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21st month. Finally we got the report. But we still have no idea why you left. It becomes a mystery likely never be released. 

The most important is your love will last forever. 

Tiger, We love you, Forever. 


20...... 

19 months......What's the reason? Noway a healthy young man pasted away in his sleep and no abnormal be found. VGH, give me the report.

14  months past. We are still waiting for the report in the endless darkness.His love is the only light with his parents. 

8 Months past. We still don't know what happened to my dear Tiger.  Only information from coroner is same: No injury, No poison or drug, No abnormal condition found. What could take my son away? My heart is broken. Dec 12,2017 Mom

For Tiger's family, the worst thing is losing him without definite cause of death found after almost 10 months. We have been patient enough to wait any words from the pathologist.  
Perhaps we should feel bit comfort that our loved Tiger passed smoothly in his dream without any pain. 
Tiger, if there is that matter people called it soul, please come to your mom's dream. She missed you so much. Your leaving leaves her in an endless darkness. 

April 13, 2017
April 13, 2017
I am immeasurably saddened to hear of Tiger's passing. I vividly remember the many conversations we shared when he would pop by my classroom at lunch or after school to hang out and chat. Both in my English 12 class and in those informal conversations, Tiger always made me smile with his quirky comments, his willingness to share his opinions, his ability to find humour in the most unexpected places, and his desire to bring happiness to others. I will miss seeing his smiling face and catching up with him. My thoughts go out to his family- you raised such a lovely young man.
April 13, 2017
April 13, 2017
怀念和你相处的点点滴滴,毕业后在再未联系上你。I know we can't go back to the old times but I will remember the moments when you brought joy and motivation to me. You are amazing, I will miss you and love you forever brother.
April 13, 2017
April 13, 2017
I am so blessed to have met Tiger in this life and so very heart broken that he has moved on to the next far too soon. I'll never forgot his smile, beautiful laugh, and tremendous personality. God Bless Tiger.
April 13, 2017
April 13, 2017
I am so blessed to have met Tiger in this life and so very heart broken that he has moved on to the next far too soon. I'll never forgot his smile, beautiful laugh, and tremendous personality. God Bless Tiger.
April 13, 2017
April 13, 2017
Tiger, we first met on Prince Edward Island. I was grade two, and you were grade three. Since then we've had so many memories, so many good times, so many stories, and so many adventures. From countless sleep overs, to unforgettable fishing and snowboarding trips, to memorable family dinners where we would always, always, ask to stay together for the night. Words cannot describe how good we were as childhood friends, and neither can it describe the pain and sorrow I bare after hearing about your passing. I miss you. I miss the times when we made up stories and pretended to sleep when your mom came to check in on us. Those stories will be forever kept in my heart. Even though high school led us onto separate roads, we still maintained that genuine friendship that no one can emulate. Everyone will remember you for your kindness, naivety, and genuineness, and I will not forget our brotherhood. We always had each others backs.

Now as I reflect on our memories together, I regret never having the time to visit your new house, I regret rejecting your invitations because of some AP class. I regret not seeing you one last time.

Brother, rest in peace, I know you will be smiling, forever, because that's just you.
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
I will always remember your ability to make me feel like the village idiot whilst making me all the smarter. You brought a light into my world and I would never have made it through highs school as well as I did without you. Rest in peace my friend, I'll see you again on the last day.
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
You were always willing to sacrifice your time for a cause. You would help others no matter what was going on. You truly laid down for others and brought hope into our lives, you made us better Tiger.
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
I remember your laugh, boisterous as it was. I'll never forget the songs we played together, and your endless teasing about my performance in various aspects of life. I didn't hate it. I wish I had spent more time with you, and now it seems I can't, anymore.
I am sorry.
Thank you, for everything.
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
Dear Tiger,
I was writing a project in the middle of the night in this strange city and country when I heard this sudden and shocking news from back home. Immediately, memories of us rushed into my mind and I was unable to control my tears. Do you remember how we used to divide our desk into "Vancouver" and "London" in Ms. Fraser's class? Well, just as we hoped, I'm now in London and you stayed in Vancouver, but this time, you are staying there forever. How I wished you could come to the real London to visit one day! Do you remember how you never brought a pen to class so every time I lent you that broken ball point pen with the spring missing? There are so many more pieces of memories that I cant forget and will never forget about. You brought happiness into my life and even thought you are not here anymore you will forever remain my good friend in my heart.
Rest in Peace,
Your friend Phoebe
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
天国永远有光。虎头来过,看顾过这个世界,回去了,完成了他降临应该完成的任务。---圣火令
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
虎头,是我们的心、我们的爱、我们的孩子……
相信你是去天堂了,在那里,你会永远年轻而快乐……
---宝宝娘
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
安息吧,宝贝!保重,虎爸虎妈!
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
无法承受之痛!孩子们在生命之初就相识相聚,阔别多年,竟然无法再见!虎头,愿你在另一个与我们平行的空间帅帅的好好的……虎头爸爸虎头妈妈,多多保重,希望有机会再聚首——事儿
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
虎头,我们爱你,愿你在天国快乐!
葳葳妈咪
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
虎头,在天国一定要快乐!无论在哪里,爱都时刻围绕着你! —画画妈妈
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
记得虎头妈是当年最早的一批。我本人好像沒有跟虎头妈聊过。知道虎头妈是从“老人们”的嘴里,还有当年那本书“新浪宝贝”里有一篇虎头妈的贴子。看见虎头妈是在坦坦娘的朋友圈里,虎头妈就像个邻家大姐,和蔼可亲。同为人母,同样有正当花季的18岁儿子,深深能够体会虎头妈的悲伤。除了抱抱,还是抱抱。[心碎][心碎][拥抱][拥抱]  宁宾妈
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
My condolences to your family at this time. I will never forget our chemistry classes, with yoo and quan... You were always one of my lab partners bro. You could always make me laugh and ive known you since I was 13. I remember that watermelon fight we had with my little bro when you did the news route. And when you got your license how excited you were in chem class. Getting lunch with you at SFU... We watched eachother grow up it pains me to write this. Rest easy, you are at peace now. We will see eachother again one day ❤️
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
快乐阳光的虎头在另外一个世界一定会继续快乐!虎头爸妈和姐姐一定要保重!
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
–无法想象虎头家人彻骨的心痛。在一起幸福而温暖地度过了18年,对于虎头和虎头的家人,都是无比珍贵的际遇和记忆。我们永远会记得,我们有一个孩子,叫虎头–––涵涵妈妈
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
8年前,我的岳母去世。13天后,她10岁的孙子也去天堂陪伴她了。那一段时间,我们全家人一片混乱,尤其是我岳父和我儿子。所以,好好陪伴身边的亲人,多多关注虎头姐姐的状态吧。对我们来说,最好的纪念逝者的方式,就是好好活下去。抱抱。----心泉。
L L
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
愿虎头在天堂一切安好!晓晓妈
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
我们想要你回来。
即使看不见,相信你一定会在家里的,只是看不见,在的。
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
昨天晚上已经看到消息了,伤心而又难过。晚上一直没睡好。默默地点开链接,一遍一遍翻看虎头的照片,小时候虎头虎脑、天真烂漫,少年虎头英俊、帅气。在海边牵着小马时的自豪、在海边垂钓时的深沉、户外拓展时的果敢和勇气...你是亲子中心的孩子,有深爱你的家人、也有许许多多从未谋面,但关注过你成长的叔叔阿姨们。我们都很心疼,很不舍。愿你在天国幸福~ ---- 庆麟妈妈
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
Dear Wen, Yi and Yvonne, We are so very sad to hear the news of Tigers sudden passing. Tiger was a fine young man. He was smart and also kind. Whenever I saw Tiger he would say to me, "I am going to hug you" ....and he would! Usually a great big bear hug....a Tiger hug! And then he would shake his head and say my Matt was silly. He was right! He was always smiling. I remember watching you, Wen, flying kites and playing catch at Laronde park with Tiger. He was so lucky to have such a wonderful Mom. Matt came home from your home telling me of the delicious homemade food you served the kids. Rest in peace Tiger. Our thoughts are with the Sun Family. Val, Darren Matt and Aidan Kahl
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
上一次也是唯一和虎头相处的日子距今已久远,却历历在目,那个敦厚温暖乐于分享的好孩子。此时是难以言表的震惊和痛心。永远铭记你的笑容。始终相信我们深爱的人不曾远离,他们以另一种方式陪伴、关注着我们。请虎头家人节哀,保重身体。——猫妹妈妈
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
虎头弟弟你好,跟你说哦,我有两只可爱的狗狗也在那里,你要是看到他们就在一起互相作伴做好朋友吧,你们不要吵架哦。----冬儿
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
儿子,自从你那日被法医接到VGH,我一直在哭、在恍惚、在后悔!我大声放那首许巍的《曾经的你》,我知道那首歌写的是一个经历了人生百态世间冷暖的哥们儿,跟一直快乐、随性、完全没有经历过任何伤痛的你不搭,但那句“这笑容温暖纯真”分明就是说的你。崩溃的一个星期,终于在法医电话说他们不能找到你离去的原因的时候有了缓解。儿子,什么比你没有经历痛苦就在睡梦中悄然而去更能安慰你伤心的妈妈呢?
   我记得出事几天前的那次我去看你,在电梯里你如往常一般搂住我,在我的脸上亲了一下,说:妈妈,我爱你!你爱我吗?我笑说:这可是在公共场所,有摄像头的!这个场景、这个问话永远没有新意,不会改变,已经有十年了吧?只是以前你只够搂住我的腰的高度,现在你得弯下腰来亲你的妈妈了。
  今天下午,我终于见到了你。说实话,西装穿上,头发整理好,这个翩翩少年有点让我觉得陌生,不是那个一年四季穿同样一套衣服,随随便便的你了。昨晚,我睡在你的床上,跟你喃喃了几乎一夜,我说让我哭够了,明天我见到你时一定不哭!我以为很难,我以为我做不到。可是,当我坐在你身旁的时候,我突然觉得这一点都不难啊!我跟你说话,就象那天我们在你公寓的电梯里......只是,今天你好乖,不跟我犟嘴了!我和爸爸就这样坐在你身边,跟你说话,想起了你以前好多搞笑的事情。说起你经常躲在拐角处等着突然跳出来吓唬我和姐姐,有一次,你躲在那里朝向你以为依依姐姐会走来的方向严阵以待,偏偏姐姐那天不知道为什么从另外一边出来,径直走到你身后,把你吓了一大跳。臭小子,你也有这样糗的时候啊!:)
  姐姐坐在稍远一点的沙发上,她似乎比妈妈更哀伤。说起你在Mr. Quan的化学课迟到,买了一杯Latte带给Mr.Quan, 用多了一个字母t的咖啡,代替你对你late的歉意,你怎么那么有创意呢?以至于Mr. Quan 把这事晒到他的Facebook里!我们就一直说、一直说......今天,你没有嫌我烦、啰嗦了。今天,你好乖!
  谢谢Victory Memorial Park的贴心安排,明天、后天我们都有时间再这样跟你交谈。等着,我今天要使劲回忆,把你的糗事都想起来,明天一起数落一下你!
   儿子,今天妈妈搂着你、亲你的脸,觉得有点凉!就象某个寒冷的冬日你从外面顶着大风回来,手凉、脸凉、鼻子凉!妈妈今天听到你说:妈妈我爱你!你爱我吗?亲爱的儿子,我今天回答的是:我爱你,我一直爱你,永远爱你!
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
虎头,你是天使,天堂很温暖……别忘了变成一颗最亮的星星让我们抬头就能看到你-----洋兔妈
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
天堂是我们每个人都要去的地方,就在那里快乐地生活吧,虎头一路走好。----阿莲
April 11, 2017
April 11, 2017
You will always be remembered by your incredible ability to make those around you happy. Your absence will leave a hole in the hearts of those close to you, but I hope you found peace wherever you went. Rest easy, my friend.
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虎头,爸爸的儿子,没有你的日子爸爸和妈妈已经熬过整整7年了。日常中爸爸很少说起你,一是每每想说点关于你的事情时,心中都会很痛很痛,于是就只是痛了,无暇再开口说什么;二是可以一起说起你的对象不是妈妈就是姐姐,又担心会惹起她们心中的痛;三是想起你的时候只是静静地想着你曾经的种种趣事,心中就会有一种很奇怪的感受,虽然痛着悔着但又夹杂着曾经有过的喜悦、乐趣……还带有一些企盼,还有一些无法描述的感受,于是就沉浸在其中,感受着那种复杂而无法言语的情绪,也就无法开口说什么了。其实爸爸的日常生活中每遇到一件事情,大多会想起你,想起如果你在爸爸身边,对这件事情会怎么反应怎么应对。今天爸爸去homedepot租了设备回来收拾院子里的草地,就在想你在就会是爸爸的好帮手,爸爸就不用这么辛苦了,也想起咱家原来的院子的mulch还是你在隔壁老爷爷帮助下铺的,那些mulch现在还在,不长杂草。很多很多时候,爸爸心中都在想着你的事情,不知你能不能感受到。
爸爸和妈妈已经搬进新房子里了,建造新房子的初期你也参加过几次讨论。我们都很喜欢这个新房子,相信你也会喜欢的。我们坚持完成这个房子的建造,很大程度也是因为你。因为你参与这个房子的建造,虽然只有很少的几次,但对爸爸和妈妈来说是永恒的。
爸爸认为温哥华一年只有雨季和夏季2个季节,现在雨季基本结束,很快就是夏季了。今年爸爸自己设计了dinghy的davits,找了一家machine shop完成部件的焊接,已经安装了一部分,预计下周就全部安装完成,那样就可以把dinghy吊在船后面,大大方便了dinghy的使用。自从爸爸有了船,你就一直是dinghy船长。在爸爸心中现在你仍然是dinghy船长,每次看到dinghy爸爸都会想起当年你开着dinghy的各种事情。
夏天快到了,这个夏天爸爸会有很多事情要跟你说的。
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虎头,爸爸和妈妈前几天刚刚回到温哥华,时差还在,夜里睡不着就起来跟你说说话。这次我们去了好几个国家,先是回中国陪姥爷住了一段时间。姥爷身体非常好,看不出已经是90多岁的年纪。姥爷坚持每天走路锻炼,步伐依然矫健。这次爸爸和妈妈去看望姥爷的时候带着萨克斯去的,姥爷喜欢唱歌,爸爸就吹萨克斯给姥爷伴奏。正好叔公也去姥爷家住,所以2个老人家的歌喉再加上一把萨克斯,制造了不少噪音。后来我们又去了澳洲,见到了你的小霞姑姑。你不一定记得小霞姑姑了,上次你见她的时候还很小,依依还记得小霞姑姑。离开澳洲后我们又去了日本转了几个城市。爸爸经过日本去澳洲时还在东京买了一架天文望远镜,本来是想着带到澳洲可以看看南半球的星空。可到了澳洲才发现这个想法不现实,其一是这个季节我们去的大部分澳洲的地方星空多云的日子比较多,其二是望远镜有点大,安装调试很不方便,加上爸爸还不熟练就更不方便了。所以在澳洲游历期间也就看了几次南半球的星空,效果还不太好。不过在新西兰的lake tekapo时,爸爸参加了由几个中国人开设的看星星活动,学到了一些知识,大大帮助了爸爸操作望远镜的技能。爸爸觉得你一定会非常喜欢这个望远镜的,从小你就对天空充满了好奇。这一路上爸爸遇到各种情况时,都会想着你会怎么应对那些事情。在lake tekapo时那个负责看星星活动的中国小伙,跟你年纪相仿,对人也是非常热情,面对学员的各种繁复的问题,都不厌其烦地解答。除了一些星座的知识,他还教会了爸爸用一种非常简便的方法定位望远镜的指向,对爸爸帮助很大。
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在咱们当年停靠的Campbell river码头还对面有个码头叫April point Marina,爸爸昨晚停在那里过夜的。这个码头看上去比较新,9年前应该还没有建成,即使当年已经有这个码头,现在的规模也应该是后来扩建的。
早上5:00多我们就解缆出发了,主要是赶潮水。在desolation sound的入口位置,是温哥华岛内湾潮水的汇合点,就是从岛2端涨潮与退潮的潮水都是以这个点为终点或者起点的,April point Marina在这个点的北侧,如果能在涨潮时往这个点航行,到达这个点后潮水反转为退潮,那就可以一直顺流航行了。这么早出发就是因为这个原因。
从码头出来,爸爸看着海对面的Campbell river码头感觉有点陌生。不像记忆里当年的样子。也许当年进入这个码头的时候神经有点紧张,因为马上要穿越Seymour narrows,所以记忆会有一点错位。就这样爸爸一边感觉着陌生,一边回想着当年在这个码头不长的时间里发生的事情。但是想不起太多跟你有关的事情了,只记得你陪爸爸去办公室问过第二天的Seymour narrows的潮汐时间,详细细节也记不得了。
离开那个海峡就进入乔治亚海峡北部海域,咱们在Comox码头也停泊过一夜。爸爸记得为了赶潮水,第二天是在清晨的晨曦中出发的,那天的日出非常美丽,爸爸还拍了一些日出的照片,以后也会发到这个网站的。
今天的航行也很顺利,按计划到了锚地,这个锚地你没来过,依依来过一次。也很漂亮,港湾附近还有很多贝类可以捡。
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这是2012年10月,虎头跟爸爸妈妈一起去墨西哥奇琴伊察金字塔。这个时期的虎头很反感拍照,这张照片是偷拍的。

April 23, 2017
by 毅 孙

这是2013年3月初,虎头陪爸爸去德国汉诺威参加CeBit展会,虎头担任英文翻译。展会结束后,虎头跟爸爸一起去了巴黎,在巴黎住了差不多1周。

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