Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette, (1958 - 2010) - ForeverMissed.com Online Memorials

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51 years old
Born on November 2, 1958 in Springfield, Vermont, United States
Passed away on September 20, 2010 in Claremont, New Hampshire, United States

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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life ofour beloved, Dar. Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts. We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.

Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor, the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation, her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life, then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

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February 20, 2012

The saying goes, "You never know what you've got til it's gone." Well, we had you, Dar. We certainly loved you, but we never realized how much til you were gone. There is NO ONE like you on the planet. And NO ONE will EVER take your place. So, no worries, my dear, you will NOT BE FORGOTTEN. We think of you and miss you more than we can say - each and every day. You mattered to me. Love "B

February 20, 2012

Today marks yours and Mikey's 30th anniversary. He misses you for sure. He's had to step out of his comfort zone and take care of things that you always did naturally, but he's done so with such grace. He even sends text messages now, shops for presents, hosts our little get togethers - you'd be impressed. I just wanted to say Happy 30th Anniversary - YOU're STILL the LOVE of his LIFE!

February 20, 2012

HAPPY 30th ANNIVERSARY!! I know dad loves and misses you everyday but today I am sure he is truely feeling your absence. We all feel your absence in our own way and try to comfort ourselves with your memory...but it's just not the same...we ALL would trade ANYTHING to have you here!You are loved and missed more than you could've EVER imagined XOXOI love you mom and I miss you so much!Dolly

February 16, 2012

HI mom! I helped Meg into your dress on Sunday, we both got emotional when she slipped into it.It fit her flawlessly-she looked so beautiful!I think wedding plans may be underway for them!I know you'll be watching the day Johnny and Meg get married but it's comforting that you are incorporated in the wedding in such a major way-THE DRESS!!I love you mom and I miss you SO much!XOXOXO Kimmy

February 14, 2012

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY DAR! Sure am missing my "eggs on toast" partner! It seems like everything has gone crazy lately and I miss having you to vent to and share with. I am trying to remember you with a smile instead of sadness and I keep on playing Uncle Kracker's song "You make Me Smile!"(it helps) Remember our deal & keep lookin out for me!Thinkin of ya ALWAYS, miss & luv ya much xo nan

February 3, 2012

Hey Dar, Sad days for Kristel. Please give Bella (Boo Boo) a hug and some extra attention for Kristel (and actually from the rest of us too.) You know Kristel, she has a heart of gold and they are REALLY special to her. So please, take good care of Bella for her okay? Thanks, I knew you would! Miss ya MUCH!! xoxoxo Nanni PS I'm still workin on some poems for you!!

January 31, 2012

Hey Dar, I've been trying to write some poems this past week. Ya notice I said trying?! hahaha A poet I'm NOT but I've enjoyed trying,it's actually been kinda fun and thereputic for me. I really like writing to you here and now writing the poems,but I sure do miss talking to you! I can't wait to start organizing another walk for you!! It helps me! I miss ya and love ya MUCH! xoxo Nanni

January 20, 2012

Hey Dar,My New Year's resolution was to try to be happy when I think of you and not be so sad. Well, I am trying! Many times when I think of you I actually laugh out loud (as B would say) so see, you can still brighten my mood!! I DO miss sharing moments with you tho, when I see Hailey,Madi and Ad I soo wish you were here to share the times with us.I DO know you're watching tho! xoxo nanni

January 12, 2012

CONGRATULATIONS Nana!! Mmeilya Raye Allard was born 1/10/2012 at 5:40pm weighing 6lbs 10oz 19 inches. She is beautiful and bears a stiking resemblance to Addi-cakes. This is grand-baby # 6 (including Hailey Darlene). What a way to start the new year! We all love you mom and miss you terribly but we are all trying to carry on and take you with us as we go. Miss & love you bunches...Kimmy

January 10, 2012

Hey Dar, I think it's absolutely awesome that you're still touching people's lives! For you to attract attention(from people you don't even know) even after you have passed on is amazing, but I shouldn't be surprised cuz you ALWAYS attracted attention and you've ALWAYS been an amazing person and certainly STILL ARE!! Oh Dar, you can still make me smile!! Love and miss ya MUCH!! xoxo nanni

January 9, 2012

Something to smile about...tonight after Hailey's bath she was all about chewing on her little sea horse bath toy while I dressed her. I sat her up to comb her hair and tried to pull her attention away from the toy. "Peanutt", "Hailey", nothing worked, until I said "Hailey Darlene", and she lifted her head up and gave me the biggest smile :)

January 5, 2012

God bless you . You must have been a fab person to know. Please keep looking after your family from there and give them love peace,and courage to carry on without you

January 2, 2012

Dar, it's been 467 days, 16 hours and 3 minutes since you passed. We've ALL missed you every minute of every one. We talk about you often - it's therapeutic. I think some might think it's not healthy to dwell on it, but what do they know? All I know is that life as I know it is dramatically altered and THAT, my friend, does NOT go without notice. Happy New Year, Dar. I miss you. XOXOXO. "B

January 2, 2012

What a fabulous Christmas present I received a few days back - it was an email from "Darlene." Though the words were from Mike, I felt like the message was from the two of you. The love he holds for you is awesome and a real tribute to the relationship the two of you worked so hard to grow. BTW, I've never heard that many words from him at one time! I love you, Dar, and you, too, Mike!

December 30, 2011

Hey Dar, I didn't make it to your house for Christmas Eve and what a bummer that was I'll tell ya!! I sure did miss everyone; and not being there made me feel sooo disconnected from everyone. You know how I am in the winter!! So yes, I'll try harder, I PROMISE!! So anyway, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!! I love and miss you MUCH!! Keep your eye on me,okay? xoxo nanni

December 24, 2011

Well, Dar, soon I'll be headed to your house for our traditional Chrismas Eve. Your absence will be "the elephant in the room". Nanny and I took the CD's you made me and sorted the songs into two groups: Dar's Sing-a-Long - Rock On! and Dar's Sing-a-Long - Mellow Mix. I burned the CD's and we're giving them to Kim, John and Amy for Christmas. I hope they love them. I miss you!! Love, "B

December 20, 2011

Hey Dar, I don't know what to write cuz I was really hoping I would have something positive to say but I find I'm not feeling that happy lately. I guess instead of listing all the ways I miss you, I'll just say that I'll keep praying for some peace and comfort and ask that you keep lookin out for me,okay? Miss and luv ya MUCH! xoxo Nanni

December 20, 2011

Dar, No one can fill the void that you left. Your ability to make us laugh out loud no matter what we were doing (even cleaning the cat box), your sense of self (you never cared what other people thought - you were just you). I so admired that in you. I miss you terribly every day. The babies are growing so fast! I know you'd love to cuddle them! I hope you're watching at least! Love, "B

December 20, 2011

When will this feeling of melancholy pass? I doubt that it ever will. Yes, I smile and fondly remember the good times, but more often, I'm sad that God's plan was to take you so soon. I know the trade-off was to let you go peacefully, and I am so grateful for that - how could I possible go on if you had gone through prolonged suffering? So although I accept God's plan, I still miss you so.

December 20, 2011

Elizabeth Edwards once said that after her son, Wade, died the folks at her law office wondered when she would get over it and get back to normal. She replied, If my arm had been cut off, no one would ever have said that or expected that of me. I get it. I know people think it's time for me to get over Dar's passing, but I don't know that I ever will. A huge part of me is gone. Period.

December 15, 2011

Hey Dar, Gotta "borrow" some more of your attitude today. It worked out pretty good with the furnace company (altho I know You could have done better) and now I'm off to battle with the bank for Mom. I definitely DON'T have the same flair with the "Tude" as you, but it's getting the job done. I feel so BLAH and I can't pull myself out!! Send me some good vibes, ok? luv & miss ya much nanni

December 12, 2011

Hey Dar, Trying to get the Christmas spirit but not having much luck. This is sooo hard!! I wish I could get my old spunk and spirit back but I think I lost it when I lost you. Thank goodness for Madi Mae and Barb. Madi gives me the hugs and that specialness that only grand kids can do and Barb helps keep the sad times fewer. Miss ya much and luv ya more!! Keep looking out for me K? xo nan

December 8, 2011

Hey Dar, Crazy day today! I miss just shootin the breeze with you! Even as busy as I've tried to stay, I miss you so much! Whenever I have ANY free time, I just want to reach for the phone and call you. This website Barb got goin is a life saver for me!! I kinda feel like I'm talkin to you, but I sure wish I could hear your sassy little comments and your laughter, Miss ya much! xoxo nanni

December 6, 2011

Hey Dar, Had a nice baby shower for Amy, it was small but very relaxed and fun. I think we've all used some of your famous attitude lately,Barb at the shower with the van and me dukin it out with the furnace company for Mom.We definitely don't have the same flair with the "tude" as you, but we're workin on it. We miss you more than words can describe,but we're hangin in there! Luv from me!

November 25, 2011

HAPPY THANKSGIVING,mom!.A new tradition was born yesterday;Barb,Kristel,Hailey Darlene,Nani,and I all did the turkey trot in Sunapee.Next year I'm going to try to get Nat to do the chicken run.Each day continues to be a struggle for me-some days are easier than others but on average,I struggle to keep it together emotionally.I'm always looking for your signs,mom.I love you!XOXO Kimmy/Dolly

November 23, 2011

Dar, I, too, am thankful for the love of family that has gotten me thru this past year...Nanny, Kristel, Hailey Darlene, Kimmy and Mikey especially. I'm also thankful for all the little butterflies you keep sending my way to let me know that you are still hanging out with us. The ones at the grocery store really nailed it for me! You are STILL WAY COOL! Who'd have thought of that? Love "B

November 22, 2011

Dar, Thanksgiving's soon and I was pondering what I was thankful for this year. Well, I am SO thankful for my faith in God! Because if I didn't KNOW that I WILL see you again, I'm not sure I could handle your passing. But, I believe with ALL my heart, we will be together again. So, I'm thankful for my faith AND for family members that have helped me thru this,we've gotten close. xoxo nanni

November 21, 2011

Hey Dar, I really wish I could say things have gotten easier but they haven't. I will NEVER forget you but I was hoping the overwhelming sadness would subside but NO! I feel like a part of me is missing and I really don't know how to deal with that.I miss you LOTS!! I'll keep trying and you keep looking out for me, deal? Love ya! Nanni

November 20, 2011

Hi mom! I've been thinking about you all day, but thats really no different than any other day. I love you and I miss you and I wish you were here. The past month has really seemed very dark for me and I wish you were here to brighten things up! I love you and miss you so much, XOXOXO Kimmy

November 8, 2011

Hey Dar, I know you were watching on Sunday during the candlelite ceremony when Barb was talking and I can just picture you saying "Oh ya, that's my sister right there" (along with your little shoulder shimmy and head bop). She definitely said what we all feel, you WERE seen, you WERE heard and you will ALWAYS matter!! She did a great job huh? I luv ya!! Nanni

November 8, 2011

Hi mom,the candle lighting ceremony on Sunday was beautiful.Regardless of how many events there are to memorialize you publicly, I will light a candle for you every day, release a butterfly for you every day, walk for you every day in my heart, in my memories, and when I share all of that with others YOU shine through me!I love and miss you SO much! XOXOXO Dolly

November 7, 2011

Dar, I spoke at the Candle Lighting Service yesterday. It was difficult emotionally, yet comforting in that I welcomed the opportunity to point out how much you STILL mean to all of us. The old saying that God broke the mold when He made you, well, I don't think He used a mold to make you. One of a kind. There will be no other. I miss you so much I can't adequately put it into words. "B

November 2, 2011

Hey Dar, Happy Birthday!! Wish you were here to celebrate the day with but I know you're celebrating where you are and I bet it's quite a celebration!! and don't worry, we'll celebrate your birthday here for you too. Sure do miss you!! Love ya!! Enjoy your day! xoxo Nanni

November 2, 2011

Dar, it's your birthday and I miss "singing" you a birthday fax. I've taken the day off to spend time in reflection of how much you still mean to me. I just want to say that even though you weren't famous, you left your mark on this world, and yes, you were seen, you were heard, and you did matter - you STILL matter to me each and every day and always will. I miss you so much! Love, "B

November 2, 2011

Dear Darlene,

Each day I'm thinking of you. And especially on your birthday.
My heart hurts, along with your mom's, siblings and family, 'cuz
we miss you SO much. We WILL see you again!

November 2, 2011

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM! !I love you so much and miss you even more than that. You are on my mind everyday. Tonight,me,Damien,&the kids are having a birthday cake in your memory, in your honor. Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear mommy, happy birthday to you! Enjoy your "heavenly" party! LOVE YOU, Dolly xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

October 27, 2011

Mornin Dar, Just lettin you know,I sure do miss my "eggs on toast" partner! It's a cold, wet, YUCKY day, exactly the kind of day you'd say "Come on up and we'll have our eggs and shop". I am so NOT looking forward to cold,snowy weather;makes me feel BLAH.Barb says I should snowshoe,I just may have to do it to get thru the winter.She says it's fun,I hope so,I need some fun! Miss ya xo Nan

October 26, 2011

Hi Mom!Dad gave me a beautiful Pandora bracelet for my birthday.He has such fantastic taste.The very first bead on my bracelet was a lung cancer ribbon bead and the second bead was a butterfly.I carry you with me all day,everyday.I love and miss you so much mom!Send me your signs mom, I'm always looking for them!XOXO Dolly

October 26, 2011

Hey Dar, Next week is your birthday! Barb and I are going to get together, not sure what we plan on doing but something special to honor you!! Still doing ALOT of reading to help me cope and toTRY to adjust. I've read some helpful things but I still miss you soooo very much(and ALWAYS will). Keep lookin out for me, okay? I love you. xoxo Nannie

October 20, 2011

Dar, not sure why I wait till the 20th each month to commemorate your passing. I am keenly aware of your absence every minute of every day. I see now that I will never get over losing you and life will never return to normal. I am a different person now. I am broken. Love, "B

October 20, 2011

Dar,I keep waiting for it to get easier(they say it gets easier with time)Well,they are wrong!In fact,it gets harder cuz the reality of missing you EVERY day hits me!Sometimes I feel so empty I just don't know how to deal with it,I actually miss you more each day! xoxo Nanc

October 11, 2011

Hi Mom!Today just isn't the same without getting to hear you say "happy birthday" and give me a hug.I miss you today just like everyday but today I miss you even more.I love you mom!XOXO Kimmy

October 5, 2011

mom,dad text me for the first time the other day.You'd be so proud.Marlee looks so much like you and John.Hailey looks like Drew but it mommas girl.Addi is making remarkable progress, and the new baby girl is due at the end of Dec.Curt & Nat are growing like weeds.miss n love you

October 4, 2011

Dar,I so have my good days and my bad days,ALL my days I miss you,but some days I can think of you and smile and some days I think of you and all I can do is cry.I miss you so much.It amazes me how I still see new ways and times that your absence devastates me.miss you xoxo nan

October 3, 2011

Dar,Had Madi Mae's 2nd birthday.I kept remembering her 1st and the fact that you came all the way here,even as bad as you felt.You came because you knew how much it meant to me!Another reminder of all the things you'd do for me.Incase I didn't tell you THANKS!I miss you xoxo nanc

September 23, 2011

Hey Dar,The KWS kids UNANIMOUSLY agreed upon having the Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette Foundation as their community service project! So,we will be having some bake sales and stuff to earn money to donate. I was THRILLED when they got excited about it,YEAH!I sure do miss you!xo Nan

September 21, 2011

Mom,I went to the cemetery in Springfield yesterday and brought you flowers.I miss you mom & I love you so much.My life isn't the same without you,theres not much more to say beyond that.I'm different without you and can't ever be the same.For better or worse,I am forever changed

September 20, 2011

Dar,Can't believe it's been a year!It's been a REALLY tough one I'll tell ya!The whole dynamics of EVERYTHING has changed without you.Some days I don't know how I'll make it,then something happens that pulls me thru(gotta believe that's you & God lookin out for me)miss ya,xo nanc

September 20, 2011

Hey Dar,Can't wait to get some pics of "your walk" so we can post them on the gallery.I know you musta been smilin to see us all walkin and talkin.I'm so glad Anita took pics so I could just enjoy the walk and the memories.Today is a hard day(altho they've all been hard)xoxoNanny

September 20, 2011

Oh Dar, exactly one year ago you took your last breath and your spirit moved on to a better place. I know you're hovering about keeping an eye on us. We're trying to keep on keepin' on, but NOTHING is the same with you gone - and no where near as much fun! We miss you so much! "B

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February 4

Hey, Dar. I finally caught you up to the winter scenery. Been a bit preoccupied with Skip's never ending issues...but, of course, you know that. And, you also know that you are never far from my thoughts...ev-er. SO wish we could hang out a bit like the old days...I could use the light-hearted laughs. More than anything, now that the kids are getting older...I know, I haven't posted pics of them in YEARS! (sorry!)...I KNOW that they would get a real kick out of your take on life. Dang! They're missing out on really knowing someone really special to me, to Kristel, to Nanni... sucks. Kristel started a little book club with Kimmy, me, and Nanni...it's good when we get a chance to all be together for an afternoon...and we all wish you were there too. I'll never stop missing you. XOXOXO "B"

January 9

Hey girl, Well, first off ..... sorry I didn't come chat sooner!!! Although I was here "hanging out" I couldn't quite get my thoughts together enough to "chat". So, here's a VERY late Merry Christmas to you and Happy New Year!!! I made it through the holidays and now the snow has arrived!! I should be glad it held off this long and I am, I just know that now my anxiety had tripled!! Ugh!! On a good note... I am really excited about our new book club. I had to miss the first one because of snow but hopefully I'll make the next one. I need to stay in touch so I don't feel so detached. Well, I suppose I should go get ready for the kiddos. Give Mom and Dad a big hug for me!! and Keep looking out for me, okay??
Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

December 7, 2023

Hey girl, Me again. Just wanted to hang with you for a bit and chat. Again, I have nothing good to report but I wanted to come say hi and browse through your page and pics and listen to your music for a bit. I miss Mom but she isn't afraid or in pain anymore and she is where she has been wanting to be for quite a while. So I am actually happy for her, it's just an adjustment for me. Well, the kids will be here soon so I'd better go. Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

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Thinking of you Darlene. Missing your Walk this year. I still have this paperweight you gave me

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I'll Always Remember Us This Way

November 22, 2018

ALWAYS REMEMBER US THIS WAY

by Lady Gaga

That Arizona sky burning in your eyes
You look at me and, babe, I wanna catch on fire
It's buried in my soul like California gold
You found the light in me that I couldn't find

So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way

Lovers in the night Poets trying to write
We don't know how to rhyme but, damn, we try
But all I really know - you're where I wanna go
The part of me that's you will never die

So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way

Oh, yeah
I don't wanna be just a memory, baby, yeah

Oooh……

When I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way, oh, yeah

When you look at me and the whole world fades
I'll always remember us this way.

May 10, 2017

Happy Mothers Day!!
I know I'm a little early but I have a busy weekend and may not get to a computer so I wanted to chat and wish you a Happy Mothers Day now so I wouldn't miss it! I still miss you like CRAZY and trust me, you will NEVER be forgotten!!
I luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxoxoxo Nanc

September 20, 2015

Here we are Dar!!! Our 5th Annual Six in the City Memorial Walk!!
You are loved and you are missed more than I can say!!!

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