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This memorial website was created in memory of my father, Sushil Bansal, 84, born on October 6, 1933 and passed away on December 29, 2017. He will live on in our hearts forever.

My father was suffering from complications due to stroke and since June this year after a surgery he started to have more problems. While he suffered with multiple issues this year, it appears that he went to sleep on the night of December 28th and just didn't wake up and went peacefully. He was at Belmont Nursing Home in Madison, Wisconsin at this time and had been there for little less than a year.

He was born in Meerut, India, the son of Dr. Dhanpat Rai and Smt. Prakash Vati (Goyal) Gupta. He married Saroj Rastogi on December 25, 1958, in Mawana, India. It was an arranged marriage. They saw one-another for the first time after they were married! They were rarely ever apart until my Mom passed away on September 8, 2013. My father was an accountant by profession. He had a Masters in Mathematics. His first job was as a teacher at a school in Meerut but soon he found a position working as an accountant for the Government Of India. He always worked very hard and no matter how difficult the situation became, he never let any of know that there were problems. In 1977 we moved to the United States and he worked with the Embassy of India in Washington DC for four years. Eventually he resigned from the Government Service and stayed on here so that we, the children could have a better life. After living in Maryland for 23 years they moved to Madison, Wisconsin along with his son's family.

He has always been the quiet one; most comfortable with papers, figures, computers but at the same time he did have a witty sense of humor. He always enjoyed a challenge – learning a new skill like web site development, mastering photography, creating projects on Shutterfly. He loved taking walks. My parents used to take regular a mile walk at least once a day, no matter how cold it was. They both loved to travel. We travelled a lot together both in India as well as here in the States. We went on a Cruise many years ago and this became his favorite way of vacationing. He was very actively involved with Indian American Association in Madison. He loved playing Bridge and created a Bridge Group at the Fitchburg Senior Center. He also volunteered there for various activities including exercise program. He was supposed to teach Exercise class there a day after he had his stroke on February 14, 2013. Stroke left his left side weak. He loved working with the therapists and worked very hard to gain his strength back. He joined Adaptive Fitness class at the UW Natatorium offered by Tim Gattenby in Summer of 2013 and attended every session until the Fall of 2017 when he was too ill and weak from several complications due to Stroke. He loved this class; loved working with the students who doted on him; found a wonderful friend in Tim who went out of his way many times to help and work with my Dad. My Dad was very much looking forward to starting this class again on January 30th, 2018, but... He was definitely a fearless and adventureous soul.

His final year was spent at Belmont Nursing Home and Rehab. He was happy there and actually considered it second best place to home. Special thanks to Gail, Jerri, Essa, Pam, Chad, Joan and Katie who went out of their way many times to make his life a bit easier; and to the Activities Staff for discovering an artist in my father who had never before used a paint brush.

He is survived by his Son, Ashish; daughter-in-law, Gauri; grand-daughters, Priya and Pramita; daughter, Sandhia; and son-in-law, Christopher. He was preceded in death by his parents (Dr. Dhanpat Rai Gupta and Smt. Prakash Vati); 3 brothers – two older (Rajendra Kumar Bansal and Sukumar Chandra Bansal) and a younger one (Subodh Kumar Bansal); his wife and my Mom, Saroj Bansal and his older sister-in-law, Bala Bansal.

January 2, 2018
January 2, 2018
Dear Uncle

This is very shocking news to me. Few days back I was texting with Shalini and also tried to skype but did not get any response.I could never imagine that we have lost you. You were always so lively and enthusiastic. When I look back it seems that mano kal ki hi baat hai
when we all enjoyed together in Madison and Minneapolis.I wish we could have met sometimes again but you left us........We will miss you uncle. pray that you rest in peace....
January 2, 2018
January 2, 2018
April 26, 2024

Dear Papa

Its been 2311 days (6 years, and 3 months and 29 days) since I could find you; since I could fight with you... We did fight a lot, didn't we? Wish we had more time together. Wish there was something I could have done to improve your quality of life in last few months. Wish I was there... Wish I just held your hands and listened... But I wanted so badly to see you walk again and it had been a while since I did. May be I should've given more importance to what you wanted.
I had all the good intentions. I loved you very much and will always do. How can I not? You are in my Heart just like the three others now. I still needed you. Hope you know that.
Love you and missing you.
Your daughter
January 2, 2018
January 2, 2018
Dear Sushil and family.
I'd like to express my deep appreciation for Sushil's participation in the University of Wisconsin adapted fitness program. Over the course of the last few years Sushil blessed us with his presence and participation and helped to train hundreds of new health and medical professionals by his presence in the program. I would like to express my deep condolences but again my deepest appreciation for all of you who helped encourage and support his coming to work with us. I would have to say that barring health and medical issues Sushil was one of the most dedicated reliable and consistent participants that we had in the program's history.

Personally for me I greatly enjoyed Sushil's involvement as a client but also as a friend. He had a stealthy under-the-radar type of humor that we all looked forward to when he was in attendance. I know that we will all miss him but we will all look forward to seeing him again and also we are extremely happy to know that he is now reunited with his wife and other family members who are welcoming him to the next stage of existence. Much appreciation and thank you so much for sharing him with us here at the University of Wisconsin adapted fitness and personal training program.

Timothy G Gattenby
January 2, 2018
January 2, 2018
To Sushil's family
I met him at the Adapted classes he was a wonderful man. I learned so much from him, he was always ready to work hard. Sushil always had a smile for everyone. He will live in our memories forever.
January 1, 2018
January 1, 2018
Dear Papa

How is it that I am writing this to you? You are supposed to be at Belmont, giving everybody a hard time! When I left you on October 22nd, you were sitting in the lounge with others. When I said 'see you next time', you looked so sad... so very sad... I hated to leave you. I wish there was something more I could have done to make all the bad things go away. I am sad that you are gone and that you were alone at the time... You had your cell phone in your hand. Were you trying to call me? I am sad that I wasn't here for you on your anniversary at XMas. I am sad that you didn't get to send Mummy a balloon. But I know that you are with her and happy by her side. Don't upset her; talk to her to her heart's content. Babaji, Ammaji - You are all together now. I like to think so. 

This morning I sat around the hotel room, looking around and a bit lost. I used to have to get ready very quickly so I could come for a visit with you. Today you next texted me to find out where I was. I almost expected you to ping me. I still need you very much. May be I didn't realize it how much. I miss you already. Miss you very much. Will you come and see me in my dreams? All my old life, my childhood life is now gone; all four of you are gone. I miss that life; miss all of you; and right now I miss you most of all. I never thought when I left you last that I won't see you again. 

Why did I not miss a beat and felt a pang as you left this World? Why did I have to receive a phone call to know that you were gone? How could we have been so close and yet not have felt the loss? I don't know... Wish you would come back. We were going to go to Botanical Gardens again. You had plans... What of them? Why so sudden? It hurts so much because you know...

I hope you knew how much I loved you. I hope you knew that when I was angry with you, it was because I was just angry with me for not being able to fix things; for not being able to make your life just a little bit easier. I am sorry that I failed. I tried but...

I love you so very much; and miss you even more.
Come back...

Love you
Gudia
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April 26
April 26
Dear Papa

Are you with Babaji today? Will you give a hug to him for me?

Missing you all very much - today and always
Your daughter
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April 24
April 24
Dear Papa

I made cappuccino again yesterday after a few weeks. It just doesn't taste the same... Seems such a lot of work for just myself. I wish Chris was a coffee person but he is not. 

I miss three of us enjoying our cups of cappuccino in the afternoons.

Few years ago when I was in Madison, I was sitting in the lobby area where we used to sit and enjoy it from the coffee shop there. But Pete tells me that the lobby has been renovated and that it looks very different now. I don't think I will go there anymore whenever I go back to Madison. I want to remember it the way it used to be - just like our home in Meerut - I would not want to go back and alter the picture I have of the years we were there - happy and content and surrounded by just love.

So sounds like Agarwal uncle has also passed away - 4 years ago! I only found out recently from Guddu. All the familiar places and people are now gone. I found a letter from Raje tauji yesterday - written a long time ago. He said "Gargi has grown into a naughty loving girl and keeps us all engaged. Very often she reminds us of you in your childhood.". No one is now left who remembers me from my "childhood". That was a long time ago - wasn't it - "my childhood". Still I miss it. Miss the people who loved and cared about me - miss the simplicity of life when "little" was "enough" because life was simpler. 

Still I don't have anything to complain about. I have been very lucky - very lucky, indeed. I just hope that my luck will continue to be good and that Chris will be the one to bury me. He reminds me so much of Babaji in the way he is so protective of me. There has to be Babaji's hand in me finding him...

Anyway, I have drifted far from Cappuccino to closing my eyes forever :)
I miss your coffee - your enthusiasm to learn new things and the upbeat attitude you had until the end - never complaining; never demanding; and always smiling.

Love always.
Your daughter
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April 21
April 21
Dear Papa

There is a video of you - probably just a couple of seconds long. You are waving at me - I love watching it. It was a nice sunny day for you, Chris and I to take a little drive and you were smiling sitting on your scooter.

I miss your smile and I envy your ability to hide your tears behind that big smile of yours. I know how much you missed Mummy and how lonely you felt. But if anyone remembers you, they remember you for your smile - and I am so happy for that.

Wave at me in my dreams some day.
I dreamt of Babaji last night - after such a long time!

I miss you..
I miss you all...
Love
Your daughter
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This scholarship was created to award some funds to a student per year in hopes for continuing Babaji and Ammaji's legacy.  Even if just one of these students serves the community free of charge once they become doctors, this whole effort will have been worth everything.

It is because of the sacrifices my Babaji Ammaji and Papa Mummy made, that I am able to make this tiny effort to carry on their legacy.

The new Patio at Fitchburg Senior Center

October 6, 2023
Thought you would like to see it...
I made some small contributions to it on your behalf... So I feel this belongs partly to you along with so many others who kindly donated.

Your memory lives on ...

October 6, 2023
Jill has been so very kind to me all through these years.  Her friendship is a gift to me from both of you.
She asked me if I would like a plaque at the new patio they have built outside the Senior Center for people to sit around, chat and socialize.  It looks beautiful in pictures!  

Jill says that both of you would like it. I hope so.  Maybe this is all the birthday gift I can give you?  Your name will go on as long as the center stands.  And you will live on as long as I live.

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