ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Blair Gordon, born on October 29, 1949. He passed away on February 21, 2020. We will remember him forever.

On February 21, 2020 we lost a one-of-a-kind, deeply loved and special man.
In our collective shock and sadness, please know that Blair did not suffer and was strong and stoic in the face of a devastating diagnosis: pneumonia, heart and liver cancer. After checking himself into Glendale Memorial Hospital on February 7, he came to terms with his situation and was filled with acceptance ("I'm not scared"), gratitude and love for his many friends and family members.
He came home on February 15 and was given compassionate and comprehensive care in his room just feet away from a large picture window with a view of Griffith Observatory and his beloved Hollywood.

On the day of his passing, there was a series of events that must have been more than just a coincidence:
-he passed away on his cherished mother's birthday
-his nurse was named "Elizabeth," the name of his grandmother
-a beautiful hummingbird somehow got into his house, and hovered at his picture window. We released the bird to the outside (hummingbirds are considered symbols of: love, joy, beauty and goodness; some view them as spirit messengers or angels). This occurred one and a half hours before he died.

We were by his side, holding his hand, with soft music playing in the background ("Songbirds at Sunrise"). 

We hope that this gives you some comfort as it did us.

I think we all would agree that there is an amazing "spirit of Blair." Whatever that means to you, it is our hope that you will carry it forward to make your life better and improve the lives of others. Wouldn't that be wonderful?

For those who wish, contributions may be made in his memory to any of the following charitable organizations: Glendale Memorial Health Foundation, Project Angel Food, ALS Association, National Multiple Sclerosis Society, Innocence Project, Braille Institute.

We encourage you to read a letter in the photo gallery on this site that Blair wrote in 2011 prior to surgery. You will see that he felt like the "luckiest guy." 

And weren't we the luckiest to have known him!
Posted by Lyn La Cava Ulbricht on March 27, 2020
Over a month later I still have a hard time believing that my dear, treasured friend is no longer with us, that on my next trip to CA he won't be there. Having a world without Blair is hard to fathom. He leaves a big hole in my life and heart. If “one of a kind” applies to anyone, it's Blair. I am so thankful that I got to spend time with him over the holidays, when he was as vibrant and full of joy, humor and life as always.

Over the 53 years that Blair and I have been close friends I don't recall any time we were together that wasn't fun, funny and full of laughter. He always had such a perceptive and loving view of things. And he ALWAYS saw the positive side of whatever happened. My kids and I would laugh about how Uncle Blair's response, when he slipped and shattered his knee, was “I am so lucky!” (because he had insurance, etc.) Who does that?? Blair, that's who.

Blair and I had many phases through our long friendship, from college days to living together in Hollywood, to his unwavering support of me and my son through a huge crisis. He was the most loyal, generous and steadfast of friends and one of the finest human beings I could ever hope to know. He was always an inspiration to see the bright side, even in the face of extreme adversity. I always considered him family, and always will.

Blair, I still cry and shake my head in disbelief at my loss of you, but I am so grateful to have had you in my life and that your spirit is with us still.

I love you dearest Blair.
Posted by Colleen Ryan on March 20, 2020
I love the Motown memory. I have a vivid memory of staying at a hotel in Boston when I was looking at colleges when I was in high school and hearing that Diana Ross was staying at the same hotel. I rode the elevator for hours just on the off chance that I would see her. I never did get a glimpse, but I knew that I would never be able to look Blair in the eye if I wasn't able to at least say that I tried my best!
Posted by Ginger Janet Macleod on March 20, 2020
Motown memory:

Way back, before she was filling stadiums, you could see Diana Ross in small venues where she was close enough to touch. In the early 60s she was playing at Blinstrub’s in Boston and Aunt Janet bought us all tickets to see her. Our table butted right up to the stage. Blair proceeded to lay out album covers & fan pix right on the stage in front of our table. Sure enough, she came over and sang right to us—and I thought Blair’s cheeks were gonna break he was so excited. After the show, armed with Blair’s camera and tape recorder, he and I snuck backstage and hid under a table so we could sneek in to get an interview with Diana. Like Jim Lattin’s story, we weren’t able to talk to her but he did interview her hairdresser which excited him almost as much.

Blair was such a huge fan and dedicated follower that after numerous backstage adventures & fan(antic) devotions, Diana Ross would greet him by name. He always attributed his migration to Hollywood to his undying love for her—and he remained faithful to her for his lifetime.

God, I miss him. ♥️
Posted by Leigh LaCava on March 4, 2020
I have had the privilege to know Blair through my sister. When she would come visit me in Los Angeles, she always made a point to see him. Fortunately, that meant I would also see him when he came to my house to pick her up. He was always so happy and cheerful, a tremendous friend and support to my sister. His radiant smile and positive energy was an inspiration to us all. He will be greatly missed.
Posted by Terry Cooper on March 4, 2020
I first met Blair at a big party in his previous home on Murray Drive before Megan and I were married. It did not take more than a few minutes to realize that he was a very special person who loved life and enjoyed his circle of friends. Over more than 40 years of knowing and loving Blair those feelings about him have deepened. Blair's sunny optimism attracted those around him and drew them closer. The glass was always not just half full, but completely full. Blair's unique sense of humor always brought joy and good feelings to everyone in his company. At family birthday dinners or luncheons, he would bring funny hats, blowers, and trinkets. I remember with amused nostalgia Blair's windup toy phase when he would often put some toy bear doing somersaults, or maybe a pair of windup dentures out on the table to liven things up.
And there was a very private side of Blair. He treasured his time alone at home or just out on a solitary walk for miles somewhere in the city he loved. He was a complex person who ran much deeper in his mind and soul than many realized.
I will miss Blair for the rest of my life. He was the brother I never had and he loved me as I am in spite of myself . I always knew I could trust him with my life and all of the things I valued. He was seldom judgmental, but looked for the best in others. He spent time cultivating and tending to his relationships in a way that led to lifelong friendships that were at the center of his life.
Go with peace and love bro!
Posted by Cally Ulbricht on March 2, 2020
Dearest Blair,

Losing you is still such a sad shock. We will all miss your wonderful smile, your positivity, your wonderful outlook on life. I will always remember your fantastic, fun, creative birthday cards you sent my mom and what a wonderful friend and man you were. Thank you for everything, we love you!
Posted by Martha Thompson on February 28, 2020
I had the privilege of knowing Blair for the past 5 years as a fellow volunteer at Glendale Memorial Hospital. I looked forward to seeing him each week because he was so cheerful and always made me laugh. I was shocked and deeply saddened to hear he had passed. He was such a lovely man with a delightful energy. He will stay in my heart forever. My condolences to his family.
Posted by Megan Cooper on February 28, 2020
I cannot imagine a tighter brother-sister bond than Blair and I had. The pain of his loss for me is deep, but so also is the relief that his illness was not prolonged and he was not in pain. Wouldn't Blair have wanted us to see it that way?
When I think of Blair the first word that comes to mind is effervescent. Each time spent with him left me feeling more upbeat, joyful and more loved. As I attempt to describe Blair I keep coming up with superlatives: the most generous, the biggest heart, the best hugger, the most positive, the best brother-uncle-cousin-friend, etc., the funniest and the funnest, the quickest wit, and the best listener.
Blair was so other-directed that he absolutely reveled in hearing about all of us. He took such joy and pride in hearing about our day, our accomplishments, our thoughts and our interests.
And his contagious humor was present right up until his last week when the nurse and I broke into uproarious laughter over his hilarious comments. Blair loved to make me laugh, and I was his #1 fan.
I will try to pay forward much of what Blair gave to me, and his spirit certainly lives on in his loved ones.
Posted by Sylvia Phillips on February 27, 2020
Dear Blair,

Your smile said it all!! Therein lies the joyful energy force that you posessed that is like no other. You had a talent for always seeing the positive, breathing out the love, laughing with your entire being, and making us all feel special in your own amazing way!
Although many miles kept us apart, I could always feel your presence nearby. You were Uncle Blair to our girls and the dearest of friends to Jim and I. The only part of your journey that I regret is the missed opportunities to share more laughter in person and to feel your BIG hugs that always made us all feel so loved and appreciated!
I will miss you dear Blair, more than words can say, but your memory lives on forever and makes me smile ......and for that I will always be grateful!

Love you always and forever.....


Posted by Chelsea Stephan on February 25, 2020
As I sit here, heartbroken over the loss of my dearest Uncle Blair, listening to The Supremes playing in the background, I can picture Uncle Blair singing along, smiling, and laughing that contagious laugh of his. Uncle Blair was a truly special person, and I feel so lucky to have had 34 magical years with him. He was such an integral part of our family and it is impossible to imagine him no longer with us. Uncle Blair had a very rare combination of radiant energy, joy for life, the BEST sense of humor, inclusivity, humility, and a deep interest in others. He was totally authentically himself. Uncle Blair took such pleasure in social connection and relished times spent together. My inbox is filled with emails from Uncle Blair sent after various get togethers with subject lines like “WONDERFUL EVENING, “PERFECT DAY,” and “STILL AGLOW.” He knew how to make you feel special, because he truly believed you were. May Uncle Blair’s spirit, and his legacy of generosity, laughter, and gratitude, live on in all of us.
Posted by Ginger Janet Macleod on February 25, 2020
There are really no words and my attempts to find them have failed miserably. I am broken-hearted for all of us.
He was such a unique man. I have never met anyone quite so joyous at the simple prospect of life, in and of itself. He was one of the very few people able to look only at the positive, while able to truly empathize with others when the need arose. His ability to forgive the trespasses of others, as well as his own, and embrace the act of forgiveness in it’s entirety made him a rarity of magnificent proportions. The loss of him punches a huge hole in the fabric of this life and his absence will be sorely felt by all of us blessed enough to have had him in our lives.

In the words of my niece Megan Smith, “b’ess you B’air.” She was 3 or 4 y.o. and she was totally smitten by this tall, good looking man who had just carried her through the snow. Prince Charming, indeed.

I’ll be keeping my eye out for the hummingbird.
Posted by Robin McCarthy on February 25, 2020
Though I did not know you, I know your sister, who is delightful and loving, with a smile that can light up a room.
Simply knowing you came from a loving, caring family ensured you were a wonderful, giving brother. 
May the memories and laughter you brought to others comfort them, while God carries you home on the wings of angels.
Be blessed on your journey/
Posted by Kumiko Yamada-Yuge on February 24, 2020
Even though I have only known you for a short time, you left an everlasting memory. You will be dearly missed by all of us. Keep smiling Blair!
Posted by Colleen Ryan on February 24, 2020
This poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye has helped me on more than one occasion, so I thought I would share it.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn’s rain

When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there, I did not die

To my dear, dear friend of over 50 years - thank you.
Posted by Jane Cohen on February 24, 2020
Long time memories of Blair continue to make me smile, among the deep sadness of his loss. I am grateful for the loving role he played in my dear friend, Megan's life and the joy he brought to many. Our hearts are with his family and friends.
Posted by Gretchen Anderson on February 23, 2020
Blair's sense of humor will be with me forever.

Gretchen
Posted by Gretchen Anderson on February 23, 2020




Hi Blair,

I am delighted to receive your invitation and approve of the menu below:




MENU AT CHEZ BLAIR




APERITIFS: L'eau Chez Blair




HORS D' OEUVRES: Noix, Assortiment de Fromage,

                  Cingles




ENTRES: Saucisson sec, Saucissson au poivre, Plus de Fromage, Trop de Fromage




DESERTS: Les Chocolates, Biscotti, Merde- Plus de Fromage




What time should we appear on New Year's Day?

Love,

G.


So happy it meets with your approval! SLIGHT change though: My oven is out, so we'll have to move the party to YOUR place. And let's make it an all-night New Year's EVE party instead, so we can ring in the new decade together. Guests should arrive at Via Arbolada no later than 9:00 tomorrow night. I'll leave the menu for the 1/1/2020 New Year's Day brunheon up to you. CAN'T WAIT!


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Posted by Lyn La Cava Ulbricht on March 27, 2020
Over a month later I still have a hard time believing that my dear, treasured friend is no longer with us, that on my next trip to CA he won't be there. Having a world without Blair is hard to fathom. He leaves a big hole in my life and heart. If “one of a kind” applies to anyone, it's Blair. I am so thankful that I got to spend time with him over the holidays, when he was as vibrant and full of joy, humor and life as always.

Over the 53 years that Blair and I have been close friends I don't recall any time we were together that wasn't fun, funny and full of laughter. He always had such a perceptive and loving view of things. And he ALWAYS saw the positive side of whatever happened. My kids and I would laugh about how Uncle Blair's response, when he slipped and shattered his knee, was “I am so lucky!” (because he had insurance, etc.) Who does that?? Blair, that's who.

Blair and I had many phases through our long friendship, from college days to living together in Hollywood, to his unwavering support of me and my son through a huge crisis. He was the most loyal, generous and steadfast of friends and one of the finest human beings I could ever hope to know. He was always an inspiration to see the bright side, even in the face of extreme adversity. I always considered him family, and always will.

Blair, I still cry and shake my head in disbelief at my loss of you, but I am so grateful to have had you in my life and that your spirit is with us still.

I love you dearest Blair.
Posted by Colleen Ryan on March 20, 2020
I love the Motown memory. I have a vivid memory of staying at a hotel in Boston when I was looking at colleges when I was in high school and hearing that Diana Ross was staying at the same hotel. I rode the elevator for hours just on the off chance that I would see her. I never did get a glimpse, but I knew that I would never be able to look Blair in the eye if I wasn't able to at least say that I tried my best!
Posted by Ginger Janet Macleod on March 20, 2020
Motown memory:

Way back, before she was filling stadiums, you could see Diana Ross in small venues where she was close enough to touch. In the early 60s she was playing at Blinstrub’s in Boston and Aunt Janet bought us all tickets to see her. Our table butted right up to the stage. Blair proceeded to lay out album covers & fan pix right on the stage in front of our table. Sure enough, she came over and sang right to us—and I thought Blair’s cheeks were gonna break he was so excited. After the show, armed with Blair’s camera and tape recorder, he and I snuck backstage and hid under a table so we could sneek in to get an interview with Diana. Like Jim Lattin’s story, we weren’t able to talk to her but he did interview her hairdresser which excited him almost as much.

Blair was such a huge fan and dedicated follower that after numerous backstage adventures & fan(antic) devotions, Diana Ross would greet him by name. He always attributed his migration to Hollywood to his undying love for her—and he remained faithful to her for his lifetime.

God, I miss him. ♥️
his Life

Blair Macleod Gordon was the beloved son of Janet and Clifton Gordon and brother of Megan Cooper, uncle to Chelsea Stephan, and brother-in-law to Terry Cooper.  He grew up in Connecticut and upstate New York, graduated from Williams College and completed his graduate work at University of Texas-Austin.
Following graduate school in 1973, he moved to Los Angeles which became his permanent home. He rose through the ranks at Preview House (names changed with new ownership over the years), and had an enjoyable and highly successful career in television market research.
During his retirement he devoted considerable time as a volunteer at Braille Institute, Project Angel Food, and Glendale Memorial Hospital.  His many years of service as front desk greeter earned him a commendation presented to him during his hospital stay by the President and CEO of Glendale Memorial Hospital!

Blair's lifetime of contribution and concern for others is an inspiration. He impacted the lives of friends and family so profoundly and he brought immeasurable joy to us all.
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Generosity

Shared by Elora Cosper on March 15, 2020
It has been almost a month since we lost our dear friend and family member, and there has not been a day that has passed where I haven't thought of him. I miss his presence in the world. I can feel the absence of him. It seems hard to believe that it has already been a month, when so much has happened in the days since his passing; it is a whole new world. Today I am reflecting on Blair's generosity. He was one of the most generous people I have ever known. He was generous with his love, with his time, with his energy. I loved his energy so much. I used to wish I could bottle it and take it home with me every thanksgiving we spent together, so that I could keep it with me throughout the year. He was generous with that vital, vivacious, brilliant, shinning enthusiasm. It was contagious and inspiring. When I see what is going on in the world now; COVID-19, markets crashing, social distancing, supply hoarding and price gouging... I think of Blair and what he would have made of all of this. I know what he would do. He would show up, how ever he could, with that same generosity of spirit and his beautiful smile and show the kindness we should all be modeling right now. I will be taking my cues from him, today, and I hope everyday hereafter, to be more like him, in all the beautiful ways that he was. 

A friend shared this poem with me by Lynn Ungar. In its own way, it reminds me of Blair. 

Pandemic

What if you thought of it
as the Jews consider the Sabbath—
the most sacred of times?
Cease from travel.
Cease from buying and selling.
Give up, just for now, 
on trying to make the world
different than it is. 
Sing. Pray. Touch only those
to whom you commit your life.
Center down.
 
And when your body has become still,
reach out with your heart.
Know that we are connected
in ways that are terrifying and beautiful.
(You could hardly deny it now.)
Know that our lives
are in one another’s hands.
(Surely, that has come clear.)
Do not reach out your hands.
Reach out your heart.
Reach out your words.
Reach out all the tendrils
of compassion that move, invisibly,
where we cannot touch.
 
Promise this world your love–
for better or for worse,
in sickness and in health,
so long as we all shall live.
 
–Lynn Ungar 3/11/20

More on Motown

Shared by Megan Cooper on February 27, 2020
The post from Jim Lattin reminds me that Motown was the soundtrack of our lives~ especially anything sung by The Supremes! During our growing up in Ithaca, chances are that if you visited our home or rode in our car, music was playing in the background.
The night after Blair died, I had a dream. All I remember is the image of Diana Ross looking down from above and asking me, "Is it ok if I visit Blair?"
Music was an integral part of Blair's life.  Outside of work his favorite hobby was songwriting with his dear friend Terry Stockwell.  About 10 years ago Blair prepared a CD for me of some of these great songs. Blair and Terry wrote a beautiful song that she sang at our wedding, "Circle of Love."
I feel that we are all forming a "circle of love" around our beloved Blair.

Motown

Shared by Jim Lattin on February 26, 2020
Blair and i shared a love affair with the supremes and ultimately all motown
we cajoled our parents to take us to nighclubs in Boston and ny to see them live. We tried to meet the supremes in person hanging out by the stage door. We failed but did meet and converse with dianas hairdresser. You’d of thought we were in nirvana!!!
subsequently we did meet and interview marvin gaye and tammy terrell  as well as the 4 tops and temptations when they played concerts at cornell. We created “press passes” for the tatler( ithaca high newspaper.  What memories.......