ForeverMissed
From the very moment that I met Roopa back in March 2001, I knew she was profoundly different from anyone I’d ever known in my life....And after over 19 years of marriage, she was more unique & special to me than ever. For the last several years, Roopa’s life was largely confined to being at home, shut away from the outside world due to the severity of her illness. The people who knew her best, aside from me and Asha, were those that she befriended online, people from all nationalities and backgrounds…in India—her homeland—England, Europe, the US, and Canada.
Her colourful interests were what attracted so many to her, as she developed poetry and Bible verse groups online, and was able to lovingly fellowship with a wide range of people, who will always remember her with great fondness & admiration.
But no one had the privilege of knowing this amazing and beautiful woman as much as I did.
I have seen up close & personal for almost 20 years the health hardships that my precious wife has gone through—and indeed, has gone through since her early childhood.

It’s one thing to admire a diamond for its luster and color, but until you understand the intense pressures exerted upon that jewel, you will never truly & fully appreciate it’s beauty and strength...
So that is why I am pouring my heart and soul into this memorial tribute page, because I long to see my wife known by others the way I have known her, and I also desire to hear from her beloved friends about the influence that she had on your lives.
With all of my heart and soul, I thank all of you for holding the memory of our precious Roopa close in your hearts always....



Posted by Denise Stefani on January 9, 2021
Dear Mark and family,
Thank you for sharing your wife's beauty with the world. Sending you and your family many hugs and prayers of peace during your times of grief.
Warmest Regards,
Denise Stefani
Posted by Lea Wolf on January 8, 2021
Hello Mark and Family, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. While, I do not personally know you I am a member of forever missed and have a lifetime page for my late partner Quin. I work on a site for Quinn consistently most days, and I saw your beautiful wife's photo pop up on the main page for forever missed. I think a person can tell a lot about a person's vibe and nature from a photo and something about her photo drew me in and I got the sense she was a really sweet and positive person, so my curiosity drew me in to check out her memorial page further. I too, am a widow now and this is not an easy journey you are all in my prayers. It is evident to me that you two had true love as you have done such a nice job honoring your wife on this page. The page is looking great, I've been on forever missed a while now and many people will make a page and not follow through on it, that is not the case with this site. I wish you and your family peace and healing during these hard times.
Posted by Jeffrey Carruthers on January 5, 2021
I am very sorry to hear about your loss Mark. I hope you and your daughter are doing ok. You are in my prayers!!
Posted by Chemical Free Gal on January 3, 2021
I never met your beautiful wife but a friend shared a post you wrote on FB about her and it touched my heart. She was very beautiful and from your posts she seems like a person I would have wanted to meet.

There is so much need within the Chronic Illness community. I'm so very sorry that your wife didn't have the support and love she needed from the body of Christ. Sadly I see this time and time again.

I hope that God will guide and comfort you and your daughter during this painful season.
May you both find rest in his presence.

Chemical Free Gal
Posted by Kim Greco on January 2, 2021
Mark, I was somehow added to your FB page before I ever met Roopa. I remember one day, you asking for prayer for your sweet wife. I really knew nothing about her at the time and had never spoke with her. Many people responded including myself to your cry, though, lifting her up in prayer as you had so humbly asked for. Not long after, I noticed a reply from Roopa back to you....basically wondering why you would come on FB and ask for prayer, when many of us were strangers and knew nothing about her life or struggles. You could tell she was a bit perplexed by your request on an Internet forum such as FB. It was at that very moment, that the Holy Spirit prompted me, I had this sense of feeling that Roopa had been shut out from what appeared to be fellowship among other believers. So I went to her FB and requested her as a friend. I really thought she might delete the request, after all, she had never laid eyes on me or had any clue who I was. I thought to myself, “Lord, you will have to open that door”, and He did. I than asked, “ok, now what?” Not knowing how I should go about befriending her. We lived a billion miles away from one another, how was I supposed to serve her? The answer I received... “start first by praying for her daily.” Once again I thought to myself... “but how, I know very little about her, what do I pray for?” My answer...”I know the details, you don’t need to know them, just pray, and the Holy Spirit will lead you.” So that’s what I began to do. There were times, where I was woken up in the middle of the night, and urged to pray for her. I would make simple comments on her FB page here and there, and she would sometimes respond by a thumbs up/like. At one point, I finally got the nerve to tell her that the Lord had put her on my heart, and that I was praying for her daily. And that’s where our friendship began. Needless to say, as it so often happens in the scripts the Lord writes, I’m the one who ended up being blessed by her friendship. She taught me so many things about what true faith looks like, how to suffer well, how to glorify His name in the midst of pain, how to give thanks during trials & tribulations, and the list goes on. I honestly never heard her question in our chats...”why me, Lord, why must I suffer, where is my healing?” What I did hear her say..... “I’m ready to meet my Maker.” So beautiful! So sweet, Roopa...sweet sister of mine... dance away on the streets of gold, I will be there one day to join in with you. Thank you for blessing me, thank you for your friendship, you are not forgotten, just dearly loved. ♥️
Posted by Gordon Sylvester on January 2, 2021
I never met Roopa in person, but interacted on Facebook. Roopa's love of of the Lord was apparent as was her live for families my and people in general. While she endured many hardships her posts posts always glorified our Savior.

While she no longer has to endure those hardships and pain any longer we know that Roopa's absence leaves a hole in the hearts of her family. But we followers of Christ are not without hope, and though we are separated for a time the day is coming when we shall all meet around the Throne of God and sing his praises for evermore. What joyful and glorious day that will be.
Posted by Mark Judy on January 1, 2021
I can only describe my meeting Roopa in March of 2001, as the moment when Heaven and my life intersected in the most Profoundly Indescribable way.....It was like Heaven opened a window, and the most breathtakingly magical breeze blew into my life.....and She changed Everything she touched, Forever.....
Posted by Mark Judy on December 31, 2020
Roopa and I were married for over 19 years, and she was the Perfect wife for me, and the most loving & devoted mother to our daughter Asha. She had a Faith that had been tested in fire, a faith that was deeper & more steadfast than anyone I had ever known. She also had a spirituality that was simple, a hope that was pure, and a love that was sincere. She was absolutely Unforgettable to me, and to everyone whose lives she touched....Her fragrant presence in our lives with be forever missed, but forever cherished & held close in our Hearts......

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Posted by Denise Stefani on January 9, 2021
Dear Mark and family,
Thank you for sharing your wife's beauty with the world. Sending you and your family many hugs and prayers of peace during your times of grief.
Warmest Regards,
Denise Stefani
Posted by Lea Wolf on January 8, 2021
Hello Mark and Family, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. While, I do not personally know you I am a member of forever missed and have a lifetime page for my late partner Quin. I work on a site for Quinn consistently most days, and I saw your beautiful wife's photo pop up on the main page for forever missed. I think a person can tell a lot about a person's vibe and nature from a photo and something about her photo drew me in and I got the sense she was a really sweet and positive person, so my curiosity drew me in to check out her memorial page further. I too, am a widow now and this is not an easy journey you are all in my prayers. It is evident to me that you two had true love as you have done such a nice job honoring your wife on this page. The page is looking great, I've been on forever missed a while now and many people will make a page and not follow through on it, that is not the case with this site. I wish you and your family peace and healing during these hard times.
Posted by Jeffrey Carruthers on January 5, 2021
I am very sorry to hear about your loss Mark. I hope you and your daughter are doing ok. You are in my prayers!!
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Like a Flower in the Desert

Sometimes, the most Extraordinary lives begin in the humblest and most obscure of places....Like a rare flower, growing undisturbed and tucked away in a most unassuming location....Roopa's was such a Life, a little life that began in a village in Punjab called Amritsar. Family life revolved around farming, cattle and crops, and Roopa learning to make mud pancakes out of dirt and chicken eggs.....eggs that the family needed for Breakfast, but oh well, ya gotta learn pancake making Somehow. But, Roopa was the baby of the family, so it was mostly overlooked, since farm life was busy occupying everyone with higher priorities than Roopa's raids on the chicken coop.
Now, these little chicken egg heists were part of a much happier time in young Roopa's life, but just a few short years earlier, her precious world was thrust into pain and darkness, the likes of which no child should ever have to suffer....Roopa was only about 2 years old, as one of the worst polio outbreaks was sweeping India...
Her mom had gone to a wedding for a few weeks, so Roopa was left in the care of her sisters, who had no idea why their baby sister was screaming in pain, with a fever so high that ice baths did nothing. By the time polio was done, her right leg would be twisted and unusable, so her days were spent being carried around. What would become a Hallmark of Roopa's will & determination became apparent when her father hand-made a pair of crutches for her when she was about 9 years old; she was virtually Unstoppable, going everywhere as fast as she could, and staying outside playing until well past dark. She still remembered her mom going around the village at night calling for her to come home.
When Roopa was of age to go to school, her mom's friends all chided that she should be kept at home and made to do chores, "because she's only a cripple". Her Mom fought them off and declared that no such thing would ever happen; Her daughter was going to have an education! Roopa remembers really taking to her new world with excitement and high energy, and that set the tone for the rest of her life; she was fiercely determined that polio was never going to get in her way! After her family immigrated to Canada, she would go on to learn to drive her own car, equipped with hand controls, and worked as a legal secretary in downtown Edmonton. She even made time to volunteer at a women's shelter called The Edmonton Women's Dream Center. But before all of those accomplishments, she had to bravely face several major corrective surgeries to her leg and back during her adolescence, one of which nearly cost her life. {To Be Continued......}
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Words from my Wife that I live by......

Shared by Mark Judy on January 15, 2021
She really & truly had the deepest heart of devotion to the Lord that I have ever seen....So profoundly Blessed and Grateful that she was with ME.....She was an amazing woman who inspired me with her relentless hope in the Lord, her untiring selflessness & love for others, her determination to spread faith & encouragement to everyone she touched, in spite of her own daily battles with fears of what the future held concerning her failing health. If it were financially possible, I would build monuments to my wife everywhere.....but Roopa has already done that.....in the memories of all those who knew her......      

She Came Forth As Gold.........

Shared by Mark Judy on January 9, 2021
"But he knows the way that I take;
when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold.
 "My feet have closely followed his steps;
I have kept to his way without turning aside."
{Job 23:10-11
}

As Roopa’s husband, I am sure that I am not the only person who has countless times agonized over the question as to why someone as wonderful as my wife had to suffer so much. After all, I cannot think of one instance in her entire life where she held any animosity towards anyone, had a bitter or complaining spirit, ever wallowed in self-pity, and there was never a time when she ever took out her suffering on those around her.

Quite the contrary; Her spirit was relentlessly gracious, kind, and self-sacrificing in the face of unspeakable agonies, for well over 16 years...

And her furnace was mine as well... although, physically of course, I never felt her pain, my soul was in as much torment as her body was....I remember countless nights of pacing the living room floor, weeping and crying out to God for mercy, to please spare my wife further suffering...Going on Facebook, begging our friends to lift her up in prayer...and oh my Lord, I must’ve done that hundreds of times....And as God is my witness, we have had hundreds of loving beautiful people all over the world praying for my wife for the last 13 years, and you were all Gold to me...And like many of you faithful praying warriors, I too have witnessed many miracles in my lifetime, including a close friend who was completely healed of a stroke, and others healed of degenerative spine ailments, and so on...

So the mystery for me has always been, Why not my wife???

The amazing thing to me, was that Roopa never asked that question....

Maybe it was harder for me, as someone who has actually seen bona fide, real life healing miracles, whereas Roopa had never really witnessed such things....

Or, maybe it was something else....

Perhaps my wife was placing a higher value on something unseen, on something that did not simply equate to a healing of the body in this life, but on a heart and a spirit that refused to stop trusting God, no matter how fiercely the storm winds blew.....

Still Learning Meaningful Life Lessons From My Darling Wife

Shared by Mark Judy on January 8, 2021
Earlier tonight, I was reading Hosea 6:3; “Let us follow on to know the Lord”, and as I was praying about that passage, and praying over our daughter Asha to become more focused on knowing the Lord personally, I began to weep, because it really hit me how much pursuing the Lord in an intimate way has meant to me in my life all these years...It hasn’t been a pursuit of head knowledge; it has been a pursuit of personal knowledge of the Lord himself, something that I have been blessed to carry with me all my life. And it is my deepest, most intensely felt heart's desire that my daughter have the same thing operating in her life.

Then it came to me, that that is the message of the book of the Song of Solomon, one of Roopa’s favorite books of the Bible, which clearly shows a woman pursuing her lover, desiring to know him as intimately as possible, and she was willing to go through anything and everything to pursue that intimate relationship.

And then it came to me, how much I had failed in that respect with my precious wife Roopa—how I failed to maintain that desire to pursue an intimate knowledge of my precious wife, through all the storms and seasons of life, that no matter what came, I would not give up my desire, or be sidetracked from my desire to know my wife in every way intimately.... And what breaks my heart is that now that she’s gone, I cannot get that back, unless somehow in eternity, the Lord grants me new opportunities to be with my wife and to pursue that precious relationship....

Even now, I am learning beautiful life lessons through my wife, and gaining a fresh appreciation for all the things that she taught me while she was here.....gratitude, selflessness, kindness, sincere devotion to the Lord and to others....