ForeverMissed

This online memorial website was created in memory of our sister, mother, aunt, grandmother, and great-grandmother, Mama Margaret Kitior Ngu Fohtung who passed away on April 18, 2019 after having lived a full life. Though she is gone, her memory remains fresh in our minds and hearts. We are thankful for the amazing life Mama lived, and we wish you join us in celebrating and sharing your memories of the vibrant soul she was.

We implore to please share your stories, memories, pictures and videos of Mama Maggie on here.

Thank you for visiting

Posted by Beryl Ngym on April 18, 2021
Mama, I miss you so. Everyday I realise how difficult it is to go on without you. No calls from you. Can’t pick up the phone to have answers to my many questions about events or people who have gone by.
I miss coming to Buea just to satisfy my need for a hug and a kiss from you. How I treasure those moments now.
You know I have not been able to come spend time in BUEA even though Limunga has been inviting me nonstop. But here I am, on your bed. I spent the night. Ma Daph’s pictures on your dressing table. Uncle Peter’s is there also smiling at me. The night was hood but Bokwango is getting hotter.
Oh mama, it is hard. But I have to keep accepting this life has to go on.

Even living for 45 years with Papa gone, it was okay because you always stepped in and filled the gap.
Your Godchild Vivian passed away 2 days ago. Everyone seem to be moving on, but what can one really do?
I try to hide the pain, but it is getting tougher as time goes by. I force myself to find a reason to hang on. Jacky, Bah Fominyi is my strongest support and strongest reason to hold onto life. Limunga checks on me regularly so I thank God for her.
Everyone you left behind as far as I know are doing well in their own corner. (I believe you will know more than I, as you had direct relationship with each and everyone)

So I am going out now to clean the graves. Please continue to love and pray fir us, your loved ones you left behind.

YOU ARE FOREVER MISSED.
Posted by Bee Lola on December 30, 2019
Sometime on Christmas Day it hit me that this was our very first Christmas without you. It definitely was not the same without your call and I can’t help but wonder how we move on without you. I miss you Granny. I miss jumping into your daily conversations with mommy. It’s been a hard year, but we’re still here. Still standing and adjusting to this new normal. I trust you’re looking down on us and guiding us as usual. I love you
Posted by Bee Lola on December 30, 2019
Sometime on Christmas Day it hit me that this was our very first Christmas without you. It definitely was not the same without your call and I can’t help but wonder how we move on without you. I miss you Granny. I miss jumping into your daily conversations with mommy. It’s been a hard year, but we’re still here. Still standing and adjusting to this new normal. I trust you’re looking down on us and guiding us as usual. I love you
Posted by Beryl Ngym on December 19, 2019
Mama, I miss you so. Yes this is my first Christmas without you. It has been a struggle; having to keep up appearances. As if all is well. But it is not.
It has been a very difficult year - 2019! I pray it comes to an end.
So mama, wherever you are now, know that I miss your daily calls. I miss talking to you. And yes I miss going into the stores and picking up things for you. I miss driving to BUEA just to spend time with you. I miss hearing you call me back to come give a hug and a kiss before I drive off. Yes it is going to be a challenge knowing that I have to spend the rest of my days without you. You will always be my loving mother
Posted by Jacquie Patcha on May 10, 2019
I WOULD NEVER HAVE WISHED FOR ANY ONE ELSE
Dear God Mother,
I would never have wished for anyone else.
You were truly a blessing to me. Our experiences together were amazing; rich, fulfilling and loving.
I am full of thanks to my mom who answered God’s voice that directed her to you to be my godmother, and fulfil His plan for my life.
I am full of gratitude to you my beloved godmom for living up this role and responsibilities that came with it to the FULL. Thank you for blessing me with love, generosity and gratitude from the day I was born. It could only be you.
I am immensely grateful to our Awesome God for giving us this opportunity to fulfil His plan for our lives. It was an awesome encounter.
You were just too kind to me, greeting me with such warm hug and kiss each time we met. There was no doubt of your love for me. You made enough sacrifices for me. I pray my god/children experience something as good as this.
How lucky I was, how blessed I’ve been that you were more than my Godmother.
I will miss you mom, surely; I pray God to help me live your legacy of generosity, love and gratitude.
Rest, rest; rest in peace my beloved mom. Now I have another angel in Heaven.
Posted by Tambe Emmanuel on May 6, 2019
Granny as u were funnily called by ur many grandchildren, was a Great woman. I remembered in the mid nineties wen I was haven some problems in school in St Francis and I was asked by sister Grace n Pa Ndele to bring my parents. I came to you instead and u went there as my mother and u told them wat they never heard. Again I remembered wen u were leaving kumba for Buea, how u handle life during that period and again how u became the last one standing in the family. Granny u've left a legacy that will lived in us forever. Go well Mama
Posted by Marie Nasah on May 5, 2019
Dearest Mama, how you are sorely, deeply missed. You have been a mother figure to us from our teens - smiling, gracious, kind, nurturing, and always welcoming. In your presence, there was always jokes and laughter...I will miss those forever.
May the Good Lord receive you in His heavenly kingdom and give you peace from a world which held many trials and temptations for you. May your soul rest in perfect peace xxx
Posted by Loveline Tambe on May 3, 2019
Dear mama, I know you really did not know me very well because we met very few times but you left a few lessons in my head. I do not call you mother because I was your child by blood but from observation and interaction with your children and grand children I believe you have earned the name to me. Hmmm thinking about the few times we met you were so warm though yet so careful, you spoke very soft and vigorous but very firm, from which I believed you were a woman of great substance. You have worked well mama and today we commemorate your life and celebrate your yesterday with hope that someday there'll be a reunion in the sky.
Posted by Bee Lola on April 30, 2019
Dear mama, I stand to testify that God endowed you with a sweet and excellent spirit. In you I saw love for all, kindness, the strong desire for unity and your selflessness. My prayer and hope for all of is that this same spirit that was in you has "rubbed off" unto all of us so that wherever we find ourselves in the world, we will touch and impact the lives of others in like manner. This is your legacy to us. I am proud to have been one of your favorite daughters. I always felt at home whether my sister was there or not. One of the most recent acts of your deep concern and proof of love was when I came visiting you while you were hospitalised in early March. You asked me if I had brought clothes to spend the night, and when it was time for me to leave, you reached out for your purse and gave me a gift. I tried to refuse it but you insisted and said to me "my dear I know what you are going through, but remember that when you were fine you took care of me, so don't turn down my offer, it's a sign of my love to you for what you are to me". I fell short of bursting into tears. Then I said to myself "This is the same old mama, what a heart of giving!!! " Yes mama!!! We will keep the promise (no need giving details here) Thanks mama for all your love and care.
Your daughter - Ebans ("The Yellow Girl")
Posted by Bee Lola on April 30, 2019
EULOGY TO MY BELOVED SISTER.
MRS. MARGARET KITIOR NGU FOHTUNG
It would take a whole book to write out my relationship with my beloved sister (Cousin), because it has been a lifelong experience from our childhood until her departure to a better life. By God's grace, this intimate relationship passed on to all our children. We Thank God.
Her house was a “Family Hotel of Charity" to family members, friends and sundry. She was a peaceful and very caring iron lady who looked for the best in each family member, and friends. She was the most conscientious grandmother, and most grandchildren where always happy to visit with her. Through the grace of God and endurance, she was always at the forefront of the burial of the following family members :
Parents, Husband, sister-in-law, her first son, two brothers and a sister, a half- brother and finally her eldest daughter and “best friend ” five months ago. We thank God for sustaining her through these compounding crises.
We will miss her for all the gifts she shared with family and friends. Through the intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary, may the God of Mercy and Compassion receive her soul into His Kingdom. May God continue to bless and guide her children, family members and friends left behind.
From your sister Dorothy Mulonge Ikome Nasah ( Iya Mbamba)
Posted by Bee Lola on April 30, 2019
My dearest granny my best boh it’s hard to believe you are no longer here with us; the memories I have of you will keep me going. You were a mother to all, and you taught me how to care for others. The last days with you were fun we laughed and spoke about stuff: things we needed to do when you felt better, little did I know you were saying goodbye. I will really miss you: who is always going to say ''where is Limunga?'' You’ve left a void in my heart. Rest on Granny for I know you are in a better place and you are watching over us. I love you always ♥
Limunga Deelaila

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Posted by Beryl Ngym on April 18, 2021
Mama, I miss you so. Everyday I realise how difficult it is to go on without you. No calls from you. Can’t pick up the phone to have answers to my many questions about events or people who have gone by.
I miss coming to Buea just to satisfy my need for a hug and a kiss from you. How I treasure those moments now.
You know I have not been able to come spend time in BUEA even though Limunga has been inviting me nonstop. But here I am, on your bed. I spent the night. Ma Daph’s pictures on your dressing table. Uncle Peter’s is there also smiling at me. The night was hood but Bokwango is getting hotter.
Oh mama, it is hard. But I have to keep accepting this life has to go on.

Even living for 45 years with Papa gone, it was okay because you always stepped in and filled the gap.
Your Godchild Vivian passed away 2 days ago. Everyone seem to be moving on, but what can one really do?
I try to hide the pain, but it is getting tougher as time goes by. I force myself to find a reason to hang on. Jacky, Bah Fominyi is my strongest support and strongest reason to hold onto life. Limunga checks on me regularly so I thank God for her.
Everyone you left behind as far as I know are doing well in their own corner. (I believe you will know more than I, as you had direct relationship with each and everyone)

So I am going out now to clean the graves. Please continue to love and pray fir us, your loved ones you left behind.

YOU ARE FOREVER MISSED.
Posted by Bee Lola on December 30, 2019
Sometime on Christmas Day it hit me that this was our very first Christmas without you. It definitely was not the same without your call and I can’t help but wonder how we move on without you. I miss you Granny. I miss jumping into your daily conversations with mommy. It’s been a hard year, but we’re still here. Still standing and adjusting to this new normal. I trust you’re looking down on us and guiding us as usual. I love you
Posted by Bee Lola on December 30, 2019
Sometime on Christmas Day it hit me that this was our very first Christmas without you. It definitely was not the same without your call and I can’t help but wonder how we move on without you. I miss you Granny. I miss jumping into your daily conversations with mommy. It’s been a hard year, but we’re still here. Still standing and adjusting to this new normal. I trust you’re looking down on us and guiding us as usual. I love you
her Life

In the beginning

Mama Maggie Kitior Fohtung née Ngu was born to Pa Joseph Henry Ngu and Mrs Martha Ngowo Ngu née Ikome on June 8, 1936 in Limbe, Cameroon. Mama was the first child born to her parents, but she had older siblings through her father: George Ngu, Veronica Ngu and Nguetsop who she all grew up with in addition to her three other siblings who are all of blessed memory: Jacob Lifanje, Benedicta Njomo and Peter Mbavuwa, and her sister, Dorothy Ikome Nasah, affectionately known as Iya Mbamba who is her last surviving sibling. She attended primary school in Kumba from where she proceeded to CCC Uyo in Akwa-Ibom, Nigeria for her secondary education.

As the first child, she shared a deep bond with her father who taught her how to drive at an early age and provided her with a car for her personal use at age 16.

During one of her vacations from school she met a handsome young man who would later become her husband. They were married soon after and their union produced 5 children: late Babila Joseph, late Martha Daphne, Gerald Munwu, Beryl Ngymanstie, and Jacky (Bah)Fominyi. The young couple settled in Kumba, but moved to the UK when her late husband went to pursue his masters degree.

There, their first daughter was born. Upon graduation, they returned to Cameroon where they settled in Ombe. Mama chose to stay home and raise her children, but her entrepreneurial spirit beckoned, and as such she was always involved in one form of business or another.

Unfortunately, death came calling and snatched her dear husband on March 13, 1975 leaving her a widow at the tender age of 38.

This did not hold her back though, as she hit the ground running upon her husband’s passing.

She bought land, constructed and moved her  family to a barely finished home without running water nor electricity.This all done that same year. This would be the home she would pass away in more than 43 later.

Mama Maggie did all possible to make sure that her children had a smooth transition into their new life. She was a contractor supplying food to Prison School (ENAP) Buea. With a strong determination to make sure her children had the best, even when she’d travel to England for health reasons, she’d buy things to sell to increase her income.

She supported her mother in running the family rubber plantation for several years, and at some point she would even go to Nigeria by boat to buy items for sale. This spirit lasted to the very end, as in early December Mama set up a poultry and began selling chickens right in time for the Christmas holidays! An entrepreneur to the very end, she most definitely could not hide her Bami genes even if she tried.



FAMILY

As the first girl borne to her mother, Mama assumed a lot of responsibilities in the family and she performed them with pride and joy down to the very end.In 1983 Mama Maggie moved to Kumba to be close to her mother who was aging and needed someone close by. Her brother of late, Peter Ngu built a nightclub named after her, “KITIOR’s” which she managed for him.

At the same time she had lovingly welcomed and was bringing up a second batch of kids - her grand kids, Munwu Towa, Kapala Ngowo and Kitior Motue. We fondly referred to her as “REPEAT EXAM”, (an expression borrowed from a friend’s mum, Mama O’tabong).

All this, while smoothly and efficiently running her family’s rubber plantation in Mbalangi and managing her family’s properties.

She moved back to Buea in 2006, after burying her mother, Mama Martha Ngu & brother Peter Ngu.

By now her second batch of children were grown up.

Years later, Mama Maggie being the loving and resilient MOTHER, welcomed the responsibility of taking in the third batch of children; Kahbila Kitior, Kapala Nahbila, Sama Mbavua & Kusona Kehmia.

As each of her grandchildren will testify, (even those who did not stay permanently with her) Granny had a special relationship with everyone. She will ask for her grandchildren every holiday. And she was not ashamed to beg and sometimes twist arms. And when they all grew up, and moved to foreign lands, she would always keep in touch by calling.

They would testify that she never ever missed a birthday, as she would typically place her calls bright and early on the morning of, which she did right until the week before she passed away. Mama definitely embraced the digital age with more enthusiasm than most of her peers. She was on Viber, Whatsapp, and for a brief period: Facetime! Even with her hearing impairment, she would always call, more often than not just to check on everyone.

She welcomed friends of her children/grandchildren without discrimination. They were all her children. She shared whatever she had. Mostly her love to feed. She had “SUNDAY BRUNCHES” until her friends passed away.

She will be remembered by the Sakarettes Class of 1973 for she cooked and sent food to Victoria every day all through the period of their GCE exams. She welcomed children’s friends even when they were out of the country.

SOCIAL

Mama Maggie belonged to numerous social groups because she had a deep love of community, of coming together to serve others. She joined the Everly sisters which was as the name stipulates a group of women bonded by sisterhood.

They were there for each other through the good times and the bad. For births, funerals, marriages, counselling - ah they were indeed a real force. The beauty about these women is that they came from all works of life and from different social classes.

Meetings were held on the 28th of each month from member to member’s residents. Whenever it came to Mama Maggie’s turn, she would go above and beyond to make sure the ladies had a fantastic time, after all she had a knack for hosting.

She was also a member of the Nkongni women group. Similar to the Everly Sisters but more traditional. They held meetings on the 22nd of each month. A lovely group of women who were always there for each other.

Mama Maggie was a very devout Catholic, so it comes as no surprise that she was a member of several church groups. The was the all important CWA - the Catholic Women’s Association, the block Rosary Crusade, the Blue Army, St. Vincent Prayer group to name a few.

She even started a prayer meeting with her late daughter, Daphne Fohtung in London in 2005. She and her rosary were inseparable, she always had it on her. She would gather her household every evening to say 5 decades of the rosary.

The church played a very significant role in Mama’s life. She would cook and send food to the priests and Rev. Sisters. Because most of them were younger than she was, they’d come to her for counselling and advice. She would even send her grandchildren and household to go clean and decorate the church in preparation for Sunday services.

The social groups Mama belonged to were just more than social gatherings. They carried out vital work for the well-being of the community. They visited the sick, comforted widows, visited prisoners, provided food for the less privileged. These and many more gave Mama fulfilment.




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Shared by Bee Lola on May 1, 2019

On the occasion of Granny's 80th birthday, some of her grandkids who could not be present to celebrate with her, made her this wonderful video