8/21/22
August 22, 2022
by Tram Kibara
just another 'normal' day of the year - no occasion or anything special. we were just having breakfast when T. said she wanted to go see daddy. Since we were talking about other daddies, we asked which daddy did she mean. she said "daddy Alex".
so we went to the garden, picked up some sunflowers and went to 'see' daddy. E. always loves to place flowers in the vase for daddy. he asked, again, if we can dig up the dirt so we can see daddy since mommy told him that daddy's no-longer-working-body is down there. he'd ask a few more times. he'd say that daddy is playing hide and seek and we should go find him.
mommy had to remind him that daddy died, that he can't come back anymore, his body doesn't work, and he can't come...
he wasn't having it this time. he continued to say that he wanted daddy to be here and just started crying and aching for his daddy. it was the longest 30' of a parent's life. the feeling of helplessness and wondering if there is any purpose or reason for this like people like to say.
he's 4.5 years old now. he was 2 when daddy passed. most of the memories are really stories told by mommy but mommy can be wrong. children do indeed remember beyond the capacity to recall them memories vividly.
just another day in the moving-forward-in-grief journey,
so we went to the garden, picked up some sunflowers and went to 'see' daddy. E. always loves to place flowers in the vase for daddy. he asked, again, if we can dig up the dirt so we can see daddy since mommy told him that daddy's no-longer-working-body is down there. he'd ask a few more times. he'd say that daddy is playing hide and seek and we should go find him.
mommy had to remind him that daddy died, that he can't come back anymore, his body doesn't work, and he can't come...
he wasn't having it this time. he continued to say that he wanted daddy to be here and just started crying and aching for his daddy. it was the longest 30' of a parent's life. the feeling of helplessness and wondering if there is any purpose or reason for this like people like to say.
he's 4.5 years old now. he was 2 when daddy passed. most of the memories are really stories told by mommy but mommy can be wrong. children do indeed remember beyond the capacity to recall them memories vividly.
just another day in the moving-forward-in-grief journey,