ForeverMissed
It is with great sadness that the family of Lynette Hetem (née Nelson) announce her passing on 14 April 2021, at the age of 72, after a long and courageous battle with cancer. Lynne will be lovingly remembered by her husband of 44 years (Peter), her two daughters (Claire and Robyn) and four grandchildren (Ethan, Emily, Paige and Ayden), and by her brother (Peter) and sisters (Jenny and Trish), her numerous nieces, nephews, extended family and dear friends.

Please CLICK HERE to view a recording of the virtual memorial service held on
Thursday 29 April at 9:00.

Don't think of her as gone away, her journey's just begun,
life holds so many facets, this earth is only one.
Just think of her as resting, from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort, where there are no days and years.
Think how she must be wishing, that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness, can really pass away.
And think of her as living, in the hearts of those she touched...
for nothing loved is ever lost, and she was loved so much.

                                                                                           - Ellen Brenneman

In remembrance of Lynne's life, the family asks that any charitable donations be made to CANSA
Posted by Rosie Nel on April 29, 2021
My Dearest Friend Lynette
A friend is someone we turn to when our spirits need a lift...
You were always there for me......52 years of a wonderful friendship.....
A friend is someone we treasure... Your friendship was a gift.....
A friend is someone who fills our lives with beauty, joy and grace....
You were all of these my friend......
You will never truly be gone... We will always remember you..
My deepest sympathy Peter, Claire, Robyn and families...during this difficult time..Lynette will be sorely missed I know...
Love Rosie and family....
Posted by Pat - Ed Philip on April 28, 2021
RIP Dearest Lindy , Our 57 year friendship may now have ended, but I have so many memories that will always keep you close. 
Thank you , dear Friend , for your unconditional love.
Pete, Claire & Robyn , you're in our thoughts & prayers.
Love, Pat & Ed,  Caryn & Gayle.
Posted by Daniella Randall on April 28, 2021
Our beloved Lindy, as we often said, there are times when no or few words are needed -and for me my dear god mom, this is one of those times. You remain in my pocket with our pocket love shared, I see you as mom says "in all things beautiful" and I feel both blessed and honoured to be your family. We love, admire, cherish and remember your effortless grace, your kind heart and magnificent being, always. Your Dans-Pans, Ross, Juliana and Matthew.
Posted by Kim Deirino on April 28, 2021
A tribute to our dear Lyn

Lyn was a kind, loving and caring person, always ready to help others. She was also brave and strong, constantly finding ‘the positive’ in every situation.

She was fondly called Aunty Lindie by many of her nieces, nephews, grandnieces and grandnephews and affectionately named the ‘Earth Angel’ by many of them. We got to know Lyn or Aunty Lindie as a protective, patient and generous (with her time, love and sincerity) lady when it came to family. No matter what was happening or how she might have been feeling, she always made the time to talk, send a message and listen (really listen to every detail) to you; she had this ability to make you feel that you were the most important person in the world at that moment.

Lindie faced many personal heartaches and traumas throughout her earthly life but her fighting spirit and stubborn Nelson trait (the positive side of this family attribute ) made her believe that a few ‘black spots’ could not and would not derail her from living a positive happy life.

We will remember our dear Lyn and Aunty Lindie as one of the most loyal, empathetic, compassionate and courageous fellow human beings. We will miss you, may you rest in peace our ‘Earthly Angel’.

All or love, Trish, Tracey, Craig, Glenn, Leaine, Meagan, Martin and Kim
Posted by Florence Hammond on April 28, 2021
Lindy and I met the day before we started high school at Potch Girls High in 1962. We connected immediately and became very good friends and although we lost contact on and off through the years following, we always reconnected again. Lindy was a kind and gentle person. Her courageous journey through her illness was an amazing example of strength and courage and I will always remember her as a very dear and constant friend.
Posted by Jeanette (Moley) Gunningh... on April 28, 2021
Rob and I met our dear Lindy before she and Peter got married so we have walked a long road together and have so many precious memories, I know that the next visit to the Botanical gardens Lindy will be at our side enjoying the walk to the waterfall and pausing at the Duthie bench. You leave such an empty space and will be so sorely missed. My thoughts are with Peter and the Girls. Much love Moley and Rob
Posted by Andre Scholtz on April 28, 2021
Lynne was such a lovely, humble and friendly person. An inspiration to many of us. She will be dearly missed and we will never forget her. May her soul rest in peace. Andre and Estelle Scholtz.
Posted by Cathy Dieter on April 26, 2021
I was blessed and honored to spend time with Lynne and her beautiful family. Those memories will always hold a special place in my heart. Lynne had a beautiful spirit, and a love for her family that was admirable. My thoughts and prayers are with all of the Nelson family as you grieve and grow strength from each other, and know that Lynne’s legacy will go on forever.
Posted by Jinny Peach on April 26, 2021
Good bye my dearest friend . . . we never got to say that to each other, and it haunts me.
I love you always and will miss you forever.
Rest peacefully.
Posted by Linda McCabe on April 26, 2021
Lynne was warm, gentle and so caring. Even though she has had a long, difficult journey, she has always remained strong and positive. She had a quiet manner but had such an inner strength that I admired. Lynne was part of our family from when our cousin Peter, met her. Her own family was her pride and joy and I know she will be sorely missed. Lynne will be Forever in our hearts. God bless.
Posted by Scott Bellows on April 25, 2021
I was introduced to my sister, Lynne, in 1970. As a 16 year-old foreign exchange student, I was welcomed into the Nelson household and shared a wonderful year with my extended family there that will never be forgotten. Included in those memories is a visit that Lynne made to visit us in the United States (Minnesota) after my return and our trip west to the State of Washington (where sister Jenny now lives). Lynne had a heart that defined love and anyone that had the chance to know her were fortunate. My condolences to the rest of my South African family who, no doubt, feel the same, great sense of loss that I do. I hope to make another trip your way one of these days and, to those of you who I have yet to meet, will save my stories of Lynne until then.
Posted by Trish Badenhorst on April 24, 2021
I adore you my darling Lindy and shall continue to do so till the end of my time. I will miss you every single day till we meet again my beloved sis. Pete B and I love you dearly!
Posted by Jenny Nelson on April 23, 2021
Lindy, What an honor to call you my sister. The 70 years we shared together have provided me with sacred memories which I will hold in my heart forever. You know how much I love Peter and Robyn and Claire, Ethan, Emily, Paige and Ayden. They are your legacy and I will honor them all my life.
With all my love, Jenny
Posted by Glenys Hosking on April 23, 2021
We were very blessed the day you Lynne, married our much loved cousin Peter. Although many miles have separated us, we never lost touch and we appreciated that so much. You Lynne were a beautiful, quite and loving lady, who, possessed enormous strength and gave so much.
May you Peter, Claire, Robyn and your families, draw strength from the knowledge that Lynne is at peace, and slowly regain happiness, recalling and sharing all the wonderful memories you created together.
Our very deepest sympathy and love Colin, Glenys and all our family in Aus.

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Posted by Rosie Nel on April 29, 2021
My Dearest Friend Lynette
A friend is someone we turn to when our spirits need a lift...
You were always there for me......52 years of a wonderful friendship.....
A friend is someone we treasure... Your friendship was a gift.....
A friend is someone who fills our lives with beauty, joy and grace....
You were all of these my friend......
You will never truly be gone... We will always remember you..
My deepest sympathy Peter, Claire, Robyn and families...during this difficult time..Lynette will be sorely missed I know...
Love Rosie and family....
Posted by Pat - Ed Philip on April 28, 2021
RIP Dearest Lindy , Our 57 year friendship may now have ended, but I have so many memories that will always keep you close. 
Thank you , dear Friend , for your unconditional love.
Pete, Claire & Robyn , you're in our thoughts & prayers.
Love, Pat & Ed,  Caryn & Gayle.
Posted by Daniella Randall on April 28, 2021
Our beloved Lindy, as we often said, there are times when no or few words are needed -and for me my dear god mom, this is one of those times. You remain in my pocket with our pocket love shared, I see you as mom says "in all things beautiful" and I feel both blessed and honoured to be your family. We love, admire, cherish and remember your effortless grace, your kind heart and magnificent being, always. Your Dans-Pans, Ross, Juliana and Matthew.
her Life

Early years


Lynne was born to loving parents Norman and Sheila Nelson on 28 September 1948.
She had fond childhood memories growing up as the big sister to Jenny, Peter and Trish.

Going to school


During her school years, Lynne worked hard and developed a love of reading and art.
She was a loyal and caring friend who valued and nurtured those friendships into adulthood.

A happy union

On 12 February 1977, Lynne married her soul mate, Peter Hetem, and their unconditional love for each other lasted a lifetime. Together, they had two daughters, Claire and Robyn.
Recent stories

a phenomenal mother...

Shared by Robyn Hetem on April 30, 2021

Our mom was born to be a phenomenal mother. She selflessly dedicated her life to her family. Perhaps trained in that role as a big sister, and with her own mother as a role model, our mom exuded unconditional motherly love. While Claire and I were privileged to call her mom/mommy, I know that many of you also witnessed that motherly love in her varied roles as a devoted wife, adoring granny, benevolent mother-in-law, compassionate godmother, affectionate aunt and loyal friend.

Mom made our childhood magical. Every morning before going to nursery school, I remember mom coming into my bedroom, opening the curtains to let the sunshine in and singing “catch a little sunbeam, put it in your pocket, and never let it fade away…” I went to school believing there were sunbeams in my pockets! Mom loved books and reading. She shared that love of words with us, her daughters and grandchildren. I’m sure that Ethan and Emily, Paige and Ayden will forever cherish the memory of being tucked under granny’s arms as she transported them to magical lands of fairies and goblins. She had a special way of making the words on each page come to life... As a young girl, after listening to mom read a poem entitled “the little house” in which there was a verse “if you’ve got a little house and you keep it spick-and-span, perhaps there’ll come to live in it a tiny little man”… naturally I ran to clean my dolls house. Mom helped me to write a little welcome note, and that very night I received a reply. Written in the most immaculate and minute writing. My little man turned out to be friends with the tooth fairy, so we kept regular contact thereafter. To keep the magic alive, mom wrote out the poem and drew the most beautiful fairy-tale tree… A replica now hangs on my daughter (Paige’s) wall, where we hope to emulate the magic.

In later years mom became my confidant. My rock. She had an intuition second to none and could read all my emotions from a simple “hello”. She would offer help long before I had the words to ask and selflessly would drop everything to lend a helping hand. She thrived on helping others. Mom was the most incredible listener and had an aptitude of knowing just what to say to ease a burden or share a triumph. She epitomizes the women and mother I wish to be as I have always been in absolute awe of her immense and endless kindness and compassion.

More than just a kind heart, mom had an inner strength and determination. In nearly 10 years of fighting cancer, including 3 years of stage 4 cancer, mom spent less than 2 days in bed. Every day she got up and fought bravely. She fought for time with those she loved. She never complained. Shortly after my husband Maartin met my mom and witnessed first-hand her remarkable courage in the face of adversity, he said “she has the spirit of a voortrekker woman who walked kaalvoet (barefoot) over the Drakensberg”. She most certainly did! Dad was always by her side. During the last and steepest stretch of her journey, Dad carried her in what was the ultimate testament of the beautiful and unconditional love they shared. From the top of that mountain we can now look back with clarity on what was, in mom’s own words, “a near-perfect life”.

Thank you to all of you who touched her life in a special way. As we now continue our journey along the plateau, we take her with us in our hearts and minds, remembering her in every kind word and good deed, every crescent moon, every little sunbeam… Rest in peace our darling mommy, we will love you for eternity!

My Lindy

Shared by Daniella Randall on April 28, 2021
Our shared joys and many shared dreams
Our love of nature and trickling streams
Our memories and our deep connection
So rare, so unique, so close to perfection
Your stroking my head while I fell asleep
Your arranging our wedding cake topper sheep
Your appreciation of classical music, your home a place of calm
I always felt safe and loved sitting on your lap or snuggled in your arm
We used to speak for hours and hours
Dreaming of rainbows and enjoying beautiful flowers
"Pocket Love" was our special thing
Great comfort and peace it would always bring
From old mac Donald singing in your car
Always in my heart whether near or afar 
Your special meals and healthy snack lunches
Waiting for my cousins after school time crunches
Staying with you on sick days from school
Making me a “get better bed” always soft and so cool
The days we would spend reading works of great poets
Sometimes no words needed, it was just a we "know it"
Baking and cooking you created with heart
Deliciously scrumptious a stew or a tart
Saving Robyn and me from a sinking sand nightmare
Your adrenaline and gusto ensured we got out there
Wedding preparations for your girls and for me
We laughed and we spoke under that magnificent tree
My god mom my nnnLindy oh I've loved you so
The greatest gift perhaps, is that you truly did know
You've aided in moulding me into the woman I am
A daughter, a wife and a mom to my clan
A sounding board and go-to when news was to share
With even the mundane, you showed interest and care
With you I won my first newspaper quizz
We danced and we shrieked and I felt like a wiz
Our Christmas eve plays every single year
My cousins so amazingly patient and dear
Our teddy bear collections and love of things small
Our times in the bush far preferred to a mall
A glass of milk after each night-time meal
All together in your TV room with that homely feel
Teaching me beading and loving things arty
Always so part of each birthday party
One of the kindest, most ladylike women I’ve known
Your grace, your intelligence, understatedly shown
ClaireRobyn my "cousin sisters" and my god father Pete,
Lindy's love for you, near impossible to beat
Her pride and her joy, her life and her guide
What an honour to have loved with such depth and such pride
We miss you our matriarch, no words can explain 
Yet we know that your light in our hearts will remain
We love you, we honour and salute who you are                   
Our beloved Lindy, our bright shining star

"I have too much to live for"

Shared by Claire Mitchell on April 22, 2021
My dearest Mom.
I have no words to express the sadness that we are all feeling right now!
You have been such an integral part of our lives for so long, it seems impossible to look forward knowing you will not be with us to share in the highs and lows. I take comfort knowing you are watching over us from heaven!
You have been an inspiration to us in so many aspects of your life. In your devoted and sacrificial love for Dad and our family, extended family and friends! For the way you courageously fought your cancer, "having too much to live for", with so much dignity, right to the very end!
"You have fought the good fight, you have finished the race, you have kept the faith. And there awaits for you a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, will award to you on that day" 2 Timothy 4:8.
Mom, your valiant battle is over and your can now rest in peace. You will be forever missed, but never forgotten!
With your love, always
Claire, Gary, Ethan and Emily