Time is flying by so quickly that I can hardly keep up. I miss you very much and hope that you've heard my conversations with you. Remember my promise to you that I would take Andrew to Lake Como to meet you? I'm hoping this is the year I will fulfill that promise. But before that, we have to go through a lot of pain of growing up. I know you've been following the progress but I really need your help through this. It's been a rough road filled with much laughter and sorrow. The last 2+ years have been very challenging, at best, and has set him back quite a lot. I keep my faith and envision a grown, happy, healthy & successful person. He's very much like you in many ways, good & bad. I'm at a crossroad and don't know how to help. Like our relationship, I fear that I'm not giving him what he needs despite my best efforts and how I know to be supportive. I realize that we all want to be heard in a different way and I'm not sure if I'm providing the right support...just like when you & I were having troubles. I know now that we did not know how to support each other in the ways the other person needed to be supported. Please help me! I miss you everyday and truly wish you were here with us!!

I can't believe it's been 4 years. Not a day goes by that you don't come into my thoughts somehow, somewhere. The other day, as I was coming back from dropping Andrew off at school, I spotted your old car! You sold the car, yet, it was on the same street as me, same license plate, as if following me. I tried to follow you but I was in the wrong lane. At that moment, I felt that you have been with us the entire time...watching over us and helping us through every difficulty and celebrated every success. I know you are here to witness every milestone we reach. You are very much here with us.

I was scrolling the Contact list on my Iphone yesterday for a freind whose last name is Lee. Strangely, Larry's name popped up on the screen. It is obvious that I had not edited out his name from the list. I could not explain why I had kept it but in seeing his name gave me an undescribeable feeling that he is still with us. RIP my friend.

Happy Father's Day! This is the first Father's Day you missed. I promise I will always remind Andrew what a great father he has. You will always be his role model for strength & perseverance in the face of adversity. Andrew will always remember how much you cared & loved him. I will continue to tell him stories of your life, of our times together, of your successes & struggles. You will live on in our memories! Thank you for being our guardian angel.

I first met Larry many years ago and found that we shared a love of chamber music. He was a very good friends. I knew him during many ups and downs in his life. When he moved away from my part of the country I was sorry. Because of conflicts I was unable to attend his wedding. I used to visit with him in San Francisco each autumn. It was a highlight of my year. I miss him very much and was pained by the increasing problems with his health.

Larry was a very accomplished person, a renaissance man. But what impressed me most was his strength towards the end of his life. He was calm and gracious, and did not show any bitterness or frustration. He cared a great deal about Chris, Andrew, his family and friends. A true lesson for me. May he rest in eternal peace.

Throughout the funeral services last Saturday, I was not surprised to hear about Larry’s intelligence and what an achiever he was. What surprised me was that I actually had something similar that paralleled in our lives.
For starters, we were both born in Shanghai. We both came to Hong Kong in the mid 50’s and attended Pui Ching though he graduated with all sorts of “Excellences” and “Distinctions”. But the similarities did not stop there. I remember on a hot and humid August night in 1962 we and several other Sunrisers took the famous junket on the SS Cleveland bound for San Francisco to further our studies. He went to Massachusetts and I Arkansas. After college, Larry went to work for Princeton and Stanford managing multi-million dollar endowments and I went to work for Woolworth - the Five and Dime.
That was when I realized Larry and I were not similar. He was a thoroughbred and I a jackass!
Finally, the most striking similarity was that we were both struck down by the debilitating disease, Parkinson’s which slowly took Larry from us.
I will miss him.

It was my privilege to know Larry. He is a smart man (I still remember him telling me how big an atomic bomb is while we were in high school). He is a charming, witty, gentle and caring man. He helped to instill in me the love of classical music. He encouraged me to study philosophical questions. He challenged me to think more deeply about my religious belief. He helped me to understand the power of passion.

Both of us came to the US after high school. I went to the west coast and he went to the east coast. We met again at Stanford and shared a house in Palo Alto. We had a good time together. He was my best man when I got married in 1978, and I was his best man in 1999.

It was very unfortunate that he acquired Parkinson’s decease. But against long odds, he fought his debilitating illness with courage and determination, and he never lost his sense of humor. He did not live a long life, but he lived a beautiful life. By knowing him, my life was greatly enriched.

I had my only conversation with Larry when I was in California in 2002 for my brother's funeral service. Even though it was only through a telephone but his gentleness already expressed itself fully in the conversation. I still can remember vividly his voice even now, a voice which we will miss.

Thank you for touching my life in such a profound way. I will always remember all the good times we had.

I shall always remember his gentleness and forbarance of his physical conditions. He just calmly explained his difficulties and got on with life bravely, a guy with a great inner strength!

Larry and I were both from Shanghai. Unfortunately, we did not have a chance to meet each other there, but we did have a same goal to attend Pui Ching in Hongkong.
In PC days, he attended Class of Light, and I attended Class of Faith, our
class rooms were cruelly seperated in the North and South by class rooms
of Class of Love and Class of Hope. 
Next time, we met some 30+ years after PC graduation in1962, we were
hosting a dinner for out-of-town classmate, Elizabeth Houang in SF Bay Area@ Flower Lounge with other Bay Area Sunrisers.
As organizer for our class 48th Reunion in Vancouver in 2010, I was grateful that Larry came all the way from SF Bay Area to attend. We tried
all our best to take good care of him during the Alaska Cruise.
I certainly missed him.

Parker Chin
Canada