Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette, (1958 - 2010) - ForeverMissed.com Online Memorials

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51 years old
Born on November 2, 1958 in Springfield, Vermont, United States
Passed away on September 20, 2010 in Claremont, New Hampshire, United States

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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life ofour beloved, Dar. Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts. We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.

Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor, the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation, her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life, then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

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September 20, 2012

Dar, it has been 2 years. I've expressed every feeling I have for you in every way I can. All I have left to say is, after having you by my side for 50 years, I miss you dearly. You mattered to me. I have never met anyone like you and I know I never will because you are the ONE and ONLY DAR. We take comfort in seeing you, so keep letting us know that you're still hanging around. xoxoxo "B

September 20, 2012

Hey Dar, 2 years!! I can't believe it!! Wish I could've gone to the cemetary with B and Kim today but we had our own time together! Gotta tell you, eggs on toast just aren't the same without you! I had a talk with Madi Mae about you, she doesn't "get it" yet but her face lites up when she sees your picture and it warms my heart when I hear her call you "my Dar". I luv it!! XOXO nanni

September 20, 2012

Dear Dar, May the love in our hearts be carried directly to you. May you walk in light of this love. May you feel the love that everywhere surrounds you . May your family feel yours. I wish you peace, light and love.

September 15, 2012

Dar, Wasn't John and Meg's wedding fabulous? You must have loved how they included you in subtle ways... photos, John's letter to you and Mike...plus adding your sedum to the floral arrangements - that was way cool... and Meg looked absolutely radiant in your gown - ya gotta love that! She is John's soul mate for sure! I know you're proud of him and that you're smiling today! XOXOXO "B

September 14, 2012

Hey Dar, Went to the butterfly release ceremony and it was awesome! Wish the butterflies had hung around a little longer but I did get a couple nice pictures of one. Was that you!??! :) I'll post one on the story section soon. I sure do miss ya!! xoxoxo nanni

September 13, 2012

Dar, Johnny and Meghan are getting married THIS Saturday! I just looked at the photos on their wedding website...OMG you can see the love they have for each other in their eyes. Your Johnny has indeed found his soul mate and you can rest assured that he is in good hands with Meghan! She fits right into the family. But the best part is, you got to know her yourself before you left. XOXO "B

September 3, 2012

Dar, Amazing that Mom saved your letter cuz she's been throwing out or giving things away for years now. So, even before you got sick, she had decided to hold on to and treasure that letter from you! I'm so glad she has that to hold on to; kinda like I have this website. We ALL miss you so much, we do it in different ways but we all DO, SO MUCH! Some days it's so hard! I luv ya xoxo nanc

September 2, 2012

So, Dar, how beautiful is it that for Mom's 77th birthday all she wanted was for the letter you wrote her for her 70th (?) birthday (which she saved, by the way) to be posted on Facebook to be shared with all! Of course, Nanny took care of that. Mom told me she gives you a l'il kiss every time she folds Nanny's laundry. We're all loving you still...but, you already knew that! XOXOXO "B

August 26, 2012

Hey Dar, I think you left some of your "talents" with me!! Remember I couldn't even keep a cactus alive!?! Well, I have kept a poinsettia alive since LAST Christmas!! Can you believe it!?! I also have a couple plants that "B" gave me and......they are alive AND growing!! YAY!! Just thought I'd share that with you, now back to cleaning...yuck! Luv and miss ya MUCH!! xoxoxo nanni :)

August 20, 2012

Good Morning, Dar. I'm trying real hard to let my fond memories overcome the sadness of missing you. The heartache will never go away, I'm just hoping it subsides enough that I can take more pleasure in the memories. It's been 1 yr. 11 mos. yet it feels like forever. I know you're watching...aren't the babies great? Next big deal - John and Meg are getting married! Stay tuned...XOXOXO "B

August 20, 2012

Hey Dar!The last 23 months have been hard! When I think of you in memories,it makes me happy;when I think of now,I get sad cuz I wish you were here with us to enjoy everything.Yet I'm not sad for you cuz I KNOW you're in a peaceful,loving place, I'm sad for me cuz I miss not having you here to talk and hang with. I'm trying to keep up good spirits,keep lookin out for me okay? xoxo nanni

August 7, 2012

Dar, a quick note to let you know that the 2012 SIX IN THE CITY:10K MEMORIAL WALK to benefit your foundation cleared $1,200.00! We are SO blessed to have had such wonderful people join the walk this year...many family members and friends-old and new. We have a lot of ideas on how to make next year's bigger and better. I'm so excited! I can't wait to start the "Good Deeds Project"! XOXO "B

August 7, 2012

Hey Dar, Your walk was amazing!! Hot,to be sure,but amazing! We plan on doing so much more next year and it is so wonderful and heartwarming to see and feel all the support from family and friends. Thanks for sending the butterflies my way just when I needed them. Your life and departure have brought so many people together, I hope you can see it all!! I love you & miss ya MUCH! xoxo nanni

August 6, 2012

Dar, I forget to include that Marilyn and Tab participated in the Walk, too. Marilyn is getting healthy-physically and mentally-good to see! She hung out with Mom, Pauline and Brenda giving out treats and water at your place. And Tab, well you know Tab, she's a go getter! She did the whole walk and she and Jess even ran a sprint to the finish line! Good grief! Those silly girls! Love, "B

August 5, 2012

Dar, the 2nd annual Six in the City 10K Memorial Walk to benefit your foundation was a huge success! We had nearly 50 participants, including Aunt Patti, Uncle Dick, Astrid, Matthew, Michael, Alicia, Butch and Anita, me, Nanny, Jess, Matt, Madi Mae, Kim and Damien, Kristel...a bunch of her friends...and, of course, Hailey Darlene, just to name a few. It was brutal but worth every step! "B

August 3, 2012

Oh Dar, how I wish you were here! I SO need to vent about the title search I'm working on...it's the worst one I've had in a while. I know you'd love to hear all about it...you'd probably pitch in and help me sort it all out, too! Boy, I could really use that at this point! Well, your walk is Sunday. I am really looking forward to it. I hope we have a good turnout. I love and miss you! "B

August 3, 2012

Hey Dar, The countdown to "your walk" is on!! To me it will always be "your walk" even tho it includes other people. I am really looking forward to it and hope we have a good turnout but I'll be there no matter what and I'll enjoy my special time in remembrance of you. Can't wait til Sunday and some new pics of this 2nd walk. We'll put them on here for ya, k? Luv & miss ya MUCH xoxo nanni

July 28, 2012

Well, Dar, I wish I could see the look on your face when you find me, your dear ole aunt, walking for 6 miles (or at least the first 3)! This year both Alicia and I will be there, walking for a cure, yes, but also in your memory! Speaking of memories, mine is flooded with the good times we had. I'm looking forward to our Grand Family Reunion I know you're helping to plan. I love you, Dar!

July 27, 2012

Hey Dar! "B" and I will be putting together the last of the details for your walk this weekend. We're getting really excited for this year's event! Ya know,I think it's great that "your walk" is bringing so many different people together.I'm so glad "B" thought of this, I really look forward to it cuz it makes me feel like we're doing something special for you! Luv ya & miss ya xoxo nanc

July 20, 2012

Dar, 22 months today! Some times it feels like FOREVER since I've heard your voice and your "sass" and other times I can't believe it's been almost 2 years!! We miss you so much and the only thing that keeps me together is KNOWING you are safe and "at home!" and that some day we WILL be together again! Hoping for nice weather for your walk..hint..hint..:) luv ya!! & miss ya MUCH xoxo nanc

July 20, 2012

Dar, I’ve learned that even though I'll never stop loving you, it IS okay to stop grieving you; it IS okay to cry now and again because I miss you; but it IS okay to laugh and enjoy life, too. I can't let my grief take over my life because if I do, then I will lose my life too. And I know, in the end, all you want is for me to REMEMBER YOU and for me to BE HAPPY. PIECE OF CAKE! XOXOXO "B

July 20, 2012

Dar, I saw an interview with Dr. Mary Neal telling about how she died and returned to life. Before that, she was a skeptic - she believed in God, but wasn't convinced. It was comforting to hear her describe how wonderful it was to meet the angels and be held in God's hands...SO WONDERFUL that she didn't want to come back here because she was HOME. I'm happy for you that you're home. Luv "B

July 20, 2012

Dar, I just gave you a "face lift"...haha. I thought you might like the scene of the clouds and the sky - somewhat "heavenly" - although nothing like the view you have up there, I'm sure! We're gearing up for your 2nd annual SIX IN THE CITY Memorial Walk. Remembering you and a bunch of folks up there with you. I know you'll be with us in spirit - send us a butterfly or two, ok? XOXOXO "B

July 19, 2012

Hey Dar,Getting really excited about "your walk"! Barb is doing an amazing job with the T-shirts and all the details for your walk. Obviously we'd rather you were here and we were walking for someone else but since that's not possible,we're thrilled to do this in your memory! "B" is doin you proud "fer sure"!! We love ya lots & miss you so much and this is one way we can show it! xoxo nanc

July 12, 2012

Dar, You are not gone..You live as love in the hearts of so many who love you so dearly. You are very much part of their lives and always will be. wow! You are so fortunate to be loved so much by so many. And your loved ones are so lucky to have you- who loves them back so much, as all that matters in the end is only love. Much love sent to u. Wish I could be dere for the memorial walk.

July 11, 2012

Hey Dar. We're gearing up for your memorial walk. I hope we have a good turnout. My bad that I got a late start promoting it again this year, but, you've been watching...I've been busy with other stuff. Stopped by Redi-Print today and saw Liz. She asked about you. I got to tell her about Bride's Night and stuff. Felt good to talk about you with such a good listener. I miss you so! Love, "B

July 7, 2012

Hey Dar, Just sittin here thinkin how different things would be if you were still here.You were always the center of things and I miss you more than I can say! Sometimes I just don't even know what to do with myself; like now! This is one of those times that I'd call you and we'd sit and talk about everything and nothing,I miss that!! Please keep lookin out for me OK? Luv ya!! xoxo nanc

June 20, 2012

Dar, it's been 21 months. I can honestly say I have missed you each and every day. Who knew you were such a huge part of all our lives? I mean, we knew, but we didn't KNOW, ya know? I sure do hope that you're still lurking about keeping an eye on things cuz it's somewhat comforting. It's bad enough that you're not here physically, I couldn't handle it if you weren't here in spirit. XOXO "B

June 20, 2012

Dar, It's been 21 months today and trust me I've felt the absence of you every day of these months. I hope you can see, sense, or whatever everything going on and especially how much you are missed and loved by all!! I hope you know you are remembered and loved every minute of every day!! love and miss ya much xoxo nanni

June 14, 2012

Dar, I added a new photo to your gallery. Your L'il Curtley "is all growed up"! A bunch of us went to his graduation last night. I saw your butterflies fluttering about throughout the day, then at graduation I saw them on people's clothing, tatoos and jewelry-just a few signs that you didn't miss a thing, right? I know you were there in spirit, just wish you were here in the flesh. XOXO "B

June 3, 2012

Hey Dar, Yuck! What a nasty weekend! Well, I wanted to say "hey" and to ask you to give Dad a big hug and to wish him a happy birthday for me.I know, I'm a day late, but you know, it runs in the family. Also, I wanted to say thanks for the dream the other nite, it was just what I needed!! So, a big hug to you and to Dad! and always remember, I love you and think of you always!! xo nanni

May 31, 2012

WOW!! AMAZING!! Dar, I'm not sure if you listened and read Barb's note or what, but THANKS!! You DID visit me in my dream last nite and it was WONDERFUL to see you again!! I woke up this morning with a smile on my face! Not to be greedy, but I wish you could be here in person all the time, but I'll take whatever times I can with you! Thanks for lookin out for me, I luv & miss ya MUCH nanni

May 30, 2012

Hey Dar, Had a pretty sad weekend! I was thinking of you so much and for some reason this weekend, just made me sad. I guess I just have to realize that I'm ALWAYS going to have those sad times. I know your in a better place and most of the time I can gain some peace with that but I miss you sooo much, sometimes it just gets the best of me!! Keep lookin out for me, I need it! xoxo nanni

May 30, 2012

Hey, Dar, if you could pay S'Nance a visit in a dream, I'm betting that would REALLY make her day! just sayin'.... We all miss you desperately and it's nice when we all get together at your house. I can almost feel your presence when we're there. It's like you just stepped out to get a cup o' joe when we all showed up...of course, we're all wishing that you'd return! Love and Miss you, "B

May 21, 2012

Dar, simply put, You are still Loved with a Love beyond all Feeling.... and always Missed with a Grief beyond all Tears. I pirated this phrase from a new friend, Enu Singh, and then embellished it a bit. Still thinking of you and missing you every day. Love, "B

May 20, 2012

Dar, It's been 20 months today since you went to a better place and I still miss you like it was yesterday. There are people that have an issue with the fact that I still talk about you and are verbal about how much I miss you, but I DON'T CARE! I will NEVER forget you and I will ALWAYS miss you and I'm not ashamed to admit it! You will ALWAYS be a part of my life! luv ya much xoxo nanc

May 15, 2012

Hey, Dar. Nanny and I got your spot all beautiful with a white picket fence, fresh mulch, and your tulips came into full bloom just in time for Mother's Day. It looks BEAUTIFUL! Thanks for sending all the butterflies to me through so many people in my life and in so many different ways! I love them! Keep 'em comin'! I wish I could turn back time cuz I miss you more than ever. XOXOXO "B

May 3, 2012

Dar,Been trying to be happy not sad when I remember you, some days it's easier than others, but I AM trying! I miss our chats and eggs & toast days (like today,wet & rainy) so I 'll chat with you here :) K? Still trying to find the "perfect" thing to have as a tattoo in your memory. I've seen lots of things, but I feel like when I see the "right" one, I'll KNOW, until then....? xoxo nanni

April 20, 2012

Dar, Nineteen months ago today my life was changed terribly! The hurt and the emptiness is just as "there and intense" as it was 19 months ago. Like Barb said, We won't even try to fill that void cuz that is "YOUR" spot and no one can take your place. There's only one you, for sure! I miss you lots and that will NEVER change! Keep lookin out for me, K? I need it! Luv ya much! xoxoxo Nanc

April 16, 2012

Me and Nanni went to your space yesterday, cleaned things up a bit, put down new mulch, left you some cool butterflies, pretty flowers and a white picket fence. Your sedum and tulips are coming up. I can't wait to see them in full bloom. We'll go back over soon and finish up the work on your space and Dad's. You're a tough act to follow, Honey, but we're trying to do you proud. XOXOXO "B

April 9, 2012

Hi Dar, Happy Easter!! We all celebrate Easter here, but, Oh what a celebration it must be up there!! I'm guessing every day is a celebration up there, but this must be one of the VERY special ones!! I think of you always, there's something each day that reminds me of you and your unique ways. I miss ya lots!! As always, keep your eye on me okay ?! :) luv ya! xoxo Nanc

April 6, 2012

Hey Dar, Just sittin here thinking about you and wishing I could talk to you for real and hear your voice. So,you were worried about us not remembering you? huh?!! Well, you should have been more worried about us not being able to forget you!! for even a minute!! (not that we could or would even want to). You are one of a kind and are dearly missed by so many people! Luv ya!! xoxo nanc

March 20, 2012

Dar, a year and a half...some days it feels like just yesterday...others, it feels like a lifetime since you left. I take solace in the realization that you did not live your life with regrets...at least, none that were substantial (you know what I mean). And, thank you, over and over and over again for sending butterflies into my life every day! They make my heart smile. XOXOXO Love, "B

March 20, 2012

Dar, It's been 1&1/2 years since you left but it feels like FOREVER since we've been together laughing and hanging out. This hole you left in my life remains and I realize I cannot fill it. This spot was yours and yours alone, so I guess I'll just have to deal with this empty place in my life. Thanks for sending the butterflies tho, I need the encouragement!! Luv and miss ya MUCH! nanni :)

March 12, 2012

Dar, Went to your house this weekend and visited. It's so nice to see everyone and hang out but sometimes it's a real slap of reality not to have you there with us and us all trying to talk over each other and laughing. But sometimes it's so nice to be able to reminisce about you and laugh about all the times we had.This weekend was one of the happy times! I miss ya MUCH tho!! xoxo nanc :)

March 7, 2012

Dearest Dar, "Where you used to be there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly tip toe-ing around in the daytime....and falling into at night." I miss our talks about work, your sense of humor, and most of all your trademark 'tude! Nan says that you're not just sitting around up there... so whatcha doing? organizing a thrift store? or running the whole damn show? XOXOXO "B

March 4, 2012

Hey Dar, Just been sittin here this weekend thinking about you and wishing I had one more chance to hug you and tell you how very special you are! I really hope God gives you the chance to see me and know my thoughts because I NEED you to know how much you mean to me and how important you are to me. Keep lookin out for me and know that I luv ya LOTS!! and miss you MUCH!! xoxo nanc :) (:

February 28, 2012

Hey Dar, Well, all I can say is,thanks for the kick in the butt this past weekend! You were the motivation I needed to stop the spiral and get myself going and in touch with family again. Barb has been great to me and I wish I could turn back time, so the three of us could spend time hanging out together! We miss you so much!! So thanx for lookin out for me even now! Luv ya LOTS, nanni :)

February 27, 2012

Hi mom, it's time for Curt to pick his freshman classes! Oh, how I wish that you were here to share this OMG moment with me. I know that you are watching over but it's just not the same as a hug. Whenever something happens where you're the 1st I want to tell, I feel lost. I think about you daily and I miss you more each day. I love you!!!XOXO -Dolly

February 20, 2012

Hey Dar,Not sure what to say. Not a good day yesterday! I so needed to pick up the phone and hear your voice and quick wit to help me thru it. I can't believe it hasn't even been a year and a half since you left,it feels like FOREVER! This STINKS! Well, thanks for letting me vent yet again :) I love and miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanni

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February 4

Hey, Dar. I finally caught you up to the winter scenery. Been a bit preoccupied with Skip's never ending issues...but, of course, you know that. And, you also know that you are never far from my thoughts...ev-er. SO wish we could hang out a bit like the old days...I could use the light-hearted laughs. More than anything, now that the kids are getting older...I know, I haven't posted pics of them in YEARS! (sorry!)...I KNOW that they would get a real kick out of your take on life. Dang! They're missing out on really knowing someone really special to me, to Kristel, to Nanni... sucks. Kristel started a little book club with Kimmy, me, and Nanni...it's good when we get a chance to all be together for an afternoon...and we all wish you were there too. I'll never stop missing you. XOXOXO "B"

January 9

Hey girl, Well, first off ..... sorry I didn't come chat sooner!!! Although I was here "hanging out" I couldn't quite get my thoughts together enough to "chat". So, here's a VERY late Merry Christmas to you and Happy New Year!!! I made it through the holidays and now the snow has arrived!! I should be glad it held off this long and I am, I just know that now my anxiety had tripled!! Ugh!! On a good note... I am really excited about our new book club. I had to miss the first one because of snow but hopefully I'll make the next one. I need to stay in touch so I don't feel so detached. Well, I suppose I should go get ready for the kiddos. Give Mom and Dad a big hug for me!! and Keep looking out for me, okay??
Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

December 7, 2023

Hey girl, Me again. Just wanted to hang with you for a bit and chat. Again, I have nothing good to report but I wanted to come say hi and browse through your page and pics and listen to your music for a bit. I miss Mom but she isn't afraid or in pain anymore and she is where she has been wanting to be for quite a while. So I am actually happy for her, it's just an adjustment for me. Well, the kids will be here soon so I'd better go. Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

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I'll Always Remember Us This Way

November 22, 2018

ALWAYS REMEMBER US THIS WAY

by Lady Gaga

That Arizona sky burning in your eyes
You look at me and, babe, I wanna catch on fire
It's buried in my soul like California gold
You found the light in me that I couldn't find

So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way

Lovers in the night Poets trying to write
We don't know how to rhyme but, damn, we try
But all I really know - you're where I wanna go
The part of me that's you will never die

So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way

Oh, yeah
I don't wanna be just a memory, baby, yeah

Oooh……

When I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way, oh, yeah

When you look at me and the whole world fades
I'll always remember us this way.

May 10, 2017

Happy Mothers Day!!
I know I'm a little early but I have a busy weekend and may not get to a computer so I wanted to chat and wish you a Happy Mothers Day now so I wouldn't miss it! I still miss you like CRAZY and trust me, you will NEVER be forgotten!!
I luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxoxoxo Nanc

September 20, 2015

Here we are Dar!!! Our 5th Annual Six in the City Memorial Walk!!
You are loved and you are missed more than I can say!!!

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