This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Kevin Mack, MD, MS.  

We hope to honor Kevin by making this a living memorial.  Please use this as a "hub" to share your stories and tributes.  Though you need to formally register to add anything, there is no advertising or spamming associated with registering.  You may leave brief tributes below, or longer stories on the "stories tab." 

A viewing was held on Tuesday evening, 6pm on July 19th, 2011 at St. Agnes Catholic Church on 1025 Masonic Avenue, San Francisco CA 94117.  The mass was held on Wednesday morning, 10am on July 20th, also at St. Agnes.  

A memorial service was held at 5:00 PM on Thursday, July 21, 2011 at Cole Hall, UCSF Parnassus Campus.  It was simulcast to the SFGH Cafeteria and to UC Berkeley University Hall, room 150.  Here is a link to the entire UCSF-based ceremony:

If you would like to download a copy of this event, email Amin ( and he will arrange for you to get access to it.

Kevin is buried in the Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery, at 1500 Mission Road; Colma, CA 94014. 

In lieu of flowers, donations to benefit his husband and children may be made to the Kevin Mack, MD Memorial Fund through Wells Fargo Bank.  Donations can be:

1) mailed c/o Amin Azzam to 348 51st Street #C; Oakland, CA 94609; or

2) made in person at any Wells Fargo Branch.  If you attempt to donate at a bank branch and the teller has troubles finding the account, encourage them to click on the "confidential tab" to locate the memorial fund.

Finally, Natalie Bybee (a dear close personal family friend) would like volunteers willing to create video clips of remembrances of Kevin so she can compile them as stories for his children.  If you are interested in offering a video remebrance, contact her directly at  More details on how you can contribute have now been posted under the "stories" tab of this site.

And on the eve of the 1 year anniversary of Kevin's death, here is an email from the UCSF psychiatry department chair:

Dear Department of Psychiatry Colleagues,

A year ago, on July 14, 2011, we lost our colleague Dr. Kevin Mack. I wanted to reach out to everyone in the department, in parallel with the school to medical students and faculty colleagues, and also in parallel with the UCSF- UCB Joint Medical Program to its community, as I know that many of us were deeply touched by Kevin. He brought laughter, warmth, support, and intellectual engagement to so many of us. I invite you to spend a special moment this weekend to remember him.

The School of Medicine announces the establishment of the Kevin Mack LGBT Champion Scholarship. This scholarship will honor Kevin’s open and unwavering commitment to the professional development and emotional support of all medical students, and especially those of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender identity. The scholarship will be awarded to one student each year in recognition of important contributions during medical school to the principles of non-discrimination and human rights that Kevin exemplified so strongly in word and deed. Details of the award and the application process will be distributed soon.   

The UC Berkeley - UCSF Joint Medical Program honors Kevin's commitment and dedication to innovation in medical education with the creation of the Kevin Mack Medical Education Leadership Support Fund.  It supports the advancement and promotion of innovative educational efforts with an annual faculty support award. The fund will be formally established very soon.

At a department level, we instituted at this year’s Psychiatry Faculty Education Retreat the Annual Kevin Mack Life Lessons. Bestowed upon the session that best embodies Kevin’s spirit of life, loving and learning, this year the inaugural honored session was “Teaching Critical Thinking” led by David Elkin and Gilbert Villela.

Kevin will also be remembered by a special SFGH Psychiatry Grand Rounds session each Fall in his honor. The annual event will celebrate Kevin's playfulness, creativity, inspiration, teaching and mentoring.

Also, with colleagues I am planning a special activity for department members and alums to remember Kevin each year at the Fall national meeting of the Association of Academic Psychiatry, an organization that was near and dear to Kevin.

Posted by Stephen Martin on November 21, 2019
Hi Kevin,

I just want to thank you for your teaching -- and my learning -- when I was a medical student. I try to bring your spirit to my patients and own students now.

Posted by Maureen Mickus on November 21, 2019
Never forgotten. Thank you for bringing such goodness to all of us.
Posted by Suzan Freibert on November 21, 2019
Happy Heavenly birthday to my sweet friend. You are missed❤️
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on November 21, 2019
My dear nephew...I talk to you and your mom all the you know! You will forever be in my heart and on imy mind. Our souls will meet again! You’re undoubtedly having a heavenly birthday and I am heartbroken I’m not celebrating with you ♥️Love, Aunt Laurie
Posted by Christian Burke on July 17, 2019
Thinking of you, Babycakes. And all the wild conversations that still live with me.
Posted by Cheri Carey on July 14, 2019
Can't believe you have been gone for 8 yrs. I always think of you in June and July when the new interns/residents start at Cambridge. I always talk about you to Jordan and Ryan. Jordan remembers you - and always smiles when we talk about that night he made cookies at your apt in Cambridge. Til we meet again
Posted by Suzan Freibert on July 14, 2019
Kevin, I can’t believe it’s been 8 years since you left us. I remember you often and remember all the wonderful life lessons I learned from having known you. I feel blessed. You are truly missed by the so many lives you touched. Till we meet again my friend.
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on July 14, 2019
Miss you as much today dear nephew as I did the day you were killed! Think of you often. Love always. Aunt Laurie
Posted by Susan Scheidt on November 21, 2018
Today is your 60th birthday, Kevin! How I would have loved to celebrate with you and to tease you endlessly about joining the “over 60 club!” But no... you will remain ever youthful, and your spirit will continue to delight us! 
Miss you and love you, baby cakes!
Posted by Kathleen Kittle on November 21, 2018
Remembering you in a special way on your birthday, Kevin. As Vic and I head to Larry and Therese’s for the Thanksgiving holiday we are deeply thankful for you and your extraordinary love and friendship. Your flame is not extinguished.
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on November 21, 2018
Happily heavenly birthday dear nephew. You would be 60 years young today. I often reflect how you had made such a huge impact on the world in your 52 years of life. And I can only wonder what great things you’d be doing today! Like Your Grandpa Allen and Uncles Danny and Dick — you were a sterling character of a man. I’m certain all of you are still carrying on in a beautiful way. I can’t wait to see you again. Love and miss you babe.
Posted by Sherri Franklin on July 16, 2018
I can't believe it's been so long since I have seen your vibrant smile. You always brought joy to everyone around you. Thinking of you dear friend.
Posted by Suzan Freibert on July 15, 2018
I think of you often and how you made such a profound difference in my life. You are missed so much. I’m so thankful our paths crossed.
Posted by Maureen Mickus on July 15, 2018
Kevin, the world was a better place because you were part of it. Miss you my friend.
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on July 14, 2018
Always in my heart and in my prayers and often wondering what you would say , think , or do about an issue I’m dealing with. So miss you dear nephew. Love you always and forever. Aunt Laurie <3
Posted by Richard Quint on July 14, 2018
Every time I'm involved with anyone at the JMP, be it students, staff, or faculty, I remember you, Kevin. You were responsible for my becoming a PBL tutor, and more, and I am forever grateful and thankful for having known you.
Posted by Cheri Carey on July 14, 2018
Every year when the new interns arrive at Cambridge Hospital I tell everyone about you - the smartest, the funniest, the most kind human being I had ever met in my nursing career. We became wonderful friends - you helped me turn 40 - you embraced my husband and my children - you invited hubby and I to Rome - I still miss your smile - your laugh - even your be serious look - I miss you love you and always will.
Posted by Susan Scheidt on July 14, 2018
Dear Kevin, so many of us still think of you and talk about you often! I try to imagine the world with you still in it… It could only have been a better place! Wish you could come to Fresno and visit me in my new home… We would sit by the stream and laugh together! Love you and miss you always!!!
Posted by John Swartzberg on July 14, 2018
Seven years ago; an absence created that will never be filled. I along with so many miss you dearly.
Posted by Cathy Campbell on July 14, 2018
Dearest Kevin, We miss you every day. Love, Cath, Bruce and Mais
Posted by Hiroyuki Mitsuishi on July 14, 2018
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on November 21, 2017
Dear Kevin: you would've been 59 this year!!! OMG....catching up with dear old Auntie.  Now it's your 6th birthday in heaven and it still seems like yesterday that we talked.I still hear your voice and laughter. I think of you all the time and I know you welcomed our sweet Derek and your dear Uncle Dick into heaven. My sweetheart says he wants to meet my daddy, so please introduce them. I miss all of you so much. Love, Auntie Laurie
Posted by Joanna Mandell on July 15, 2017
Kevin, we miss you so much. I'm tutoring this fall, and I know I will be thinking about you all the time. Love you.
Posted by Victor DiRita on July 14, 2017
Missing you as always Kevin. Kathy turns 60 today and her birthday is always a little less happy because we lost you. Love, Vic and Kathy
Posted by Cheri Carey on July 14, 2017
I can't believe it's been 6 yrs. I talk about you all the time - especially at this time of year when the new interns arrive. I remember everything we shared working together at Cambridge. You will never be forgotten and will always have a special place in my heart.
Posted by Paula Di Rita Wishart on July 14, 2017
Kevin, I am now older than you were when you left this earth. Your wisdom is missed, but the echoes of your love and mentorship remain with me.
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on July 14, 2017
My dear nephew, six years ago we lost you so tragically. I pray to you and for you every day along with my sis --your mom --and dear son and beloved husband -- who's death's I'm now mourning. The grief I feel from the deaths of those I love so much is paralyzing and life changing. I've lost my joy for life. All I can do now is pray for all the dear souls of the faithfully departed. May you all rest in peace. I also pray and hope to be rejoined again with all of you in eternal happiness in the loving arms of my husband and our dear Lord.
Posted by Kathleen Kittle on November 21, 2016
Dear Kevin, Happy Birthday dear friend. You never forgot a birthday and I'll never forget your's. You were a gift from God to us all. My heart is filled with gratitude for the blessing of you. I love you and miss you.
Posted by Lee Buenconsejo-Lum, MD on November 21, 2016
Happy birthday, dearest Kevin. Certainly an angel -- who is watching over all you held close to your heart .. and laughing and smiling with your beautiful smile. Love to your family.
Posted by Martin Zeoli on November 13, 2016
Kevin was a good friend and classmate of mine at DLS. We had our 40th reunion last night and we all miss him. Stories and laughs were shared. Kevin was truly a great guy.
Posted by Maureen Mickus on July 15, 2016
Keviin, the thought of you is only one of joy and of a person who can completely light up a room with sheer goodness. I will remember you all of my life. You continue to be an inspiration to so many people and I feel completely privileged to have had you in my life. With loving memories of you my friend....
Posted by Jeff Maehara on July 15, 2016
Still thinking of you and hoping you know it. It's somewhere around 20+ years since I've heard your voice or seen you. This is the impact you have on people, greatest of mentors.
Posted by Cheri Carey on July 15, 2016
I still miss you. Just the other day I said, if every human being showed the kindness that Kevin had, this world would be a much better place. Boy could we use you now!!! But I like to think that you have left your spirit with all your family, friends, and colleagues. You are always in my heart.
Posted by Susan Scheidt on July 15, 2016
Hard to believe it's been 5 years, Babycakes. Your memory and all you gave us are just as vibrant as ever. Aki sent me a photo from France would be so proud of the young lady she is becoming. You WILL NOT be forgotten...thank you again and again for your generous love. Miss you every day.
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on July 14, 2016
Dearest Kevin: 

Our hearts were broken five years ago--it was a dreadful day.  Many of us are still not mended and are still suffering from your loss in different ways. 

Five years ago today you may have left us as an earthly being, but you sure haven't left the hearts and minds of those who loved you, of those you loved, and of those you had such a tremendous impact on in your 52 years.

You are alive everywhere! Your spirit lives on all around us--through Naoki, Aki and Nobu, your extended family and friends and your students and collegues... you left us a huge legacy of love.

We still so miss your smile & laughter, your happy heart, your intellect, your love, your music, your stories, your passion for life and medicine and helping people and saving lives --those less fortunate and those suffering. You inspired so many people.

We were honored and lucky to know you, Kevin Allen Mack.

We continue to be proud to be your Auntie and Uncle, and we continue to celebrate you -- often. At milestone anniversaries like today however, many of us will be in deep reflection of you--remembering all of what you meant to us. We will recognize your contributions and the impacts you have made and the love you put into everything. We will listen to your voice in our head, your music in our ears, and, we will look at pictures of your smiling eyes. We will feel in our hearts the pleasures you still give us through these memories. 

Thank you!

My dear Kevin, you were a sterling character of a man and I know I am a better person today because of you! 

Forever Missed!!

Love, Auntie Laurie and Uncle Dick
Posted by Kathleen Kittle on July 14, 2016
In so many countless ways we miss you in our lives, dearest friend and confidante. Our hearts still ache from our loss. I tell my children often about you--they are at the age that I first met you. How I wish they had had you in their lives to make the difference you made in mine. Praying for you and your family, Kevin. Please pray for all of us, too.
Posted by Sandie Harrington on July 14, 2016
So many days I wish to talk to you, Kevin. You touched me where it hurt and helped me heal. I wish there were more time. Your energy and spirit do live on, but oh how we long for you.
Posted by Joanna Mandell on April 17, 2016
Kevin, we think of you often and miss you frequently. Wish i could tell you so many things.
Posted by Hiroyuki Mitsuishi on December 9, 2015
I do not forget you forever. The lecture that you have done at Kyoto in Japan was splendid. Many your japanese friends do not still forget you.
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on November 21, 2015
Wow, you would've been 57 dear Kevin. Loved talking to you on your special day. You loved your birthday and you loved everyone's birthday. You truly made every day special for the people in your life.  I miss you so. We all miss you so. Your light and love are still shining dear nephew. xxx Aunt Laurie & Uncle Dick
Posted by Stephen Martin on November 21, 2015
I still teach in primary care and still have the benefit of Kevin's insights as to how to help people learn and care and flourish. I miss you, Kevin.
Posted by David Elkin on November 21, 2015
Kevin, every year we have a memorial grand rounds at SF General to honor your life and spirit, your passion for education and innovation, and your love of connection and connecting others, and the playfulness that you brought to every activity. Jeff Bridges in his book The Dude and The Zen Master talked about not distinguishing between work and play: plork! You embodied that philosophy and helped spread it to others. This year's talk was something that I developed with Gilbert Villela, how the archetypal figure of the Trickster can bring creativity and new perspectives to art, science, patient care, and education. It was the best way to honor you on your birthday! So as much as we all miss you, we get to celebrate your life and continue to remember you, our dear friend and mentor, in a way that I hope you would have wanted. Hugs, to you, and to all of the friends, colleagues and family whose lives you touched and infused with laughter, learning, and love.
Posted by Andrea Crowley on July 15, 2015
Ah Kevin, I can't believe it has been another year. Finding out I was pregnant this year was bittersweet without you to celebrate with me. You always said I needed to tell you first, right after I told Andy. I had all of PES stand in for you, when I went in the chart room and screamed out the news. Thank you for convincing me it was a good idea! And thank you for being such a loving person to everyone. I try to emulate that, as best I can.
Posted by Christian Burke on July 15, 2015
Kevin, I think of you a lot and wish you could swing by my office again on your way home so we can talk technology and innovations. Would love to share kid stories with you now.
Posted by Susan Scheidt on July 15, 2015
Ah, dear Kevin, you were remembered and celebrated so much yesterday, on the 4th anniversary of that dreadful day. We lit candles and said prayers. Susan B. and I toasted to you with champagne and memories. Aki and I texted (her, from Paris...) about how much we both miss you. But then, you probably already know all of this...
Your light shines love love you , Babycakes! oxoxox
Posted by Paula Di Rita Wishart on July 15, 2015
Your impact of open-hearted love is lasting, dear friend. This would have been a good year for you to celebrate that. Miss you still.
Posted by Sandie Harrington on July 15, 2015
How DOES one impart such joy and love to everyone at the same time, yet, singly. Kevin?

I have good news for you- my late stage cancer is gone! I am cured of cancer, and it will never come back. Kevin, why me? I can't help but wonder if, just maybe, Kevin, you helped me out.

I love you, miss you, and know you are happy, and live on in two worlds.
Posted by Laurine Marrocco on July 14, 2015
Dearest Kevin: I miss you and need you more today than any other day with the sad news we rec'd on Uncle Dick yesterday. Please help me and guide me through this difficult time. So many of us have been so lost without you. It's sometimes hard to answer...."what would Kevin do?"  I hope you are a happy soul dear one. You deserve to have peace. Loving you always and forever. Aunt Laurie & Uncle Dick
Posted by Kathleen Kittle on July 14, 2015
Dear friend, your legacy lives on. Thank you for showing us how to love. Miss you but holding you always in my heart.
Posted by Robert Buckley on July 14, 2015
Kevin - Four years already. And you've left me with an impossible goal, you rascal. Every day I try to carry all my friends and acquaintances around in my mind the way you did, and generously give my time to thinking of ways to benefit each and all the way you did, but every day I get too caught up in myself and my own little projects and I fail again. How did you get like that, I wonder? Did you teach yourself to be that generous, or did it just happen?
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Posted by Stephen Martin on November 21, 2019
Hi Kevin,

I just want to thank you for your teaching -- and my learning -- when I was a medical student. I try to bring your spirit to my patients and own students now.

Posted by Maureen Mickus on November 21, 2019
Never forgotten. Thank you for bringing such goodness to all of us.
Posted by Suzan Freibert on November 21, 2019
Happy Heavenly birthday to my sweet friend. You are missed❤️
Recent stories

Loving you still!

Shared by Susan Scheidt on July 18, 2019

Kevin, your light continues to shine In so many lives! I am grateful for the time we had on this earth together. You indeed will be forever missed...

Shared by Robert Buckley on July 17, 2019

Eight years now.  Hard to believe.  Kevin, I remember you so clearly, your compassion and your eagerness to learn and teach.  Haven't seen Naoki or the kids in a long time, but I remember them fondly and expect that they will all continue to grow.  

I also remember your wicked wit, and I miss that as much as your kindness.  

Two Years

Shared by Susan Scheidt on July 14, 2013

Yes, today is the two –year marker of the loss of our dear Kevin.

One of Kevin’s favorite books was “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, and he lived by those four agreements: 1) Be impeccable with your word 2) Don’t take anything personally 3) Don’t make assumptions and 4) Always do your best.

He fought hard for marriage equality and would have been so heartened by the recent Supreme Court decisions.

Many of you contributed to the Japanese maple tree that we planted at San Francisco General Hospital in Kevin’s honor in the Comfort Garden in front of building 90 (immediately in front of the ramp to the right front side of the door) and to the bench in front of it. If you haven’t been by there for awhile, I urge to stop and take a look at the growth and strength of the tree in “Kevin’s Corner.” It is a living symbol of the life he shared with so many of us, and continues to be a source of inspiration and hope.