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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Kevin Mack, MD, MS.  

We hope to honor Kevin by making this a living memorial.  Please use this as a "hub" to share your stories and tributes.  Though you need to formally register to add anything, there is no advertising or spamming associated with registering.  You may leave brief tributes below, or longer stories on the "stories tab." 

A viewing was held on Tuesday evening, 6pm on July 19th, 2011 at St. Agnes Catholic Church on 1025 Masonic Avenue, San Francisco CA 94117.  The mass was held on Wednesday morning, 10am on July 20th, also at St. Agnes.  

A memorial service was held at 5:00 PM on Thursday, July 21, 2011 at Cole Hall, UCSF Parnassus Campus.  It was simulcast to the SFGH Cafeteria and to UC Berkeley University Hall, room 150.  Here is a link to the entire UCSF-based ceremony:

http://lecture.ucsf.edu/ETS/Viewer/?peid=7f8c0b04878842858a8452d33c0b0e111d

If you would like to download a copy of this event, email Amin (Amin.Azzam@ucsf.edu) and he will arrange for you to get access to it.

Kevin is buried in the Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery, at 1500 Mission Road; Colma, CA 94014. 

In lieu of flowers, donations to benefit his husband and children may be made to the Kevin Mack, MD Memorial Fund through Wells Fargo Bank.  Donations can be:

1) mailed c/o Amin Azzam to 348 51st Street #C; Oakland, CA 94609; or

2) made in person at any Wells Fargo Branch.  If you attempt to donate at a bank branch and the teller has troubles finding the account, encourage them to click on the "confidential tab" to locate the memorial fund.

Finally, Natalie Bybee (a dear close personal family friend) would like volunteers willing to create video clips of remembrances of Kevin so she can compile them as stories for his children.  If you are interested in offering a video remebrance, contact her directly at nataliebybee@yahoo.com.  More details on how you can contribute have now been posted under the "stories" tab of this site.

And on the eve of the 1 year anniversary of Kevin's death, here is an email from the UCSF psychiatry department chair:

Dear Department of Psychiatry Colleagues,

A year ago, on July 14, 2011, we lost our colleague Dr. Kevin Mack. I wanted to reach out to everyone in the department, in parallel with the school to medical students and faculty colleagues, and also in parallel with the UCSF- UCB Joint Medical Program to its community, as I know that many of us were deeply touched by Kevin. He brought laughter, warmth, support, and intellectual engagement to so many of us. I invite you to spend a special moment this weekend to remember him.

The School of Medicine announces the establishment of the Kevin Mack LGBT Champion Scholarship. This scholarship will honor Kevin’s open and unwavering commitment to the professional development and emotional support of all medical students, and especially those of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender identity. The scholarship will be awarded to one student each year in recognition of important contributions during medical school to the principles of non-discrimination and human rights that Kevin exemplified so strongly in word and deed. Details of the award and the application process will be distributed soon.   

The UC Berkeley - UCSF Joint Medical Program honors Kevin's commitment and dedication to innovation in medical education with the creation of the Kevin Mack Medical Education Leadership Support Fund.  It supports the advancement and promotion of innovative educational efforts with an annual faculty support award. The fund will be formally established very soon.

At a department level, we instituted at this year’s Psychiatry Faculty Education Retreat the Annual Kevin Mack Life Lessons. Bestowed upon the session that best embodies Kevin’s spirit of life, loving and learning, this year the inaugural honored session was “Teaching Critical Thinking” led by David Elkin and Gilbert Villela.

Kevin will also be remembered by a special SFGH Psychiatry Grand Rounds session each Fall in his honor. The annual event will celebrate Kevin's playfulness, creativity, inspiration, teaching and mentoring.

Also, with colleagues I am planning a special activity for department members and alums to remember Kevin each year at the Fall national meeting of the Association of Academic Psychiatry, an organization that was near and dear to Kevin.

November 21, 2013
November 21, 2013
Happy Birthday Kevin. I still remember your smile, your encouraging words and your warm hugs. Love
November 21, 2013
November 21, 2013
Hi dearest, thinking of you today and every day. Thanks for all of it, this world sure was brighter while you were in it. Just read Sara Hartley's tribute from 7/17/11 and agree wholeheartedly. It still seems a bit unclear what we are to do without you...
November 20, 2013
November 20, 2013
Happy birthday eve, sweet angel Kevin! You continue to light my way and make me smile. Aki is growing up and she is so like you!! Smart and funny and just a little naughty now and then!!! We all miss you so!!!
xoxo
September 10, 2013
September 10, 2013
Kevin, you were an amazing person and I think about you so very often. You gave joy, hope and provided inspiration to countless people in this world. Thank you for being part of mine.
July 23, 2013
July 23, 2013
As I travel through Cambodia, I can't help but imagine you here drawing in the lovely people with your smile and shining attention. I carry you with me and strive to be as good in the world as you. So grateful for having known you. It's clear from these tributes that I am part of a healing web of people who loved you too...love you still.
July 14, 2013
July 14, 2013
We are hoping that you are resting in peace. I feel so happy that Greg got to meet you. We wish we could spend even one more joyous night with you, like at fumi and rohan's wedding. still think of you, all the time.
July 14, 2013
July 14, 2013
My beloved nephew, I wonder if you truly realize how many lives you have touched? Do you know that people here still painfully miss you? As difficult as the loss of your presence has been these last two years -- of you sharing your wisdoms and stories and joyful laughter, always so full of life & exuding love-- you will 4ever remain alive in our hearts. Miss u like crazy...xx Auntie
July 14, 2013
July 14, 2013
Kevin, I have just looked at the many pictures of your life on this site, and you are so alive in every photo. Your energy is so bright and your presence so real that I can't believe you are gone. It's only my tears that make me believe it. I miss you with so much of my energy, and can only imagine the heart-wrenching loss your family feels. I know you're listening: you always did. xxoo
June 24, 2013
June 24, 2013
Kevin- Not sure why especially today, but sitting at my dining room table and missing you. You said so many funny, wise, and profound things to me as my mentor and friend and I am forever thankful. But, honestly today I don't feel thankful as much as totally and completely sad that you're not here to go get a hot dog together.
May 6, 2013
May 6, 2013
I have just been shocked to learn of the loss of Kevin. He mentored and taught me deep insights when I was a medical student at Harvard. He cared as innately as anyone about training doctors learning how to understand each other and their patients, about their supporting those feeling low, and about their care for the work. His love for Naoki was clear. I miss you, Kevin. Love and peace.
April 24, 2013
April 24, 2013
Thought of you today, on this random Wednesday in April... your warmth and generosity of spirit. I miss the random days of running into you at SFGH and gleaning a bit of that warmth. You are forever remembered, Kevin Mack.
February 2, 2013
February 2, 2013
We were talking about Kevin on Ward 93 yesterday, remembering his motto of always assuming best intent from our collegues. His presence is still very evident in our hearts every day. His tree in the garden has the beginning of buds again.
February 2, 2013
February 2, 2013
Kevin, I think about you so often. You remain such a presence in my life and I am so blessed to have known you and called you my friend. You are missed.
February 1, 2013
February 1, 2013
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you...with love, laughter, longing...xo
November 27, 2012
November 27, 2012
missing you Kevin. thinking of you often. wish we could walk and laugh
November 23, 2012
November 23, 2012
kevin, on your birthday we remember what a beautiful person you were. yes, your spirit will always be with us, but damned if we don't just really miss the rest of you.
November 22, 2012
November 22, 2012
Just thinking of you today on your birthday :) I am such a fortunate person to have known you my friend. What a blessing :)
November 22, 2012
November 22, 2012
Happy Birthday, Dear Kevin! So much has changed, but you've continued to hold our hands through all of it. I love you.
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
Continue to think of you Kevin and what a wonderful guy you are. Your memory is fresh, you left a lasting impression on the world.
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
Happy Birthday, sweet Kevin! Wish we could celebrate our November birthdays together like we used to. The Japanese maple tree we planted for you at SFGH changes with the seasons, and makes it real that we've been without you for all these months now. It's also a place I go to talk to you every day, finding there your wisdom and your strength. Loving you always...
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
Thinking of Kevin today, miss you Kevin, your smile, your pure joy whenever you came to visit me. No one like you, the world lost a great person, an original. My love to your family during the holidays.
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
So sad you are gone, still think of you often, miss Kitty's stories about the kids, miss Kitty too...... God Bless you, Love Anne xxx
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
Thanks for continuing to inspire me to smile and to love and to laugh and to care... I'll hold that gift forever!
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
My beloved nephew....miss you like crazy but you are still so alive in my thoughts and in my heart. I very much enjoyed remembering your birthday today, so happy birthday my dear Kevin as you live on in all of us and continue to inspire us to be better human beings down here on earth. Yep, you really do! You left an amazing indelible mark on so many people!
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
Practically no day goes by that I'm not thinking of you and remembering some amazingly fun thing we did together or some amazingly intense conversation we had about the multitude of topics that one could so easily discuss with you. I am particularly missing today your smile, wisdom, and compassion. You live on in my heart and we'll meet again. Blessings to your family.
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
I so miss you my friend. I hope that you and Nona are discussing all that is Italia up there in heaven. I still remember your wonderful smile, your kind heart, and your naughty sense of humor.
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
Remembering you always. In my pursuit of a career in Education, no matter how slow the journey, your inspiration helps to constantly encourage me. Forever thankful and missing you very much.
November 21, 2012
November 21, 2012
Kevin -
We greatly missed seeing you and your lovely children come by our pad at Halloween last month and I am still learning from you how fragile life can be and how important it is to live it, not to let it slip by.
July 28, 2012
July 28, 2012
Kevin - I still think of you, your extraordinarily caring and supportive nature, and the pearls you taught me as a resident. I miss you, my friend. Our field misses you even more dearly. But, your influence continues to impact me and many, many others in this world. I thank you for that, Kevin, for your selfless generosity of wisdom!!
July 16, 2012
July 16, 2012
You touched so many lives and taught us all so many wonderful lessons about life and death.  I can't believe it had been a year since you left us. You are dearly missed but never far from us.
July 14, 2012
July 14, 2012
A year has passed and I still can't believe Kevin is gone. I think of him often - his great smile - his naughty glint in his eye - his kindness - his intelligence - his humanity - miss you forever my friend!
July 14, 2012
July 14, 2012
Dear nephew, one year ago u went on to reap the rewards of a short life well-lived.I miss u so Kev. We all miss u so. In my minds-eye I always picture u with that big beautiful smile on your face, and I know u are happy where u are.Our family has lost so much when u were taken from us-- the knowledge, love, caring+joy u gave our family is gone, but u will always be close in our hearts Love
July 14, 2012
July 14, 2012
I've been counting down to this day for weeks now, heart heavy with the sadness of losing dear Kevin, but still full with all of the joyful memories he left behind. He continues to teach us lessons in his death as he did with his life. Viewing his photos yet again brings back the intense yet gentle way he lived each moment and reminds me to do the same... I love you and miss you, Kevin
July 14, 2012
July 14, 2012
Just a few days ago I found myself looking forward to an upcoming conference, thinking how I would get to share some time with you...then I (again) realized you were gone. I think I will be missing you for some time to come, Kevin.
July 14, 2012
July 14, 2012
My God, has it really only been a year? It seems so much longer since I've seen you, my friend. But my memory of your laughter and the brilliant glow of your caring heart is as bright as ever.
July 13, 2012
July 13, 2012
It's been almost a year since Kevin passed, and his desk (that is behind me as I type this) remains empty. He sat in this office and he was always smiling, always friendly, and always genuinely interested in you as a person. His humble, but confident nature put everyone at ease. 7M8 misses him terribly still.
July 1, 2012
July 1, 2012
Approaching a year from the sad day we lost you, Kevin, I still think of you daily, especially when I am preparing to teach. Among other things, you encouraged me to make the most of whatever is, however much or little I have been able to prepare, whatever the students' level of interest, to go for it with enthusiasm and interest in each student. Thank you Kevin, and I miss you.
April 22, 2012
April 22, 2012
There was a wonderful article in "New Diagnosis" a publication published by the Physicians Organizaing Committee, Winter 2012. I'll try to find a way to attach it somewhere on this website. I sent it to my family and friends who either knew Kevin or supported me (and still do) through my unending grief over his tragic loss. I want to post two of the many responses....continued...
January 28, 2012
January 28, 2012
Silence of platitudes.
You were the one and only.
Tanned feet.
Get toothbrushes.
Say hi to Karen.

Aloha.
December 30, 2011
December 30, 2011
Dear Kevin
Here is to you on this holiday season
Missing you much
Happy New Year my friend
Louai
December 28, 2011
December 28, 2011
I only heard a week ago about Kevin's untimely death, an am still coming to grips with it all. Kevin was my best from from High School, and has always had a special place in my heart. We never lost touch over the years and I have always cherished our Birthday calls and Holiday cards. Reading the tributes only confirm the amazing person I knew Kevin to be, he will be forever remebered.
December 25, 2011
December 25, 2011
Dearest Kevin: God Bless your sweet, loving soul--on Christmas and always! I miss you so. Aunt Laurie & Uncle Dick
December 24, 2011
December 24, 2011
Tomorrow will be the first Christmas in a very long time that Kevin won't call to sing Happy Birthday to me. I'm sure going to miss that. I'm also missing the complete joy he found in Christmas - you couldn't help but get into the spirit when you were around him this time of year! Love you my friend - and always will!
December 23, 2011
December 23, 2011
"PEACE."

How appropriate. Blessed are the Peacemakers, and blessed was (is) Kevin. Merry Christmas, Kevin. Put in a good word in for the rest of us still moseying around down here on the big blue marble.  Taking a sentimental journey and recalling Christmas Eve, 1975...
November 22, 2011
November 22, 2011
Happy Birthday, Kevin, my inspiration! You live on in so many hearts. I love you, Claire xoxox
November 22, 2011
November 22, 2011
Happy belated birthday Kevin. You are still terribly missed
November 21, 2011
November 21, 2011
My beloved nephew.. I have an aching heart missing you terribly. My call to you today would be a bday song of love & joy reminding you again what a darling you were the day you born until you peed on me.We would laugh. We loved remembering each others' November birthdays. This year Aki and Nobu sang me the bday song so beautifully...you would be so proud of them. bday love in Heaven Kev!
November 21, 2011
November 21, 2011
Remembering you on your birthday Kevin and sad for all I missed when your shining face and happy voice would have been there to greet my wishes. Really thinking of your lovely children and husband most and how much they must miss your gentle presence every day.
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July 14, 2023
July 14, 2023
Twelve years ago we lost one of the most amazing men I’ve ever known. My heart is still is broken over the loss of you, my dear nephew, Kevin Allen Mack. You were sterling character of a man a brilliant doctor and a Fun and Funny, sweet loving guy. I will miss you always and forever til the day I die. And when I die I hope to meet your sweet soul in heaven. Love, Auntie Laurie
November 23, 2022
November 23, 2022
京都の大学でUCSFで君が取り組んでいた学生参画型授業に関する講演をしましたね。随分かれから時間が経ったのですが、あの教育方法は今でも課題になっています。21世紀の社会、それは多くの困難な課題が噴出し、その解決を私たちは求められています。答えのない世界に立ち向かる人々が求められている時代になっているのです。そのため、教育はそれを課題にして改革しなければなりません。貴方はその先駆者だっとと思います。わたしはあなたをいつまでも忘れくことはないでしょう。
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Loving you still!

July 18, 2019

Kevin, your light continues to shine In so many lives! I am grateful for the time we had on this earth together. You indeed will be forever missed...


July 17, 2019

Eight years now.  Hard to believe.  Kevin, I remember you so clearly, your compassion and your eagerness to learn and teach.  Haven't seen Naoki or the kids in a long time, but I remember them fondly and expect that they will all continue to grow.  


I also remember your wicked wit, and I miss that as much as your kindness.  

Two Years

July 14, 2013

Yes, today is the two –year marker of the loss of our dear Kevin.

One of Kevin’s favorite books was “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, and he lived by those four agreements: 1) Be impeccable with your word 2) Don’t take anything personally 3) Don’t make assumptions and 4) Always do your best.

He fought hard for marriage equality and would have been so heartened by the recent Supreme Court decisions.

Many of you contributed to the Japanese maple tree that we planted at San Francisco General Hospital in Kevin’s honor in the Comfort Garden in front of building 90 (immediately in front of the ramp to the right front side of the door) and to the bench in front of it. If you haven’t been by there for awhile, I urge to stop and take a look at the growth and strength of the tree in “Kevin’s Corner.” It is a living symbol of the life he shared with so many of us, and continues to be a source of inspiration and hope.

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