HI ALL,
My Father in law w.B.DEENADHAYALAN, was an incredible man.
At the out set we should say we are Blessed to have this incredible person residing with us for over an year + during this pandemic. We get to each other than any time before.
He is a Very self righteous person, who had always refused earlier, on many occassions, to stay with us, but succumed to our request finally during the pandemic. It was a life time opportunity, which we rever always and remember till our remaining life time.
His daily routine in the morning is to go upstairs with the daily newspaper and food for birds. He will fill also fresh water for birds. In the last week, when he was not well he could not perform his above routine and he expressed his concern about that.
His another routine is listening and performing spiritual sadhana thru zoom - which he rarely misses it.
He loved more his Grand children especially Yagnesh being the only Grandson of his only Son, Srivatsan and Sai Prashanth. He may have been annoyed of Sai of his continued refusal for the marriage for one reason or other. But, I am sure he changed his opinion, when observed as how Sai expanded to the core, when he fell ill, and how he took care of him, even in my absence, till his demise. I observed this rare quality of him when my mother fell ill and again now.
As for Srivatsan, he loved next to his son. They shared a mutual love and respect for each other. He respected his responsibility, earnest and endeavors from his early childhood days.
To me he is more a friend than a FIL, we always traveled together be it his own or son's house, marriage functions, death ceremonies, temples, etc etc he loved travel. He will get ready at Short notice. He used to make hand signals sitting next during driving. Initially it distracted me - and would not synchronize, as, when I require to over take, his perspective would be a stop signal. But, dearly felt his absence on one occassion when involved with a road rage incident.
While there have been many major support he has extended to family, I would like to recollect few very major issues he's resolved for us:-
A. To my astounding belief, he involved voluntarily, in a major discussion with 4 shop owners together, who were demanding money for vacating, from my premises. He spoke with them steadily for almost 60 - 90 minutes and finally concluded upon a reasonable final term with them.
B. I joined with SHASUN PHARMA CO., upon his reference and there upon had put it 28 years of continuous stretch of service and retired as an AGM. A small spark became raging fire later.
C. Nevertheless, I remember in gratitude that few occassions expanded to support directly or indirectly, whenever there is a pit fall, on my health and my brother's (who is no more).
D. Learnt, as how could one be useful to the needy from him - but never could match the generosity of him, put together by the entire family, exceptionally, now being following by Veera and Usha ji.
E. Through him had travelled to visit important temples and deities from Kasi to Rameswaram. Again it is a privilege him
D. He is an ardent Devotee of Sri Bhagavan. His unrelent faith towards them has saved him on may occasion on his health issues. His prayers had been a shield to the family always earlier and Blessings now, thereafter.
There is always a vacuum of his absence in the family, especially in Sai 's or Srivatsan marriage andj Yagnesh's news of entering college and not the least our Shastipurth (60th Marriage anniversary) to raise in less than 3 months.
The loss is irreparable. The grief faced especially by Vedhaji, Veeraji and his (WBD) brother Logaselveni, who lived with him for long, of his sudden demise, has been very unbearable - may they too have pease and solace.
We will all remember him always with great memories we shared.
(The above tribute is from heart any mistakes or hurts, if any, may please be ignored)
N.T.Shekar-Son-in-Law.
