July 14
July 14
Miss you all the time Kevin.
This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Kevin Mack, MD, MS.
We hope to honor Kevin by making this a living memorial. Please use this as a "hub" to share your stories and tributes. Though you need to formally register to add anything, there is no advertising or spamming associated with registering. You may leave brief tributes below, or longer stories on the "stories tab."
A viewing was held on Tuesday evening, 6pm on July 19th, 2011 at St. Agnes Catholic Church on 1025 Masonic Avenue, San Francisco CA 94117. The mass was held on Wednesday morning, 10am on July 20th, also at St. Agnes.
A memorial service was held at 5:00 PM on Thursday, July 21, 2011 at Cole Hall, UCSF Parnassus Campus. It was simulcast to the SFGH Cafeteria and to UC Berkeley University Hall, room 150. Here is a link to the entire UCSF-based ceremony:
http://lecture.ucsf.edu/ETS/Viewer/?peid=7f8c0b04878842858a8452d33c0b0e111d
If you would like to download a copy of this event, email Amin (Amin.Azzam@ucsf.edu) and he will arrange for you to get access to it.
Kevin is buried in the Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery, at 1500 Mission Road; Colma, CA 94014.
In lieu of flowers, donations to benefit his husband and children may be made to the Kevin Mack, MD Memorial Fund through Wells Fargo Bank. Donations can be:
1) mailed c/o Amin Azzam to 348 51st Street #C; Oakland, CA 94609; or
2) made in person at any Wells Fargo Branch. If you attempt to donate at a bank branch and the teller has troubles finding the account, encourage them to click on the "confidential tab" to locate the memorial fund.
Finally, Natalie Bybee (a dear close personal family friend) would like volunteers willing to create video clips of remembrances of Kevin so she can compile them as stories for his children. If you are interested in offering a video remebrance, contact her directly at nataliebybee@yahoo.com. More details on how you can contribute have now been posted under the "stories" tab of this site.
And on the eve of the 1 year anniversary of Kevin's death, here is an email from the UCSF psychiatry department chair:
Dear Department of Psychiatry Colleagues,
A year ago, on July 14, 2011, we lost our colleague Dr. Kevin Mack. I wanted to reach out to everyone in the department, in parallel with the school to medical students and faculty colleagues, and also in parallel with the UCSF- UCB Joint Medical Program to its community, as I know that many of us were deeply touched by Kevin. He brought laughter, warmth, support, and intellectual engagement to so many of us. I invite you to spend a special moment this weekend to remember him.
The School of Medicine announces the establishment of the Kevin Mack LGBT Champion Scholarship. This scholarship will honor Kevin’s open and unwavering commitment to the professional development and emotional support of all medical students, and especially those of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender identity. The scholarship will be awarded to one student each year in recognition of important contributions during medical school to the principles of non-discrimination and human rights that Kevin exemplified so strongly in word and deed. Details of the award and the application process will be distributed soon.
The UC Berkeley - UCSF Joint Medical Program honors Kevin's commitment and dedication to innovation in medical education with the creation of the Kevin Mack Medical Education Leadership Support Fund. It supports the advancement and promotion of innovative educational efforts with an annual faculty support award. The fund will be formally established very soon.
At a department level, we instituted at this year’s Psychiatry Faculty Education Retreat the Annual Kevin Mack Life Lessons. Bestowed upon the session that best embodies Kevin’s spirit of life, loving and learning, this year the inaugural honored session was “Teaching Critical Thinking” led by David Elkin and Gilbert Villela.
Kevin will also be remembered by a special SFGH Psychiatry Grand Rounds session each Fall in his honor. The annual event will celebrate Kevin's playfulness, creativity, inspiration, teaching and mentoring.
Also, with colleagues I am planning a special activity for department members and alums to remember Kevin each year at the Fall national meeting of the Association of Academic Psychiatry, an organization that was near and dear to Kevin.
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July 14
July 14
For thirteen years we have been living without you. For me and I'm sure for so many, that absence and its associated pain remains. Yet the years do allow me to smile more often when I think of you, dear Kevin.
July 14
July 14
July 14
July 14
On this date, 13 years ago, our family’s heart was ripped apart when my most beloved nephew, Dr. Kevin Allen Mack, was killed. Hopefully, his death saved future lives…in more ways than one. I miss you Kevin dear. Continue to rest in peace ❤️
July 14, 2023
July 14, 2023
Miss you, my friend.
July 14, 2023
July 14, 2023
Twelve years ago we lost one of the most amazing men I’ve ever known. My heart is still is broken over the loss of you, my dear nephew, Kevin Allen Mack. You were sterling character of a man a brilliant doctor and a Fun and Funny, sweet loving guy. I will miss you always and forever til the day I die. And when I die I hope to meet your sweet soul in heaven. Love, Auntie Laurie
November 23, 2022
November 23, 2022
京都の大学でUCSFで君が取り組んでいた学生参画型授業に関する講演をしましたね。随分かれから時間が経ったのですが、あの教育方法は今でも課題になっています。21世紀の社会、それは多くの困難な課題が噴出し、その解決を私たちは求められています。答えのない世界に立ち向かる人々が求められている時代になっているのです。そのため、教育はそれを課題にして改革しなければなりません。貴方はその先駆者だっとと思います。わたしはあなたをいつまでも忘れくことはないでしょう。
November 21, 2022
November 21, 2022
I think of you Kevin today and other days. You were teaching me how to raise kids, as mine were young, and you had insights. I remember the presentation we gave together at the AAMC conference years ago and can still hear your laughter as we slogged through it. You made boring things fun and meaningful. I mention your stories to my kids sometimes, we laugh.
November 21, 2022
November 21, 2022
To my dear friend who loved God and loved his neighbor — thanking you for showing us how it’s done and lovingly encouraging us to do the same. Miss your physical presence but you live on in so many hearts.
November 21, 2022
November 21, 2022
My dear brilliant, funny nephew, Kev…with the biggest smile and kindest heart…I still remember the day you were born! Forever missed and always in my heart and thoughts. Auntie Laurie
July 14, 2022
July 14, 2022
I still remember where I was when I heard that you were gone. We still talk about you at Cambridge Hospital. I tell the "younguns" that you were the kindest smartest physician I had ever known as a nurse. As I prepare to retire in a few months, that sentiment hasn't changed! The love hasn't changed - I wish you were still here!
July 14, 2022
July 14, 2022
In retrospect, I wonder if Kevin could have imagined the huge impact his sweet enthusiasms have had on medical education and the JMP. His cheerful almost innocent efforts- often arduous- to change a stodgy curriculum- should inspire us all to persevere when we feel clear we have a truly good idea and are willing to keep at it. Importantly- any reform requires winning over skeptics and obstructionists.Kevin succeeded in this. Bullying, scolding and contempt are not 'change agents!' Kevin's legacy must incorporate this too.
November 21, 2021
November 21, 2021
Each year's passing of Kevin's birthday makes me wistful and sad for what might of been, and the enormity of losing Kevin: for those who knew and loved him, friends and family and colleagues, and all of the trainees who would have loved him and benefited from his mentorship.
Just before the pandemic, in January 2020, I told a story that was inspired by my contact with Kevin for The Nocturnists. It's finally out as a podcast, just in time for Kevin's birthday. I wrote up some brief statements on the website; you can see them and listen to the story here: https://thenocturnists.com/season-4/2021/11/16/s4-ep1-burn-the-map
Love you Kevin!
Just before the pandemic, in January 2020, I told a story that was inspired by my contact with Kevin for The Nocturnists. It's finally out as a podcast, just in time for Kevin's birthday. I wrote up some brief statements on the website; you can see them and listen to the story here: https://thenocturnists.com/season-4/2021/11/16/s4-ep1-burn-the-map
Love you Kevin!
November 21, 2021
November 21, 2021
I love remembering you my dear nephew. And on the anniversary of your birthday, particularly, the thought of you makes me smile and gives me peace. You made me feel that all is and will be, well with the world…because you were here …and in Grand style…still are. Miss you snd love you forever. RESTING IN PEACE IN YOUR HEAVENLY HOME! ❤️
November 21, 2021
November 21, 2021
Never forgotten, always beloved, dear Kevin!
July 15, 2021
July 15, 2021
Adding my words to those so many others have written to acknowledge that it’s been 10 years and that your influence still continues to be present and multiply, Kevin. So excited to see Aki graduating and moving on to college, she is beautiful and you would be proud!
July 15, 2021
July 15, 2021
Kevin created the second epoch of JMP innovation. The original JMP vision was linked to a DMH & Genetic Counseling degrees and inspired by Henrik Blum who envisioned a PBL curriculum (which lay dormant) and close contact with community-based physician mentors. Twelve students were selected each year who were valued for 'journey traveled' (revived today) vs. highest scores.
UCSF was not willing to accept all 12 so many of us finished med school elsewhere, but the intimate JMP community was foundational.
Kevin Mack arrived with pedagogic, intellectual and interpersonal pizzazz. His own journey gave him an immensely special voice. He found a diplomatic style to herd skeptical faculty toward big changes. The message required him as messenger. Small group, case-based study emerged as both providing better med ed, stronger humane community, more lasting knowledge and a way to be an auto-didact, team member throughout a career.
Now the JMP faces a 3rd epoch with renewed vision, enhanced PBL, anti-racism curricula and a full commitment to integrating social determinants into basic science education.
Without Kevin's influence, I doubt the JMP would continue to make sense as an innovative approach to training MDs. He is a second wave Founding Father and should be honored, missed and remembered with love.
Sara Hartley MD
UCSF was not willing to accept all 12 so many of us finished med school elsewhere, but the intimate JMP community was foundational.
Kevin Mack arrived with pedagogic, intellectual and interpersonal pizzazz. His own journey gave him an immensely special voice. He found a diplomatic style to herd skeptical faculty toward big changes. The message required him as messenger. Small group, case-based study emerged as both providing better med ed, stronger humane community, more lasting knowledge and a way to be an auto-didact, team member throughout a career.
Now the JMP faces a 3rd epoch with renewed vision, enhanced PBL, anti-racism curricula and a full commitment to integrating social determinants into basic science education.
Without Kevin's influence, I doubt the JMP would continue to make sense as an innovative approach to training MDs. He is a second wave Founding Father and should be honored, missed and remembered with love.
Sara Hartley MD
July 15, 2021
July 15, 2021
Kevin, many times I think of you and hear laughter, thank you.
July 14, 2021
July 14, 2021
10 yrs! how can that be? so many times you have been spoken about by me either at work (Cambridge Hospital) or at home. I miss you all the time. I tell everyone what a wonderful human being you were and not only that but you were the smartest physician I ever worked with! How I wish you were here to help us smile and laugh (especially at ourselves). will love you always - until I see you again!
July 14, 2021
July 14, 2021
Kevin was the type of person the world desperately needs at this juncture--a society in which there is so much division and lack of trust of people who are different than ourselves. Kevin always busted through these sorts of situations, seeing the good in all of us and making the world a kinder, more tolerant place. He was my college friend, a major influence in my life and I loved him dearly. Forever missed.
July 14, 2021
July 14, 2021
Ten years dear nephew Kevin and I can’t believe it still. I keep you alive in my mind and In my heart. I know you are one of my guiding lights. You certainly are FOREVER MISSED and on this milestone anniversary, especially so. ❌⭕️♥️
November 21, 2020
November 21, 2020
Happy Kevin Day, dear friend. xxoo
November 21, 2020
November 21, 2020
Dear Kevin. I think of you on your birthday every year, since it is the day after Bruce's. I hope you met my nephew in heaven when he came earlier this year. We miss you so much. We LOVE you. Thanks for watching over us.
November 21, 2020
November 21, 2020
Remembering you on your birthday sweet nephew. My heart still aches with sadness from losing you. I’m celebrating “you” and your amazing 52 years of life on earth today on this side of Heaven, Kevin Allen Mack I know you and our loved ones with you are celebrating too. You are a special soul and our Angel! Happy heavenly birthday!
July 15, 2020
July 15, 2020
I can't believe it's been 9 yrs - I still remember where I was when I got the phone call that you were gone - I dropped to my knees and sobbed. I wish you were here to see my boys - who are now grown men - wish you could make me laugh through all this Covid madness - Tom and I talk and think about you often. Til we meet again - love you!
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
Kevin,
Should we all live in such a loving, forgiving and enthusiastic manner as you did, imagine how amazing the world would be. Love you always, Maureen
Should we all live in such a loving, forgiving and enthusiastic manner as you did, imagine how amazing the world would be. Love you always, Maureen
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
Hey Cuz,
I know we were never very close only in miles across the country but when I was a kid you were such an Awesome cousin and I always looked up to you. You were such a Damn great man and it sickens me that you were stolen away from us all. You helped SO MANY people and you could have made a difference in this country as you were such a Great influence and helped change people for the better and saved many lives. I think you could have received some help now that they realize mental illness is a serious thing and are finally granting money to it. You probably would not get any sleep with this COVID has opened up telehelp which I think you would have been a great part if it. I miss you Kevin and I know you are resting in Peace. Say hi to ur mom for me and give her a hug for me. Love you Cuz.
Paul
I know we were never very close only in miles across the country but when I was a kid you were such an Awesome cousin and I always looked up to you. You were such a Damn great man and it sickens me that you were stolen away from us all. You helped SO MANY people and you could have made a difference in this country as you were such a Great influence and helped change people for the better and saved many lives. I think you could have received some help now that they realize mental illness is a serious thing and are finally granting money to it. You probably would not get any sleep with this COVID has opened up telehelp which I think you would have been a great part if it. I miss you Kevin and I know you are resting in Peace. Say hi to ur mom for me and give her a hug for me. Love you Cuz.
Paul
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
Oh Kevin, nine years now and rarely does a day go by when I don't think of you. Usually when I find myself being self-centered or ungenerous. Then you pop into my mind and I remember how generous you were, not only in spending time helping others directly, but how you seemed to hold a whole theater of people in your mind and notice when one of those people ought to meet another one of them because they could benefit one another. Like you were granting precious mental space to everyone you knew, always looking for connections that ought to be made. You were one of a kind, my friend. Wish you were here again.
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
I so wish you were here now to help us get through 2020, you would be able to make sense or offer the best thoughts to all of us, I cannot believe it's been so long since I have seen your amazing, magnetic smile. Miss you always.
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
My dear nephew Kevin, you are forever present in my heart and in my life. It is not possible to ever forget the impact that your life had on so many in this world. Nine years ago we shockingly lost a most precious man. You are desperately missed Kevin Allen Mack. Rest In Peace sweetheart. Love, Aunt Laurie
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
Thank you for your spirited presence; missing it here on earth!
July 14, 2020
July 14, 2020
Dearest Kevin,
I’ve been thinking of you all month and counting down the days until we get to this most unhappy anniversary. Your brilliant smile and loving hugs have not faded despite nine years since passing. I know you would want us to remember the laughter and not the tears. So I send up smiles to you today, beloved friend! ❤️❤️❤️
I’ve been thinking of you all month and counting down the days until we get to this most unhappy anniversary. Your brilliant smile and loving hugs have not faded despite nine years since passing. I know you would want us to remember the laughter and not the tears. So I send up smiles to you today, beloved friend! ❤️❤️❤️
November 21, 2019
November 21, 2019
Hi Kevin,
I just want to thank you for your teaching -- and my learning -- when I was a medical student. I try to bring your spirit to my patients and own students now.
Gratefully,
Steve
I just want to thank you for your teaching -- and my learning -- when I was a medical student. I try to bring your spirit to my patients and own students now.
Gratefully,
Steve
November 21, 2019
November 21, 2019
Happy Heavenly birthday to my sweet friend. You are missed❤️
November 21, 2019
November 21, 2019
Never forgotten. Thank you for bringing such goodness to all of us.
November 21, 2019
November 21, 2019
My dear nephew...I talk to you and your mom all the time...as you know! You will forever be in my heart and on imy mind. Our souls will meet again! You’re undoubtedly having a heavenly birthday and I am heartbroken I’m not celebrating with you ♥️Love, Aunt Laurie
July 17, 2019
July 17, 2019
Thinking of you, Babycakes. And all the wild conversations that still live with me.
July 14, 2019
July 14, 2019
Can't believe you have been gone for 8 yrs. I always think of you in June and July when the new interns/residents start at Cambridge. I always talk about you to Jordan and Ryan. Jordan remembers you - and always smiles when we talk about that night he made cookies at your apt in Cambridge. Til we meet again
July 14, 2019
July 14, 2019
Kevin, I can’t believe it’s been 8 years since you left us. I remember you often and remember all the wonderful life lessons I learned from having known you. I feel blessed. You are truly missed by the so many lives you touched. Till we meet again my friend.
July 14, 2019
July 14, 2019
Miss you as much today dear nephew as I did the day you were killed! Think of you often. Love always. Aunt Laurie
November 21, 2018
November 21, 2018
Today is your 60th birthday, Kevin! How I would have loved to celebrate with you and to tease you endlessly about joining the “over 60 club!” But no... you will remain ever youthful, and your spirit will continue to delight us!
Miss you and love you, baby cakes!
Miss you and love you, baby cakes!
November 21, 2018
November 21, 2018
Remembering you in a special way on your birthday, Kevin. As Vic and I head to Larry and Therese’s for the Thanksgiving holiday we are deeply thankful for you and your extraordinary love and friendship. Your flame is not extinguished.
November 21, 2018
November 21, 2018
Happily heavenly birthday dear nephew. You would be 60 years young today. I often reflect how you had made such a huge impact on the world in your 52 years of life. And I can only wonder what great things you’d be doing today! Like Your Grandpa Allen and Uncles Danny and Dick — you were a sterling character of a man. I’m certain all of you are still carrying on in a beautiful way. I can’t wait to see you again. Love and miss you babe.
July 16, 2018
July 16, 2018
I can't believe it's been so long since I have seen your vibrant smile. You always brought joy to everyone around you. Thinking of you dear friend.
July 15, 2018
July 15, 2018
I think of you often and how you made such a profound difference in my life. You are missed so much. I’m so thankful our paths crossed.
July 15, 2018
July 15, 2018
Kevin, the world was a better place because you were part of it. Miss you my friend.
July 14, 2018
July 14, 2018
Every time I'm involved with anyone at the JMP, be it students, staff, or faculty, I remember you, Kevin. You were responsible for my becoming a PBL tutor, and more, and I am forever grateful and thankful for having known you.
July 14, 2018
July 14, 2018
Kevinへ
今でも私は君が京都の大学で講演した風景を思い出す。
UCSFでのPBL教育について私達は多くのことを学んだ。
君の高等教育実践は、今、多くの人々に受け継がれ
君の語った教育方法論は、今、世界中の人々が実践しようとしている。
学ぶことは教えることであり
効率良い教育とはこの教学システムの開発から生まれる
君はどの社会でもどのレベルでも、この方法論が可能だと語った。
今、私の国の大学教育改革は君の考えを基本として進みつつある。
君の名前を知らない多くの若者が教師が
君が実践した教育方法を継承しようとしている。
君の名前を知らない多くの教育現場で
君が語った教育論が普及しようとしている。
ケヴィン、ありがとう。
私は、いつまでも君を忘れない。
今でも私は君が京都の大学で講演した風景を思い出す。
UCSFでのPBL教育について私達は多くのことを学んだ。
君の高等教育実践は、今、多くの人々に受け継がれ
君の語った教育方法論は、今、世界中の人々が実践しようとしている。
学ぶことは教えることであり
効率良い教育とはこの教学システムの開発から生まれる
君はどの社会でもどのレベルでも、この方法論が可能だと語った。
今、私の国の大学教育改革は君の考えを基本として進みつつある。
君の名前を知らない多くの若者が教師が
君が実践した教育方法を継承しようとしている。
君の名前を知らない多くの教育現場で
君が語った教育論が普及しようとしている。
ケヴィン、ありがとう。
私は、いつまでも君を忘れない。
July 14, 2018
July 14, 2018
Always in my heart and in my prayers and often wondering what you would say , think , or do about an issue I’m dealing with. So miss you dear nephew. Love you always and forever. Aunt Laurie <3
July 14, 2018
July 14, 2018
Every year when the new interns arrive at Cambridge Hospital I tell everyone about you - the smartest, the funniest, the most kind human being I had ever met in my nursing career. We became wonderful friends - you helped me turn 40 - you embraced my husband and my children - you invited hubby and I to Rome - I still miss your smile - your laugh - even your be serious look - I miss you love you and always will.
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Loving you still!
July 18, 2019
Kevin, your light continues to shine In so many lives! I am grateful for the time we had on this earth together. You indeed will be forever missed...
July 17, 2019
Eight years now. Hard to believe. Kevin, I remember you so clearly, your compassion and your eagerness to learn and teach. Haven't seen Naoki or the kids in a long time, but I remember them fondly and expect that they will all continue to grow.
I also remember your wicked wit, and I miss that as much as your kindness.
Two Years
July 14, 2013
Yes, today is the two –year marker of the loss of our dear Kevin.
One of Kevin’s favorite books was “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, and he lived by those four agreements: 1) Be impeccable with your word 2) Don’t take anything personally 3) Don’t make assumptions and 4) Always do your best.
He fought hard for marriage equality and would have been so heartened by the recent Supreme Court decisions.
Many of you contributed to the Japanese maple tree that we planted at San Francisco General Hospital in Kevin’s honor in the Comfort Garden in front of building 90 (immediately in front of the ramp to the right front side of the door) and to the bench in front of it. If you haven’t been by there for awhile, I urge to stop and take a look at the growth and strength of the tree in “Kevin’s Corner.” It is a living symbol of the life he shared with so many of us, and continues to be a source of inspiration and hope.