"
"Happy Mother's Day Mom.
Thanks for being the greatest Mom ever! Can't sleep thinking about you... I miss you and I love you so much. ~Jackey"
"I miss you so much <3 however I know you are here with me. Right when I walked into work my first day I saw a section of just giraffes. & I knew right away you were watching over me. In honor of you today I'm wearing my shirt that says I wear pink for my aunt. I love you so so so much <3 you will always be in my heart"
"Dear Joanne (bootsey) this is my 4th attempt to leave a message on this day, the one year anniversary of your passing, I want to tell you that I yearn to touch your face, to kiss your cheek, to hold your hand to assure you that I am nearby, and to squeeze both your hands so you know that I will always protect you, This past year had me in constant tears, feeling that the largest part of my being was taken away, and that it would be impossible to live without you. With the loss of Mary Ellen and then Diana right after losing you, there was nothing left to help me through the most painful year of my life. In between these most painful losses, I was dealing with the trials and sadness and sickness of Jeanna. My friend, JC, who has helped me immerse myself in Jesus and continues to remind me of the obligations for which God created me. I will do that my sweetness and, in time, when my work here is done, I will be taken by the hand of Our Father, The Father of all, to meet you at the gate where we can enjoy God's love and kindness at HIs Banquet Table. I yearn for that day, as a child years for Christmas morning, You are the piece of me that I have lost and to whom I want to be reunited, I can only pray that the voice of Jesus calls for me soon. Oh Lord, how much I miss my other half! I love you Joanne, Love Judy, your bonesy!!"
"Aunt Joanne it has been a year since I received news that you had went home to dance in heaven. I don't know how we are picked to go home but I do know it seems that God picks the best and strongest people first. I wish so dearly that I could have one last talk with you or one final smile or hug. I wish I could hear you say that you love me one more time. I wish I had spent more time with you in the past 5 years. I hope you know how much you are loved and missed. Balloons will be sent up every year so you can get all my yearly messages to you that I wish I could tell you. I love you Aunt Joanne. Xoxo"
"I miss you Mom.
My Mom passed a year ago today. A life without your Mom is different. I remember Mother’s day at Dunkin Donuts, Thanksgiving with her favorite big turkey leg, Christmas with special gifts for everyone (her favorite day of the year!), and my birthday parties.
All of life’s special days are different without my Mom but all of her love and life lessons remain. They remain in the way I carry myself as a man, a husband, a father, a son, in everything I do, and the way I treat everyone I know. I am the man I am today because of my Mom…
I love you with all my heart Mom."
"Hi my sweet bootsy, Joanne,
Thank you my dear sister for ''dancing" in the heavens. I sat at the memorial I made for you in my backyard. I looked to the heavens and saw the star you promised me would identify you. I looked at it, still and bright there in the heavens, and then when I asked you to dance so I would know it was you, you danced! When I took Joanna and Jeanna outside to see it, they looked up at asked me, "That one Mommy?" I said yes, and that I would ask you to dance for them. And, again, you danced and we three cried to know that you heard us. I look every night since you are gone. And every night you dance for me as soon as I ask you. I am having a hard time my sweet trying to live without you. I am so horribly empty and sad. I want to be with you and I am asking God to take me home. When He does, please meet me at the gate so that I can enter it with you at my side. I can't stop crying Joanne and I am empty without you. Please tell God to come for me, I am ready right now to join you. I love you and miss you. Bonesy (Judy)"
"Happy belated birthday & happy new year aunt Joanne <3 I keep thinking of you and our sleep over with mommy. I have to say that has to be one of my best memories I have with you. I learned so much about you in just those two days. I miss you so much. I still have a hard time believing you're gone. The 3 of us are doing a walk and we all got shirts with your name on it. We're going to wear it in honor of you. So I'm going to get in shape so I can walk without feeling so tired :) The break is almost over and I go back to school. I've been having bad anxiety about it. So maybe you can light a candle in heaven for me like you used to do. I love you sooooooooo soooooooooo much aunt Joanne. Xoxoxo :*"
"Happy birthday Mayma Tessar! I miss you so much and I can't wait till one day we get to see each other again in heaven! Since you have passed I have thought of you and missed you so much and have tried to become selfless and caring just like you are. You made such an impact on the hearts of my family and I. We love you so dearly! Happy birthday Mayma, I hope you have the greatest day celebrating with our Savior up there. I love you!"
"John please call me, I am so sad to hear about Darling Joanne, I had no contact number for you after you moved! Please call or email if you can. You left a legacy of integrity, forgiveness, compassion and Love To all who truly knew you Joanne!"
"It is with great sadness and a feeling of loss that I found out Dear Joanne had passed! She was the sweetest and most loving person who held no bitterness and was so open to Love and Caring! A truly spiritual person! Love you Joanne, May your Dear Soul be at peace!
My condolences to her loving family!"
"Joanne and Judy, the Pelio Twins, as they were known at All Saints, were two of my closest friends all through High School. What fun we all had - happy memories. My sympathy and prayers go out to her family and especially to you, Judy. God Bless you all.
"Aunt Joanne, you are so greatly missed. You are a hero to so many and especially to me. You have taught me to fight and that is what I will continue to do. You weren't just an aunt to me but you were like a mom to me .You gave us so much love and I will cherish that love forever. Thank you for being such a big part in my life. You are so important to mommy and that is why I am named after you. I will never forget you, I'll see you when I see a twinkling star or when I see a giraffe. The memories of you going to Disney with us, the treasure box, crashing into shelves at target, and talking late at night on mommys patio will never be forgotten. My heart hurts to know you aren't with us anymore but I am happy you are with God looking over us. It's not goodbye it's I'll see you again my loving aunt. I love you always & forever."
"I will never forget you, my "forever friend" -- the best friend anyone could ever have! Joanne, my heart, like so many others', is broken. You were so kind, generous, sweet, loving, caring, fun, and beautiful -- it will be a wonderful reunion one day, to see you in heaven! Until then, my dear friend, please say a prayer for me and watch over us all.
I love you, Joanne, Judy E."
"Looking back through all the years I've known you, my heart fills with immense love. I have learned the true meaning of love and compassion through you. You are a person of true character; one who exhibited strength and offered words of wisdom when needed. You always found the courage and strength to move forward even in the most challenging times. You were a fighter. Your strength was immeasurable here in the physical world and now I'm sure you are lending your kindness and love towards all in heaven. I love you more than words can say. I will feel forever blessed that my children and I had you in our lives. You are an angel and I'm sure you will make your presence known. You will never, ever be forgotten. You will live through everyone that loves you. With all of my love....Andrea"
"I only knew Joanna for a short period of time, but in that time she was wonderful, kind and very giving to me. By reading the other responses I can see she was very much loved and will always be remembered. God keeps people like Joanna close, and I am sure she is in the right hand of god now. My prayers are with her and her family."
"Even though I never knew you but I myself a breast cancer warrior have a special place in my heart for my pink sister. I will continue the fight and fight for a cure for all of those who left way to soon. May you find comfort knowing there was a stranger who thought of you often these past few days. Angie Smith-Dail - co-owner INKtastic in Ohio."
"I remember back to our days at All Saints and the great and fun times we had. God's blessing on you and my sympathies to Judy and all of your family."
"Me, My Twin, and I
Shared by Judy Pelio on 03/19/2014
Now that Jesus has taken you to Himself, provided you with a room in His Kingdom, and invited you to His Banquet Table, I will forever strive to join you. I am a half of twin now and I no longer feel part of this world without you in it. Prepare a room for me my sweet sister and make certain that the room is next to yours. It is only one day since you passed and already I am struggling to survive in your absence. I just wonder if it is possible to live without you. My heart is so broken and my dreams are no longer important. I am screaming out your name and I yearn to feel the warmth of your sweet face. My grief is inconsolable and I want to call you to tell you how sad I am. I want to know that you are safe and happy and free of all pain. I want to see you smile and hear you laugh and watch you enjoy yourself.
I know that your body is being prepared for your wake and that in a few days I will look at a shell that once resembled me, I will look at a face that had the identical features of mine, and I will look at your body that was worn down to half the weight it once was by the cancer that overtook it. I will be overtaken with the physical pain of our separation and the emotional consequences of losing my twin. And, I will know that only an identical twin will understand my pain. You, Joanne, understand my pain and I will cry out to you to ask Jesus to take me home so that we can be together again. So that we can be Twinnies again and save each other from the pain and fear of those long ago memories that almost took our lives. No one will ever understand that part of our lives when we protected and saved each other from the injustices that we experienced. Thank you my Joanne for saving my life, for easing my fears, and for trying to take away my pain. Please help me now because I am having so much trouble breathing and my heart is overcome with grief. My pain is overwhelming because half of me is gone and I will not get it back until we are reunited in the Kingdom of God.
I will never, ever forget anything about you. Your loving nature and your desire to ‘fix’ all the broken hearts in the world. Your lit candles, which asked for the mercy of God for all those people in pain. Your kind words of encouragement and stoic nature to keep on keeping on until everyone’s pain was gone. You were so much kinder to everyone than you ever were to yourself. I want you to know “that you’re my hero, you’re everything that I wanted to be, and I will fly higher than an eagle, because YOU were the wind beneath my wings.” Goodbye my love and I will join you when God calls me home. Love you forever, Judy"
"My aunt Joanne was an amazing woman. I will miss her so much but I can feel her spirit present with me now, and it is strong; just the way it was on the physical earth. I remember as a child aunt Joanne being there for me when the scary circus came to town and my mother and my sister wanting to go. The idea of clowns had me so afraid, so aunt joanne let me sleep at her house so joanna and my mommy could go. I remember her letting me wear her panther jersey, and sleeping in awe of her lovely room. Everything about her was so special and she will always be remembered that way. I love you so much aunt Joanne. You're forever in our hearts."
"Joanne - this world is just a little less bright without you in it.. what a loving amazing mother, sister & friend you were to so many.. The love and kindness you showed to me and the kids was an example to all of us on unconditional love and acceptance. I am honored to have known you and to have shared a portion of my life with you.. What a wonderful legacy you have left..... I know you are with God preparing a place for your loved ones when it is time for them to join you.. God bless you Joanne.. "Trista" Michael & Nicole"
"Strong and beautiful are the two words that instantly come to my mind when I think of you Mayma, the years I was able to spend with you will never be long enough but every moment I did get to was so special because of your loving kindness and sweet heart. I will never know someone as compassionate and genuine as you. Love and miss you."
"I lost the most trusting and most respectable person in my life. Some of the moments we shared are the highlights of my life. I remember when I was little and every time I took a visit to your house I was excited. When I started going to F.S.D.B. in the fourth grade I was sad that I was not going home and you were the one person I could talk to. You know how you used to call me your champion well forever and always your my champion. Love you grandma."
"You were the best grandma I could have ever asked for. You were the light of my life. The last time that I got to see you when you were healthy was at Christmas time and you still looked beautiful. I love you forever. Your grandson Brad."
"Joanne. The little time we had together was wonderful! You were a wonderful friend! Always there at a moments notice if I needed a helping hand! Will remember and love you always! Peggy Batchelor"
"Today, I lost my mother in law. Words cannot express how much I will miss her. Joanne was an angel sent from above and I am honored to have had her in my life. I Love you with all my heart Joanne. Now heaven has you and how lucky everyone is up there.
Shelby Arnold Tessar"
"No matter how old I am, I will always be your little Jackey. Losing you Mom, is the deepest sadness my heart has ever known but your caring nature, endless encouragement and sweet compassion has left a permanent mark on my character. I am blessed because of your legacy of love that remains with me forever. I love you Mom... Goodbye."
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