ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Kevin Mack, MD, MS.  

We hope to honor Kevin by making this a living memorial.  Please use this as a "hub" to share your stories and tributes.  Though you need to formally register to add anything, there is no advertising or spamming associated with registering.  You may leave brief tributes below, or longer stories on the "stories tab." 

A viewing was held on Tuesday evening, 6pm on July 19th, 2011 at St. Agnes Catholic Church on 1025 Masonic Avenue, San Francisco CA 94117.  The mass was held on Wednesday morning, 10am on July 20th, also at St. Agnes.  

A memorial service was held at 5:00 PM on Thursday, July 21, 2011 at Cole Hall, UCSF Parnassus Campus.  It was simulcast to the SFGH Cafeteria and to UC Berkeley University Hall, room 150.  Here is a link to the entire UCSF-based ceremony:

http://lecture.ucsf.edu/ETS/Viewer/?peid=7f8c0b04878842858a8452d33c0b0e111d

If you would like to download a copy of this event, email Amin (Amin.Azzam@ucsf.edu) and he will arrange for you to get access to it.

Kevin is buried in the Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery, at 1500 Mission Road; Colma, CA 94014. 

In lieu of flowers, donations to benefit his husband and children may be made to the Kevin Mack, MD Memorial Fund through Wells Fargo Bank.  Donations can be:

1) mailed c/o Amin Azzam to 348 51st Street #C; Oakland, CA 94609; or

2) made in person at any Wells Fargo Branch.  If you attempt to donate at a bank branch and the teller has troubles finding the account, encourage them to click on the "confidential tab" to locate the memorial fund.

Finally, Natalie Bybee (a dear close personal family friend) would like volunteers willing to create video clips of remembrances of Kevin so she can compile them as stories for his children.  If you are interested in offering a video remebrance, contact her directly at nataliebybee@yahoo.com.  More details on how you can contribute have now been posted under the "stories" tab of this site.

And on the eve of the 1 year anniversary of Kevin's death, here is an email from the UCSF psychiatry department chair:

Dear Department of Psychiatry Colleagues,

A year ago, on July 14, 2011, we lost our colleague Dr. Kevin Mack. I wanted to reach out to everyone in the department, in parallel with the school to medical students and faculty colleagues, and also in parallel with the UCSF- UCB Joint Medical Program to its community, as I know that many of us were deeply touched by Kevin. He brought laughter, warmth, support, and intellectual engagement to so many of us. I invite you to spend a special moment this weekend to remember him.

The School of Medicine announces the establishment of the Kevin Mack LGBT Champion Scholarship. This scholarship will honor Kevin’s open and unwavering commitment to the professional development and emotional support of all medical students, and especially those of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender identity. The scholarship will be awarded to one student each year in recognition of important contributions during medical school to the principles of non-discrimination and human rights that Kevin exemplified so strongly in word and deed. Details of the award and the application process will be distributed soon.   

The UC Berkeley - UCSF Joint Medical Program honors Kevin's commitment and dedication to innovation in medical education with the creation of the Kevin Mack Medical Education Leadership Support Fund.  It supports the advancement and promotion of innovative educational efforts with an annual faculty support award. The fund will be formally established very soon.

At a department level, we instituted at this year’s Psychiatry Faculty Education Retreat the Annual Kevin Mack Life Lessons. Bestowed upon the session that best embodies Kevin’s spirit of life, loving and learning, this year the inaugural honored session was “Teaching Critical Thinking” led by David Elkin and Gilbert Villela.

Kevin will also be remembered by a special SFGH Psychiatry Grand Rounds session each Fall in his honor. The annual event will celebrate Kevin's playfulness, creativity, inspiration, teaching and mentoring.

Also, with colleagues I am planning a special activity for department members and alums to remember Kevin each year at the Fall national meeting of the Association of Academic Psychiatry, an organization that was near and dear to Kevin.

Posted by laurine marrocco on November 21, 2015
Wow, you would've been 57 dear Kevin. Loved talking to you on your special day. You loved your birthday and you loved everyone's birthday. You truly made every day special for the people in your life.  I miss you so. We all miss you so. Your light and love are still shining dear nephew. xxx Aunt Laurie & Uncle Dick
Posted by Stephen Martin on November 21, 2015
I still teach in primary care and still have the benefit of Kevin's insights as to how to help people learn and care and flourish. I miss you, Kevin.
Posted by david elkin on November 21, 2015
Kevin, every year we have a memorial grand rounds at SF General to honor your life and spirit, your passion for education and innovation, and your love of connection and connecting others, and the playfulness that you brought to every activity. Jeff Bridges in his book The Dude and The Zen Master talked about not distinguishing between work and play: plork! You embodied that philosophy and helped spread it to others. This year's talk was something that I developed with Gilbert Villela, how the archetypal figure of the Trickster can bring creativity and new perspectives to art, science, patient care, and education. It was the best way to honor you on your birthday! So as much as we all miss you, we get to celebrate your life and continue to remember you, our dear friend and mentor, in a way that I hope you would have wanted. Hugs, to you, and to all of the friends, colleagues and family whose lives you touched and infused with laughter, learning, and love.
Posted by Andrea Crowley on July 15, 2015
Ah Kevin, I can't believe it has been another year. Finding out I was pregnant this year was bittersweet without you to celebrate with me. You always said I needed to tell you first, right after I told Andy. I had all of PES stand in for you, when I went in the chart room and screamed out the news. Thank you for convincing me it was a good idea! And thank you for being such a loving person to everyone. I try to emulate that, as best I can.
Posted by Christian Burke on July 15, 2015
Kevin, I think of you a lot and wish you could swing by my office again on your way home so we can talk technology and innovations. Would love to share kid stories with you now.
Posted by Susan Scheidt on July 15, 2015
Ah, dear Kevin, you were remembered and celebrated so much yesterday, on the 4th anniversary of that dreadful day. We lit candles and said prayers. Susan B. and I toasted to you with champagne and memories. Aki and I texted (her, from Paris...) about how much we both miss you. But then, you probably already know all of this...
Your light shines on...love love love you , Babycakes! oxoxox
Posted by Paula Di Rita Wishart on July 15, 2015
Your impact of open-hearted love is lasting, dear friend. This would have been a good year for you to celebrate that. Miss you still.
Posted by Sandie Harrington on July 15, 2015
How DOES one impart such joy and love to everyone at the same time, yet, singly. Kevin?

I have good news for you- my late stage cancer is gone! I am cured of cancer, and it will never come back. Kevin, why me? I can't help but wonder if, just maybe, Kevin, you helped me out.

I love you, miss you, and know you are happy, and live on in two worlds.
Sandie
Posted by laurine marrocco on July 14, 2015
Dearest Kevin: I miss you and need you more today than any other day with the sad news we rec'd on Uncle Dick yesterday. Please help me and guide me through this difficult time. So many of us have been so lost without you. It's sometimes hard to answer...."what would Kevin do?"  I hope you are a happy soul dear one. You deserve to have peace. Loving you always and forever. Aunt Laurie & Uncle Dick
Posted by Kathleen Kittle on July 14, 2015
Dear friend, your legacy lives on. Thank you for showing us how to love. Miss you but holding you always in my heart.
Posted by Robert Buckley on July 14, 2015
Kevin - Four years already. And you've left me with an impossible goal, you rascal. Every day I try to carry all my friends and acquaintances around in my mind the way you did, and generously give my time to thinking of ways to benefit each and all the way you did, but every day I get too caught up in myself and my own little projects and I fail again. How did you get like that, I wonder? Did you teach yourself to be that generous, or did it just happen?
Posted by cheri carey on July 14, 2015
Oh Kevin I can't believe it's been 4 yrs! On June 26th, the day "love won", my oldest sent me a text "what a happy day! Kevin would have been so happy". You and Naoki made such an impression on my 2 sons - part of who they are as young men is because of their interactions with you! I miss you all the time! xo
Posted by Diana Twin on July 14, 2015
Dearest Kevin.
So wish you were still here, so much to share with you. I love you so much.
Posted by Kent Olson on July 14, 2015
Kevin, I smile and think of you each time the JMP students show me how powerful and fun it is for them to take the reins of their own learning adventure. Love and peace.
Posted by Maureen Mickus on November 22, 2014
Dear Kevin,
You brought so much into this world and left so much behind as well. My experience at Kalamazoo College was brightened because you were part of it. I loved you dearly....Maureen
Posted by laurine marrocco on November 21, 2014
Thinking of you as I often do dear nephew, but today was your special day. I recall how you always remembered everyone's bday. I miss your contagious happiness you had for everyone. You are so missed.
Posted by Susan Scheidt on November 21, 2014
Yes, sweet Kevin, another year has passed, and this is the 4th year we will not be able to celebrate our November birthdays together like we used to do. Although somehow you and I are always communing, and we celebrate joyfully together in spirit, if not in flesh. I think of you every day and love you still.  oxoxoxo
Posted by Kathleen Kittle on November 21, 2014
To my truly remarkable and unforgettable friend. Saying a special prayer for you on your birthday. Miss you.
Posted by Richard Quint on November 21, 2014
Every time I enter the Joint Medical Program offices I am reminded that were it not for Kevin, I wouldn't be so involved with this treasure of medical education. His contributions vividly are reinforced every time a student stands up to teach her/his peers, asks a question, or draws insights from the learning process Kevin introduced and now is being imitated all around the country.
Posted by Louai Bilal on October 17, 2014
Hi Kevin,
Nora Volkow gave an awesome grand rounds in the department this week. I attended it from home sitting on my favorite couch, using My access remote system. It's a wonderful innovation that was once on our wish lists as teachers.
Louai
Posted by Sandie Harrington on July 16, 2014
The world felt safer to me when you were in it. Missing you, thanking you for your friend Amin.
Posted by Stephen Martin on July 16, 2014
Kevin, very much miss your presence in this world and in the work of health. From someone who knew you too short a time.
Posted by Paula Di Rita Wishart on July 16, 2014
It's been 3 years, Kevin, and I am still learning lessons from how you lived your life. You are so missed in this world.
Posted by Kathleen Kittle on July 15, 2014
I pray for you often, Kevin, and I get so much comfort knowing that you are praying also for all of us! You have been gone for three years now, but you are present always in our hearts. You have given us a deeper understanding of what it means to love and that is quite a legacy.
Posted by laurine marrocco on July 14, 2014
There's not a week that goes by my dear nephew that I don't think of you, hear your voice talk to me about something, or actually see your smiling face just appear before me. Keeping you close is a comfort I cherish.That may be likely because I pray for you and I pray to you every week as well. Will always miss you here with us my sweet soul.
Posted by Susan Scheidt on July 14, 2014
Three years already...how can that be? Kevin, your spirit is so close, you are always with us! I talk to you at the garden ("Kevin's Corner") at SFGH... and Aki and I now text each other, keeping you with us! Gone but not forgotten...never were there truer words!
Posted by Maureen Mickus on July 14, 2014
Thinking of Kevin will always generate a sense of joy and gratitude for me. Kevin was a unique person and a true friend. My life was much richer for having him as part of it. I miss him and wish his family peace. He was a gift to all of us.
Posted by Melanie Thomas on July 14, 2014
Wishing you were here as always. I miss your incredible combination of wisdom and humor. 
You sure are missed and loved around here, you know...
Posted by Robert Buckley on December 4, 2013
Dear Kevin, I think of you all the time. Thank you for showing us a better way to live. I think you were somehow able to hold all your friends in your mind at the same time, in a sort of virtual theater, where you would imagine what would be interesting and delightful meetings and doings of each individual friend...and when a delightful possibility occurred to you, you would then call that person at 10 o'clock on a Saturday and tell them your wonderful thought. Thank you for that. I don't believe I'll ever have the energy and selflessness to do that, but it's a goal to strive toward. Say Hi to God for me.
Posted by Ron Gostek on December 3, 2013
Saw Kathy and VIc in Ann Arbor back in September and we reminisced about our relationships with you and the some of the visits we had over the years. You are missed. In my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by Anne Critchley on November 22, 2013
Still think of you often, you were so loved and admired, a true shining star. If you meet Jo give her one of your big comforting hugs and lots of love, miss you both......Anne xxx
Posted by Cathy Campbell on November 21, 2013
Happy birthday Kevin. Remembering your smile, your laugh and your hugs, with all of our love. We miss you so much.
Posted by laurine marrocco on November 21, 2013
yes, you are forever and always alive with us Kevin dear! We miss you like crazy!!!!
Posted by Alkira Mahapaiboon on November 21, 2013
Happy Birthday Kevin. I still remember your smile, your encouraging words and your warm hugs. Love
Posted by Melanie Thomas on November 21, 2013
Hi dearest, thinking of you today and every day. Thanks for all of it, this world sure was brighter while you were in it. Just read Sara Hartley's tribute from 7/17/11 and agree wholeheartedly. It still seems a bit unclear what we are to do without you...
Posted by Susan Scheidt on November 20, 2013
Happy birthday eve, sweet angel Kevin! You continue to light my way and make me smile. Aki is growing up and she is so like you!! Smart and funny and just a little naughty now and then!!! We all miss you so!!!
xoxo
Posted by Maureen Mickus on September 10, 2013
Kevin, you were an amazing person and I think about you so very often. You gave joy, hope and provided inspiration to countless people in this world. Thank you for being part of mine.
Posted by Candace Thompson on July 23, 2013
As I travel through Cambodia, I can't help but imagine you here drawing in the lovely people with your smile and shining attention. I carry you with me and strive to be as good in the world as you. So grateful for having known you. It's clear from these tributes that I am part of a healing web of people who loved you too...love you still.
Posted by Joanna Mandell on July 14, 2013
We are hoping that you are resting in peace. I feel so happy that Greg got to meet you. We wish we could spend even one more joyous night with you, like at fumi and rohan's wedding. still think of you, all the time.
Posted by laurine marrocco on July 14, 2013
My beloved nephew, I wonder if you truly realize how many lives you have touched? Do you know that people here still painfully miss you? As difficult as the loss of your presence has been these last two years -- of you sharing your wisdoms and stories and joyful laughter, always so full of life & exuding love-- you will 4ever remain alive in our hearts. Miss u like crazy...xx Auntie
Posted by Sandie Harrington on July 14, 2013
Kevin, I have just looked at the many pictures of your life on this site, and you are so alive in every photo. Your energy is so bright and your presence so real that I can't believe you are gone. It's only my tears that make me believe it. I miss you with so much of my energy, and can only imagine the heart-wrenching loss your family feels. I know you're listening: you always did. xxoo
Posted by Melanie Thomas on June 24, 2013
Kevin- Not sure why especially today, but sitting at my dining room table and missing you. You said so many funny, wise, and profound things to me as my mentor and friend and I am forever thankful. But, honestly today I don't feel thankful as much as totally and completely sad that you're not here to go get a hot dog together.
Posted by Stephen Martin on May 6, 2013
I have just been shocked to learn of the loss of Kevin. He mentored and taught me deep insights when I was a medical student at Harvard. He cared as innately as anyone about training doctors learning how to understand each other and their patients, about their supporting those feeling low, and about their care for the work. His love for Naoki was clear. I miss you, Kevin. Love and peace.
Posted by Jen Kerns on April 24, 2013
Thought of you today, on this random Wednesday in April... your warmth and generosity of spirit. I miss the random days of running into you at SFGH and gleaning a bit of that warmth. You are forever remembered, Kevin Mack.
Posted by christy mcdonald on February 2, 2013
Miss you everyday sweet Kevin.
Posted by Deb Logan on February 2, 2013
We were talking about Kevin on Ward 93 yesterday, remembering his motto of always assuming best intent from our collegues. His presence is still very evident in our hearts every day. His tree in the garden has the beginning of buds again.
Posted by Suzan Freibert on February 2, 2013
Kevin, I think about you so often. You remain such a presence in my life and I am so blessed to have known you and called you my friend. You are missed.
Posted by Susan Scheidt on February 1, 2013
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you...with love, laughter, longing...xo
Posted by Christian Burke on November 27, 2012
missing you Kevin. thinking of you often. wish we could walk and laugh
Posted by Paula Di Rita Wishart on November 23, 2012
Still miss you, Kevin. And still feel blessed having known you.
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Posted by Sandie Harrington on November 21, 2020
Happy Kevin Day, dear friend. xxoo
Posted by Cathy Campbell on November 21, 2020
Dear Kevin. I think of you on your birthday every year, since it is the day after Bruce's. I hope you met my nephew in heaven when he came earlier this year. We miss you so much. We LOVE you. Thanks for watching over us.
Posted by laurine marrocco on November 21, 2020
Remembering you on your birthday sweet nephew. My heart still aches with sadness from losing you. I’m celebrating “you” and your amazing 52 years of life on earth today on this side of Heaven, Kevin Allen Mack I know you and our loved ones with you are celebrating too. You are a special soul and our Angel! Happy heavenly birthday!
Recent stories

Loving you still!

Shared by Susan Scheidt on July 18, 2019

Kevin, your light continues to shine In so many lives! I am grateful for the time we had on this earth together. You indeed will be forever missed...


Shared by Robert Buckley on July 17, 2019

Eight years now.  Hard to believe.  Kevin, I remember you so clearly, your compassion and your eagerness to learn and teach.  Haven't seen Naoki or the kids in a long time, but I remember them fondly and expect that they will all continue to grow.  


I also remember your wicked wit, and I miss that as much as your kindness.  

Two Years

Shared by Susan Scheidt on July 14, 2013

Yes, today is the two –year marker of the loss of our dear Kevin.

One of Kevin’s favorite books was “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, and he lived by those four agreements: 1) Be impeccable with your word 2) Don’t take anything personally 3) Don’t make assumptions and 4) Always do your best.

He fought hard for marriage equality and would have been so heartened by the recent Supreme Court decisions.

Many of you contributed to the Japanese maple tree that we planted at San Francisco General Hospital in Kevin’s honor in the Comfort Garden in front of building 90 (immediately in front of the ramp to the right front side of the door) and to the bench in front of it. If you haven’t been by there for awhile, I urge to stop and take a look at the growth and strength of the tree in “Kevin’s Corner.” It is a living symbol of the life he shared with so many of us, and continues to be a source of inspiration and hope.