ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Alade Ayokalu -Aje. We will remember him forever.
Posted by Akin Asojo on April 17, 2021
My first close association with Baba George was in 1950 when I moved from Emure to St Andrew's School Owo to complete the Standard 5 and 6 classes in the school which he also was attending. For the two years he was my big brother and mentor.
His mother Mama Oseputu a maternal relation was the pillar and support of my mother of whom I am the only surviving child. She cared for her until she passed away and the family was actively involved in her burial in 1972.
I was accepted as a biological member of the family. This continued in the Okejimala house on my return from UK and assumed duty in University of Ibadan in1966. Baba George's senior wife of blessed memory Auntie Eunice I must mention is a paternal close relation. She too contributed in no little way. Preparation for and wedding ceremony in 1968 took place in Okejimala house. Baba George continued to be my mentor.
Apart from his kindness and generosity, he was hardworking and meticulous. No wonder God blessed and will continue with the showering of abundant blessings on the family, the children, grandchildren and great grandchildren he left behind.
May his soul continue with resting in perfect peace. Amen.
Posted by TAIWO OTEKALU-AJE on April 15, 2021
Thank you for your service to all us in the family.

You were known for integrity and selflessness.

We can largely credit you with most of the good attributes in our lives, achieved by your teachings and steadfastness (though your approach, to instill the good qualities in us, seemed too harsh to us as at that time, but we later realised the reasons for that, with the benefits we are all enjoying today).

You created a good foundation for the future generation in the family, by the way you had shaped the present generation.

According to Ecl. 3: 1-22, as stated below:
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up...”
we all knew you would die, since everyone is bound to die, but it was our desire for you to still continue to live.

I`m honoured to have been born by you and be called your son.

I will sorely miss him.

Rest in peace my Dad
Posted by Dr. Bisi Ogunbodede on April 15, 2021
As a student of Psychology and a teacher, I am always interested in the answers to why a human being is the way he/she is or was. One of the interesting things that might explain a person is what Psychology/Sociology refers to as “Birth Order.” My study of birth order and its characteristics gave me insight into how blessed we are to have Pa George Alade Ayokalu-Aje as our first born.
Some “Characteristics of Firstborn Children” I admired in my brother/daddy included the following:
Reliable: Daddy’s words were his bonds; he led by example and always let you know that he valued sincerity, integrity, loyalty, and honesty.

Conscientious: Daddy was careful and diligent with strong desires to not only doing tasks well, but also taking obligations to self and others seriously. He was trusted by many family members and friends residing outside Owo; he helped them built their houses in Owo without any financial gain attached.

Cautious & Structured: Daddy was very discreet, prudent, and always exhibited higher degree of wisdom in his dealings and interactions. He was reserved but guarded by defined principles that served as values/ characteristics many of us who were blessed to be raised by him later appreciated. He’s very introspective and wanted others to learn from his mistakes; he once told one of his sons not to have many children- - mind you, that’s after his second. We later laughed about the comment during one of our phone conversations, but at the end he still wanted me to know that he was serious about his sons not having more than one wife and being cautious of how many children they have. He wanted us to have and enjoy dignified lives.

Have Parents’ Attention & Give Parents Attention: Daddy was raised by strong and loving parents. He, in turn, took great care of not only our parents till the end, but also his siblings and relatives.

The Drive to Achieve & Excel at Everything: Daddy had a Type A personality; he was a diligent and trustworthy employee and employer. He led by example and taught us all that good name, honor, dignity and humility create a better and healthy livelihood.

Controlling (Sometimes seen as bossy): I know some of us who were raised and led by Daddy sometimes felt he was strict and authoritative, but after being on my own and became a parent, I personally appreciated his leadership and approach to life. He taught us to be bold, truthful, achieve, and be our best. His life taught us to do our very best as employees, employers, parents, friends........,,,,etc.

Daddy, thank you for being my oldest brother, but most importantly, I thank you for allowing God to use you to fill-in the fatherly roles when our father was too old to do so. You took on being our daddy while Baba was still with us; you took care of our parents and everybody without complaining or boasting. You were awesome, and I am grateful to God for granting us the opportunity to care for you when the time arose. I missed our frequent phone conversations— especially since my retirement. I thank The Lord for you always. As you always said in every situation, “A dupe lowo Olorun.” You are missed daily, but your memory gives me joy and pride to be known as one of your siblings/ children. You were AWESOME!! Even in your imperfections, we still learnt and looked up to you!!! Keep watching us making you proud Daddy; God loves you and so do we all. Rest in perfect Peace Daddy!!!!
Posted by Aje Ayodeji Abayomi on April 12, 2021
*PLEASE KEEP CORRECTING*

Please read this carefully and get your son or daughter to read it too.
This post is about what happened in a typical middle-class household.

The son didn’t like living in his father’s house. This was because of his father’s constant "corrections"
“You are leaving the room without switching off the fan”
“The TV is on in the room where there is no one. Switch it off!”
“Keep the pen in the stand; it is fallen down”

The son didn’t like his father correcting him for these minor things.
He had to tolerate these things till yesterday since he was with them in the same house.

But today, however, he had an invitation for a job interview.
“As soon as I get the job, I should leave this town. There won’t be any frequent corrections from my father” were his thoughts.

As he was about to leave for the interview, the father advised:
“Answer the questions put to you without any hesitation. Even if you don’t know the answer, mention that confidently.” He gave him more money than he actually needed to attend the interview.

The son arrived at the interview centre.
He noticed that there were no security guards at the gate. Evenr though the door was open, the latch was protruding out probably hitting the people entering through the door. He put the latch back properly, closed the door and entered the office.

On both sides of the pathway he could see beautiful flower plants. The gardener had kept the water running in the hose-pipe and was not to be seen anywhere. The water was overflowing on the pathway. He lifted the hosepipe and placed it near one of the plants and went further.

There was no one in the reception area. However, there was a notice saying that the interview was on the first floor. He slowly climbed the stairs.

The light that was switched on last night was still burning at 10 am in the morning. He remembered his father’s admonition, “Why are you leaving the room without switching off the light?” and thought he could still hear that now. Even though he felt irritated by that thought, he sought the switch and switched off the light.

Upstairs in a large hall he could see many aspirants sitting waiting for their turn. He looked at the number of people and wondered if he had any chance of getting the job.

He entered the hall with some trepidation and stepped on the “Welcome” mat placed near the door. He noticed that the mat was upside down. He straightened out the mat with some irritation. Habits die hard.

He saw that in a few rows in the front there were many people waiting for their turn, whereas the back rows were empty, but a number of fans were running over those rows of seats. He heard his father’s voice again, “Why are the fans running in the room where there is no one?” He switched off the fans that were not needed and sat at one of the empty chairs.
He could see many men entering the interview room and immediately leave from another door. There was thus no way anyone could guess what was being asked in the interview.

When it was his turn, He went and stood before the interviewer with some trepidation and concern.

The officer took the certificates from him and without looking at them asked, “When can you start work?”

He thought ,”is this a trick question being asked in the interview, or is this a signal that I have been offered the job?” He was confused.

“What are you thinking?” asked the boss. “We didn’t ask anyone any question here. By asking a few questions we won’t be able to assess the skills of anyone. So our test was to assess the attitude of the person. We kept certain tests based on the behaviour of the candidates and we observed everyone through CCTV. No one who came today did anything to set right the latch at the door, the hose pipe, the welcome mat, the uselessly running fans or lights. You were the only one who did that. That’s why we have decided to select you for the job”, said the boss.

He always used to get irritated at his father’s discipline and demonstrations. Now he realized that it is only the discipline that has got him his job. His irritation and anger at his father vanished completely.
He decided that he would bring his father too to his workplace and left for home happily.

If you are a parent, keep on talking to your children about what is right despite their frowns. They will thank you later.

If you are teacher, kindly remember that you could be the only father's voice that boy or girl hears, so don't withold it from them. As Pastors too, don't keep quiet. Talk to your members about things they are doing wrongly and shape their unconscious world for the life ahead.

It is not in vain, *let's keep on keeping on!*
   *Happy days ahead
Posted by Aje Ayodeji Abayomi on April 12, 2021
It took me time to understand that he was trying to bring out diamond from the crust and gold from the dust
You can never be around him and remain a fool
His Honesty Hardwork Integrity Sincerity Pursuits can never be over emphasized
He doesn't go with pettiness
Straight forward
Always been there for countless people
If I say I still want him around I have reasons, his wealth of experience and vast knowledge is soooooooo deep that I have not tapped enough but the little I have drawn from him can help me through life.
While growing up I've never seen you commend anyone no matter how tedious the job was but I later realized that you wanted us to be the best and not settle for less
You were always ahead in planning your life and even at old age you lacked nothing
I thank God that you submitted everything to God
Your old age taught me that life is full of vanities
At Old age your milk of kindness never stopped flowing
No one can match your legendary achievements Baba
You hardly laugh or smile but when you do I know they're sincere smiles and laughter
You that nobody dare look at your face in our formative years but age bonded us after I've reorganized myself and aligned to who and what you wish I become; an honest serious and hard-working man
You detest laziness and always ask for accountability from everyone around you.

It's good you have gone to rest till we all meet again
Posted by Olaniyi Aje on April 12, 2021
And the tears kept streaming down your face when you loose an exceptional person. He was the most sincere and honest person I have ever known. He had no attachment to material things. Instead, he devoted his life helping others without expecting anything in return.

We are doing our best to remain grateful knowing how much our father sacrificed to help others outside his family. We learned from him that greatness of a man should not be measured by the amount of wealth acquired. He refused to become a millionaire for obvious reasons.

He was a great pillar for the Ojumu family, and they adored him. He was my close king and my hero in so many ways. He confided in me when I was a little teenager. He challenged me by giving me , and my siblings daily responsibilities that shaped my life. His advice had a profound impact in me, and will continue to resonate. He had a unique way of encouraging families, and others around him. His word was his bond and we all knew it.
How will I say goodbye to someone like him? No wonder It was really hard for me reply him when he said to me on the phone "odigba". Your memory will continue to speak volumes just like your presence. I am proud to call you my father.

Thank you
Olaniyi Aje


Posted by Olayinka Akinpelu on April 7, 2021
Dear Dad.
Words cannot express how much you would be missed.
Thank you for instilling hard working ethics, kindness and humbleness in all of us.
You were an exemplary figure to the whole family and the community at large. It is a tough job to fill your shoes since you made it look so easy to do. Hopefully we can all learn from it.
I am going to miss our short but frequent conversations especially the calls I normally make on my drive to work.
You would be missed terribly but happy that you are resting peacefully in the Bosom of Our Lord.
Thank you Dad!
Love you! Sun re o Bami.
Your loving daughter
Yinka

Posted by Femi Alade on April 4, 2021
We, the entire family of Ayokalu-Aje, wishes to express our heartfelt appreciation to the entire Ojumu family, Owo community, all relatives, friends, colleagues, all well-wishers, and others, for honoring us with presence and for your amazing contributions towards the burial of our beloved brother, father, grandfather, great-grandfather, uncle, nephew.

Thank you all.

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Posted by Akin Asojo on April 17, 2021
My first close association with Baba George was in 1950 when I moved from Emure to St Andrew's School Owo to complete the Standard 5 and 6 classes in the school which he also was attending. For the two years he was my big brother and mentor.
His mother Mama Oseputu a maternal relation was the pillar and support of my mother of whom I am the only surviving child. She cared for her until she passed away and the family was actively involved in her burial in 1972.
I was accepted as a biological member of the family. This continued in the Okejimala house on my return from UK and assumed duty in University of Ibadan in1966. Baba George's senior wife of blessed memory Auntie Eunice I must mention is a paternal close relation. She too contributed in no little way. Preparation for and wedding ceremony in 1968 took place in Okejimala house. Baba George continued to be my mentor.
Apart from his kindness and generosity, he was hardworking and meticulous. No wonder God blessed and will continue with the showering of abundant blessings on the family, the children, grandchildren and great grandchildren he left behind.
May his soul continue with resting in perfect peace. Amen.
Posted by TAIWO OTEKALU-AJE on April 15, 2021
Thank you for your service to all us in the family.

You were known for integrity and selflessness.

We can largely credit you with most of the good attributes in our lives, achieved by your teachings and steadfastness (though your approach, to instill the good qualities in us, seemed too harsh to us as at that time, but we later realised the reasons for that, with the benefits we are all enjoying today).

You created a good foundation for the future generation in the family, by the way you had shaped the present generation.

According to Ecl. 3: 1-22, as stated below:
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up...”
we all knew you would die, since everyone is bound to die, but it was our desire for you to still continue to live.

I`m honoured to have been born by you and be called your son.

I will sorely miss him.

Rest in peace my Dad
Posted by Dr. Bisi Ogunbodede on April 15, 2021
As a student of Psychology and a teacher, I am always interested in the answers to why a human being is the way he/she is or was. One of the interesting things that might explain a person is what Psychology/Sociology refers to as “Birth Order.” My study of birth order and its characteristics gave me insight into how blessed we are to have Pa George Alade Ayokalu-Aje as our first born.
Some “Characteristics of Firstborn Children” I admired in my brother/daddy included the following:
Reliable: Daddy’s words were his bonds; he led by example and always let you know that he valued sincerity, integrity, loyalty, and honesty.

Conscientious: Daddy was careful and diligent with strong desires to not only doing tasks well, but also taking obligations to self and others seriously. He was trusted by many family members and friends residing outside Owo; he helped them built their houses in Owo without any financial gain attached.

Cautious & Structured: Daddy was very discreet, prudent, and always exhibited higher degree of wisdom in his dealings and interactions. He was reserved but guarded by defined principles that served as values/ characteristics many of us who were blessed to be raised by him later appreciated. He’s very introspective and wanted others to learn from his mistakes; he once told one of his sons not to have many children- - mind you, that’s after his second. We later laughed about the comment during one of our phone conversations, but at the end he still wanted me to know that he was serious about his sons not having more than one wife and being cautious of how many children they have. He wanted us to have and enjoy dignified lives.

Have Parents’ Attention & Give Parents Attention: Daddy was raised by strong and loving parents. He, in turn, took great care of not only our parents till the end, but also his siblings and relatives.

The Drive to Achieve & Excel at Everything: Daddy had a Type A personality; he was a diligent and trustworthy employee and employer. He led by example and taught us all that good name, honor, dignity and humility create a better and healthy livelihood.

Controlling (Sometimes seen as bossy): I know some of us who were raised and led by Daddy sometimes felt he was strict and authoritative, but after being on my own and became a parent, I personally appreciated his leadership and approach to life. He taught us to be bold, truthful, achieve, and be our best. His life taught us to do our very best as employees, employers, parents, friends........,,,,etc.

Daddy, thank you for being my oldest brother, but most importantly, I thank you for allowing God to use you to fill-in the fatherly roles when our father was too old to do so. You took on being our daddy while Baba was still with us; you took care of our parents and everybody without complaining or boasting. You were awesome, and I am grateful to God for granting us the opportunity to care for you when the time arose. I missed our frequent phone conversations— especially since my retirement. I thank The Lord for you always. As you always said in every situation, “A dupe lowo Olorun.” You are missed daily, but your memory gives me joy and pride to be known as one of your siblings/ children. You were AWESOME!! Even in your imperfections, we still learnt and looked up to you!!! Keep watching us making you proud Daddy; God loves you and so do we all. Rest in perfect Peace Daddy!!!!
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Shared by Iyalaje Fama on April 11, 2021
My first and only call in decades after l was directed to call him by cousin iye mi lge Oladuja on my research of mama USIADERUN oma Odogho Elewu-okun was refreshing and rewarding as baba remiscenced "lye wa ila," his exact term and as if for authenciticy, he told me he was the current olori ebi of Uli iba iye wa ila ne.  I loved his inclusive "Iye wa ila" term.
I was not able to talk with him afterwards because of logistics as that first call was through my ex with whom my communication was/is sporadic.
In retrospect, l am glad, l had that interview with him which was totally a different perspective from childhood memories; he was sweet on that short interview. 
May he rest peacefully with the ancestors in particular "lye wa ila Usiade and ojo re, iba wa ila Ogunrenbokun Ogunnuyi Olijin, Emure Uli. Ase!  Much love to him in his new ancestral abode.
Aina Adewali-Ogunrenbokun Ogunnuyi Olijin.